Retrain your Brain for success

"Social Wellbeing" - giving back to your community or volunteering or fundraising has a number of personal benefits as well as helping those you are getting involved to support.  Reflect on a few of them in this podcast and see if they inspire you to inspire others to get involved.
#socialwellbeing #benefitsofvolunteering #charitywork #fundraising 

Learn about why we instinctively react or Knee jerk to strong emotional feelings, and what we can do to create some headspace to think more wisely, and act more effectively.

#respondnotreact #personaldevelopment #emotionalmanagement 

There are a lot of benefits of warm weather, but actually there are a number of problems associated with it to.  Learn about both, and what you can do to minimise the negative impact of heat in this short podcast.

#hotweather #heatrage #benefitsofsummer

We know that happiness is a STATE not a goal, but it's not easy to "choose to be happy" - so why not choose any number of these other positive emotions instead, and they may LEAD to the state of happiness.
#positivepsychology #howtobehappier #personaldevelopment #positiveaffect #lifesatisfaction #valuesinaction

It's actually quite easy to "act nice" - that is "act nice", and it gets you quite far.  But when you no longer get your way, the "nice" fascade can crumble leaving people thinking "WTF!?"  In this podcast I explore the reasons why people learn to "be nice" - but also what we can do if we're on the receiving end of thinking someone was nice and finding out it may have been a very good act.
#actnice #gaslighting #nacissism #relationships #authenticity 

Sometimes, if we have grown up being a "fixer" for whatever reason, that becomes a strategy for getting praised, avoiding trouble and getting on with others - and it works, people like someone who can solve their problems, but do it too much (for other adults) and they come to rely on you, they may take advantage of you, and they also never learn to empower themselves.  This podcast explores why it happens and what we can do about it.  
#fixer #peoplepleaser #problemsolver

I cannot guarantee these will work, and neither am I offering legal advice, but in this episode I break down my approach to making a complaint which has enabled me to achieve mainly satisfactory resolutions/refunds/compensation - without the need to resort to the courts or other formal action.

#howtocomplain #makingacomplaint #takingaction 

Feeling unseen? If we have grown up learning to supress our needs, we can become very good at seeing them in others, BUT ALSO less good at asking for what we need ourselves.  This leaves us thinking - I'm so good to everyone, why don't they see me?  Sadly, what you may need to do is learn to voice what you need, or at least don't make it seem so easy if you're doing something "nice" that really does put you out! AND  spend time with those who really do appreciate you, and try and hear them fully.  Explanations and tips in this episode!
#getneedsmet #feelunseen

If you are giving and giving and giving because you believe it's the right thing, but you're exhausted and you're getting little in return, perhaps it's time to change the value a little to something a bit more discerning.  This podcast explains why we do that, and how we can start to make healthy tweaks.

#values #acceptancandcommitmenttherapy #selfworth 

Using a reflection on my near acceptance of a potentially dangerous situation...because I really wanted it to work out as an example, I look at why we ignore red flags.  If we are choosing to do this, we need to ask ourselves - how much of the potential consequences are we truly willing to get used to?

#redflags #usedcar #selfawareness