Retrain your Brain for success

YOU are an amazing being!  If you reflect on your own life, you will see that you have overcome so much - and although your story may be so unique that your journey isn't a mainstream film yet - you are still your own hero, and what you've been through matters.  This episode reminds you that YOU need to start to accept that what you have overcome was tough - otherwise no amount of validation from others will make a difference.  It also asks you to stop saying the phrase "you just do it don't you"...NO -  maybe YOU just do it, but it isn't an easy task, and just because you tolerated so much adversity doesn't make it ok to have happened to you!

#tolerance #adversity #resilience #validation #selflove #selfdevelopment

While there are many toxic behaviours in the workplace, not all of them are gaslighting.  This episode explains what gaslighting is, and how it can manifest, but the difference between that and other toxicity is intent.
Saying that, whether intentional or not, toxic behaviour needs to be dealt with, and this podcast also gives you practical ways you can address it.

#gaslighting #gaslightingatwork #toxicworkplaces #dealwithtoxicityatwork #healthyrelationships

When you've been given everything except what you really crave - emotional love and understanding - it can leave you in a bit of a dilemma.  You don't feel authentic, because you may have been brought up to only reflect the wishes of the parent; or you may not feel quite complete because you've never really been tested - your parents have been so protective you've not learned to solve your own problems.  This podcast looks at how that can feel and what we can do about it.

#emotionalneglect #personaldevelopment #authenticity #parentsgaveeverything

It's not just about leadership skills including emotional intelligence (EQ - Emotional Quotient), but leaders are often in the place to support their teams who themselves don't always have a great amount of emotional intelligence!  Leaders really need great EQ, because it's not always easy for everyone to develop it, and with a leader who has it, we've got another chance to learn.  This podcast also gives tips on improving our own EQ.

#emotionalintelligence #emotionallyintelligentleaders #eq #improveeq

I was recently asked to explore why people may feel so judged over their parenting and what they can do about it.  In this podcast I look at just that, but the exercises and tips can also be used for anyone feeling judged or insecure about anything - for example, the job you're doing, the success rate you have and so on.

#judgment #parenting #personaldevelopment #selfcompassion #selfesteem #comparisson

In preparation  for May 4th, here are some leadership lessons from The Rise of Darth Vadar - which might be particularly important for today's corporate empires.  Warning: contains spoilers!

#starwarsday #mayfourth #leadershiplessons

A bit of a follow-on from last episode.  Here I look at the reasons for people pleasing, as well as offer 4 practical tips that I have used - which have worked for me - to get better at setting boundaries and protecting my time and energy.  Giving, kindness, compassion, "pleasing" in fact can be very positive - but it is a gift that must be offered discerningly if it is not to drain you.

#peoplepleasing #selflove
#personaldevelopment #sayingno #settingboundaries

If you are giving and giving and finding that you aren't getting something in return, you may need to explore:
- Why you placed a condition on the gift
- AND if the other person was even clear there WAS a condition!
This podcast touches on the "corrective experience" which is the attempt to make up for feelings of loss in the past through actions in the present - with different people, which may not go as we intended.

#gifting #expectation #correctiveexperience 

While I'm not a fitness practitioner, I do understand the benefits that exercise can have on the brain and body - and I thought I would go through some of the "happy hormones" that are stimulated when we engage in this form of self care.

#exercise #benefitsofexercise #strengthtraining #happyhormones 

We often need to go BELOW the emotional "top line" eg "I'm sad" "I'm angry" to learn what we're really feeling and to make sure our responses are helpful to us.  for example, if you say "I'm tired" but the truth is you're "tired of feeling second best" or "tired of people dumping on you"...then "getting more sleep is NOT going to help.  This podcast explores what lies beneath and how we can access it.

#emotionalintellience #understandingemotions #emotionalmanagement #emotions