Satisfying Intimacy ~ A show for Love, Sex & Life

I hope you enjoy as we go deeper into the jungle of our desires and practices... ~

What do joy, worship and addiction mean to you, in general and in sex? Though they may have a positive or negative feel to you, might they have many sides, hard to define, even sparking your curiosity to explore the nether reaches? ~

Here is a sweet meditation on that, to support you knowing and discovering and expressing who you are, in connection with who someone else is, with a lustre that never leaves your relationship whatever it may be. ~

Comments on this show and suggestions for future episodes? You can email [email protected] or Instagram @healthy.sex.and.relationships. Thanks for listening and thanks to Kaytranada feat. Syd for the music sample.

We've started the conversation about jealousy and manipulativeness, so what about cheating? ~

Everyone's definition is personal. Just asking the question opens up assumptions about whole ways we live our lives that may be very uncomfortable, or liberate us to fulfill our deepest desires because we're not limiting ourselves by our fears.  ~

Sexual intimacy outside a couple - whether in a one-on-one or polyamorous way of living - can destroy it or feed into its vitality. The possibility of pregnancy has huge effects and may be part of why our cultures have defined fidelity in terms of sex. However there is much more - emotional intimacy, commitment to be there for each other, spiritual bonds, family and community ties. Which of these is most sacred to you in your primary relationship? How do you communicate with your partner before, during and after exploring? What does it mean if you need to lie or hide? Can the relationship recover from outside intimacy with or without deception? ~

Comments on this show and suggestions for future episodes? You can email [email protected] or Instagram @healthy.sex.and.relationships. Thanks for listening and thanks to Kaytranada for the music sample.

Ryan Thomas is a sex/relationship coach with a difference: guiding men to be loving beasts. ~

Where men have often been trained to be unemotional and tough, and, in reaction to that, oversensitive and lacking ambition or direction, Ryan helps people find a way to be simply, clearly, relaxedly, confidently themselves and responsive to their partners and community. ~

He shares here not just his vision but vulnerable experience healing quick ejaculation, difficulty getting aroused, porn addiction, trauma and more, to live truly fulfilled while fulfilling others. You can find out more through his Insta page @ryanthomastil.  ~

Thanks Ryan for sharing so completely with us. ~ 

Comments on this show and suggestions for future episodes? You can email [email protected] or Instagram @healthy.sex.and.relationships. Thanks for listening and thanks to Kaytranada for the music sample.

Has it ever seemed weird to you that a couple European dudes get to name all genders' body parts and experiences after themselves or in a sterile language spoken mostly in church? ~

From the G-for-Gräfenberg spot to peenis to herm@phrodite and more, our vocabulary awaits a true sexual revolution where we define ourselves subtly, sensually, accurately. ~

The world needs you! What are your fave terms? - not including words like d*ck/c*nt that are triggering for some & will be deleted. Here's the rest of the words begging for satisfaction thru your comment. Good luck and thanks for playing... ~

0rgasm  V@gina  Scr0tum  Bre@sts  Cerv1x  A-sp0t  Pr0state  Per1neum

Comments on this show and suggestions for future episodes? You can email [email protected] or Instagram @healthy.sex.and.relationships. Thanks for listening and thanks to Kaytranada feat. Syd for the music sample.

In the great spectrum from excited activity to peaceful meditation, where is your habit, what can you practice more? ~

This episode is for those times when you find your body mind spirit running around more than you'd like. When you slow down, there can be a direct good feeling, but also presence with fears that drive us to do things we may not actually be aware of or want. We can then get comfortable with the uncomfortable, and discover new ways of being. ~
 
In relationship this might mean being less reactive, more curious and patient with our beloved, get to the source of the conflict that often, like the rushing, is a habit coming from a pain from before, belonging to neither person nor the relationship, ready to let go. ~

In lovemaking, slowing down and listening to those authentic impulses can replace scripts and worries, and bring deep fun connection, a lively dance in the moment with attunement to self and other and your magic chemistry and dreams. ~

Comments on this show and suggestions for future episodes? You can email [email protected] or Instagram @healthy.sex.and.relationships. Thanks for listening and thanks to Kaytranada for the music sample.

Have you ever loved someone so much you're unafraid if they get sick and at the same time confident they'll get better? Or yourself... ~

I believe we're here in part for love and love is in part an evolutionary impulse to learn from and help each other evolve past certain things we can't easily do solo. In this episode I share personal experience having to go it alone and finding a way, and, in relationship, going into my worst fears and reactions and wondering instead what the useful and good information the other person is trying to tell my by the behaviour I find so hard. ~

What are some of your experiences so far? What intuitions do you have of what you may be able to experience? ~

Comments on this show and suggestions for future episodes? You can email [email protected] or Instagram @healthy.sex.and.relationships. Thanks for listening and thanks to Kaytranada feat. Syd for the music sample.

This is one of the most special things I can think of sharing with you. ~

In a world of wonderfully growing interest in all kinds of orgasms - cervical, g-spot, prostate and many more - there is a special place for the heart. It can vibrate like any organ, and of course it also refers to a centre of emotion taking shape in your body. ~

This episode shares a practice of feeling those pulses wherever they are in us, and especially connection them to the sex, or genitals as some say, in any waking moment and of course when making love. And a special place for placing or receiving a hand on your or their heart while you breathe and touch, and while you come, being your whole big self and embracing them. Try it! and see what you find... ~

Comments on this show and suggestions for future episodes? You can email [email protected] or Instagram @healthy.sex.and.relationships. Thanks for listening and thanks to Kaytranada feat. Syd for the music sample.

Kamela Love (transformintolove.com) is a sacred sexuality practitioner and transformational relationship coach in San Diego, USA, devoted to and wonderfully articulate about being ourselves and being satisfied in love and sex, overcoming bad messages, images and experiences we may have received. ~

In this open conversation for people of all genders and sexualities around the world, we explore safe containers and beautiful settings for exploring yourself and with one or more partners. Consent, permission, invitation, and daring are all here, releasing expectation, living freely in the moment, able to care for trauma and above all liberate your gifts expressed through your desires. ~

Thank you Kamela for bringing your experience and insights to us in such a moving way. ~

Comments on this show and suggestions for future episodes? You can email [email protected] or Instagram @healthy.sex.and.relationships. Thanks for listening and thanks to Kaytranada for the music sample.

Welcome to the start of season 2 of Healthy Sex and Relationships! ~

I've recently been reminded that the immensity of my sexual desire and my interest in life is an expression of a hunger for the wild. And, that relationship exists most meaningfully and sustainably not in a vacuum but in community. ~ 

Rewilding is a popular movement, what does that look like in sex and relationships? Is it sweat-drenched lovemaking, polyamory, extreme sports, wilderness travel? What else is and could be there? And what about the role of tribe, drawing on and feeding into a bigger energy than us, connected to a greater purpose? ~

As always there are some ideas and meditation/games for you here, and above all the space for you to come up with your own. Thanks for being a part of Year 1's 50+ episodes, 300+ followers, and 2000+ downloads and spreading the movement for freedom, pleasure, safety and equality around the world. ~   

Comments on this show and suggestions for future episodes? You can email [email protected] or Instagram @healthy.sex.and.relationships. Thanks for listening and thanks to Kaytranada for the music sample.

So we just did a show on pleasure products, celebrating the physical especially. ~ 

Now, what about emotion? How much and what kind is necessary for your body pleasure and happiness? In what ways are we able to experience it all in even a one-time moment with someone, and what does the arc of relationship or at least relationship-curiosity add? ~

There's no recipe, only what's right for you now, and that can change. ~

So here is a guided meditation to heighten your excitement in the entire arc of an encounter and a relationship - the no-mind state, anticipation, pleasure of connecting, dreaming of more, tension before, whole-body-emotion-connection, extended timelessness, lingering glow, separation and dreaming, reunion, open space. ~

You can actually thrill all over just from that. ~ 

Comments on this show and suggestions for future episodes? Send a message to [email protected] or Instagram @hsrthankyou. Thanks for listening. ~

Thanks to Jette Weiss for the cover art and Youssoupha Sidibe for the music, used under license.