We talk about resilience like it is a requirement. But what happens when handling hard things does not feel strong—it just feels heavy? Austen, Hạ, and Lilly unpack what self-care and mental health actually mean beyond the buzzwords. They reflect on the messages they absorbed about stress, strength, and asking for help, and how those narratives shape how they cope. The conversation also explores how culture, professional identity, and institutional power dynamics influence whether trainees feel "allowed" to struggle or seek support, and how peers can show up for one another with care and boundaries.