Returning to Us

By Lauren Spigelmyer & Jessica Doering

To help people who help people, the organization needs to be healthy and have practices in place that consider the trauma of those they serve. Lauren Spigelmyer and Jessica Doering have helped thou

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Returning to Us episodes:

June 05, 2023Book Study Series: Limitless part 1
This episode continues our book study series. Today Lauren discusses Limitless by Jim Kwik. This book discusses brain development, how to make the things you learn stick, why multi-tasking is possible but not a good idea, why holding on to emotions is detrimental for your health, and how emotion and irrationality influences your long-term memory.
Lauren answers this week’s listener question during the episode: How do we best support a kiddo that has experienced trauma?
Try-at-home tip: Turn notifications off
Mentioned in this episode:
Limitless: Upgrade Your Brain, Learn Anything Faster, and Unlock Your Exceptional Life
Jim Kwik Website
Kwik Brain
Other related resources from The Behavior Hub:
Blog Post:
5 Reasons Behaviors Occur

Podcast:
5 Needs - Decoding Unwanted Behaviors
The Effects of Chronic Stress and Abuse
Our Online Courses:
From Conflict to Calm: How to Communicate with Challenging Children
From Wild Emotions to Tamed Feelings: How to Self-Regulate
Stress and Trauma and Behaviors, Oh my!: Stress & the Brain

Do you have a question? I can answer it in a future episode!
Email questions to [email protected] or send via text to 717-693-7744.
Subscribe to our mailing list and find out more about the Emotional Brain.
Check out our Facebook Group – Raising and Teaching Respectful Children
The Behavior Hub website
The Behavior Hub blog
Are you struggling with behaviors and not sure where to begin? Let me help!
Schedule a free discovery call and let me be your Guide.
As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.
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May 22, 2023How Trauma Travels
In today’s episode Lauren discusses how trauma travels through families and through generations. Trauma and the relationships that create trauma are passed on from one generation to the other. However, these patterns can be broken and today’s episode helps you begin the journey of breaking those patterns.

Lauren answers this week’s listener question during the episode: How do we recognize that a student’s response to a situation is driven by trauma?
Try-at-home tip: Add a good and remove a bad food

Mentioned in this episode:
The Human Magnet Syndrome

Other related resources from The Behavior Hub:

Blog Post:
How Exercise Impacts Emotional Regulation
Does Food Really Impact the Brain and Emotions
Sound in the Classroom: How it Can Trigger a Stress Response

Podcast:
Food: First of the Self-Care Big 5
Food and the Brain
Exercise and How It Relates to Emotional Regulation
The Effects of Chronic Stress and Abuse

Our Online Courses:
From Conflict to Calm: How to Communicate with Challenging Children
From Wild Emotions to Tamed Feelings: How to Self-Regulate
Stress and Trauma and Behaviors, Oh my!: Stress & the Brain
Do you have a question? I can answer it in a future episode!
Email questions to [email protected] or send via text to 717-693-7744.
Subscribe to our mailing list and find out more about the Emotional Brain.
Check out our Facebook Group – Raising and Teaching Respectful Children
The Behavior Hub website
The Behavior Hub blog

Are you struggling with behaviors and not sure where to begin? Let me help!
Schedule a free discovery call and let me be your Guide.
As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.
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May 15, 2023Book Study Series: “What Happened To You” pt. 3
Today is the third, and last, episode with Lauren discussing some of, “What Happened to You: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing” by Bruce Perry and Oprah Winfrey.
Today Lauren highlights some passages she found interesting and insightful. She focuses on how our modern society has created a stress response in all of us and what that looks like. She talks about connecting with people who are disregulated, our distance from nature and how that is impacting our health and stress levels, understanding someone’s past but not excusing their behavior, and the impact of all the sensory stimulation on our bodies.
Lauren answers this week’s listener question during the episode: How can we help manage/lessen stress for students and staff.
Try-at-home tip: Slow ride
Mentioned in this episode:
What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing
Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art by James Nestor
Other related resources from The Behavior Hub:
Blog Post:
How Exercise Impacts Emotional Regulation
Sound in the Classroom: How it Can Trigger a Stress Response
Sensory Integration AKA Sensory-Motor Strategies for Kidsces
Podcast:
Self Regulation – First of the 5 Needs Areas
Emotion Regulation using the Top-Down or Bottom-Up Approach
Exercise and How It Relates to Emotional Regulation
The Effects of Chronic Stress and Abuse
Sensory Need – Fifth of the 5 Needs Areas
Our Online Courses:
From Conflict to Calm: How to Communicate with Challenging Children
From Wild Emotions to Tamed Feelings: How to Self-Regulate
Stress and Trauma and Behaviors, Oh my!: Stress & the Brain
Do you have a question? I can answer it in a future episode!
Email questions to [email protected] or send via text to 717-693-7744.
Subscribe to our mailing list and find out more about the Emotional Brain.
Check out our Facebook Group – Raising and Teaching Respectful Children
The Behavior Hub website
The Behavior Hub blog
Are you struggling with behaviors and not sure where to begin? Let me help!
Schedule a free discovery call and let me be your Guide.
As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.
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May 08, 2023Book Study Series: “What Happened To You” pt. 2
Today is the second episode in our “Book Study Series.” We are continuing our discussion of “What Happened to You: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing” by Bruce Perry and Oprah Winfrey.
In this book study episode, Lauren discusses narcissism and how changes in our societal belief systems have made us more narcissistic, more distracted, and less present in our lives. This leads to less grace for our kids and others and more stress.
Lauren answers this week’s listener question during the episode: How does child stress compare to adult stress?
Try-at-home tip: Try something new
Mentioned in this episode:
What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing
The Human Magnet Syndrome
Other related resources from The Behavior Hub:
Blog Post:
Progressive Muscle Relaxation for Kids (& Adults!)
How Exercise Impacts Emotional Regulation
Polyvagal-Mind-Body Practices
Podcast:
Relationships and the Need to Feel Connected – Second of the 5 Needs Areas
All the coping/calming strategies
Exercise and How It Relates to Emotional Regulation
Our Online Courses:
From Conflict to Calm: How to Communicate with Challenging Children
From Wild Emotions to Tamed Feelings: How to Self-Regulate
Stress and Trauma and Behaviors, Oh my!: Stress & the Brain
Do you have a question? I can answer it in a future episode!
Email questions to [email protected] or send via text to 717-693-7744.
Subscribe to our mailing list and find out more about the Emotional Brain.
Check out our Facebook Group – Raising and Teaching Respectful Children
The Behavior Hub website
The Behavior Hub blog
Are you struggling with behaviors and not sure where to begin? Let me help!
Schedule a free discovery call and let me be your Guide.
As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.
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May 01, 2023Book Study Series: “What Happened To You” pt. 1
Today is the first episode in our “Book Study Series.” We are kicking it off with a book released in 2021, “What Happened to You: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing” by Bruce Perry and Oprah Winfrey.
In this episode Lauren connects Dr Perry’s thoughts on trauma with her experiences. She discusses divorce as a type of death for kids and the importance of attachment and relationship bonds developed in childhood on our adult selves.
Lauren answers this week’s listener question during the episode: I am burning out. How do I stop it?
Try-at-home tip: Tap it in.
Mentioned in this episode:
What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing
Other related resources from The Behavior Hub:
Blog Post:
Progressive Muscle Relaxation for Kids (& Adults!)
Sensory Integration AKA Sensory-Motor Strategies for Kids
Self Care: Filling Up Your Own Cup
Podcast:
Calming and Coping Strategies
Relationships and the Need to Feel Connected – Second of the 5 Needs Areas
All the Coping & Calming Strategies
Decoding Unwanted Behaviors
Our Online Courses:
From Conflict to Calm: How to Communicate with Challenging Children
From Wild Emotions to Tamed Feelings: How to Self-Regulate
Stress and Trauma and Behaviors, Oh my!: Stress & the Brain
Do you have a question? I can answer it in a future episode!
Email questions to [email protected] or send via text to 717-693-7744.
Subscribe to our mailing list and find out more about the Emotional Brain.
Check out our Facebook Group – Raising and Teaching Respectful Children
The Behavior Hub website
The Behavior Hub blog
Are you struggling with behaviors and not sure where to begin? Let me help!
Schedule a free discovery call and let me be your Guide.
As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.
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April 24, 2023Burning Teacher Questions Pt. 3
Today is the third, and last, episode in a mini-series of teacher questions and Lauren saved the toughest questions for last. Lauren reached out to different school districts and teachers for a list of their most pressing questions to answer. While these were asked by teachers there is a lot of information that relates to parents and other caregivers. Don’t miss this episode.
Today’s Listener Questions:
How do you we ask students about traumatic events in their lives to gain knowledge and show we care without being invasive or upsetting them?
What are the typical signs of stress?
How can teachers be sensitive to trauma/stress while still maintaining high expectations and holding students accountable?
How do we identify students who are stressed but do not have obvious indicators?
Is it possible to have flashbacks of traumatic situations with no warning? Or, are there certain triggers?
Best practices for educators to manage their stress while in the thick of student’s stress?
Try-at-home tip: Ice bath and sauma
Other related resources from The Behavior Hub:
Blog Post:
4 Super Easy Steps to Create a Calm Down Space for Kiddos
Sound in the Classroom: How It Can Trigger a Stress Response
What is Self-care & Why it is important?
Know Thyself: Initial Steps for a Self-Care Practice
Podcast:
Calming & Coping Strategies
Fight or Flight: Our Sympathetic Nervous System
The Effects of Chronic Stress and Abuse
Small Changes That Lead to a Calmer (and Happier) You
Our Online Courses:
From Conflict to Calm: How to Communicate with Challenging Children
Self Care: Filling up your Own Cup
Stress and Trauma and Behaviors, Oh my!: Stress & the Brain
Do you have a question? I can answer it in a future episode!
Email questions to [email protected] or send via text to 717-693-7744.
Subscribe to our mailing list and find out more about the Emotional Brain.
Check out our Facebook Group – Raising and Teaching Respectful Children
The Behavior Hub website
The Behavior Hub blog
Are you struggling with behaviors and not sure where to begin? Let me help!
Schedule a free discovery call and let me be your Guide.
As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.
...more
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April 17, 2023Teacher Questions - Pt. 2 of 3
Today is the second episode in a mini-series of teacher questions. Lauren reached out to different school districts and teachers for a list of their most pressing questions to answer. While these were asked by teachers there is a lot of information that relates to parents and other caregivers. Don’t miss this episode.
Today’s Listener Questions:
How do you tell the stress level of your students?
What are the indicators of stress that a student might demonstrate?
How does stress help or hinder the retention of material?
Does constant interconnectedness help or exacerbate trauma/stress?
How to prioritize social and emotional learning AND subject specific content in one class?
How do years of abuse/trauma affect children’s learning and processing of information?
How can we weave stress reduction into the day for our students and staff?
Try-at-home tip: Locus of control
Other related resources from The Behavior Hub:
Blog Post:
4 Super Easy Steps to Create a Calm Down Space for Kiddos
Sound in the Classroom: How It Can Trigger a Stress Response
Emotional Regulation With the Top-Down or Bottom-Up Approach
The First Step to Emotional Regulation
Podcast:
Calming & Coping Strategies
Calming Corner for Both Adults & Kids
4 Steps to Teach Emotional Intelligence
Using Color in Room Design: How it Affects Actions, Learning, and Retention
The Effects of Chronic Stress and Abuse
Our Online Courses:
From Conflict to Calm: How to Communicate with Challenging Children
From Wild Emotions to Tamed Feelings: How to Self-Regulate
Stress and Trauma and Behaviors, Oh my!: Stress & the Brain
Do you have a question? I can answer it in a future episode!
Email questions to [email protected] or send via text to 717-693-7744.
Subscribe to our mailing list and find out more about the Emotional Brain.
Check out our Facebook Group – Raising and Teaching Respectful Children
The Behavior Hub website
The Behavior Hub blog
Are you struggling with behaviors and not sure where to begin? Let me help!
Schedule a free discovery call and let me be your Guide.
As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.
...more
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April 10, 2023Teacher Questions - Pt. 1
Today is the first episode in a mini-series of teacher questions. Lauren reached out to different school districts and teachers for a list of their most pressing questions to answer. While these were asked by teachers there is a lot of information that relates to parents and other caregivers so don’t miss this episode.
Today’s Listener Questions:
How do you de-escalate a child who is losing composure?
How do we reduce stress, trauma, and negative behavior triggers?
How technology use affects stress?
How long can it take to “reprogram” the brain after major stress/trauma events (such as the pandemic)?
What are the best practices, or strategies, to help students who’ve experienced trauma?
Are young people likely more stressed by the pandemic than adults?
Is it better to teach in a way that assumes all children have experienced trauma?
Is learning to cope with stress as good as eliminating stress?
Try-at-home tip: Create Art
Other related resources from The Behavior Hub:
Blog Post:
4 Super Easy Steps to Create a Calm Down Space for Kiddos
Sound in the Classroom: How It Can Trigger a Stress Response
Emotional Regulation With the Top-Down or Bottom-Up Approach
Podcast:
Calming & Coping Strategies
Calming Corner for Both Adults & Kids
Breathing Techniques for Calming
What Is Emotional Abuse?
The Effects of Chronic Stress and Abuse
Our Online Courses:
From Conflict to Calm: How to Communicate with Challenging Children
From Wild Emotions to Tamed Feelings: How to Self-Regulate
Stress and Trauma and Behaviors, Oh my!: Stress & the Brain
Do you have a question? I can answer it in a future episode!
Email questions to [email protected] or send via text to 717-693-7744.
Subscribe to our mailing list and find out more about the Emotional Brain.
Check out our Facebook Group – Raising and Teaching Respectful Children
The Behavior Hub website
The Behavior Hub blog
Are you struggling with behaviors and not sure where to begin? Let me help!
Schedule a free discovery call and let me be your Guide.
As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.
...more
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April 03, 2023Building your family system
Today is the last episode in our series on how other cultures raise children.Throughout the world parents use a whole network of people to help raise their child. In this episode Lauren discusses how you can create that network. This not only gives you a break from your kids but exposes your kids to people of all ages.
Ideas discussed include:
Allo parenting - allow older kids to help parent the younger
Create a network of older people in your community to act as Aunties and Uncles and help take shifts with childcare.
Build a multi-age playgroup so you don’t have to constantly monitor kids while playing
Value your families and their input.
TEAM: togetherness, encourage, autonomy, minimize interference
Lauren answers this week’s listener question during the episode: What do I do about disrespect and teens, especially ones that hang up on me?
Try-at-home tip: Consider less stimulating toys
Mentioned in this episode:
Bringing up Bebe - Pamela Druckerman
Hunt, Gather, Parent - Michaeleen Doucleff
There's No Such Thing as Bad Weather - Linda Akeson McGurk
Achtung Baby - Sara Zaske
The Danish Way of Parenting - Jessica Joelle Alexander, Dissing Sandahl
Other related resources from The Behavior Hub:
Blog Post:
Progressive Muscle Relaxation for Kids (& Adults!)
Sensory Integration AKA Sensory-Motor Strategies for Kids
How Exercise Impacts Emotional Regulation
Podcast:
Improve Communication by Giving Kids Choices
The Wise Owl: Better Known As Your Thinking Brain
How to Make Kids Cooperate
How on Earth Do We Deal with Misbehavior
How on Earth Do We Deal with Misbehavior? Pt. 2
How on Earth Do We Deal with Misbehavior? Pt. 3
Our Online Courses:
From Conflict to Calm: How to Communicate with Challenging Children
From Wild Emotions to Tamed Feelings: How to Self-Regulate
Stress and Trauma and Behaviors, Oh my!: Stress & the Brain
Do you have a question? I can answer it in a future episode!
Email questions to [email protected] or send via text to 717-693-7744.
Subscribe to our mailing list and find out more about the Emotional Brain.
Check out our Facebook Group – Raising and Teaching Respectful Children
The Behavior Hub website
The Behavior Hub blog
Are you struggling with behaviors and not sure where to begin? Let me help!
Schedule a free discovery call and let me be your Guide.
As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.
...more
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March 27, 2023Building Resilience and Self-Esteem
Over the last few episodes, Lauren has discussed how other cultures teach cooperation, helpfulness, motivation, and emotional control. Today she discusses building self-esteem in our kids which leads to more resilient and less anxious children.

In the last few years we have moved away from a strict authoritarian approach to parenting. The US has embraced giving kids a little more control while, at the same time, we became overprotective and controlling in a different manner.

This episode discusses six ways to help your kids become more resilient and gain self-esteem.
Limit your requests or orders.
More non-verbals.
Don’t answer for your kids.
Let kids be.
Let them do hard or dangerous things.
Disappear or get lost
Listen to the episode to hear the reason behind each change and examples.

Lauren answers this week’s listener question during the episode: Kids are really stressed out and tired and struggling to regulate their emotions. What do we do?

Try-at-home tip: Natural light vs. darkness
Mentioned in this episode:
Bringing up Bebe - Pamela Druckerman
Hunt, Gather, Parent - Michaeleen Doucleff
There's No Such Thing as Bad Weather - Linda Akeson McGurk
Achtung Baby - Sara Zaske
The Danish Way of Parenting - Jessica Joelle Alexander, Dissing Sandahl
Other related resources from The Behavior Hub:
Blog Post:
Progressive Muscle Relaxation for Kids (& Adults!)
Sensory Integration AKA Sensory-Motor Strategies for Kids
How Exercise Impacts Emotional Regulation
Podcast:
Exercise and how it relates to Emotional Regulation
Helpfulness: How to Make Kids Helpful
How to Make Kids Cooperate
How Other Cultures Teach Emotional Control - Pt 1
How Other Cultures Teach Emotional Control - Pt 2
Our Online Courses:
4 Simple Step to Problem Solving
From Wild Emotions to Tamed Feelings: How to Self-Regulate
Stress and Trauma and Behaviors, Oh my!: Stress & the Brain
Do you have a question? I can answer it in a future episode!
Email questions to [email protected] or send via text to 717-693-7744.
Subscribe to our mailing list and find out more about the Emotional Brain.
Check out our Facebook Group – Raising and Teaching Respectful Children
The Behavior Hub website
The Behavior Hub blog
Are you struggling with behaviors and not sure where to begin? Let me help!
Schedule a free discovery call and let me be your Guide.
As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.
...more
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FAQs about Returning to Us:

How many episodes does Returning to Us have?

The podcast currently has 235 episodes available.