In today’s episode, I discuss how Internal Family Systems Therapy is one way to uncover the parts of ourselves that carry blame and shame in our unforgiveness of self.

Forgiving ourselves is in line with the second commandment, to love our neighbor as ourselves. Loving ourselves as God loves us requires fully accepting who He created us to be. We cannot extend to others what we cannot do for ourselves.

Shame and blame are tango partners in keeping us stuck in unforgiveness of self.

When it comes to forgiving ourselves, we must be ready, willing, and able to face, love, and accept the parts of us that carry the shame attached to the memory of what transpired.

Internal Family Systems Therapy, developed by Dr. Richard Schwartz, might help identify the parts of us that need to be relieved of shame and blame in the process of forgiveness. I share a personal story of a protective part of me that caused the rupture of a lifelong friendship.

I read the entry Right Judgment story in my book With You Always: A Journey with Jesus

Self-forgiveness means we allow ourselves to be fully seen and known and let go of the shame and guilt we feel about our actions. 

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Remember Friend, Forgiveness is for You.