Confront others with truth and kindness
When we are worried and scared by various illusions, we can hardly pay attention to comprehend, appreciate and understand the others.

This makes us become more isolated from others.

The result is the increasing difficulties for communicating with the outside world.

It forms a vicious spiral in this way.

Therefore, we should always engender good thoughts with behaviors of appreciating, understanding, helping, encouraging and praising others, as well as learning advantages more from others.

We should inspire the truth and kindness in others' minds with our own truth and kindness.

We interact and closely relate to other people and the nature.

Thus, we need to treat everything around us with a benevolent and grateful mind.

We do not live in a fragmentation world.

Taking care of the others is to consider their characters, habits, and their causes and conditions rather than the bare consideration of one ‘self’.

‘Outside of the mind there is no Dharma’ does not equal to act according to one's will regardless of other's opinions.

Acting with wrong views is the attachment on the ‘self’.

It is the clinging on the vexation in another way.

用真、善去面对他人
当我们在各种妄想中担心害怕时，

就很少有心力去理解、欣赏、体谅别人了，

进而自己就越来越封闭，与他人格格不入，

这又会增加与人沟通的难度，如此形成恶性循环。

要常常发好心，帮助别人、鼓励别人、赞叹别人，

并且多学习他人的优点。

用自己的真、善，启发出他人内心的真与善。

环境与人，自与他，都是互相影响、不可分割的。

要怀着慈悯和报恩的心去看待身边的一切，

而不是怀着排斥和对立的心去面对。

真正为别人好，是要关顾到别人的性格、喜好、因缘，

而不是“只顾自己”。

如果把“一切都在自己的心，不是看外境”理解成我行我素，

不顾及他人，那就错了，

说来说去都是我执烦恼变幻不同的面目出现。

What should we do when the emotion arises
When strong emotion come in, we should realize that it is not permanent and it constitutes only a tiny part of our life.

Don’t be frustrated by certain circumstances.

Maybe we were exhausted and tired, so that, we would perceive everything driving us round the twist.

If we take the feeling of that moment as real, drawing a conclusion on the feeling and clinging on the strong feeling, we will be desperate.

On the contrary, we must see that our perceptions and the circumstances keep changing.

Abandoning the negative thought, your mind becomes peaceful.  

We are hurt by someone’s behavior easily.

It is because we consider the problem barely from one perspective.

If we can see things from different perspectives, we will put down lots of hatred and gain more wisdom.

To transfer bad thing to life’s nutritions, you can nourish your life and have a better future.

We need to accept and confront all circumstances, be brave.

We must withstand the results of the difficult situations, no matter how difficult they are, when they become the fact.

The reluctance and sorrow will increase our burden, which is not conductive to the improvement of the situations.

The best confronting is to build your strength on withstanding the situations.

Aware of every thought, which directing to a wish for better future.

A positive mind results a better future.   

当境界来时，怎么办

种种境界的逼迫，只是生活的某一个片段；

且有时外境并不是那么可怕，只是此时心力处于低点，

一下子就感觉四面八方全是压力，自己要扛不住了。

如果我们把这一个瞬间的感受当作真实的，

下了定义并执著其中，就会越来越难过；

反之，思维一切都是在变化的，不去反复想困难，心就能平静。

我们很容易因为别人的一个行为备受伤害，

那是我们只从一个角度来看待问题。

换更多的角度去思考，

自己就能放下许多怨恨、获得更多成长，

能够将一件不好的事情转变为让生命更好的养分。

一切境界都去接受，勇敢面对。

已经成熟的果相，哪怕再苦也得咽下，

内心的不情愿和哀愁只会加重心理负担，无益于境况的好转。

最好的面对，就是在苦境之中种乐因，

念念朝着希望去努力，转心才能转境。

Thinking from others’ perspective does not equal to arbitrary imagination
Putting self in others’ shoes does not mean one can act accordingly to his own imagination.

For instance, when face to face discussion is necessary, one cannot avoid such discussion using not bothering others as an excuse.

Sometimes, not bothering others is indeed thinking from others’ perspective.

Other times, it is just one’s own imagination such that one does not have to get out of comfort shell.   

不要妄自“代人着想”

当然，换位思考、代人着想也不能限入妄想。

例如相互之间的必要交流，不能以“代人着想”，

怕打扰别人的名义而不去交流。

怕打扰别人，有时候是代人着想，

有时候是自己的妄想，为了保护自己而把自己装在套子里的借口。

Addressing laziness and procrastination
Nowadays people receive a great deal of information in a passive fashion. Internet search makes it easy to acquire whatever information one needs, which leaves us less opportunity to think on our own. 

While technological advancement makes life more and more convenient, opportunity for human labor becomes increasingly less. With that, people become lazy and lose their aspirations.

Diligence becomes a rare commodity and procrastination becomes a habit.

对治懒惰与拖延

现代人被动接受信息太多，想得到什么信息一搜索就出来了，

看别人做比较轻松，自己主动思考的时候越来越少；

科技的进步让生活越来越便利的同时，人劳动的机会也越来越少。

渐渐地，人的惰性就越来越强，主动的理想愿力缺失了，

勤快的好品质成了稀缺物，拖延症成了习惯。
 

Try not to worry and do your best
Worrying about not being able to perform well at work, one should work on improving his own capabilities and treating every task with great earnest.   Failing to trust co-workers, one should focus more on their strengths and develop good rapport.

We usually emphasize much on “what I want” and strive for such direction.  We should not let ourselves set in certain situation, be stuck in our own feelings, speculations, and worries, and do nothing. 

不要乱担心，努力去做

担心工作做不好，就努力学习，

提升自己的业务水平，认认真真对待每一件事；

对同事缺乏信任，就多去了解他的优点，多结善缘、磨合性格。

我们做人做事，重点都是“我希望怎样”，并为此努力，

而不是总停留在某一个境况中，

停留在自己的感受、猜想、担忧中，什么也不做。

Buddha nature in us
There is no simple good or bad when it comes to human nature. 

The so called good people or bad people are labels we put that are over simplified and rough.
Buddhism talks about afflictions and Buddha-nature.

Everyone has Buddha-nature which is deeply covered by various afflictions such as greed, anger, ignorance, pride, and doubts.

When troubled by afflictions, we tend to act in a way that creates evil karma. Even such, those with a great deal of evil karma may come to realize his Buddha-nature.

Therefore, everyone should make a dedicated effort to eliminate afflictions and uncover his Buddha-nature.

人人都有佛性

人性不是简单分为“好”与“坏”，

所谓好人、坏人，都是我们内心的脸谱化标签，过于简单而粗暴。

佛法讲烦恼与佛性，每个人都有佛性，

但被种种烦恼所覆蔽，譬如贪嗔痴慢疑。

人起烦恼的时候就会造恶业，而造很多恶业的人也有佛性开显的时刻。

所以，每一个人都应该努力净除烦恼，开发佛性。

Khanti (Sanskrit)
We need to understand what is “Khanti” and why to practice “Khanti”.

It is absolutely not about being a nice guy who does not discriminate between right and wrong or is timid and overcautious.

The Six Perfections of Mahayana Buddhism, generosity, ethics, patience, enthusiastic perseverance, concentration and wisdom, work closely with and complement each other. 

The practice of Six Perfections serves both as a boat carrying self and others to the shore of enlightenment, and as a wholesome recipe to cultivate virtue and eliminate sufferings.

“Khanti” includes eliminating sufferings and non-virtuous deeds for self; it also includes vigorously cultivating virtuous deeds for others.

Therefore,a comprehensive approach must be taken toward understanding “Khanti”.  

忍辱

要懂得什么叫“忍辱”，为什么“忍辱”，

绝不是不辨是非的糊涂，也不是胆小怕事的老好人。

菩萨六度，布施、持戒、忍辱、精进、禅定、智慧，

相辅相成、环环相扣，是自度度人之舟楫、断恶修善之良方。

对自己断烦恼恶业，对他人修勇猛善行，

都涵摄其中，绝非片面执取一点来看待“忍辱”。

Make Efforts on Causes
Buddhist Dharma teaches us to focus on making vows and making effort on causes, rather than clinging to one’s suffering on a given situation in life.

No matter what result to seek, we ought to focus on the thought which is a cause in the present Just be in control of this thought, nothing else.

Cultivating the mind means correcting one’s inner mistakes and shortcomings under the guidance of the right view.

It is to make us happier till we attain completeness, and make us suffer less till we are free of sufferings.

Change of mind influences change of actions, solving the problem of making nonvirtuous karma.

Cultivating the mind allows for gradual elimination of afflictions, which is the way to eliminate sufferings.

Often people talk about activating Bodhisattva statues.

As a matter of fact, it is not us activating Buddha statues, but discovering our inner wisdom under the guidance of Bodhisattva. 

Buddhist Dharma is the Dharma of the mind that all teachings are to enlighten the mind. 

因上努力

佛法教给我们的思维方式是：在“愿”上去谈，在“因”上努力，

而不是只抱着一个生活的片段（往往还是自以为是的结论）哀怨苦恼。

不管想要什么样的果，都要在当下这一念因上努力，

只管好这一念，不要想太多。

修心，就是用佛法的知见和思维模式来纠正自己心念中的错误、不足，

目的是让自己快乐更多一点乃至圆满，痛苦更少一点乃至完全没有。

人生的痛苦都由烦恼与业而来，把这颗心修好了，心念改变影响行为改变，解决造恶业的问题，慢慢断除烦恼，才能究竟断除痛苦。

常见有人说给佛菩萨开光，其实不是人给佛菩萨开光，

而是借佛菩萨来启发人自心的光明。

佛法是“内明之法”，一切法都是为了启明人的内心。

How to eliminate Afflictions
The practice of endurance is to eliminate afflictions.
The practice itself is not the goal.

When there is no longer affliction, we are able to benefit self and others with the practice of compassion and kindness.

Kindness does not equal to unconditional tolerance.

There are many virtuous Dharma to learn and wisdom and blessings to cultivate.

Afflictions from self and others are what we need to address.

Eliminate afflictions from self before helping others.
Buddhist practice of endurance is not to tolerate external humiliation and to indulge others’ mistakes, but to address inner affliction with tranquility and loving compassion.

When there are no more afflictions, one is ready to handle situations and help others.
ultimate enemy is not someone but the evil within.

It takes loving compassion and wisdom to overcome the evil.

Hatred and violence will not work. 

如何降伏烦恼
忍辱是为了降伏自己的烦恼，并不是最终目的。

在内心不起烦恼的基础之上，我们才能真正用善去自利利他。

做一个善良的人，不等于简单的忍让，还有许许多多善法要去学习，福德智慧要去培养。

自他的烦恼，都是我们要调伏的对象，先自调伏，再帮助他人。
佛法之忍，并非忍受外在的侮辱、纵容他人的过错，

而是平息内心的烦恼，取而代之以清净和慈悲，

在自己不起烦恼的基础上，再去处理事情、帮助对方。
终极的敌人是人心中的恶，而不是人；

降伏恶要靠慈悲与智慧，而不是嗔恨与暴力。

Don’t care so much about others
When thinking only from one’s own perspective, one feels that nothing is going well.

This is because of our obsession with the self as if a hedgehog being against everything. 

Try to put ourselves in others’ shoes and take a holistic perspective.

We will then be able to pull the thorn out of our mind and have a broader mindset.
When caring too much about others’ words and feelings, we are not really into how others feel.

We are however into how they see us.

We want to please others in order to gain our own satisfaction in return.

We care about our own happiness and sufferings by looking and exploring outwards.

Whereas Bodhisattvas care about happinessof all sentient beings, they do so by accumulating wisdom and blessings. 

This is why we are miserable while they are joyful and at ease.
Make a daily vow: May my words bring happiness, hope and help to others.

Do not worry about losing face, failure, and how others see you. 

别那么“在乎”别人
凡事只从自己的角度考虑，就很容易觉得事事不顺心，

“我执”膨胀，犹如一个刺猬般处处对立。

多代人着想，观顾大局，拔掉自己心里的刺，心境就会开阔很多。
对他人的言语和心情特别“在乎”，并不是真正关心他人的感受，

而是在意他人对自己的态度，希望取悦对方，换得自己的满足。

我们关注的焦点是自己的苦乐，实现的方式是向外追逐和索取；

菩萨则相反，心中想的是众生的苦乐，求取之道是提升自己的福慧，

所以我们苦不堪言，而菩萨喜乐自在。
每天发愿：让我说的话能够带给别人快乐，带给别人希望，

能够帮助到别人，不要总是害怕自己丢脸、失败，担心别人怎么看自己。