Scholarly Self-Care

2020 has been a heck of a year and it's still not over! For some of us, everything still seems unclear, and the worst seems possible. As we come back from the Thanksgiving Holiday, I want to talk a bit about gratitude and its benefits for self-care and our mental health. Hopefully each of us have had our individual experiences that have made this year more wonderful than horrible. I want to challenge you to focus on those positive moments and reflect on them with gratitude. Individuals who have a regular gratitude practice are healthier, happier, and have better relationships. Further research suggests that gratitude is also key in helping individuals persevere in challenging times. Listen in as I share some practical ways that you can practice gratitude to help you cope in your journey through life. 

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Dr. Tia N. Barnes is an education researcher with a passion for improving social/emotional outcomes for culturally diverse students and those with emotional and behavioral disorders. Her research focuses on the social-emotional well-being of minoritized populations. To study this she focuses on the areas of social-emotional learning, culturally responsive pedagogy, and special education. Her research has been published in Prevention Science, International Journal of Educational Research, Aggression and Violent Behavior, Infant and Child Development, Journal of School Violence, and Developmental Review.

You are in for a treat with today’s guest Mr. David Adams. David is the Senior Director of Strategy at The Urban Assembly. He previously served as the Director of Social-Emotional Learning at the Urban Assembly, and prior to that was the Social-Emotional Learning Coordinator for District 75 where he shaped the District's approach to social-emotional learning for students with severe cognitive and behavioral challenges. He has worked internationally in schools in England, setting up and evaluating positive behavioral support and social-emotional learning programs as a research intern at Yale University’s Health, Emotion, and Behavior Lab. His work on the relationship of social-emotional competence and student academic and behavioral outcomes is published in multiple academic journals. David is also co-author of a new book,  The Educator's Practical Guide to Emotional Intelligence, which was published in 2020. He is married with two children, serves on the Board of Directors of CASEL, and is a Civil Affairs Officer in the Army Reserve. David holds an M.Ed in Educational Psychology from Fordham University. In this episode, we will be discussing the importance of SEL and how it can be used to support equity by making children feel safe, strengthening their relationships with peers and teachers, and helping children manage and express their emotions. David shares some gems in this discussion that is sure to help caretakers with their own social and emotional wellbeing as well as the well-being of the children in their lives. Press play to listen now. 

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Dr. Tia N. Barnes is an education researcher with a passion for improving social/emotional outcomes for culturally diverse students and those with emotional and behavioral disorders. Her research focuses on the social-emotional well-being of minoritized populations. To study this she focuses on the areas of social-emotional learning, culturally responsive pedagogy, and special education. Her research has been published in Prevention Science, International Journal of Educational Research, Aggression and Violent Behavior, Infant and Child Development, Journal of School Violence, and Developmental Review.

If you’ve been practicing self-care for a while now, then you’ve probably come across the advice to “listen to your body.” But what exactly does that even mean? Listening to your body includes being attentive to all messages you receive from your body concerning your physical, emotional and mental well-being. Our bodies are one of our best sources of information. These sensations are there for a reason, and are very important to tune in to because our bodies know exactly what they need to be nourished, fulfilled, happy, and whole. And so in today’s episode, I want to encourage you to tune into your body and take action with the data you receive by actually giving your body what it needs. 

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Dr. Tia N. Barnes is an education researcher with a passion for improving social/emotional outcomes for culturally diverse students and those with emotional and behavioral disorders. Her research focuses on the social-emotional well-being of minoritized populations. To study this she focuses on the areas of social-emotional learning, culturally responsive pedagogy, and special education. Her research has been published in Prevention Science, International Journal of Educational Research, Aggression and Violent Behavior, Infant and Child Development, Journal of School Violence, and Developmental Review.

Now more than ever self -care and our mental health is super important. At this present time in the US we are dealing with several changes that cause high levels of anxiety, stress and depression to be a constant in our daily lives. If you’re looking for ways to increase your self-care, one little thing you can do is create an emergency self-care kit. When you’re having a bad moment/day/week, it will serve as a kind of “SOS” kit to help you feel a bit better. Your kit should be super personal to you and serve as a collection that truly brings you joy, peace and happiness. Listen in as I share some ideas to inspire you and get you started.

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Dr. Tia N. Barnes is an education researcher with a passion for improving social/emotional outcomes for culturally diverse students and those with emotional and behavioral disorders. Her research focuses on the social-emotional well-being of minoritized populations. To study this she focuses on the areas of social-emotional learning, culturally responsive pedagogy, and special education. Her research has been published in Prevention Science, International Journal of Educational Research, Aggression and Violent Behavior, Infant and Child Development, Journal of School Violence, and Developmental Review.

Our guest today is Dory Abelman. Dory is this host of the Learn2Love podcast that brings together curated teachings from a variety of books, podcasts, and articles on how to build a great relationship. The Learn2Love podcast is a passion project that originated from the belief that healthy love is a skill that can be learned, trained, and mastered like a muscle. Dory's vision is a world with more relationship intelligence resulting in healthier and stronger families. To move toward this vision, Dory and his partner have organized a team powered by volunteers who invest their free time gathering valuable content to bring to you at no charge. 

I am excited to talk with Dory about the importance of goals, intention, and one of the 7 types of self-care that we discuss on this podcast-- Social Self-Care. Join the conversation as we discuss some key techniques to develop and maintain your social-emotional wellness. 

Also, please check out the Learn2Love podcast. To connect with Dory directly and access the valuable content he has available to enrich your relationship experiences, see the list of social platforms below. 

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Dr. Tia N. Barnes is an education researcher with a passion for improving social/emotional outcomes for culturally diverse students and those with emotional and behavioral disorders. Her research focuses on the social-emotional well-being of minoritized populations. To study this she focuses on the areas of social-emotional learning, culturally responsive pedagogy, and special education. Her research has been published in Prevention Science, International Journal of Educational Research, Aggression and Violent Behavior, Infant and Child Development, Journal of School Violence, and Developmental Review.

Self-care is parenting yourself. Think about it for a minute. As a parent or caregiver to the children in your life, you fill many roles but the number 1 fundamentally important job that you do is to keep the children you care for safe and healthy. I believe that a way to thrive physically and emotionally as adults is by learning to fill that role of parenting for ourselves. Daily self-care in your self-parenting role is being your own parent and enforcing the rules you’ve established for yourself to hold yourself accountable to the habits that let you feel good, even when you don’t want to.

Listen in as I share some ways that you can parent yourself into some hardcore invaluable self-care. 

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Dr. Tia N. Barnes is an education researcher with a passion for improving social/emotional outcomes for culturally diverse students and those with emotional and behavioral disorders. Her research focuses on the social-emotional well-being of minoritized populations. To study this she focuses on the areas of social-emotional learning, culturally responsive pedagogy, and special education. Her research has been published in Prevention Science, International Journal of Educational Research, Aggression and Violent Behavior, Infant and Child Development, Journal of School Violence, and Developmental Review.

Mind·ful·ness by definition is a mental state achieved by focusing one's awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one's feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations. Mindfulness is an incredible tool to help people understand, tolerate, and deal with their emotions in healthy ways. In practice, mindfulness offers many benefits such as relieving stress, improving sleep, and so much more. 

In this episode, I will provide you with 10 simple ways that you can add mindfulness to your busy routine. I encourage you to start small, start somewhere, and try at least one activity from the list I provide and let me know how it goes. 

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Dr. Tia N. Barnes is an education researcher with a passion for improving social/emotional outcomes for culturally diverse students and those with emotional and behavioral disorders. Her research focuses on the social-emotional well-being of minoritized populations. To study this she focuses on the areas of social-emotional learning, culturally responsive pedagogy, and special education. Her research has been published in Prevention Science, International Journal of Educational Research, Aggression and Violent Behavior, Infant and Child Development, Journal of School Violence, and Developmental Review.

Boundaries let others know how to treat us. It includes knowing and understanding what your limits are. The purpose of setting a healthy boundary is to protect and take good care of YOU. A lack of boundaries opens the door for others to determine your thoughts, feelings, and needs.

Setting and sustaining boundaries is a skill and for many of us it is a relatively new concept and a challenging one. Today we will be discussing both physical boundaries and emotional boundaries and how to build and preserve better boundaries with ourselves and in relationships so you can start to teach people how to treat you. 

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Dr. Tia N. Barnes is an education researcher with a passion for improving social/emotional outcomes for culturally diverse students and those with emotional and behavioral disorders. Her research focuses on the social-emotional well-being of minoritized populations. To study this she focuses on the areas of social-emotional learning, culturally responsive pedagogy, and special education. Her research has been published in Prevention Science, International Journal of Educational Research, Aggression and Violent Behavior, Infant and Child Development, Journal of School Violence, and Developmental Review.

Practical self-care by definition are tasks you complete that fulfill core aspects of your life in order to prevent future stressful situations such as creating a budget, taking professional development classes, organizing your closet, etc. 

In today's episode I will share with you 6 practical self-care tips that I am implementing immediately to get my life together. I will also be sharing my process of reflection and evaluation that lead me to the selection of my practical self-care ideas that I will be acting on.

Press play to join the conversation as we get our lives all the way together.  

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Dr. Tia N. Barnes is an education researcher with a passion for improving social/emotional outcomes for culturally diverse students and those with emotional and behavioral disorders. Her research focuses on the social-emotional well-being of minoritized populations. To study this she focuses on the areas of social-emotional learning, culturally responsive pedagogy, and special education. Her research has been published in Prevention Science, International Journal of Educational Research, Aggression and Violent Behavior, Infant and Child Development, Journal of School Violence, and Developmental Review.

Today is an exciting episode. Not only is this the first interview for The Scholarly Self-Care Podcast but you also get to meet my bestie of 30 years, Marsha Chambers!

We all know that it takes discipline and commitment to do the things that are good for you. When you take care of yourself, you will have more energy to take care of others joyfully. However, when we became parents we found that self-care started to feel a lot like self-indulgence. We quickly learned that all of our focus could not be solely on being great parents. Because by going too long without taking care of yourself emotionally, we will burn out. Join us as we discuss our journey and evolution as parents and how it has impacted our self-care. 

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Dr. Tia N. Barnes is an education researcher with a passion for improving social/emotional outcomes for culturally diverse students and those with emotional and behavioral disorders. Her research focuses on the social-emotional well-being of minoritized populations. To study this she focuses on the areas of social-emotional learning, culturally responsive pedagogy, and special education. Her research has been published in Prevention Science, International Journal of Educational Research, Aggression and Violent Behavior, Infant and Child Development, Journal of School Violence, and Developmental Review.