Tensions are high these days and there's often so much focus on moving forward that we don't talk about the fact that you'll move back if you don't keep trying to move forward. In this episode I mentioned what it's like to be able to put my pants on in the morning and how something that's easily frustrating can ruin your whole day.

In this episode I talk about why I have a poor sleep routine. And why I have a lot of trouble breaking the pattern. I talk about my struggles with sleep because of hypertension and sleep apnea that are now corrected but the bad habits are still there. And I discuss the ability to change the habits and why I believe I self-sabotage as a form of control in my life.

In this episode I talk about expectations. Both our own and the expectations of others. And I find it interesting that if we expect good things for ourselves and put that out into the world we're somehow delusional or arrogant. But yet if we do something nice for somebody and they don't reciprocated in the same way sort of your opinion of that person or your view that they didn't give whatever it was back to you is messed up. What I mean by that is if you give somebody a well wish and you expect it back from them is it really a selfless act? And another thought on that is what if the individual that you're giving that to doesn't have the capacity at the moment to reciprocate in the same way. If you change your expectations you'll change your happiness

Today I talk about getting inundated with information. And people seemingly telling everyone else how to live their life. Worse still if you don't do things the way other people want you to do them then you're wrong somehow!

I feel like I'm the king getting mad at stuff. Lots of stuff fires me up in a negative way. I think that's why I gravitate to the self-help / self-improvement stuff. It's really easy to get upset these days. I mean all you have to do is scroll through social media and you know two days after everyone had the Christmas spirit. More negative stuff coming down the pipe talking about something that's happening in the News that's negative. A neighbor pisses you off, you have an argument with your family or whatever else. It's so easy to get upset so easy to get mad at stuff. But it is dumb!

In this episode I talk about the Houston Rockets James Harden apparently getting a video taken of him at a strip club and violating covid protocols for the NBA. I talk a little bit about my sports history and what I like and dislike about the current game of the NBA. I also take a moment to take a shot at the person who actually took the video of James Harden in the first place.

When we're younger we just do whatever we want to do and we don't have the limitations that society or our environment puts upon us. What's something that you wanted to do for a long time and you just haven't done it? What would your 7-year-old version of yourself do? My guess is they would just go and do the thing they wanted to do. So do that!

Thank you for sticking with me past the vaunted "10 Episode podcast curse". There are some things I want to change about my behavior. Not that I want to change anything about my core person but there are things that I do on a daily basis I want to get better at or change. So I was inspired because I'm a huge WWE wrestling fan and I thought about the fact that they play characters either good guys or bad guys. Men and women switch back and forth between heel personas and face personas. So over the next 7 days I'm going to play a character that has the qualities that I want and the changes in behavior that I feel I need. Will you take the challenge with me? Is there anything that you want to change? Cheers

What do I mean when I talk about decreasing your barrier to entry. I mean if something seems too difficult we might not even get started. For example if you make a commitment to working out everyday for a half an hour that may be too much and you might not get started because you don't know where you're going to find your half an hour from. But if you can make a commitment to work out a half an hour every second day that may be more attainable. Or maybe it's 10 minutes a day. And you might say well 10 minutes a day isn't going to give me very much but it's going to give you more than not doing anything. And also be intentional have a target. It might just be to work out 10 minutes a day for 30 days and then see where you are at that point see what kind of improvement you've made. My goal with this podcast is the next time I have a guest like I did yesterday instead of it being an hour and a half I want to be able to bring value to you in 20 minutes. So my goal is to improve my podcasting skills and the direction of each episode, to make me better. I want to have the skill set that allows me to extract value from an individual in 20 minutes instead of an hour and a half.

Okay well he didn't really stop by. He lives in Nelson so we recorded the podcast with me and Victoria and him and Nelson. He's one of my best friends and online marketing smarty pants and a connoisseur of podcasts and communication. So we shoot the breeze and we talk about a whole bunch of different topics. A little about self-improvement, a little about podcasts and a lot about friendship and mentorship.