期待与你在新地方相见！

很多人总有“话题荒”：一个话题，一问一答就结束了！

尴尬换下一个话题，又是三分钟就聊完！

会聊天的人 会根据讲话人的内容 去挖掘新问题 让他一直说下去 把一个话题说透

怎么做？

1 求解释why was that? 

2 小明没听说过 did you say “…”? what is that? 

3 然后咧 What happened then? 

4 问感受How doyou like it? 

-I didn’t go to thegym yesterday, instead, I went to Carrefour. 

我昨天没去健身房，相反，我去了家乐福。

-Why was that? 为啥哩？

-Well, because thisyear I’m my colleague John’s secret Santa and I need to give him a present.

因为今年我是同事John的神秘圣诞老人，要给他准备个礼物

-Wait, did you say Secret Santa? What is that?

打住，你刚刚是不是说神秘圣诞老人？那是啥玩意儿

-Oh, it’s just a little gameduring Christmas. Like, I have to give him a present but he doesn’t know thegift is from me, so, I’m his secret Santa. 

哦，就是圣诞节玩的一个小游戏。好比，我要送他一件礼物，但他事先不知情。所以我就是他的神秘圣诞老人。

-That’s interesting! So whathappened then at Carrefour?

有意思! 那在家乐福接着发生了啥？

-Oh, I got him a water bottle. Hope he will likeit. 

我给他买了个水杯，希望他会稀饭。

-I’m sure he will. Tell me, how do you like this Secret Santa game?

他肯定会啦。那个，你对那啥神秘圣诞老人的游戏怎么看？

知道你是怎么扼杀掉老外跟你聊天的动力吗？

一声不吭 只是带着眼睛 摆出“你说我听”的姿态！

正确的做法是怎样？

适时地给反馈 give feedback 

常见的说法有

right, Ok, cool,uh huh,

惊叹 really? No way! wow, that’s awesome!

对话示范

-Where am I from?Well, I’m from Boston. 我来自哪里？我是波士顿人。

-Cool! 不错!

-But for the last oneyear and a half, I have been living in South Korea. 但过去一年半里，我一直住在韩国。

-No way! 不会吧！真的吗？

-Yeah, I teachEnglish at an international school there, and so far I’ve enjoyed every minuteof it. 对，我在一所国际学校教英语，目前为止我都很享受那里的生活。

- That’s awesome! 那挺好的！

注意：

反馈的频率 每当对方说了2-3句话的时候

如何避免聊天过程中冷场？

怎样才不让人觉得你以自我为中心？

秘诀很简单：

passthe mic! 把话筒传回去，

let everybody have a chance to shine

让每个人都有机会发光，都有发言的机会！

怎么做到？

在你的回答后面加上简单的 how about you?

例如：

1. So Haijun, which part of China are you from?

Oh, I’m fromSichuan. ba la ba la. What about YOU? Where are YOU from?

2. So Haijun, do you have any plans for Christmas?

Yes, I do. I’mgoing to join a Christmas party at my friend Brian’s place. Ba la ba la. How aboutyou? Any plans for Chistmas?

跟老外聊天 最基本礼仪 就是主动介绍自己！ 

如果参加聚会 有不认识的人 怎么办？

Walk around the room, and introduceyourself to everybody!

如果你不自我介绍 没人会搭理你哟 

因为别人觉得you're not ready for conversations; 

可能你需要一些私人时间maybe you need some private time 

所以老外也不好打扰你 Foreigners will find it impolite to disrupt you

那应该怎么自我介绍呢？

Hi, I’m Haijun,like Shanghai in June, if that helps you to remember my name. Nice to meet you!

一定要面戴微笑 伸出贵手 

wear a big smile on your face, and extend your hand

另一个必须要赶紧自我介绍的场合：

你朋友的朋友过来和你们聊天了！

1分钟内一定要挑个合适的机会自我介绍 

否则会尴尬Awkward!!!

学3000个口语单词，不如学怎么跟老外聊10分钟 

不出国留学，不旅居国外，也不是英语专业，你也可以把英语说得很好。

以下为简单的自我介绍

Back in college, Iwas not an English major. But my passion for language earned me a master’sdegree in English linguistics.

Since 2008, I’vebeen teaching English, mostly IELTS and TOEFL. My specialization is in speakingand writing.

An interestingfact: whenever I meet a foreigner for the first time, I am always asked thesame question within the first 3 minutes: so, Haijun, have you lived abroad? ‘causeyour English is perfect.

The truth is Ihave never studied or lived abroad, and my English is totally made in China.So, do you want to speak English as well as I do? Do you want to have enjoyableand meaningful conversations with foreigners?

Joinme. Let’s improve both your English and communication skills.