The theme this week on the One Minute Retirement Tip podcast is: Ask me anything! I’m answering your listener-submitted questions about what is weighing most on your mind as you prepare for retirement.
Today, I’m answering the following question: How can I adequately prepare to care for my elderly parents?
Babe writes:
The thing that keeps me up at night is my parents. It is absolutely a source of distress.
I have a mom and stepdad as well as my biological father. None of them have as much as a 6-month emergency fund let alone a viable retirement plan. The main question I have is: how can I adequately prepare to care for three elderly parents?
I don’t want them living in a nursing home, and I have mentally prepared myself for the prospect of them living with me and me caring for them. I’ve done some research, but I'm really just at a loss for how to plan for best and worst-case scenarios.
Personally, I am set. I will retire with a government pension (& health care coverage) and I am aggressively saving for retirement.
This question is such a common, yet difficult problem. Many of us don’t count on needing to take care of mom and dad later in life, yet it becomes a reality for many of us. According to a 2015 study by AARP, About 34.2 million Americans have provided unpaid care to an adult age 50 or older in the last 12 months. 34.2 million of us! That’s more than 10% of the U.S. population who is providing unpaid care.
So Babe is right to be concerned about this issue. If she helps her parents, how will she pay for it considering they don’t have any assets? Will she drain her own retirement savings to help pay for care? Will she be forced to retire early and unexpectedly to care for her parents in her own home.
For as much or as little as my opinion counts here, I think it’s a very loving and honorable thing to care for one’s parents in old age, especially by bringing them into your home to live with you like Babe mentioned. I used to volunteer with my church and through that ministry, I visited homebound seniors about once a month. I used to sign in at several places every time I walked in and I noticed that many of these places, I was the only non-healthcare worker to visit the entire nursing home over the last several days.
I love hearing that Babe is committed to helping her parents however she can, and I hope that I have the selflessness to do the same for my parents some day.
Ok, so on to how Babe can actually prepare for this situation. With no assets to spend down for nursing or long-term care needs later in life, her parents will be eligible for Medicaid. That’s where Babe should begin her research - look into Medicaid to see what they do and don’t qualify for.
Even though she said she is set for retirement, spending out of her own pocket for her parents’ medical care can quickly derail her own retirement, so understanding the ins and outs of Medicaid will be essential in this situation.
Next, if Babe has other siblings, she should have conversations with them to see how they are willing to help out. In my experience, and maybe yours as well, you probably know someone who is caring for an elderly parent. Unfortunately, the bulk of the burden of care, paying bills, driving to doctor appointments, etc. usually falls to just one child. So I think it’s important that Babe understand where her other siblings are willing to help out.
She should prepare herself for not just the potential financial burden, and change to her living situation, but also for the additional stress of the day in and day out of elderly parental care.
But it all starts with Medicaid. Understand that and she can start thinking through the best case and worst case situations, as well as what additional resources and help will be available to her, so she doesn't have to shoulder the burden of caring for her parents alone.
That’s it for today. Thanks for listening! My name is Ashley Micciche and this is the One Minute Retirement Tip.
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