Safe Home Podcast

Movies & Conversations with Alex Kaplan from Of Substance

Saturday, September 10, 2022, 10am PST

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In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Dayna Del Val and Mazz Marry, a married couple from North Dakota who are bringing alcoholism out into the light with their podcast, Daily Dose of Dr Marry & DD. They are here on Safe Home Podcast to talk about how addiction affects everyone, not just the person struggling with addiction. They, like our family, believe that the opposite of addiction is connection, and they are aiming to destigmatize addiction so we can all heal. 

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MOVIES & CONVERSATIONS about addiction and shame event With Alex Kaplan from Of Substance Saturday, September 10, 10-11:30am PST $15 (Half off for Patreon members, Open House attendees come free) Get your ticket here: https://ofsubstance.eventbrite.com 

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RESOURCES: 

Dayna & Mazz’s information: Daily Dose of Dr. Marry and DD: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCF3myrebU1m8PhVe1HutQ2w 

Website: https://daynadelval.com/category/dr-marry-and-me/ 

Other resource mentioned in this episode:

 IGNTD Recovery: https://www.igntd.com/ 

Other Resources: 

Other Parents Like Me -  https://www.facebook.com/other.parents.like.me 

Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents of Addicted Teens: https://heatherrosscoaching.com/ 

Find a Tele-Therapist: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/online-counseling 

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Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at [email protected] Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome www.SafeHomeFamilies.com 

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TIME STAMPS: 

1:16 Why Dayna & Mazz decided to share their story on their podcast 

4:03 How Dayna & Mazz met and their early years together 

6:27 Early signs of alcohol derailing Mazz and their marriage, “married to a newborn” 

10:11 Dayna’s reaction to the negative aspects of alcohol on their marriage 

12:06 How Mazz’s body made him rethink his relationship to alcohol 

15:15 The overwhelming worry about cost of treatment 

20:46 What Mazz’s rehab was like 

23:45 The benefits of having a late-onset addiction 

25:20 Dayna’s quirky addiction 

26:54 The culture around alcohol 

31:46 What was underneath Mazz’s alcohol misuse? 

32:34 Redefining marriage after Mazz’s recovery and getting support for the spouse of the addicted person 

41:28 Getting rid of shame

Movies & Conversations with Alex Kaplan from Of Substance

Saturday, September 10, 2022, 10am PST

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In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Sue Bowles, an Ohio-based master certified life coach, memoirist, and public speaker focusing on the topics of disordered eating, anxiety, depression, and sexual assault survival and recovery. Her company is called My Step Ahead, whose motto is “you only have to be a step ahead to help the person behind you.” That is certainly how we operate at Safe Home, too.

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RESOURCES:

Sue’s information:

Other resources mentioned in this episode:

Other Resources:

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Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson

Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao

Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson

Email questions or comments to Safe Home at [email protected]

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TIME STAMPS:

1:22 Sue’s childhood

4:45 Sue’s sexual assault at 7yo, “Don’t tell anyone!”

7:33 Ways Sue acted out in high school

9:08 How Sue’s eating disorder began, atypical anorexia

13:01 Physical and mental effects of her disordered eating

17:16 Sue’s opinion about BMI

19:29 What prompted Sue to get help for her disordered eating?

21:25 Sue’s advice to parents of a teen with disordered eating

28:55 Where do people go to get help for eating disorders?

29:55 Sue’s role as a life coach

35:00 Eating disorders resources

38:11 A sliver of hope can be cultivated

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In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Pam Lanhart. She’s the Director of the Minnesota based non-profit organization “Thrive Family Recovery Resources” that she started in 2016 to help families with addicted loved ones. She’s a certified recovery coach, peer specialist, speaker, author, and advocate for those dealing with substance use disorder - and their families.. She has a book and a FB page called “Praying Our Loved One Home” that our Christian audience members will especially love. She recently lost her young adult son Jake to the disease of addiction, but like our dear friend Heather Ross, she is forging ahead, more determined than ever to help families so they can help their struggling teens and young adults who are battling with addiction. Pam subscribes, as I do, to the CRAFT approach of treating our addicted loved ones with unconditional love and positive regard, no matter where they are in their sobriety.

RESOURCES:

Pam’s information:

Other resources mentioned in this episode:

In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Tiffany Gay, a Philadelphia entrepreneur, mindset coach, and public speaker. Several years ago she experienced severe depression and anxiety, but through prayer, a shift in her mindset, and identifying her "Why" she was able to survive through her mental health breakdown. She regained everything back that she lost, including her mind, and now she helps others shift their mindset and find the root cause of their struggles. Her mission is to serve, support, coach, and mentor individuals with shifting their self-defeating, unfulfilling, unproductive, and unhealthy patterns of thinking.

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RESOURCES:

Tiffany’s information:

Other Resources:

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Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson

Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao

Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson

Email questions or comments to Safe Home at [email protected]

Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube

Support Safe Home on Patreon

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TIME STAMPS:

1:13 Tiffany’s childhood, one of 8 kids

2:44 How Tiffany’s father’s PTSD affected her family

5:20 Unfamiliar simultaneous lack - in full survival mode

8:48 How Tiffany managed her economic struggles

12:05 Tiffany lost hope for 2 years

14:15 TIffany’s turning point

16:00 The 5 steps Tiffany took - Identify her WHY, shift her mindset, reactive her faith, incorporate prayer, identify a support system

17:18 Why Tiffany found her healing path outside the healthcare system

18:25 How Tiffany got back on track

20:00 Tiffany is the CEO of her own life

24:11 How has Tiffany’s experience affected her parenting of her 12yo daughter

27:27 Breaking generational patterns

Movies & Conversations with Alex Kaplan from Of Substance

Saturday, September 10, 10am PST

OfSubstance.Eventbrite.com 

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In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Yvette Harpootian, a certified life coach from Rhode Island who is passionate about helping women get out of overwhelm, get more done, and release anxiety and self-sacrifice in order to feel better. I thought her message would be welcome here on Safe Home Podcast since many in our audience are parents of adolescents. I know when Joey was in crisis mode, I almost completely lost myself for a while there, before I got connected with Heather Ross, OUR life coach, who BTW went to the same coaching school as Yvette. In this episode, you will receive practical tools from Yvette that you can put into practice right away.

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RESOURCES:

Yvette’s  information:

Other Resources:

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Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson

Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao

Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson

Email questions or comments to Safe Home at [email protected]

Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube

Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome

www.SafeHomeFamilies.com

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TIME STAMPS:

1:18 Why Yvette focuses on moms in her life coaching business

2:08 Key areas that moms can focus on to improve their relationship with their kids

4:52 Women’s invisible workload

6:58 Keeping up with the “perfect” class mom + toxic comparing

8:02 “I don’t have time for self-care!”

12:30 What does self-care encompass?

15:28 How does Yvette convince moms to engage in self-care?

18:40 Avoiding getting “hangry” (hungry + angry) and prioritizing sleep

20:30 Scheduling self-care in the calendar

21:31 What does life coaching look like?

22:41 The Model that Yvette uses in her coaching - how to control your thoughts

32:18 What’s the difference between coaching and therapy?

34:06 “My son got better when I got better” and “Nurturing and Love are the keys to healing”

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In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Leela Davis. She is a neurodivergent who combines her lived experience self-healing her Bipolar 1 and CPTSD symptoms and managing ADHD symptoms with training in the healing modalities that she found the most powerful in her own healing journey.  She is certified: as a Holistic Health Coach, in Somatic Attachment Therapy, as a Yoga of Sound and Vinyasa Instructor, in Astrology and Human Design, and has spent decades as a multi-passionate creative finding healing in the process of art-making-performing. Her mission is to mentor and support folks with emotional and mental health challenges or diagnoses and live a meaningful and beautiful life beyond the limitations ascribed to certain diagnoses.  Her vision is a world where all medical and healing practitioners will learn to heal by addressing the roots of symptoms rather than covering up the symptoms.

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RESOURCES:

Leela’s information:

Other resources mentioned in this episode:

Other Resources:

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Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson

Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao

Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson

Email questions or comments to Safe Home at [email protected]

Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube

Support Safe Home on Patreon

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TIME STAMPS:

2:34 What is the difference between Bipolar I, Bipolar II, and depression?

5:35 Leela’s diagnosis at age 37

7:44 Childhood trauma and genetic predisposition to mental illness

10:41 Did Leela’s Bipolar diagnosis help or make things worse?

12:40 Leela’s Bipolar medication hijacked her body and mind

21:21 How Leela found healing without meds

24:55 Meditation and yoga are key tools, incl. Yoga of sound

28:55 How Leela evaluates medication and substances now

31:15 What does Creative Wellness coaching look like?

In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Jude Gorini, a Brazilian who lives in Northern Italy. He identifies as gender queer, and works as an author, podcaster, intuitive coach, and creative artist. He has struggled with Bipolar, addiction, and gender identity issues and shares his life story openly in order to help others. I met Jude recently when I recorded on the podcast that he co-hosts with Leela Davis, What I Didn’t Tell My Therapist. He really resonated with our family’s story, which intersects in many ways with his own. You will love his warmth and honesty, not to mention his sexy accent.

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RESOURCES:

Jude’s information:

What I Didn’t Tell My Therapist Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/what-i-didnt-tell-my-therapist-reboot/id1473447399

Other resources mentioned in this episode:

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Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson

Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao

Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson

Email questions or comments to Safe Home at [email protected]

Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube

Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome

www.SafeHomeFamilies.com

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TIME STAMPS:

  1:26 Around the world with Jude - Brazil, Italy, UK, Italy

  2:39 What’s wrong with Italy?

  5:50 Jude’s LGBTQ+ status and coming out story

11:33 Jude’s career path

13:19 How and when did addiction come into Jude’s life?

18:56 What was the catalyst for his addiction recovery?

22:35 Start of holistic healing and coaching to help others

24:54 How Jude has managed his Bipolar I

26:20 Bipolar and addiction

28:55 What is Jude’s favorite tool for balancing his life?

30:20 Jude reads his poem “Today”

32:25 Nature as a tool for healing

33:54 Jude’s advice for parents of LGBTQ+ teens

In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Lorah Gerald, an adoptee, an intuitive, a Kundalini Yoga Instructor, and writer. Lorah hopes to help others heal their trauma, adopted or not, by sharing her lived experiences as an adoptee as well as her education in breath work, energy healing and natural intuitive abilities.

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RESOURCES:

Lorah’s information:

Other resources mentioned in this episode:

Other Resources:

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Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson

Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao

Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson

Email questions or comments to Safe Home at [email protected]

Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube

Support Safe Home on Patreon

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TIME STAMPS:

1:33 Holding feelings about adoption trauma inside v. healing in community

2:49 Lorah’s adoption story as a Baby Scoop Era domestic adoptee

4:40 A better life or just a different life?

6:40 What Beth was told about adoption trauma when she adopted Joey

8:32 What Lorah’s adoptive parents knew about adoption trauma

9:20 How Lorah acted out as a teen and how she avoided addiction

10:38 Lorah’s reunion story

15:34 Lorah’s mother’s forced hysterectomy

16:46 Lorah’s reaction to her adoption story as told by her parents

20:28 Lorah’s reunion story, continued

26:40 Lorah’s healing path - yoga, reiki, reading, etc.

28:35 Kundalini yoga & processing trauma through our bodies

34:55 Other physical trauma-healing tools that Lorah uses

39:03 Adoptee-only yoga sessions

41:43 How yoga has helped Lorah with trauma and well-being

In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Rev. Bobbi Becker, the Senior Minister and Spiritual Director at Namasté Center for Spiritual Living in Long Beach, California. In this episode, Bobbi tells her story of  being a gay New Thought minister who grew up in the Mormon church and whose whole family was touched by addiction and mental health issues. You will be inspired by her commitment to her own spiritual growth which included the acceptance of her sexual orientation. She is not afraid to speak out and take action within social structures about women’s rights and LGBTQ+ rights. You will find out what saved her from the addiction route that many of her family members took.

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RESOURCES:

Bobbi’s information:

Resource mentioned in the episode:

Other Resources:

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Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson

Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao

Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson

Email questions or comments to Safe Home at [email protected]

Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube

Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome

www.SafeHomeFamilies.com

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TIME STAMPS:

1:18 Bobbi’s unique childhood

2:44 Being raised in the Mormon church

5:00 Bobbi’s excommunication

10:36 Coming out as gay and getting involved in diversity training

13:46 Bobbi’s mother’s mental health trifecta and family secrets

20:01 How Bobbi escaped her family’s dysfunction

22:36 Where Bobbi found support as a young adult

25:30 What are you giving power to?

26:25 Bobbi lost 2 brothers to addiction and mental illness

30:18 How Bobbi’s 2 surviving siblings are doing

33:54 How Bobbi avoided addiction to substances

37:25 Bobbi’s transition from corporate executive to minister

39:05 How Bobbi’s life has affected her parenting

44:59 Dealing with family trauma

47:06 The best thing parents of struggling teens can do

In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with one of Joey’s friends, 19yo Cheyanne Alsop. Like Joey, Cheyanne was adopted, her adoptive parents later got divorced, and she struggled with mental health issues throughout her adolescence. Cheyanne’s harrowing childhood would leave most people completely paralyzed emotionally. But because of her willingness to get help and to work on her own emotional toolbox, Cheyanne has graduated high school, she’s got a job, and she’s on her healing path. Her story gives us all hope for our struggling kids, and she and Joey give some great advice to teens and parents at the end of the episode.

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RESOURCES:

Cheyanne's contact info: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cheyanne_autumn1618

Other Episodes mentioned during this episode:

Other Resources:

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Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson

Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao

Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson

Email questions or comments to Safe Home at [email protected]

Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube

Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome

www.SafeHomeFamilies.com

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TIME STAMPS:

0:30 A little update with Joey

3:17 Cheyanne’s infancy and first relinquishment at age 3

4:42 Cheyanne’s childhood trauma with her grandparents

11:15 Moving to her aunt’s in foster care system

13:45 Getting matched with Cheyanne’s adoptive parents

16:55 Cheyanne and Joey talk about adoption trauma

22:20 Adoptive parents’ divorce created more pain and caused first hospitalization

25:00 Cutting and self-harm, Cheyanne’s rock bottom

27:58 Cheyanne and Joey’s advice to teens considering going to residential treatment programs

29:25 DBT - Dialectial Behavior Therapy, working hard in treatment

34:37 Things that have helped Cheyanne survive

36:38 How Cheyanne’s steered clear of the addiction route

41:23 Cheyanne’s plans for the future

44:13 Cheyanne’s advice for adoptive & foster parents

46:25 Cheyanne’s advice for teens

47:30 What Joey admires about Cheyanne