In this episode, Jess (The Playful Domme) reflects on her ongoing journey with her partner Josh as they navigate the challenges of polyamory. Jess expresses her struggles with Josh’s desire to have other partners, despite their deep connection and fulfilling intimacy. Jess, Lisa (The Poly Wife), and Ella (The Virgin) explore the roots of jealousy, emotional triggers, and self-reflection in relationships, particularly in polyamory. The hosts discuss the importance of personal growth, self-soothing, and accepting one’s partner without control or expectations. They also emphasize the necessity of building trust, open communication, and inner work in creating a healthy dynamic that respects individual autonomy and connection.

_____________________________________________________

🔥SHOW NOTES🔥

[00:00:00] – Welcome & Introduction: Jess sets the stage, explaining that this episode is deeply personal.

[00:02:00] – The Hamster Wheel Argument: Jess explains how she and Josh keep returning to the same conversation about his desire for multiple partners.

[00:05:00] – Is It Really About Intimacy?: Lisa challenges whether Josh is truly seeking multiple partners for connection—or if it’s a way to avoid deeper emotional work.

[00:10:00] – Jealousy as a Mirror: Lisa reframes jealousy as a tool for growth rather than a roadblock.

[00:15:00] – Josh’s Struggle with Making Friends: Jess questions why Josh seeks emotional fulfillment through intimacy instead of friendships.

[00:25:00] – The ‘Not Enough’ Fear: Jess unpacks her own wounds and why the fear of being replaced feels so real.

[00:33:00] – The Work is Yours, Not Theirs: Lisa explains why expecting men to "do the work" can lead to frustration—sometimes, the real work is choosing to accept them as they are.

[00:45:00] – Can You Love Them Anyway?: The key question Jess is left with: can she love Josh exactly as he is, without expecting him to change?

[00:55:00] – Final Reflections: Ella, Jess, and Lisa process the emotional heaviness of the conversation and how to move forward.

_____________________________________________________

🔥RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED🔥

• The Playful Podcast Website – After-hours content, workshops, and coaching.

• Lisa’s TikTok (@ThePolyWife) – Real-talk on polyamory and relationship dynamics.

• More Than Two by Franklin Veaux & Eve Rickert – A deep dive into ethical non-monogamy.

• The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton & Janet Hardy – The ultimate guide to open relationships.

• Polysecure by Jessica Fern – A must-read for anyone navigating attachment styles in non-monogamy.

• The Wheel of Consent by Betty Martin – Understanding boundaries, power dynamics, and authentic connection.

Support the show

_____________________________________________________

Want more?😏

Head over to theplayfulpodcast.com for all the juicy things we have to offer. From there you can join our community where you can get access to after hours, attend upcoming workshops and events, and even book a session.

_____________________________________________________

#ThePlayfulPodcast #PlayfulPodcast #JessThePlayfulDomme #LisaThePolyWife #ThePolyWife #ThePlayfulDomme #TheVirgin #EllaTheVirgin #SexPositive #RealTalk #BreakingBarriers #UnfilteredConversations #Relationships #RawTruths #LaughAndLearn #CuriosityUnleashed #AuthenticLiving #PodcastCommunity #RedefiningNorms #PolyTalk #Polyamory #EthicalNonMonogamy #BDSM #ConsentCulture #RelationshipBoundaries #EmpoweredWomen #OpenRelationships #LoveAndIntimacy #Podcast #Podcasts