Disclosure: the moment you find out your spouse or partner is transgender. It's like a Hollywood produced explosion minus the special effects. Results are permanent but be patient and give yourself time to grieve, be angry, adjust, and accept.

In this episode, six coping methods are mentioned from a graphic in an article online. I was not the target audience for the article itself but the graphic helped me take a step forward: Six Ways to Cope when Your Spouse Comes out as Gay written by Sheri Stritof.

Other stories with spouses or family members of a transgender person:

• The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations
• Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman

Information for allies:

• PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally (PDF)
• GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People
• National Center for Transgender Equality ally guide
• Human Rights Campaign ally guide