Return to Wholeness

The holidays are upon us and diet culture is sure to rear its ugly head! Don't worry, love, Julie + I got your back with this episode where we share our key learnings on what NOT to do and what TO do this holiday season to ensure you stay peaceful and present.

Bare with us with our 10 minute random (yet important rant) about vulnerability porn and being mindful to not profit off of our pain on social media.

We also discuss:

• From eating to the point of sickness to under-eating to the point belly ache, our individual stressful experiences navigating the holidays before we had embodied Intuitive Eating
• Allowing holiday foods like stuffing and mashed potatoes to be special and sacred
• The Do's + Don'ts that will allow you to have a peaceful experience with food:
• Don't "save your calories"
• Don't punish yourself with exercise (Link below to check out Jules' new program Intuitive Exercise)
• Don't skip meals the next day
• Don't try to convert your family to Intuitive Eating at the dinner table
• Don't buy into guilt/shame over what you eat

Intuitive Exercise use coupon code HOLLY at checkout to get 50% off: www.julieohlemacher.com/intuitive-exercise-holly

Feminine Freedom Coaching Experience: https://hollytorontocoaching.lpages.co/the-feminine-freedom-coaching-experience/

Return to Wholeness Playlist: https://mailchi.mp/0faf62a7a25a/b8stn2v3w4

Join me for my first solo episode since the summer where I'm trying something new and outside of my comfort zone - recording a whole episode without having my words carefully planned.

This episode is raw, vulnerable and one of my favorite solo episodes thus far.

Here's what we cover:

• How I'm letting go of the script and learning to trust myself
• An overview of the compliant woman archetype and why I'm using this term instead of "good girl program
• The 5 manifestations of the compliant woman:
• Self silencing: how we use this strategy to manipulate others into seeing us a certain way in order to feel safe and avoid intimacy with ourselves and others
• Self denial- exploring the vulnerability of our big feelings and ways in which we deny our bodies biological needs because we often see our needs as an inconvenience
• Self sacrifice- The badge of honor we believe we'll get on the other side of self-sacrifice, especially mothers and how this truly benefits no one
• Self limitation- The responsibility of being with and expressing our full self and how scary that can truly be
• Self questioning- The "who am I to's" that keep us from owning the fullness of who we are
• How awareness allows us to choose differently
• Taking small and slow action to create change and heal from the compliant woman
• My Feminine Freedom Coaching Experience

Explore and apply for Feminine Freedom here --> https://hollytorontocoaching.lpages.co/the-feminine-freedom-coaching-experience/

Return to Wholeness Playlist: https://mailchi.mp/0faf62a7a25a/b8stn2v3w4

Send me a DM on Instagram letting me know your biggest takeaway from this episode: https://www.instagram.com/holly.toronto/

Today I'm in conversation with Style Coach, Katie Allen talking about how to style yourself according to your core values. It's such a fresh perspective on fashion that allows us to value the whole of a human being first and allow style to communicate that.

Here's what we discuss:

• How Katie fragmented her love of fashion by taking a safe job and focusing on checking all of the "right boxes"
• Her journey to reconnecting to her passion and becoming a style coach
• Fashion and personal style being about so much more than just the clothes but tapping into the your confidence and authenticity
• Dressing according to your core values and how that grounds these parts of ourselves
• Style as an external communication tool 
• How when we uplevel in our style or any other area of our lives, it will be confronting for the people around us
• Syncing our style to our menstrual cycles so that we can honor all of our seasons, especially our bleed (Katie's powerful advice to get rid of the period stained underwear and put on ones that make you feel like the goddess you are)

Learn more about Katie + her work here:

IG: @katieallenstylist

email: [email protected]

website: https://katiejuststyled.com/

style syncing guide: https://katiejuststyled.com/freebie

Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/just-realized/id1486567316

Join me for a powerful body-based conversation with Erica Ziel as we discuss all things women's core and pelvic health.

In this conversation we cover:

• Erica's health crisis dealing with mold toxicity and how that led to her doing her Human Potential Coach Training
• How forcing our bodies to do something they aren't ready for creates roadblocks for our healing and as Erica puts it "if you go hard, you will go home."
• Body/Mind connection vs Mind/Body connection
• How to stop fighting your body and be where you are
• Fascia as our human superpower
• How many bodily pains are linked back to the pelvic floor
• What exactly is the pelvic floor
• Proper breath being more important than the actual movement and the ways Erica teaches her clients to breath
• Why we need to stop doing kegels, tucking our tail bones, sucking in our bellies and rolling our shoulder's back and what to do instead

Learn more about Erica's work here:

EricaZiel.com

Instagram: @EricaZiel

Facebook.com/EricaZielFitness/

Knocked-UpFitness.com

Instagram.com/KnockedUpFitness

Facebook.com/Knocked-UpFitness

Apply for the Feminine Freedom Coaching Experience Here: https://hollytorontocoaching.lpages.co/the-feminine-freedom-coaching-experience/

Join me + Trauma & Relationship Coach, Evelyn Hale, for a deep dive into the complex and dynamic topic that is the masculine and feminine polarity.

Here's what we discuss:

• Evelyn's experience growing up in a domestic violence environment and how she fragmented herself in order to avoid feeling shame for what was happening at home
• The healing power of writing or sharing our stories
• An overview of masculine and feminine energies that live in all of us regardless of gender
• Evelyn's journey to restoring her faith in men and the masculine
• How children are born into victimhood, yet as adults it's our responsibility to heal and remove our "trauma colored glasses"
• The importance of bringing humor and laughter into our healing journeys
• Why do women feel unsafe or incapable of expressing their playful, funny, silly side
• Different flavors of the feminine coexisting and allowing ourselves to be energetically flexible so that we can fully express our feminine essence
• How women fragment their femininity in order to be successful by society's standards
• The yearning that many women have for more softness and relaxation
• The insatiable nature of the feminine

Learn more about Evelyn and her work here:

go.evelynhale.com/home

Apply for the Feminine Freedom Coaching Experience here:

https://hollytorontocoaching.lpages.co/the-feminine-freedom-coaching-experience/

On today's episode, I am introducing you to some of my favorite women in the entire world, a few of my clients.

These are women who are constantly bucking expectations in favor of their own desires and my hope is that they can inspire you to do the same.

You can explore if Feminine Freedom and if joining this amazing community is for you by clicking on this link:

https://hollytorontocoaching.lpages.co/the-feminine-freedom-coaching-experience/

Meet Katie Pijanowski. She is a fellow Anti-Diet & Body Image Coach and long time client of mine. She shares her powerful journey of healing her body image, learning to be more in touch with her emotions, letting go of external validation and feeling grounded while she goes through life transitions.

Learn more about Katie and her work here:

https://www.instagram.com/katiepijanowski/

Meet Katelyn Fox. She is a fellow Master-level coach specializing in body image, embodiment and anti-diet. She shares her journey of moving away from camouflaging herself to finding true sovereignty within her authentic self.

Learn more about Katelyn and her work here:

https://www.instagram.com/katfoxcoaching/

Meet Daphnie Yang. She is a Mind, Body, Soul Trainer, creator of the Body High Experience and new mother to her sweet son. She shares her powerful journey of healing her body image and releasing stories about motherhood that didn't actually belong to her.

Learn more about Daphnie and her work here:

https://www.instagram.com/definedbydaphnie/

In this week's episode, I am chatting with Life Coach Jeanine. She is the author of a new book, Team You. This book helps you befriend your inner world within, so all sides of you can work together on the same team.

In this episode, Jeanine shares a powerful experience she had connecting to her inner child through a spontaneous song that she intuited while on retreat.

She also shares about the modality that she uses with her clients to help them create inner harmony, Parts Work, which is what her book is based on.

Here are the 2 quotes that Jeanine mentioned in the episode:

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”― Anais Nin

“Joy is peace dancing. Peace is joy at rest.” - Frederick Brotherton Meyer

Learn more about Jeanine and her work here:

www.jeaninecerundolo.com

https://www.instagram.com/inspiration_motivation_18/

Also, be sure to check out her new book Team You:

https://www.amazon.com/Team-You-Confidence-Honoring-Yourself/dp/1737026619/ref=sr_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=team+you&qid=1631201781&sr=8-3

Check Out My Feminine Freedom Coaching Experience Here:

http://www.hollytoronto.com/work-with-me.html

Return to Wholeness Journaling Guide:

https://mailchi.mp/6adaf207fc0a/rtw-journaling-guide

This conversation with Chelsea Horton is absolute magic! Chelsea is the founder and CEO of Healing Embodied and she helps people heal from relationship anxiety so that they can pursue loving, fulfilling relationships without all of the doubt and worry.

We covered so much ground in this conversation and Chelsea and I were so delighted to uncover the many parallels in our paths - including our mutual love of early 2000's hip hop and r&b.

Here's what we cover:

• How Chelsea learned to fragment herself growing up in a religious, fundamentalist environment where she learned not to trust herself
• How learning to be in her body again allowed her to heal and come back to wholeness
• Her unconventional relationship advice: IT'S NOT YOUR PARTNERS JOB TO MAKE YOU FEEL ALIVE (or make you feel anything at all)
• That our relationships are a reflection of how we feel about ourselves
• The codependent messages we learn about what relationships "should" look like
• How relationship anxiety often manifests as doubts about our partner and how to discern when it's actually "your stuff"
• Triggers being an opportunity for self inquiry
• The power of being in relationships with people who are different than us because of what we might get to learn about ourselves
• How our bodies are always reflecting the state of our mind and using movement to navigate challenging emotions
• The 3 pillars of self trust
• How intuition is not infallible and how to listen to your intuition while still being open to uncertainty
• Learning through contrast

I loved this conversation with Chelsea so much! If you got something from this episode, please share it with a friend or on social media tagging both me (holly.toronto) and Chelsea (healing.embodied)

Learn more about Chelsea's work here:

www.healingembodied.com

Since starting this podcast, Madison Morrigan has been at the top of my dream guest list and needless to say, I'm thrilled to be connecting with her today.

I was initially attracted to Madison's work because of the way she approaches "buzzy" ideas like sovereignty and self responsibility. She is a coach who leads with integrity and her desire is truly to help you come home to your power, worth and wholeness...not point out your brokenness.

As usual, our conversation was dynamic, covering so many different topics:

• Madison’s most recent experience of uncovering a fragmented part of herself, her queerness and her journey of leaving her marriage and starting a relationship with a woman
• Not needing other people’s projections or opinions in order to affirm new iterations of ourselves
• Her commitment to shining a light on what is good in her life 
• Being able to address harm in the world around us from a stable and grounded place
• How a little extra presence, attention and beauty can contribute to a life of joy and celebration, whether that’s garnishing your food or lighting a candle
• Increasing our capacity to experience joy more fully
• How constantly chasing the highs of life can cause us to experience more “crash and burn” or lows as our nervous system’s try to find homeostasis
• Our mutual desire for a stable if not, boring life
• Unhooking from societal expectations of what life should look like and seeking a life of alignment
• Self responsibility as not another way to bypass, ignore or excuse the behavior/abuse of others but to reclaim our power and be the adult in our lives
• Divesting from belief systems that don’t align with our values
• The politics of self responsibility and taking over responsibility to the point of self blame

Connect with Madison and learn more about her Awaken Her Soul Program here:

https://www.madisonmorrigan.com/

https://www.instagram.com/madisonmorrigan/

https://www.madisonmorrigan.com/everything-belongs-podcast

https://www.awakenhersoul.com/

Sign up for my Return to Wholeness Playlist here:

https://mailchi.mp/0faf62a7a25a/b8stn2v3w4

Our girl, Julie Ohlemacher, is back to help me break down a juicy and deeply personal topic - status seeking.

When we live in a world that teaches us our starting place is "un-worth," it's only natural that we'll feel an impulse to fill ourselves through traditional status symbols like wealth, career, relationships and material possessions. Yet often those pursuits leave us feeling empty, unfulfilled and like we're just not enough.

Join Julie and I for this vulnerable episode that almost feels like you're getting a peak into a journal entry as we discuss:

• Looking to themes in nature for guidance and support from Spirit
• The lessons we've both been learning on surrendering control
• How stress, chaos and uncertainty might cause someone to fall back on outdated patterns/strategies in order to feel like they have control
• The nonlinear nature of growth and allowing for cycles of expansion and contraction
• Our inability to control what other people think of us, while also being within our power to not invest our energy in their opinions or thoughts
• Status seeking as being all about other's perceptions of us
• Examining our choices to uncover if they are coming from status seeking/ego or our deepest desires
• How constantly seeking status creates a void of never enough
• Choosing to also see rest as success
• Shifting our focus from external status seeking to happiness, joy and fulfillment in our daily lives

Check out my Feminine Freedom Coaching Experience Here: https://hollytorontocoaching.lpages.co/the-feminine-freedom-coaching-experience/

Sign up for The Return to Wholeness Journaling Guide: https://mailchi.mp/6adaf207fc0a/rtw-journaling-guide