Saving Fatherhood Podcast

You may remember Zach Hoffer from Episode 4. We talked about his daughters on that episode. He was alienated from two and the third was murdered. Zach's a warrior on the parental alienation and family court scene. In this episode we'll talk about his unique ability to be able to compare the loss of a child to parental alienation with the loss of a child to death. We don't start out that deep and I hope you listen all the way to the end because Zach has fantastic news to share towards the end that will encourage all alienated parents. If you're wondering if he was able to break thru to his alienated daughters, well you'll just have to listen to find out. Of course we talk a bit about Corona virus because it's all the rage. We discuss how there may be more compassion for family court victims who have their Constitutional rights violated since so many people are having their rights violated during this medical crisis. Of course we always want to discuss what God is doing, what he's calling us to do, how can we or should we respond to his call? Join us now for another episode of Saving Fatherhood.

(The picture above is of Zach in the Senate shuttle that runs between the Senate and the House of Representatives underground. We were lucky to grab that shuttle on our way to meet Senator Melendez' staff. A very nice intern helped us catch a ride.)

If you already understand how cruel parental alienation can be on a parent you'll appreciate the tenacity of Bill Wojenski. If you don't yet know parental alienation is one of the most gut wrenching, heart breaking experiences a parent can face. In many cases your child acts as though you are dead to them although they are not. That scenario didn't stop Bill Wojenski from fighting to see his daughters every weekend for 4 hours via supervised visitation for the last 10 years. There were many other hurdles that you can read about in the letter below. This letter was also read on the podcast. The letter was mailed to Dr. Phil about a week ago.

2-21-2020

Dear Dr Phil, I am writing you on the suggestion of several

female friends of mine who are quite familiar with my case. This started in

late 2010 when my fiancé of 7 years walked out on me for another man. At that

time the girls were 2 weeks shy of their third birthday. She stated right up

front that I would never see my girls again and has devoted her life to that.

I filled and received joint custody; neither of us was to

move out of state. Several years later she moved 3 hours away to upstate PA,

the courts never did anything about that to this day.

At the age of 4, at the request of the girls I filed for and

won overnight visits with my girls. After court, on the same day, she marched

the girls into DYFUS and accused me of molesting them. DYFUS ran with this and

it took me years to get a “no Finding” (no cause to or reason to pursue)

verdict.

Eventually the courts assigned a reunification therapist to

bring the girls back into my life. She sabotaged all efforts and when I was to

meet the girls for the first time in 5 years it was a disaster.  They went from hanging by daddy’s side, never

wanting to be away from me to terrified at the sight of me. They screamed when

they first saw me and I could hear the mothers sister say “Don’t worry; we

won’t let him hurt you”. Obviously the girls were brain washed in those 5 years

of separation.  The visit was cut short

after it was obvious it wasn’t going to work. There were numerous reports to

the courts about the mother from the reunification Doctor.

Later it was determined that I could have supervised

visitations, supervised at my request, and we started doing that supervised by

a Doctor every Saturday for 4 hours. It started out ok and continued on for

over two years. It progressed at a downward spiral until it was deemed

appropriate to cancel further visits by the Doctor. His reports to the courts

were very positive of me and very damming of the mother’s attitude and

behavior. When the girls found out that there brother, my son, William Wojenski

JR had passed at the age of 22, they said to me “One less Wojenski in the world

is a good thing”. They were 11 at that time. The Doctor heard them say that to

me and reported it to the courts.

I am still in a battle to help my girls. We have been

through 6 judges; there is no continuity in this case. I have another hearing

coming up in about two weeks. I’m not sure if this will gain either my girls or

I any movement forward. In November when they turn 14 they can and will at the

direction of the mother tell the judge that they no longer want to see me. At

that point I will never have contact with them again.

I have no communication with the girls; don’t have access to

the schools, the doctors or treatments and anything else that I should be

entitled to despite having joint custody.

On our latest episode of the Saving Fatherhood podcast Leslie Ann Ferderigos, Esq. joins us. She talks about how she went from being an alienated Mom to an accomplished attorney fighting in the same Family Courts that separated her from her child. Leslie talks about her experiences with alienation from personal experience and as an attorney. Learn how she went from being homeless, and on food-stamps to comforting others with the comfort God gave her.

#SaveJames or SaveJames.com - This hashtag went viral last night. And with good reason. James needs to be saved. James is a 7 year old boy who has been trying to survive the reality of living with two divorced parents. Sadly we all know this is not uncommon in our culture. When parents can't get along we know the consequences can be devastating for children. Many of us who have experienced parental alienation can relate to the problems our children suffer with. In this situation James has an additional problem. A problem that could be irreversible.His Mother thinks he needs to have surgery to become a girl because she says he is transgender. His Father says that he only acts like a girl in front of his mother and he rejects being a boy in front of his Father. The father, Jeff Younger is trying to prevent his son from being chemically castrated. Mr. Younger has been struggling just to get his seven year old son a second medical opinion. After the recording of this episode but before we posted it we received a glimmer of hope. The Governor of Texas Greg Abbott tweeted out the following message.

This is fantastic news! But its not over. The jury handed down a verdict on Monday. The Judge was scheduled to read the final decision tomorrow at 1:30 PM. Please do whatever you can to help. Post this podcast on social media with the #SaveJames attached. Go to SaveJames.com and donate to help with the upcoming legal bills that are sure to mount up quickly. That's assuming we get an appeal. Share this story! Share your outrage. Contact the Texas lawmakers listed below. And most of all pray, pray, pray!!

To contact Governor Abbott: https://gov.texas.gov/contact

Mailing AddressOffice of the GovernorP.O. Box 12428Austin, Texas 78711-2428

Telephone: (800) 843-5789Information and Referral Hotline (for Texas callers) (512) 463-1782Information and Referral and Opinion Hotline (for Austin, Texas and out-of-state callers) (512) 463-2000Office of the Governor Main Switchboard (office hours are 8:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. CST)

To contact Attorney General Ken Paxton: https://www.texasattorneygeneral.gov/contact-us

Mailing Address Office of the Attorney GeneralPO Box 12548Austin, TX 78711-2548

Main Switchboard 512-463-2100Constituent Affairs 800-252-8011Press Office Phone: (512) 463-2050FAX: (512) 475-2994

Email: [email protected] contacthttps://www.texasattorneygeneral.gov/contact-us-online-formFor more information about Tonight's Guest Lawrence Demarco Please go to:

YouTube:  PA Voter Information Network https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCW3MHhbB-8BnXZLlIqpO9bg?

On our last episode we previewed the Symposium Organizing Committee. This organization brings together government and non-governmental entities looking to make a statement in the culture that fatherhood matters. We couldn't agree more so we wanted to be a part of this. It was an honor and a privileged to take part in this two day event and Saving Fatherhood looks forward to working with several of the attendees in the near future.

In this episode, Chris DeVol, parental rights advocate, alienated Dad, and ambassador for the Erasing Family movie among other things, comes on the show to discuss what happened at the SOC convening and what it means for Fatherhood in Pennsylvania and the surrounding areas.

ANNOUNCEMENTS -

NEXT SOUTH JERSEY SPEAKW MEETING - Wednesday October 2nd, 2019

https://www.meetup.com/Burlington-SPEAKW-Parental-Alienation-Meetup/events/gkmkhryzmbgb/

3rd Annual SOC Convening

On Today's Podcast Dr. Rufus Sylvester Lynch, ACSW comes on to discuss the 3rd Annual SOC Convening. You may register for this free event where the Role of Father's and Strengthening families will be advocated for. In this 3rd event Early Childhood Development will be the area of Fatherhood emphasized. Enjoy the Podcast and Consider attending the event. As discussed on the podcast this group of Social Workers can be strong allies in our family court movements. You may be surprised at who is advocating for you and your rights.Joe Gormley from Saving Fatherhood will be at this event on Day 1 speaking briefly as part of a response to a panel of experts. Details on the agenda for both days are at the bottom of this post.

To Register for this event: https://www.nasw-pa.org/event/fathersfromthebeginning

DETAILS ABOUT THE EVENT -

https://www.thestrongfamiliescommission.com/

An advocate for Greater Father Family Involvement in the Lives of children and Families & the Systems that Serve Them

An Advocate for Greater Father Family Involvement in the Lives of children and Families & the Systems that Serve Them

3rd Annual SOC Convening

A

Forum where ideas and views can be exchanged

 “From the

Beginning…Early Childhood Development and the Role of Fathers”

September 18th &19th 2019

The School District of Philadelphia Administrative

Building

440 North Broad Street, Auditorium, Second Floor

Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 19130

Day One September 18th 2019

8:00 a.m. – Registration & Continental Breakfast, Auditorium

Reception Area.

* Registration managed by THE

COMMISSION’s Volunteer Leadership Team, VeRita Amelia Barnette Lynch, Chair.

9:00 a.m. – Program Begins

–

* Welcome Joy Diljohn,

Executive Director, Pre-K Program, Office of Early Childhood Education. * Forum

Overview will be provided by Day One Moderator, Malkia

Singleton Ofori-Agyekum, Pennsylvania State Director for the

ParentChild + Program, & Chair, 3rd Annual Statewide SOC

Convening.  * Invocation

– George J. Fleming, Pastor and

Founder, The Father’s Touch Ministry, Outreach specialist/Trainer for

Allegheny Family Network & SOC’s Faith-Based Ambassador Coordinator,

Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania.* Message

from the Pennsylvania Bureau of Savings Programs, Karen Carr, Field

Representative, sharing information about statewide college and career savings

programs. * The

JourneyGetting Us Here– The Honorable

W. Wilson Goode, Sr., former Mayor, City ofPhiladelphia and President, Amachi Inc.:“People of Faith Mentoring

Children of Promise” introduced

by David A.

Wyher, Founder, President and CEO, Delta Community Supports,

Incorporated.

9:30 a.m. A Thought Leader’s Address, Dr. Wade F. Horn, “The Ebb and Flow of Fatherhood Programming – Presentation and Open Discussion.”

* Let’s

Continue the Journey for our Children – Dr. Wade F. Horn, introduced by Darlene

Tart-Scott, Special Initiatives Coordinator, in the Immediate Office

of the Regional Administrator – Region III, Administration for Children and

Families (ACF).  ACF Region III is

composed of the states of Delaware, Maryland,

Back by popular demand, TJ Moonan television producer of Watch Love Works. Watch Love Works is a local New Hampshire Television show that is moving to a new URL available at https://watchloveworks.com/

Tonight TJ updates us on his Television Show, other issues in the family rights movement and we address - THE PARADOX OF HOPE.

ANNOUNCEMENTS

https://www.meetup.com/Burlington-SPEAKW-Parental-Alienation-Meetup/events/cqqggryzmbvb/copy/

https://www.meetup.com/PASA-NJ/events/262942036/

Tonight’s guest Mark Ludwig

As the founder of The

Americans For Equal Shared Parenting (AFESP) Mark Ludwig wanted to be the best

parent he could be to his son, Levi.

After going through his own experience and

learning of other parents that had been relegated to weekend visitors, he

decided to use his background in politics to effect change in the current

Family Court system.

Mark has brought more unity to the shared parenting movement, aka family

rights movement, formerly known as the family rights movement and he gives all

the Glory to his Lord and savior Jesus Christ.

Tonight, we are honored to have Mark join us on Saving Fatherhood. 

Key topics discussed on this episode.

 - Reception within the political Christian

Right regarding shared parenting 

 - Opponents and their strategies to Christians

in the shared parenting movement 

 - Christians for Equal Shared Parenting, What,

Why & How

New Facebook group started by Mark and Americans for Equal Shared

Parenting – Please join and like –

Christians for

Equal Shared Parenting Facebook Group

https://www.facebook.com/Christians-for-Equal-Shared-Parenting-362462667726067/

https://www.facebook.com/Christians-for-Equal-Shared-Parenting-362462667726067/

Announcements

–

JULY

30, 2019

In Princeton NJ – We are looking for Alienated parents that

would like to be interviewed by the Magazine “The Atlantic”.  If you want to attend, please register on the

meetup page in the show notes for this episode. 

https://www.meetup.com/PASA-NJ/events/262942036/

AUGUST

5, 2019

Look for our next South Jersey SPEAKW meeting –this is a Support Group for

Alienated Parents – meets at 7PM on August 5th   at the Mt. Laurel NJ Wegmans cafeteria.  A link to sign up on Meetup.com is provided

in the show notes.  (THE NEXT MEETING

WILL BE AUGUST 19)

https://www.meetup.com/Burlington-SPEAKW-Parental-Alienation-Meetup/

August

17, 2019

The New York Father’s Rights Movement will host a rally in

Albany, New York. Guest speakers include – Thomas Fidler, Fouder of the Father’s

Rights Movement, Jessie West of Dad’s Can too and Mark Ludwig (tonight’s guest)

and founder of AFESP – American’s for Equal Shared Parenting.   

Thomas Fidler, founder

More details are available at -  

https://www.facebook.com/events/377865586330186/

You can also meet connect with tonight’s guest Mark Ludwig on the following

pages –

The American’s for Equal Shared Parenting Website –  https://afesp.com

Twitter - @afesp5050

Email – [email protected]

The AFESP facebook page - https://www.facebook.com/afesp5050/

Join Mark for weekly facebook live events on Mondays and

Dr. Leon Koziol of the Parenting Rights Institute presents...

THE AMERICAN PARENT CARAVAN

Schedulehttps://leonkoziol.com/

May 1st, Wednesday

10 AM, Caravan meets at Liberty State Part in Jersey City NJ motorcade starts on Interstate 70 to I-95 to Washington DC. 5PM - 550 C Street - 21st Century Lounge - Meet and Greet

7PM Congressional Ballroom until 9PM

May 2nd, Thursday

The entire day will be spent lobbying congress with meetings and deliveries of packets. Two tiers of meetings.

May 2nd Evening - Speakers Event and Rally.May 3rd, March from the White House to the Supreme Court - Hear the ordeals of everyone who wants to be heard.

Friday May 3rd Parent March on Washington - Starts at the Whitehouse and finishes at the Supreme Court.

Please Join the Conference call on Mondays and Thursdays at 7PM to learn more - 605-313-4165 - access code - 763491

No fault divorce was proposed by some to make divorce easier and less burdensome. Instead it has removed accountability and created the unilateral divorce where a covenant agreement can be broken by one person regardless of the opinion of the other person who was involved in the original agreement. Is this fair? Does it help society? Is it harming society? Is it constitutional? On tonight's episode of "Saving Fatherhood", well known YouTube Video personality Jeff Morgan comes on the show to share why No-Fault divorce is one of if not the biggest issue causing broken families in America today. You can watch Jeff's videos at the link below. He has almost 500 of them. https://www.youtube.com/user/jeffinjordan/videos

SPEAK W - SOUTH JERSEY - NEXT MEETING IS JANUARY 28TH AT 7PM - https://www.meetup.com/Burlington-SPEAKW-Parental-Alienation-Meetup/

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