We almost didn't film this one. A conversation online about disability gave us a reason to say something out loud again.In light of a public conversation about disability, down syndrome, and grief, We sit down to talk about something we live every single day: the worth of a disabled life. No names, no debate. They talk honestly about parenting our daughter Mila, who has severe disabilities from a birth injury, and about the hard truth that disability can be frightening, costly, and exhausting, while disabled people are still beautiful, valuable, and fully human. This one is about dignity, fear, grief, and joy all living in the same room, and about why a hard life is not a life worth less. As always, it starts with laughter before it goes where it needs to go.
(00:00) Cold open(01:20) The game: we laugh first(14:41) Why we're talking about this(15:49) What gives a person value(27:43) The hardest part of disability(31:29) Can you grieve and love at once?(36:47) Worth isn't about what you can do(40:12) Hard on paper, beautiful in person(43:55) Fear and love can coexist(46:36) To the parent who's scared(47:59) The one thing we want you to take away
Resurface is a marriage and family podcast hosted by Rachel and Stephen Scroggins about surviving medical trauma, special needs parenting, raising a medically complex child with intractable epilepsy and profound hearing loss, navigating life after stroke at 37, and finding humor in the middle of it all. New episodes weekly.If you're a parent of a medically complex child, an aunt or uncle to a child with special needs, a stroke family, an epilepsy family, or anyone trying to keep your marriage and your sense of humor intact while life keeps throwing emergencies at you, you're in the right place.It’s funny, honest, a little chaotic, and very much a sister episode.Because on Resurface, we laugh first. It’s a means of survival.If you are parenting through stress, disability, medical uncertainty, or just trying to hold your family together while life keeps coming at you, this episode is for you.
New episodes weekly on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.
If you listen on Apple Podcasts, leaving a review helps more families navigating trauma, special needs parenting, or hard seasons find this podcast — and the community around it.
Download your free Get Helped and Be Helped Checklist here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.resurfacepodcast.com/downloads⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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Resurface is the only podcast where two medical trauma survivors, each of us carrying invisible after effects, parent a medically complex child and special needs child together, disagree about many things, almost fall apart, and still choose to love each other through the storm. And try to make you laugh while we do it. We are not a recovery story. We are a survival story. The wave hasn't passed. We're still in it.

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Rachel's sister Kristina is back for Episode 27, and this time they're roasting their husbands. Why do men say "I was going to do that" only after you start doing it? Why do they call from the grocery store like they've been abandoned in the wilderness? Why do they spend so long on the toilet?In this episode, Rachel and Kristina play a game called "Husband or Dog?" comparing which is more likely to listen when their name is called, get mad when dinner isn't ready, make a mess around the house, or cuddle when you actually want them to. Some of the answers may surprise you. Most won't.Then the conversation turns serious. Rachel asks Kristina the questions she's never asked her on camera: Were you surprised by Mila's first seizure? Did you know about the workplace discrimination I was going through? And the hardest one. Is it harder for you to connect with Mila than with your other nieces and nephews?Kristina answers honestly. What she shares about being an aunt to a medically complex child with epilepsy, the fear, the grief, the small moments of connection that mean more because they're rare, is the kind of conversation most families never have out loud.Resurface is a marriage and family podcast hosted by Rachel and Stephen Scroggins about surviving medical trauma, special needs parenting, raising a medically complex child with intractable epilepsy and profound hearing loss, navigating life after stroke at 37, and finding humor in the middle of it all. New episodes weekly.If you're a parent of a medically complex child, an aunt or uncle to a child with special needs, a stroke family, an epilepsy family, or anyone trying to keep your marriage and your sense of humor intact while life keeps throwing emergencies at you, you're in the right place.It’s funny, honest, a little chaotic, and very much a sister episode.Because on Resurface, we laugh first. It’s a means of survival.If you are parenting through stress, disability, medical uncertainty, or just trying to hold your family together while life keeps coming at you, this episode is for you.
New episodes weekly on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.
If you listen on Apple Podcasts, leaving a review helps more families navigating trauma, special needs parenting, or hard seasons find this podcast — and the community around it.
Download your free Get Helped and Be Helped Checklist here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.resurfacepodcast.com/downloads⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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Resurface is the only podcast where two medical trauma survivors, each of us carrying invisible after effects, parent a medically complex child and special needs child together, disagree about many things, almost fall apart, and still choose to love each other through the storm. And try to make you laugh while we do it. We are not a recovery story. We are a survival story. The wave hasn't passed. We're still in it.

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• Some supplemental music licensed through Envato Elements

Rachel’s sister Kristina joins Resurface for an episode that starts with sibling chaos and somehow ends up in the deepest parts of the family story.They talk about growing up as sisters, childhood punishments, birth order, husbands, cleaning, workplace red flags, and why anyone who says “we’re like a family here” at work should probably be watched carefully.But this episode also turns toward the moments that shaped their family forever, including Stephen’s stroke and Mila’s birth. Rachel and Kristina talk about what it was like to live those emergencies from different sides of the phone, how trauma changes the way you remember things, and why humor has always been part of how their family survives hard things.It’s funny, honest, a little chaotic, and very much a sister episode.Because on Resurface, we laugh first. It’s a means of survival.If you are parenting through stress, disability, medical uncertainty, or just trying to hold your family together while life keeps coming at you, this episode is for you.
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Resurface is the only podcast where two medical trauma survivors, each of us carrying invisible after effects, parent a medically complex child and special needs child together, disagree about many things, almost fall apart, and still choose to love each other through the storm. And try to make you laugh while we do it. We are not a recovery story. We are a survival story. The wave hasn't passed. We're still in it.

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• Some supplemental music licensed through Envato Elements

Episode 25 starts with pet peeves, including Stephen calling from the grocery store, interrupted alone time, tipping culture, and more. We always choose to laugh first.Then we shift into a more serious conversation about raising a child with epilepsy.Rachel retells the story of Mila's first ever seizure, which was life threatening status epilepticus.We talk about how Mila’s diagnosis changed the way we parent, what constant monitoring looks like behind the scenes, why relaxing is not possible anymore, how epilepsy affects marriage and daily life, and how we try to protect her without letting her diagnoses become her identity.This episode is funny, honest, heavy, and real, which is basically the Resurface formula.If you are facing Medicaid service denials in the State of North Carolina, join the fight for systemic change by visiting this website and filling out the intake form: https://tinyurl.com/ncmedicaidfamilies
If you are parenting through stress, disability, medical uncertainty, or just trying to hold your family together while life keeps coming at you, this episode is for you.
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Resurface is the only podcast where two medical trauma survivors, each of us carrying invisible after effects, parent a medically complex child and special needs child together, disagree about many things, almost fall apart, and still choose to love each other through the storm. And try to make you laugh while we do it. We are not a recovery story. We are a survival story. The wave hasn't passed. We're still in it.
Disclaimer:We are not medical professionals. The experiences, observations, and information shared in this episode reflect our personal journey and our understanding at the time, based on what we lived through and learned along the way. This content is not intended as medical advice and should not be used as a substitute for guidance from qualified healthcare professionals.

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• Some supplemental music licensed through Envato Elements

In this episode we start by reacting to the viral back massage clip comments. We then talk about marriage after crisis, family after trauma, and what intimacy looks like when your world has been turned upside down.
If you are parenting through stress, disability, medical uncertainty, or just trying to hold your family together while life keeps coming at you, this episode is for you.
New episodes weekly on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.
If you listen on Apple Podcasts, leaving a review helps more families navigating trauma, special needs parenting, or hard seasons find this podcast — and the community around it.
Download your free Get Helped and Be Helped Checklist here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.resurfacepodcast.com/downloads⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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Resurface is the only podcast where two medical trauma survivors, each of us carrying invisible after effects, parent a medically complex child and special needs child together, disagree about many things, almost fall apart, and still choose to love each other through the storm. And try to make you laugh while we do it. We are not a recovery story. We are a survival story. The wave hasn't passed. We're still in it.
00:00 Reacting to Viral Marriage Video Comments00:48 Back Massage Clip That Went Viral02:05 Men React to the Back Massage Debate04:39 Is Asking for a Back Massage an “Impossible Request”?06:17 “Horrible Western Life” Comment Reaction08:28 Men vs. Women in Marriage Comment Section10:36 Stephen’s Nervous Laugh and Marriage Humor12:44 “No Intimacy Unless He Cooks Dinner”16:24 Do Women Even Like Their Husbands?18:54 Back Massages, Marriage, and Mixed Signals20:54 Content Theft, Rage Bait, and Viral Podcast Clips24:21 Subscribe, Review, and Support Resurface Podcast24:50 Mila’s Epilepsy Monitoring Unit and Cochlear Implant Updates27:22 Family Updates, Superior Court, and Real Life Stress30:01 How Trauma Affects Marriage, Intimacy, and Connection30:43 Why People Assume Marriage Jokes Mean Resentment32:06 Love Is a Choice, Not Just a Feeling36:16 Marriage Vows Through Stroke, Disability, Parenting, and Crisis38:32 Bickering vs. Contempt in Marriage39:47 Why Asking for Help Feels Vulnerable After Trauma42:47 The Ripple Effect of Medical Crisis and Family Trauma46:20 Why Families Still Need Support After the Hospital48:03 Why Physical Affection Gets Hard When Life Is Exhausting54:11 Loving Your Spouse Without Making It Transactional56:28 Humor as a Survival Tool in Marriage and Trauma58:35 Why the Podcast Helps Us Laugh Together Again01:00:21 How Stroke Changed Stephen’s Emotions and Laughter01:02:24 Grief, Recovery, and Not Dwelling on What Was Lost01:04:28 Meal Planning, Family Stress, and Mental Load01:05:59 Aiden, Responsibility, and Kids Processing Family Hardship01:08:09 Hard Conversations About Budget, Medical Stress, and Marriage01:10:14 When Small Problems Feel Huge During Crisis01:13:10 PTSD, Irritability, and Needing Grace in Marriage01:16:44 Creating a Nightly Marriage Check-In Routine01:18:33 Upcoming EMU Update, Marriage Reactions, and Pet Peeves01:20:00 Closing Thoughts and Next Episode Preview

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In Part 2 of our Medicaid waiver hearing recap, we read more direct quotes from the hearing transcript, including the moments that still do not make sense to us.This episode picks up where our last one left off. After losing in court, we are going through the actual exchanges from the hearing, including testimony from medical providers, arguments made about Mila’s needs, and the way her disability, epilepsy, brain injury, and daily care were discussed.Some parts are serious. Some parts are absurd. Some parts made us angry all over again.This is the final chapter of this part of the story before we move forward to the next level.We start out by doing what we always do, laughing as a form of comedic relief and trauma healing. We talk about:

• The state’s argument that Mila’s needs were behavioral or developmental
• Medical testimony about her brain injury, epilepsy, and ongoing care needs
• The claim that she “didn’t want to walk”
• Why supervision and hands-on care matter when a child is medically fragile
• What it felt like to put our daughter’s doctors on the stand
• Why we are still fighting

This is not legal advice or medical advice. This is our family’s experience, told in real time, with direct quotes from the hearing and our honest reactions as Mila’s parents.
If you missed Part 1, watch it here: https://youtu.be/SNfBZO1XdQE?si=l_A6CBlqW76hSpEw
If you are parenting through stress, disability, medical uncertainty, or just trying to hold your family together while life keeps coming at you, this episode is for you.
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Resurface is the only podcast where two medical trauma survivors, each of us carrying invisible after effects, parent a medically complex child and special needs child together, disagree about many things, almost fall apart, and still choose to love each other through the storm. And try to make you laugh while we do it. We are not a recovery story. We are a survival story. The wave hasn't passed. We're still in it.

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• Some supplemental music licensed through Envato Elements

In this episode of Resurface, we start the way we refuse to stop starting, with laughter, marriage banter, and another round of Agree or Disagree. We debate whether the higher earner should get more say over money, why “we need to talk” texts are morally wrong unless immediately explained, whether one parent should override the other’s discipline, and whether all men should know how to cook.Then the episode turns to the heart of it: an update on Mila’s CAP/C waiver hearing against NC DHHS. Rachel walks Stephen through key moments from the hearing, including medical testimony about Mila’s birth injury, her prolonged seizure with status epilepticus, her hearing loss, the state’s attempt to frame her needs as behavioral or developmental rather than medical, and the judge’s decision to dismiss the case before the state ever put on its own witnesses. Stephen reacts in real time as Rachel reads portions of the testimony, the judge's comments, and the state attorney's remarks. And, we both explain why we will keep going.This one moves from funny to furious to determined, because that is basically the Resurface brand: real life, very few polished edges, and the refusal to stop laughing even when the serious parts are very serious.
If you are parenting through stress, disability, medical uncertainty, or just trying to hold your family together while life keeps coming at you, this episode is for you.
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If you listen on Apple Podcasts, leaving a review helps more families navigating trauma, special needs parenting, or hard seasons find this podcast — and the community around it.
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Resurface is the only podcast where two medical trauma survivors, each of us carrying invisible after effects, parent a medically complex child and special needs child together, disagree about many things, almost fall apart, and still choose to love each other through the storm. And try to make you laugh while we do it. We are not a recovery story. We are a survival story. The wave hasn't passed. We're still in it.

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• Some supplemental music licensed through Envato Elements

This is about as raw and real as it gets - our daughter's hearing was denied. We will be back Tuesday with all of the details!
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Resurface is the only podcast where two medical trauma survivors, each of us carrying invisible after effects, parent a medically complex child and special needs child together, disagree about many things, almost fall apart, and still choose to love each other through the storm. And try to make you laugh while we do it. We are not a recovery story. We are a survival story. The wave hasn't passed. We're still in it.

• Edited with Movavi Video Editor: https://www.movavi.com/
• Some supplemental music licensed through Envato Elements

In this episode we open with a round of fun and funny questions and answers. We then move into the main topic where we talk about parenting a child with complex needs, the emotional weight of advocacy, and what it feels like to keep functioning when the system keeps pushing back.We discuss speech therapy, medical and developmental concerns, CAP/C, and the reality of trying to help your child while also carrying the mental load of marriage, family life, and everything else that does not stop just because you are overwhelmed.This is a conversation about the parts people do not always see, the pressure, the fear, the second-guessing, and the strange mix of love, exhaustion, humor, and survival that can exist all at once.If you are parenting through stress, disability, medical uncertainty, or just trying to hold your family together while life keeps coming at you, this episode is for you.
New episodes weekly on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.
If you listen on Apple Podcasts, leaving a review helps more families navigating trauma, special needs parenting, or hard seasons find this podcast — and the community around it.
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Resurface is the only podcast where two medical trauma survivors, each of us carrying invisible after effects, parent a medically complex child and special needs child together, disagree about many things, almost fall apart, and still choose to love each other through the storm. And try to make you laugh while we do it. We are not a recovery story. We are a survival story. The wave hasn't passed. We're still in it.

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In this episode we open with a round of questions and answers. They we move into the topic, talking about Rachel's trauma response she didn't see coming when her brain thought everything was fine.Rachel talks about what it actually feels like when PTSD lives in your body instead of your thoughts, and how she recognized it as a trauma response.Then Rachel ends up in the ER herself with chest pain and a concerning EKG, and Stephen has a trigger of his own that neither of them expected. We talk about what it means to be two medical trauma survivors with our own lingering struggles.Stephen shares a major update from his new stroke doctor, including finally getting the speech therapy referral Rachel has been asking for since Birmingham, and yes: he says the words. The episode also gets honest about how stroke-related emotional dysregulation shows up in parenting, what it actually looks like, and what might actually help.Plus the stolen back massage clip is still out there and Rachel has opinions.
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Resurface is the only podcast where two medical trauma survivors, each of us carrying invisible after effects, parent a medically complex child and special needs child together, disagree about many things, almost fall apart, and still choose to love each other through the storm. And try to make you laugh while we do it. We are not a recovery story. We are a survival story. The wave hasn't passed. We're still in it.
00:00:00 Introduction and Easter update00:00:42 Would you find out the baby's sex or be surprised?00:04:06 What's the most impressive recipe you know?00:11:00 If Rachel wins at the Supreme Court, what does she get?00:14:18 What city exceeded your expectations?00:18:01 When your body knows what your brain won't admit00:26:08 Mila's procedure and Rachel's trauma response00:30:33 Stephen had a trigger too00:36:13 Rachel ends up in the ER00:36:49 Rachel was right: Stephen finally gets a speech therapy referral00:43:57 How the stroke has affected parenting00:51:02 The stolen back massage video update

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• Some supplemental music licensed through Envato Elements