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Happy Masturbation Month! Elite Daily Sex & Dating editor Iman joins us to talk about self-love, the impact that writing about sex has had on her sex life, being basic and loving it, the obsession with chill, getting started with anal play, and so much more. Iman and Lauren also have a very real heart-to-heart about their respective struggles with disordered eating and the role that "detox" teas played in the cycle. You can find Iman's beautiful writing on Elite Daily, Bustle, Teen Vogue, and Man Repeller, and make sure to give her a follow at @imanharirikia.

Iman is involved with legislative efforts to make detox teas and other dangerous diet pills illegal to sell to minors. If you or someone you know is battling an eating disorder, there are so many resources for you. My DMs are always open, and you can call the National Eating Disorder hotline at (800) 931-2237, or visit https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org.

In one of our most interesting episodes to-date, we meet Becca: a queer, polyamorous woman whose beautiful perspective on relationships and connection is both inspiring and eye-opening. Themes include: communication, passive aggressive instagram posts, self-care and being “selfish,” emotional labor, safe sex, boundaries, insertable condoms, how to get started on your polyamorous journey, and much more. Becca also introduces us to lots of fun inclusive vocab, like polyamory, relationship anarchy, ethical non-monogamy, swinging, triads, metas, nesting partners, fluid bonding, and much more! 

Devin has a lot of stories to share with us, including how his ex sent him a venmo charge for $5,000, a sex story involving back-humping, the time he walked out on a date, dating a police officer, and so much more. We also look up Lauren’s "Florida Man" birthday story and discuss forming a new porn site that doesn’t have any incest content (you’re welcome). Not to be confused with the unforgettable Devon of episode #8, Devin leaves us with a golden piece of relationship advice at the very end of the episode, so get excited!

In which we discuss dating while still being TECHNICALLY married, how finding the right therapist is like dating, being with someone with vastly different sexual needs, the politics of paying for your partner (in more ways than one), dating with anxiety and being on the spectrum, when to throw in the towel on someone who doesn’t want to see you anymore, and so much more! Steven’s charity of choice is End Cash Bail. Visit https://chicagobond.org/advocacy/ to learn more and donate!

Today's guest has to decide what to do when he runs into his childhood crush at their 10 year high school reunion.; the story that unfolds is both tangled and illicit. We also discuss how confidence can come with age and how to stop being nervous about dates, how female orgasms are a spiritual experience, Carl Jung’s anima and animus archetypes, and much more. 

In which we discuss delayed puberty, soulmates, how 2018 was no one’s year, having sex in public, what it means to be closed off to marriage or kids at a young age, a one week stand versus a one night stand, unwarranted touching from strangers and how to deal with it, and why it’s never okay to make assumptions about someone’s sexuality. 

In which we discuss getting fed up with “dating” (what does dating EVEN MEAN???) and being in limbo, what “love at first sight” actually means, how to form meaningful friendships, how meeting new people can drive you back to the comfort of an ex, the concept of virginity, celebrity crushes, how to ask someone to “come over,” and dating with a chronic illness.

In this episode, Katie takes us through the details of her profession as a pelvic floor PT and drops some valuable knowledge on disorders like dyspareunia and vaginismus. We also dive into what exactly the pelvic floor is, why involuntary pain during sex is NEVER normal, PT-approved lubes, what a dilator is, how to actually wash your vagina (hint: don’t), and techniques for relieving pelvic pain. This episode is a must-listen for anyone with a vagina!!

In which we discuss the demise of his 7-year, long-distance relationship, what it’s like to go on a date for the first time since age 20, how tacos are a substitute for personality, splitting checks and how that aligns with feminism, “incels” and the reddit community, how virginity is a myth, and in which we relive prom.

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