The rougher part of the holidays after your spouse or partner comes out as transgender: dealing with friends and family at gatherings or coworkers and acquaintances at events. Whether you attend alone or together, 'tis the season to set boundaries and prepare ahead of time so you're not caught off guard.

Mentioned in this episode:

• The Daily Show: Leslie Jones Stops your Annoying Relatives from Ruining Thanksgiving
• Them: How to Prepare for your First Visit Home after Transitioning
• Pronoun Pins: Human Rights Campaign pronoun pins , PFLAG pronoun buttons , Dissent pins, Etsy pronoun pins
• Song: Kenny Rogers, The Gambler

More holiday resources:

• PFLAG: How to "Ally" for the Holidays
• SF LGBT Center: An LGBTQ Guide to Surviving the Holidays
• USA Today: Coming out for the Holidays: How Families React Could Save Lives

Other stories with spouses or family members of a transgender person:

• The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations
• Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman
• YouTube Channel: The Rage

Information for allies:

• PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally (PDF)
• GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People
• National Center for Transgender Equality ally guide
• Human Rights Campaign ally guide

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