Telling friends or acquaintances that your spouse or partner has come out as transgender requires preparation. First, you need to reach a stage where you accept that this transition is reality. This way, you are ready for the relief, acceptance, or rejection that follows. Two things I've learned at this point: 1) people you know may surprise you in the best ways and 2) you can handle any outcome.

Things to consider before telling friends and acquaintances:

• Does that person need to know?
• Who or why are you sharing the news?
• Preparation: figure out what you want to say and keep it simple
• Who is going to deliver the news?
• How are you going to deliver it?
• Allow people a chance to react
• Be okay with the outcome

Mentioned in this episode:

• National Geographic Documentary Gender Revolution: A Journey with Katie Couric
• Sam Killermann, author of A Guide to Gender: The Social Justice Advocate's Handbook

Information for the allies in your life:

• PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally (PDF file)
• GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People
• National Center for Transgender Equality ally guide
• Human Rights Campaign ally guide