Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal

What does it really mean to stay grounded in yourself when you’re the one doing the emotional work in the relationship?

In this episode, I’m joined by Tammy Gustafson, MA, LPC - trauma-informed licensed professional counselor, coach, speaker, founder of Betrayal Healing and LiveFree Counseling, host of the annual Betrayal Healing Conference, and author of Broken to Brave: Your Courageous Act of Healing from Intimate Betrayal.

Together, we explore one of the most painful and confusing realities many betrayed partners face: being committed to healing while your partner is slow, avoidant, or inconsistent in their growth.

This conversation is not about abusive dynamics. It’s for the woman who is trying to stay anchored in herself while navigating a relationship that still feels uneven—and who is wondering how to do that without resentment, self-abandonment, or losing herself in the process.

Connect With Me

Join me at one of the Upcoming Betrayal Trauma Conferences: 

The Betrayal Healing Conference on January 26-30, 2026. (Virtual)

Together We Rise: Collaboration, Care, and Community in Recovery in person in Dallas, TX on Feb. 4-6, 2026

If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.

Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:

Join me at a Retreat or Intensive

If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners.

The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust.

Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. 

Free Resources & Downloads

Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal.

👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal

👉Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal

Upcoming Course: Reclaiming You After Betrayal

If you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.

This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system.

👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!

Listen to My Other Podcast

If you are still in your relationship—or in the process of discerning whether you want to stay—I invite you to also follow my podcast, Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, where I speak to both partners about healing, accountability, and rebuilding trust.

👉 Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal

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One of the most painful and disorienting effects of betrayal isn’t just losing trust in your partner - it’s losing trust in yourself.

After deception, gaslighting, and emotional manipulation, many women begin to question their instincts, their memories, and their inner knowing. You may find yourself wondering, How did I not see this? Can I trust myself again? What if I’m wrong?

In this episode, Hali Roderick, Certified Partner Coach and founder of Rooted & Rising Healing, explores how betrayal disrupts self-trust - not because you were weak, but because your reality was made unsafe. You’ll learn why self-doubt is a trauma response to being lied to, how boundaries support clarity, and how to begin reconnecting with your inner compass in a grounded, gentle, and empowering way.

This episode also includes a trauma-informed guided Inner Compass practice to help you tune back into yourself without pressure, urgency, or self-abandonment.

Stay Connected with Me:

Join me at one of the Upcoming Betrayal Trauma Conferences: 

The Betrayal Healing Conference on January 26-30, 2026. (Virtual)

Together We Rise: Collaboration, Care, and Community in Recovery in person in Dallas, TX on Feb. 4-6, 2026

Join me at a Retreat or Intensive

If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners.

The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust.

Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. 

Sign up for my Newsletter:

Rooted and Rising Weekly

Join the waitlist:

Rooted and Rising: Reclaiming You Course

Download my free Guide Book:⁠⁠

Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠

Download my free ebook:⁠

⁠Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠

RootedAndRisingHealing.com⁠⁠

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@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠

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If you’ve ever set a boundary after betrayal and immediately questioned yourself — Was that too harsh? Was that a threat? Am I being controlling? — this episode is for you.

After betrayal, boundaries often feel confusing, heavy, or even shame-inducing. Many women fear that setting limits means issuing ultimatums, threatening the relationship, or trying to control their partner’s recovery. But boundaries aren’t about control — they’re about self-respect, safety, and agency.

In this episode, we clearly break down the difference between a boundary and a threat, why this confusion is so common after betrayal trauma, and how to set boundaries that are rooted in clarity rather than fear. You’ll learn how to protect yourself without self-abandoning — and without trying to manage someone else’s choices.

Stay Connected with Me:

Join me at one of the Upcoming Betrayal Trauma Conferences: 

The Betrayal Healing Conference on January 26-30, 2026. (Virtual)

Together We Rise: Collaboration, Care, and Community in Recovery in person in Dallas, TX on Feb. 4-6, 2026

Join me at a Retreat or Intensive:

If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners.

The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust.

Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. 

Sign up for my Newsletter:

Rooted and Rising Weekly

Join the waitlist:

Rooted and Rising: Reclaiming You Course

Download my free:⁠⁠

Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠

Download my free ebook:⁠

⁠Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠RootedAndRisingHealing.com⁠⁠

Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠

Follow on Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠

Contact: ⁠[email protected]⁠

In this special bonus episode, Hali Roderick is joined by her friends and trusted colleagues Amie Woolsey and Alana Gordon for a shared conversation about the heart, vision, and deeper purpose behind the Rise, Renew, Restore Women's Retreat in Costa Rica coming in July 2026.

Together, we explore why this retreat is about so much more than getting away — it’s about creating true nervous-system relief, embodied healing, and a felt sense of safety that many women have been longing for after betrayal, burnout, and chronic emotional stress.

We also unpack the meaning behind the name Rise, Renew, Restore, and how each part reflects the journey women move through when they step into a space designed not just for insight, but for deep, body-level change.

Stay Connected with Me:

Join me at one of the Upcoming Betrayal Trauma Conferences: 

The Betrayal Healing Conference on January 26-30, 2026. (Virtual)

Together We Rise: Collaboration, Care, and Community in Recovery in person in Dallas, TX on Feb. 4-6, 2026

Join me at a Retreat or Intensive

If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners.

The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust.

Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 2026, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. 

Sign up for my Newsletter:

Rooted and Rising Weekly

Join the waitlist:

Rooted and Rising: Reclaiming You Course

Download my free guide:⁠⁠

Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠

Download my free ebook:⁠ ⁠

Your First Steps to Rising From

Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠RootedAndRisingHealing.com⁠⁠

Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠

Follow on Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠

Contact: ⁠[email protected]⁠

If you’ve experienced betrayal, being triggered doesn’t mean you’re broken - it means your nervous system is trying to protect you. In this episode of the Rooted & Rising Healing Podcast, we’re talking about what actually happens when you get triggered after betrayal and how to respond in a way that builds self-trust instead of shame.

Rather than asking, “What’s wrong with me?”, you’ll learn three grounding questions that help you pause, regulate, and reconnect with your body, your discernment, and your power.

These questions are designed to help you:

• Understand your triggers without minimizing them
• Separate past trauma from present reality
• Respond from safety instead of survival mode
• Stop gaslighting yourself about your reactions
• Make empowered choices when emotions feel overwhelming

Stay Connected with Me:

Join me at one of the Upcoming Betrayal Trauma Conferences: 

The Betrayal Healing Conference on January 26-30, 2026. (Virtual)

Together We Rise: Collaboration, Care, and Community in Recovery in person in Dallas, TX on Feb. 4-6, 2026

Join me at a Retreat or Intensive

If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners.

The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust.

Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. 

Sign up for my Newsletter: Rooted and Rising Weekly

Healing isn’t about never being triggered again—it’s about learning how to trust yourself when you are.

Join the waitlist: Rooted and Rising: Reclaiming You Course

Download my free guide:⁠⁠

Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠

Download my free ebook:⁠

⁠Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠

Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠

Follow on Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠

Contact: ⁠[email protected]⁠

After betrayal, one of the most painful and destabilizing experiences isn’t just the trauma itself — it’s the constant self-doubt.

Am I crazy? Am I overreacting? Is this just a trigger… or is something actually wrong?

If you’ve been told “you’re just triggered” so often that you’ve started questioning your own reality, this episode is for you.

In today’s conversation, we’re unpacking one of the most damaging patterns in betrayal recovery: losing trust in your own perceptions. You’ll learn how to reclaim your discernment, rebuild self-trust, and stop letting anyone — including yourself — dismiss your legitimate concerns as “just trauma.”

Yes, betrayal creates trauma. Yes, you may experience triggers. But that does NOT mean you’ve lost your ability to tell when something isn’t right.

In fact, you may be more attuned to red flags than ever before.

This episode will help you stop gaslighting yourself, understand the difference between triggers and present-moment boundary violations, and begin trusting your knowing again.

Stay Connected with Me:

Sign up for my Newsletter: Rooted and Rising Weekly

Join the waitlist: Rooted and Rising: Reclaiming You Course

Download my free guide:⁠⁠Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠

Download my free ebook:⁠ ⁠Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠

Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠

Follow on Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠

Contact: ⁠[email protected]⁠

In Episode 12 of Rooted & Rising After Betrayal, we continue the identity-to-empowerment arc by exploring what it means to reclaim your narrative after trauma. Building on the last three episodes—your values, your Bill of Rights, and your Identity Statement—this conversation teaches you how to move from “who I am” to “how I choose to live from that identity.”

Drawing from Dr. Jake Porter’s Free to Choose model, we unpack how betrayal trauma hijacks the brain, interrupts choice, and pulls you into a story you never agreed to. You’ll learn the difference between being victimized (which is real and valid) and remaining in the victim position, and how reclaiming nuance, agency, and self-direction allows you to shift from survival narratives like “I’m powerless” into identity-led stories such as “I am discovering my choices” and “This is my story now.”

This episode also guides you through a powerful “I used to believe… now I know…” journaling practice, a visioning exercise of your future empowered self, and a grounding exploration of how black-and-white thinking evolves into nuanced clarity during healing. You’ll walk away with renewed awareness, expanded choice, and the reminder that every boundary you set and every truth you claim becomes a line in your new story. 

If this identity and narrative work is resonating, you’re invited to join the waitlist for Hali’s upcoming course—an intimate, step-by-step journey through values, rights, identity, boundaries, and the healing-centered narrative that will carry you forward. Your next chapter starts now—and you hold the pen.

Stay Connected with Me:

Sign up for my Newsletter: Rooted and Rising Weekly

Join the waitlist: Rooted and Rising: Reclaiming You Course

Download my free guide: Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠

Download my free ebook:⁠ ⁠Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠

Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠

Follow on Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick

⁠⁠Contact: ⁠[email protected]⁠

In this episode of Rooted & Rising After Betrayal, we complete a powerful three-part arc by bringing together your values, your personal Bill of Rights, and your emerging sense of identity.

You’ll learn why an Identity Statement is essential for healing after betrayal—because it shifts you from reacting to life to intentionally leading your life. Values clarify what matters most, your Bill of Rights affirms what you inherently deserve, and your Identity Statement weaves these pieces into a lived declaration of who you are and what you protect. This episode helps you understand that boundaries aren’t about controlling others—they’re about honoring your truth and protecting the parts of you that should never be abandoned again.

This episode naturally sets the stage for Hali’s upcoming course, where you’ll build your values, your Bill of Rights, your Identity Statement, and a boundary framework step-by-step within a safe, supportive community. If you’re ready to start living from your core identity, this course is your next step. Join the waitlist: Rooted and Rising: Reclaiming You Course

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Sign up for my Newsletter: Rooted and Rising Weekly

Join the waitlist: Rooted and Rising: Reclaiming You Course

Download my free guide: Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠

Download my free ebook: Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠RootedAndRisingHealing.com⁠⁠

Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠

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In this powerful episode, Hali guides you through one of the most important steps in healing after betrayal: reclaiming your Personal Bill of Rights.

Betrayal trauma can leave you doubting your worth, silencing your needs, and abandoning yourself in the hope of keeping connection. Today, we rewrite that story.

Together, we explore why creating a Personal Bill of Rights is essential—not as a demand on your partner, but as a declaration of what is inherently yours as a woman with divine worth: safety, dignity, voice, honesty, and agency. You’ll learn what a Bill of Rights is (and what it is not), and how it becomes a roadmap for emotional safety, boundary work, and nervous system healing.

Hali also shares real-life examples of what it looks like to rewire your neural pathways—to pause, rehearse your rights, and choose self-honoring actions instead of instinctive self-abandonment. These small internal shifts create massive transformation: courage, clarity, grounded boundaries, and the quiet confidence to live in alignment with your truth.

If you’ve felt afraid to take up space, guilty for having needs, or unsure of what you’re “allowed” to ask for—this episode will help you rebuild the foundation of your identity, one right at a time.

Stay Connected with Me:

Sign up for my newsletter: Rooted and Rising Weekly

Download my free: ⁠⁠Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠

Download my free ebook:⁠ ⁠Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠

Website: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com

Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠

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In this episode, we move from survival to self-redefinition. After betrayal, it's common to question everything—your identity, values, and purpose. These "identity quakes" aren’t endings; they’re invitations to release inherited roles and beliefs and begin to rebuild. We explore how values serve as your soul’s GPS, anchoring your decisions, boundaries, and healing. Many values were shaped by early environments or culture—not chosen. Now, you’re invited to ask: Which values feel like mine? Which ones reflect who I’m becoming? Which are rooted in safety, authenticity, and divine alignment?

You'll also be guided through a gentle Core Values Discovery process to uncover what truly matters to you. From daily choices to defining moments, your values help you reconstruct your identity from the inside out. Next episode, we’ll shape these insights into your personal Identity Statement and begin crafting your own Bill of Rights.

Stay Connected with Me:

Download my free: ⁠Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠

Download my free ebook: ⁠Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠

Website: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing.mykajabi.com

Connect on Instagram: ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠

Follow on Facebook: ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠

Contact: [email protected]