The Ladies Fixing the World

S2E11 | Unschooling, Attachment, and the Art of Letting Go: Building Trust Instead of Rules


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What happens when unschooling parents trade control for genuine connection? In this deep and honest conversation, Cecilie Conrad (Denmark), Sandra Dodd (USA), and Sue Elvis (Australia) tackle the big questions of attachment, freedom, and how trust transforms the parent-child relationship.

Many parents fear that giving their children more freedom will mean losing influence over values and choices—or that it will lead to chaos. But as these three unschooling pioneers explore, true freedom isn't something we “give” our kids—it's something they already have. The real question: How do we nurture healthy attachment and remain an anchor, even as our children make their own decisions?

The episode weaves together practical wisdom and lived experience:

  • Why attachment and trust—not rules—build resilient, independent humans
  • Navigating teen risk-taking, boundaries, and “mistakes”
  • How to be your child’s partner, not their adversary
  • Dealing with fears about religion, lifestyle choices, and social influence
  • Why trying to control values and behaviors can backfire
  • The difference between “not influencing” and being a true guide
  • How parent-child partnership grows empathy, patience, and wisdom for both generations

Cecilie, Sandra, and Sue also reflect on how unschooling changes the whole family, and why letting go of control doesn’t mean stepping back from guidance or care. They share stories about “swallowing camels,” cultural idioms, social skills, and the humbling lessons learned from listening to (and learning with) their own kids.

🔗 Sandra, Sue and Cecilie's websites

  • https://sandradodd.com 
  • https://storiesofanunschoolingfamily.com 
  • https://cecilieconrad.com

🗓️ Recorded May 1, 2025. 📍  Budapest, Hungary

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In season two of The Ladies Fixing the World, host Cecilie Conrad is joined by renowned unschooling advocates Sandra Dodd and Sue Elvis to explore unschooling as a lifestyle.

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