Today, I discuss the pros and cons of conformity, ways to be aware of it in your life.  Does conforming have a positive or negative effect on us?  Episode Quote & Resources:

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“The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.  If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened.  But no price is too hight to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.” Friedrich Nietzche

“Group conformity scares the pants off me because it’s so often a prelude to cruelty towards anyone who doesn’t want to - or can’t - join the Big Parade.” ~Bette Midler

“Conformity is the jailer of freedom and the enemy of growth.” John F. Kennedy

https://sites.psu.edu/siowfa16/2016/10/12/why-do-we-conform/

The words we speak, thoughts and reactions we  have; they come from what lives in our heart.  When we have anger, bitterness, judgement, resentment, comparison and envy in our heart it leaks into our words and out into the world.  The world has enough of that, let’s learn to people that Say The Things from a place of light, love, forgiveness and curiosity instead.  Listen for ways to heal your heart to move from leaked darkness to beacons of light.    

Episode Resources & Quotes:

“Never trust your tongue when your heart is bitter; hush until you heal.”  ~unknown 

Roxette: Listen To Your Heart 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yCC_b5WHLX0

 

Forgiving isn’t something you do for someone else.  It’s something you do for yourself.  It’s saying ‘you’re not important enough to have a stranglehold on me.’ It’s saying ‘You don’t get to trap me in the past.  I am worthy of a future.”

~Jodi Picoult 

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Emotions chart: 

https://www.happierhuman.com/feelings-charts-adults/

We are a few weeks into the new year. How open are we to today’s experiences and opportunities if we are burdened with the trials of yesterday or last year? Listen to become aware of how we carry yesterday into today. 

Episode Quotes, Links and Resources: 

“Why do you stay in a prison when the door is so wide open?” 

~ Rumi

Right Now: Van Halen  

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DLQawHJ38Sc

Newton’s Law of Motion

Desire map; Daneille LaPorte

https://daniellelaporte.com

There are different approaches to reflecting on the past.  Today’s episode shares a few perspectives and 5 things I learned in 2021.

  

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Episode Quotes: 

“Never look back unless you’re planning to go that way.” Henry David Thoreau

 

“I’ll look back on this and smile because it was life and I decided to live it.” ~Unknown

 

“There’s a voice that doesn’t use words.  Listen.”  ~Unknown 

 

“It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the ones more responsive to change.”  Charles Darwin.  

 

“A strong step forward requires an honest assessment of the place where you currently find yourself.” John Eli

https://www.instagram.com/the.john.eli/

 

“It’s not how we make mistakes, but how we correct them that defines us.”  ~ Rachel Wolchin 

 

Songs:

Forever

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KBRWn0VKwdI

Here I Go Again

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WyF8RHM1OCg

Hand In My Pocket

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CUjIY_XxF1g

The year is coming to a close, some make time to dream of the upcoming year creating vision boars, deciding words or phrases or resolutions.  Knowing what we want is pivotal in creating a life we love.  Listen to this short episode to hear questions to consider to help you determine what you want.  

 

Quotes: 

“A lot of people are afraid to say what they want, that’s why they don’t get what they want.” ~Madonna

 

You get in life what you have the courage to ask for - Oprah

For every physical injury we endure, scar tissue develops; it’s a natural part of the way our body heals and protects itself from future injury.  Does emotional scar tissue develop after emotional scars?  Take a listen and consider how handling emotions can help us heal from the emotional scars in our lives. 

Show Quotes and Resources: 

“Look at me, he said ‘your scars are not your shame, they are your story.’ He smiled, “and I love stories.”

~Atticus

“Never be ashamed of your scars.  It simply means you were stronger than whatever tried to hurt you.” ~ Unknown

“The scars you share become lighthouses for other people who are headed to the same rock you hit.” ~Unknown

“We all wear scars, find someone who makes yours feel beautiful.”  ~Atticus

 

https://www.instagram.com/nicolehagman_writes/

https://www.instagram.com/atticuspoetry/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mzJj5-lubeM

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/scar-tissue-pain

https://www.newheightstherapy.com/manual-therapy-scar-tissue-massage/

https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/muscle-pain-it-may-actually-be-your-fascia

Resistance, we may avoid it; it feels like a struggle.  What if we have it wrong?  Resistance is a necessary stage in personal growth.  Without it, we don't achieve true acceptance.   Listen in as I offer some insight to what I've discovered about resistance that may help us get more comfortable and propel us forward in personal growth.

Show Links, References and Quotes: 

“Resistance to reality is an unwillingness to see things are they truly are.  It’s the struggle you’re in when you fight against an unsatisfactory situation, trying to change it through force, manipulation or any tactic where you’re trying to control the outcome.  It’s the fear you feel in the face of change.”

https://tracycrossley.com/217-journey-attachment-resistance-reality/

Dissolving Your Resistance Meditation by Jelena Fu

https://insighttimer.com/jelafu77/guided-meditations/dissolve-your-resistance

Resistance as a Pathway to Change; Melinda Wells 

https://www.ted.com/talks/melinda_wells_resistance_as_a_pathway_to_change?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare

Everything, Alanis Morissette

https://youtu.be/Bgeqw7s00xg

“You sit on a throne of lies.” Buddy the Elf, Elf.

“She walked in through the out door.” Raspberry Beret, Prince

“Resistance can inspire you when you see it for what it is:  a magic expansion lever.  Resistance helps you break through.” Danielle LaPorte 

 

 

Accepting and receiving help can be uncomfortable.  Today’s episode covers six reasons accepting help is hard and offers a few suggestions on how to get comfortable receiving help. 

 

Thank you, Lindsay for this message and thank you for loving and caring for me like you do.  

 

Links and Quotes: 

https://www.instagram.com/nicolehagman_writes/

 

“In the end, though, maybe we must all give up trying to pay back the people in this world who sustain our lives. In the end, maybe it's wiser to surrender before the miraculous scope of human generosity and to just keep saying thank you, forever and sincerely, for as long as we have voices.” 

― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love: One Woman's Search for Everything. 

Settling, we do it for our own reasons.  There are times to settle and times to soar.  Consider a few ideas of ways to change from settle to living the life you want.  

 

Things to consider:

1.  Where are you settling?

2.  What do you want?

3.  How can you plan to succeed? 

 

 

Episode Quotes: 

“To my fellow women:  Please don’t settle.  Not in a job you hate, not in a town where you don’t feel at home, not with friendships that aren’t real, and especially, especially not with love.”  ~ Marisa Donnelly

 

“Know your worth” You must find the courage to leave the table if respect is not longer being served.”  ~Tene Edwards

 

“Don’t you dare settle for fine!” Roy Kent; Ted Lasso

 

https://www.thelazygeniuscollective.com

Ted Lasso is the topic of today’s episode.  My love of the writing, cast members and dynamics is huge.  One outstanding trait of the characters, they all say the things.  They say the things and  listen to one another.  They hear each other and it’s wonderfully uplifting thing to observe; even if it is fiction.  The interaction and communication is attainable in our lives. 

 

Things to consider:

1.  Do you have people in your life that hold you accountable for your words and actions? 

2.  Do you allow people to see your struggle and walk beside you through life?

3.  Do you have someone that gives feedback on topics when others in your life remain quiet? 

Links

https://www.instagram.com/nicolehagman_writes/

https://tv.apple.com/us/episode/pilot/umc.cmc.zb0yksqtym68hasbq8mj4jwp