Rise $ Lead

Healthy boundaries are a key element in your physical, mental, and emotional, spiritual  health. They look different for each person and relationship, and they may change over time. they involve communicating your wants and needs in a relationship, while also respecting the wants and needs of the other person in the relationship.

Could it be that the reason why men shy away from being vulnerable and opening up goes way beyond their ego, could it be that there are root causes we need to deal with before we put so much pressure on men to share their weaknesses and life with us? Here is a new ideology to it.

I love to see a boundary as a fence, its where you end and where another person begins. Boundaries communicate what you are okay with and what you are not within a certain space. In short, boundaries help you define what you are comfortable with and how you would like to be treated by others. They are a way to Love yourself.

vulnerability is about expressing our truth, whatever that may be. Share how much you love and appreciate the people in your life. Share how you feel. Share your accomplishments and pride. And don’t just share the good stuff either. Feeling ashamed or insecure? Share that information to people you trust too. A friend of mine keeps on telling me life is much easier when you say a lot of yeses. So say yes to vulnerability as scary as it is.

Men experience a lot of difficulty in being vulnerable due to societal pressure for them to remain strong. Most of them were taught how to be self reliant in their early age, they actually feel like expressing their feelings makes them weak. We are going to understand why that is so, when men open up and what we can do to make the environment safe for them to be vulnerability. We going to look at how men too can embrace vulnerability in their lives.

Every big or small thing starts with yourself. Embrace your unique self. Yes you have been hurt before, you have been betrayed before and I understand that you are reducing all the possible risks of you getting hurt again but it all starts within. Everyone who lives on earth have some kinda fear, insecurity or dark patch that we would wish to keep it all in. Realize that everyone feels this way despite their successes, beauty or their perfection. the trick is to embrace who you are and be proud of yourself. Be grateful for the scars and the successes then from there you will definitely be proud to carefully expose yourself to those who have earned the right to hear your story.

I know it is nice to have someone you call a go to person and someone whom you can have a heart to heart conversation with, but is it really worth it if they do not play this role?  The question is how do we know who we should open up to. Someone you can confidently and comfortably share your issues with

What I have to say to everyone who is struggling with being vulnerable is to start small. Start small, but big enough to feel the discomfort. For me, it helps to imagine vulnerability as a muscle that needs to be properly exercised in order to grow and allow you to achieve great things. Every small moment of vulnerability is a training which builds up over time until you find yourself lifting emotional weights you never could have imagined before.

Vulnerability is showing your wounds to those who can heal them or help you heal them, it is also showing your scars to those who can learn from them. The birthplace of belonging.