Dateable AF Show Notes:

Rachel and Sarah discussing Who is Queer?

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Telling who’s queer used to feel simple. Now half the straight women have undercuts and Doc Martens, and half the lesbians look like Peloton instructors. So… how do we actually know anymore?

In this episode of Dateable AF, Sarah and Rachel break down the rebrand of gaydar and explore how queer people recognize each other in 2025. Because that moment when you clock someone across a room and your brain whispers “one of us” is not just magic. It’s psychology, culture, intuition, and a little community wisdom.

We dig into: 🌈 A brief history of gaydar and how old signals (fashion, vibes, “friend of Dorothy” energy) evolved over time 📱 Digital gaydar in the TikTok/IG era, from hashtags to micro-aesthetics 🧠 The psychology of recognition and why we crave that “I see you” moment 🤷‍♀️ When gaydar fails — false alarms, femme invisibility, and modern etiquette 💗 The new markers of queer connection based on humor, energy, authenticity, and resonance

We also share our own best gaydar fails, play a quick game of “Lesbian or just a country gal?”, and talk about how visibility, fluidity, and online culture made gaydar more complicated and more interesting.

💭 Discussion Prompts

• When was the last time you just knew someone was queer?
• What are your strongest gaydar cues?
• What’s your funniest false-alarm story?

💌 Thanks for listening to the Dateable AF Podcast, where we help you find your happy ending. Be bold, be kind, and for the love of queer dating — don’t text your ex.

Stay Dateable AF. 💙

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