Say What You Need To Say

By Tandy and Thea

Welcome to "Say What You Need to Say," where besties Thea and Tandy unlock the secrets of deep communication within their dynamic friendship. Dive into discussions on navigating life, embracing hard t... more

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The podcast currently has 7 episodes available.

Say What You Need To Say episodes:

August 01, 2024Unraveling Patriarchy: From Understanding to Action
Episode Overview:
In this thought-provoking episode of "Say What You Need to Say," hosts Thea and Tandy dive deep into the complex topic of patriarchy, its far-reaching impacts, and how we can work towards dismantling it. Key Points DiscussedUnderstanding Patriarchy
Definition: A social system where men hold the primary amount of power and privilege

Impact: Leads to gendered and intersectional inequalities, disparities in education and employment, and normalization of gender-based violence
Women can inadvertently perpetuate patriarchal norms

Importance of questioning and challenging these norms
Affects everyone, regardless of gender

Dismantling it requires active exploration, curiosity, and a shift in mindset
Practical self-care practices to resist patriarchy

Importance of rest, movement, and pleasure in prioritizing well-being
"Patriarchy is not only pushed forward by men or male-prescribing bodies, humans. So if you identify as male, that doesn't mean that you're patriarchal."

"Go get you an orgasm, because that will also do the trick too."

"Dismantling internalized patriarchy is everyone's work. It is not just about being mad at men and dismantling it frees men as well."

The Role of Women Internalized Patriarchy Resistance and Self-Care

Notable Quotes Episode Breakdown
00:00 - Introduction and Defining Patriarchy06:22 - Recognizing the System and the Need for Change
11:18 - The Slow Process of Shifting the System
16:21 - Practical Self-Care Practices for Resisting Patriarchy
19:24 - The Sneaky Ways Women Perpetuate Patriarchy
30:40 - Dismantling Internalized Patriarchy: Everyone's Work
40:54 - Conclusion, Next Steps, and Takeaway Understanding and dismantling patriarchy is a collective responsibility that requires ongoing effort, self-reflection, and action from all members of society.

Connect with the Hosts
Find Thea and Tandy on Instagram and other social media platforms to continue the conversation about Bridgerton and other topics discussed on the show.
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July 18, 2024The "Good Wife": Redefining Marital Expectations and Personal Growth
In this episode of "Say What You Need to Say," Thea and Tandy explore marital expectations, cultural differences, and personal growth. Thea reflects on her marriage, navigating patriarchal dynamics, and the evolution of roles in relationships.
Key Topics Discussed:
Confusing Street Names: Thea shares amusing GPS mispronunciations in Houston and Austin and the quirky significance of street names.

Tarot Insights - The 6 of Voices: Tandy interprets the tarot card's symbolism of transition and trusting the universe without a clear plan.

Marital Reflections and Cultural Differences: The challenges and cultural dynamics in marriage and the impact of entrepreneurial pursuits.

Patriarchal Culture and Expectations: The influence of patriarchal norms on relationships, including internalized pressures among clients and herself.

Identity and Self-Discovery: Thea's journey post-separation, changing her name, and evolving understanding of her identity.

Raising Children and Relationship Dynamics: Challenges in co-parenting and maintaining mutual support and understanding.

Breaking the "Good Wife" Mold: Thea's rejection of traditional wife roles and the continuous evolution required in partnerships.

Personal Growth and Future Relationships: Thea's shift towards self-care, authenticity, and thoughts on future relationships.

Family Influences and Trauma: Impactful advice from family members on marriage and Thea's adoption journey.

Final Thoughts on Partnership and Balance: Navigating relationship expectations and achieving mutual balance in partnerships.
Memorable Quotes:
"Just because it was like this when we got married, doesn't mean that it's working now. Sometimes partnerships have to be reworked."

"I used to like the idea of the 'good wife,' but now I don't subscribe to it."
Actionable Takeaways:
Set Clear Expectations: Communicate openly about roles and expectations.

Prioritize Self-Care: Ensure personal well-being to support the relationship.

Embrace Change: Adapt and grow together.

Challenge Patriarchal Norms: Address internalized behaviors for equitable relationships.
Connect with Us:
Follow Thea: ⁠goddesshood.co⁠

Follow Tandy: ⁠tandy_gutierrez⁠
Resources:
⁠Unicorn Wellness Studio - Magical Mentoring with Tandy⁠
Support the Show: If you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review on Spotify and share it with your friends!
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42min
July 04, 2024Bridgerton Through a Feminist Lens: Why Two Feminists Love the Show
Episode Summary
Thea and Tandy dive into a lively discussion about the hit TV series Bridgerton, exploring why two feminists enjoy the show and addressing some common questions they've received about it. They offer their perspectives on character development, feminist themes, and the show's portrayal of relationships and pleasure.
Why Thea and Tandy, as feminists, enjoy watching Bridgerton

Character analysis, including Eloise's development and privilege

The show's focus on female pleasure and relationships

Comparisons to other period dramas like The Great

Music choices and their impact on the viewing experience

Thoughts on the adaptation from book to screen
The hosts discuss the feminist roots of gossip as a way for women to share information and keep each other safe

They explore the character development of Eloise and her journey of self-discovery

Thea and Tandy share their team preferences: Team Penelope vs. Team Eloise

They touch on the dopamine response triggered by listening to music from one's teens and early twenties
This episode contains spoilers for the Bridgerton series. Listeners who haven't watched the show may want to be aware of potential plot revelations.
Find Thea and Tandy on Instagram and other social media platforms to continue the conversation about Bridgerton and other topics discussed on the show.
Resources:
Queen’s Podcast - 4 Part Series on Catherine the Great
Part 1

Part 2

Part 3

Part 4
Support the Show:
If you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review on Spotify and share it with your friends!
Key Topics DiscussedHighlightsListener AdvisoryConnect with the Hosts
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1h 20min
June 20, 2024Navigating Podcast Etiquette and Integrity: Thea and Tandy's Take on Guest Dynamics
Episode Summary:
In this episode of "Say What You Need to Say," Thea and Tandy dive into the complexities of podcast guest dynamics, focusing on the importance of setting clear expectations and maintaining integrity. They share personal experiences and offer valuable insights on how to handle mismatched guest appearances, the significance of doing due diligence, and the challenges of navigating patriarchal behaviors in professional settings.
Key Topics Discussed:
Networking and Referrals: Tandy shares a story about being referred to a new podcaster and the unexpected turn the interaction took.

Setting Expectations: Thea emphasizes the importance of setting clear expectations at the beginning of a connection call to ensure both parties are on the same page.

Integrity in Feedback: The hosts discuss the challenges of providing honest feedback and the importance of staying true to one's values.

Patriarchal Dynamics: Thea and Tandy explore how patriarchal behaviors can manifest in both men and women and the impact this has on professional interactions.

Due Diligence: The importance of researching potential guests and ensuring they align with the podcast's values and audience.

Handling Rejections: Strategies for politely declining guest appearances that don't fit and the importance of being clear and courteous.
Memorable Quotes:
"You don't need a penis in order to be patriarchal."

"I'm not a man hater, or what I am is a hater of people who don't make people feel worthy."
Actionable Takeaways:
Set Clear Expectations: Always start connection calls by outlining what to expect and the purpose of the call.

Do Your Homework: Research potential guests thoroughly to ensure they are a good fit for your show.

Be Honest and Courteous: When declining a guest, be clear and courteous to maintain professionalism and integrity.

Understand Your Worth: Recognize your experience and value, and don't be afraid to assert it in professional interactions.
Connect with Us:
Follow Thea: goddesshood.co

Follow Tandy: tandy_gutierrez
Resources:
Break Up With… The Fake Nice Guy
Unicorn Wellness Studio - Magical Mentoring with Tandy
Support the Show:
If you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review on Spotify and share it with your friends!
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44min
June 06, 2024Navigating Customer Service Chaos: Honesty, Advocacy, and Connection
In this episode, Thea and Tandy navigate technical glitches and discuss the importance of effective customer service and communication, drawing from personal experiences with dentists and membership programs.

Key Topics Discussed:
Customer Service Stories:
Thea's Dental Journey: Thea shares her struggles with finding a good dentist and emphasizes the need for better bedside manner.

Tandy's Studio Woes: Tandy recounts her frustrating experience with a local studio's membership program, highlighting issues with canceling services and poor customer support.
Sales and Honesty:
Ethical Sales Practices: Both hosts discuss the importance of honesty in sales and how to guide customers towards beneficial choices without being pushy.

Value of Repeat Customers: Tandy emphasizes that good customer service leads to repeat business, which is more profitable than constantly acquiring new customers.
Loss of Intimacy: Thea and Tandy explore the decline in genuine human connection in modern communication and its impact on relationships.

Advocating for Yourself: Tandy stresses the importance of taking notes and advocating for oneself, especially in medical and customer service scenarios.
Thea: "My first job ever was in customer service, and after that, I've always helped people at the actual company versus external clients."

Tandy: "When it comes to taking notes, this is interesting because we both said the same phrase to people in the same week, but under different circumstances."
Communication Breakdown:
Key Quotes:
Thea: "My first job ever was in customer service, and after that, I've always helped people at the actual company versus external clients."

Tandy: "When it comes to taking notes, this is interesting because we both said the same phrase to people in the same week, but under different circumstances."
Call to Action:
Engage: Listeners are encouraged to share their thoughts and experiences on social media, fostering a community of open dialogue and shared experiences.
Subscribe & Follow:
Stay Updated: Subscribe to "Say What You Need to Say" on your preferred podcast platform.

Connect with Thea: goddesshood.co

Connect with Tandy: tandy_gutierrez
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59min
May 23, 2024You Really Like Yourself...Side Eye
In the inaugural full-length episode of "Say What You Need to Say," Thea and Tandy engage in a thought-provoking discussion on personal growth, societal expectations, and the power of authentic communication.

Key Topics Discussed:
Embracing Authenticity and Personal Growth: Tandy shares insights from a card reading, delving into themes of initiation, passion, and the significance of divine timing. The discussion emphasizes the challenges of maintaining integrity and perseverance, especially when tasks become less enjoyable.
Preparation, Practice, and Self-Improvement: The importance of continuous practice and proper preparation is highlighted, drawing from Thea's experience at a Nike training camp, where the mantra was "perfect practice makes perfect".
Navigating Compliments, Criticism, and Public Perception: The hosts share experiences of receiving uplifting compliments and shady comments in different contexts, shedding light on the impact of unexpected remarks in public spaces.
Body Positivity and Confidence: Reflecting on a fashion show experience, the hosts discuss the vulnerability of public appearances and the importance of body positivity and confidence despite societal judgments.
Gender Dynamics, Support, and Patriarchy: Tandy recounts feeling unsupported by her partner during a moment of public criticism, sparking a broader discussion on the implications of patriarchy and feminism in personal relationships.
Cultural and Racial Dynamics: Exploring the complexities of being a white-presenting woman with mixed heritage, Tandy delves into the additional challenges faced in patriarchal and racially complex contexts.
Empowerment, Self-Love, and Boundaries: The hosts emphasize the importance of self-love, empowerment, clear communication, and setting boundaries, discussing the challenges of maintaining confidence amidst criticism.
Supporting Other Women and Navigating Conflict: Addressing the "sister wound" in patriarchal cultures, Thea and Tandy stress the significance of supporting other women and creating inclusive environments, while also providing practical tips for handling conflict.
Closing Thoughts and Next Episode Teaser: The hosts reflect on the complexity of the topics discussed and tease more deep dives into personal growth, societal challenges, and the power of authentic communication in future episodes.
Call to Action: Listeners are encouraged to share their thoughts and experiences related to the episode's topics on social media, fostering a community of open dialogue and shared experiences.
Subscribe & Follow: To stay updated on future episodes, subscribe to "Say What You Need to Say" on your preferred podcast platform and follow Thea and Tandy on social media for behind-the-scenes content and updates.
Connect with Thea on Instagram at goddesshood.co

Connect with Tandy on Instagram at tandy_gutierrez
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45min
March 22, 2024 Say What You Need To Say: Creating a Safe Space in Friendships
Welcome to "Say What You Need to Say," the podcast where besties Thea and Tandy dive deep into the art of genuine communication, grounded in the strength of their friendship.
Join us as we explore the nuances of navigating life's ups and downs through the lens of our unique relationship. Every episode, we peel back the layers of our experiences to reveal the importance of honesty, vulnerability, and support in forging lasting connections.
Whether you're looking for insights on strengthening your own relationships, tips on how to communicate more effectively, or just in search of relatable stories that celebrate the beauty of true friendship, "Say What You Need to Say" offers a heartfelt look into the ways we interact with the world and each other. From discussing the challenges of saying the hard truths to celebrating the moments of joy and understanding, Thea and Tandy show how creating space for authenticity can transform our lives.
Our podcast is a treasure trove for anyone interested in personal development, effective communication strategies, friendship dynamics, emotional intelligence, and the power of saying the things.
Tune in to "Say What You Need to Say" to join our journey of building a more authentic, understanding, and communicative world, one conversation at a time.

Subscribe now and become part of a community that values the power of speaking from the heart, with episodes available on all major podcast platforms. Don't miss out on the chance to enrich your relationships and master the art of meaningful communication!

The full show launches later this year, but for now enjoy this tasty morsel of a trailer.
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FAQs about Say What You Need To Say:

How many episodes does Say What You Need To Say have?

The podcast currently has 7 episodes available.