School of Self-Worth

As a high achiever, it’s easy to get lost in constant improvement, focusing on the next goal or milestone. As a fellow high-achiever, Nicole knows exactly what it’s like to be on the nonstop hamster wheel.

But today, Nicole shares how all of your hyper-achieving undermines one of the most essential and overlooked instruments in your arsenal — your intuition.

In this thought-provoking episode, Nicole breaks down the extreme cost of pursuing goals without taking a deeper look at the underlying motivation behind your desire for achieving goals.

Episode Highlights:

• The high cost of constant improvement
• The illusion of achievement and how it diminishes your self-worth
• What control is really about and how to disrupt the pattern that created the idea you CAN control
• How hyperachieving distracts you from the thing you care about most.
• What you gain when you recognize the difference between intuition and self-doubt 

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Have you ever noticed you feel more productive during certain times of the month? Have you wondered why sometimes you can work out for two weeks and then fall off for seemingly no reason?

Consider this — it might have NOTHING to do with you and everything to do with your menstrual cycle.

Tune into this game-changing episode with Renae Fieck, Your Cycle Advantage's founder, to learn how you can start aligning your productivity to your cycle.

Renae shares valuable insight on how connecting to your hormonal cycles can revolutionize your work and self-care. From embracing your natural ebb and flow, you also can connect to your cycle for intentional choices resulting in balance and success.

The TOP learnings of this episode: 

• Understanding the rhythm of your productivity (9:50) 
• How to release the guilt and pressure of having to be consistent every day (11:02) 
• How energy can be related to the different parts of your cycle (13:32) 
• Tips for utilizing your cycle to optimize your schedule in order to boost your productivity (18:58) 
• Different ways you can track your cycle  (32:30) 
• The top tip to track your productivity (34:39) 

The host of the Cycle Advantage podcast, Renae is a mom of 3 and occupational therapist. She helps women optimize their time and energy through unlocking the power of their cycles so that they can be thriving high achievers. Through her method, she helps women balance the demands of life, make a bigger impact, and get bigger results without adding more stress or needing more time. She can be found at renaefieck.com.

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• Learn More About Your Cycle: https://renaefieck.com/cyclesyncbiz/
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• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/renaefieck/ 

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Do you find yourself doubting your decisions and/or immediately asking for advice from friends and family when an issue arises?

If so, you are likely doing yourself and your intuition a major disservice. Asking other people for their opinions is the fastest way to undermine your intuition.

In today’s minisode, Nicole shares what life looked like before discovering the right side of her intuition, and how life changed for her after.

What life could look like for you: 

• Stop overworking 
• More efficiency and time to do things for yourself
• No more indecision 
• Faster decision-making

Tune in today to find out how that life could be yours!

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Has life been feeling chaotic? Does it feel like you keep running into obstacles and like you never have enough time?

If so, then this is the perfect episode for you!

This week, Nicole connects with author Tracee Stanley about her upcoming book, THE LUMINOUS SELF: Sacred Yogic Practices & Rituals to Remember Who You Are (out on October 10, 2023). Tracee shares her own complicated journey with self-worth, starting with growing up in a strict household, a detour to Hollywood as a film producer, before moving into a life as a teacher and author.

Throughout the episode, Tracee highlights the significance of curiosity, devotion, and consistency in your spiritual practices. The path of self-discovery also requires reflection on your own worthiness and challenging beliefs that get in the way. By shifting your awareness inward, she teaches how to uncover the treasures and expansiveness that reside within.

The TOP learnings in this episode: 

• What can happen in stillness (5:46) 
• Changing the narrative in your life by learning how to trace your timeline back to original beliefs (14:52)  
• A pause Tracee would love for you to take (24:44)
• A new way to view discomfort and strategies to move through them (26:38)
• Coping with unpredictability and challenges when they arise (35:35)
• How Tracee left behind an addiction to crises that she developed as a Hollywood film producer (38:07)

Tracee Stanley is the author of the bestselling book RADIANT REST: Yoga Nidra for Deep Relaxation and Awakened Clarity and the forthcoming The LUMINOUS SELF: Sacred Yogic Practices & Rituals to Remember Who You Are - Oct 2023 by Shambala Publications. Tracee is the founder of Empowered Life Circle, a sacred community and portal of practices, rituals, and Tantric teachings inspired by more than 20 years of study in Sri Vidya Tantra and the teachings of the Himalayan Masters. As a post-lineage teacher, Tracee is devoted to sharing the wisdom of yoga nidra, rest, meditation, self-inquiry, nature as a teacher, and ancestor reverence. Tracee is gifted in illuminating the magic and power found in liminal space and weaving devotion and practice into daily life. Find out more about Tracee at traceestanley.com.

Ready to dive into Tracee’s new book, The Luminous Self? We have a special discount for our listeners when you preorder the book here with the promo code LUM30.

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Do you get stopped by the same issues day after day, whether it’s your boss, or your team, or feeling guilty when you do make time for yourself?

If so, this episode was made especially for you!

Today, Nicole dives into the four biggest blocks that often hinder self-worth — these are the ones you definitely WANT to know!

In the episode, she shares the essential steps to start to break free from these old patterns. From deep-rooted identity issues to outsourcing your value and battling guilt, you’ll learn the powerful shifts required to leave these patterns behind for good.

The TOP learnings in this episode: 

• Letting go of and shifting identities that no longer serve you 
• Things that may be holding you back from feeling fulfilled in your life 
• Something important that you may find yourself putting off for later 
• How you might be doing self-care wrong 
• A different way to look at time 

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Have you been feeling stuck lately? Stuck in a relationship that no longer serves you? A job that no longer fulfills you? Fear of failure can be paralyzing and can even evolve into a way we avoid doing things.

Throughout this episode, Nicole presents four simple ways to conquer this fear, encouraging us to redefine failure, acknowledge its teaching potential, and even consciously fail in small ways to build resilience. Tune into this episode to start overcoming failure TODAY by applying these four tangible tips to your daily life. 

The TOP learnings in this episode: 

• Things that your fear of failure may be blocking you from and why it’s important for us to release those blocks 
• A new way to look at failure 
• 4 tangible ways that you can immediately apply to your daily life to overcome your fear of failure 

Are you feeling ready to overcome your fear of failure? Get your FREE Overcoming Fear of Failure Guide by DM’ing “DOWNLOAD” @nicoletsong on Instagram.

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Do you feel like you are flatlining at work? Do you ever find yourself spinning out or second-guessing yourself in a way that blocks your growth at work?

If so, you ABSOLUTELY need to listen to this episode filled with insight for any high-achiever who is getting in her own way.

In part 2 of Nicole’s conversation with Kristi Coulter, Kristi gets candid about the highs and lows of her big career shift from corporate America to professional author. When looking back at her decade-plus at Amazon, Kristi drops valuable insight and advice for anyone who may be underselling themselves and dealing with impostor syndrome.

The TOP learnings in this episode: 

• A surprising thing she learned about being an introvert (5:06)
• A game-changing suggestion Kristi has for any burgeoning authors interested in memoir writing (9:01)
• Kristi’s advice for professional women in the thick of it who may be underselling themselves, including a secret power you may not know you already have (16:06)
• A new way to look at impostor syndrome and why you shouldn’t have to “get over it” (21:31)

Kristi Coulter is the author of EXIT INTERVIEW: THE LIFE & DEATH OF MY AMBITIOUS CAREER and the memoir-in-essays NOTHING GOOD CAN COME FROM THIS, a finalist for the Washington State Book Award. Her work has also appeared in New York Magazine, The Paris Review, Glamour, Elle, and elsewhere. She lives in Seattle and Los Angeles and teaches writing at Hugo House.

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• Buy Kristi’s Newest Book: Exit Interview 
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Have you ever struggled with feeling like an imposter at work and that no matter how many hours you put in, you don’t ever feel successful?

If so, this episode is for you!

Today, Nicole talks to author Kristi Coulter about her new book, EXIT INTERVIEW: The Life and Death of My Ambitious Career, a memoir about her decade-long journey of lessons and challenges at Amazon. Kristi talks frankly about the brutal culture at this male-dominated company, and the tiny steps she took over many years to regain her self-worth and authenticity during her tenure.

Tune in to learn more about how Kristi stopped suppressing her authentic self at work, the power of accepting failure with grace, and the transformative moments that led to her exit from Amazon.

The TOP Learnings in this episode: 

• The moment Kristi decided to stop suppressing her authentic self and the impact it had on her job and her sobriety (3:36) 
• The transformative moment when Kristi accepted that it was OK to fail (10:00)
• The surprising tip an Amazon VP gave to Kristi about her career (13:26)
• Lessons learned from working as a perfectionist in an intense work environment (16:00)
• A powerful shift in her mindset of playing to her strengths vs. working on her weaknesses (19:20)
• The issue with companies that run on meritocracy, and how it ties into gender equality (30:40) 

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Kristi Coulter is the author of EXIT INTERVIEW: THE LIFE & DEATH OF MY AMBITIOUS CAREER (out September 12th)  and the memoir-in-essays NOTHING GOOD CAN COME FROM THIS, a finalist for the Washington State Book Award. Her work has also appeared in New York Magazine, The Paris Review, Glamour, Elle, and elsewhere. She lives in Seattle and Los Angeles and teaches writing at Hugo House.

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Have you been on a fertility journey and felt like you were all alone?

Today, Nicole talks with Sophie Byfield, a fertility expert and doula, who shares her own vulnerable, 4-year journey to get pregnant. After spending two years at a fertility clinic without knowing how to advocate for herself, Sophie made it her life mission to help women avoid that same experience.

Join Nicole and Sophie as they dive into the surprisingly lonely world of fertility, the impact of stress on reproductive health, the role of healing in conceiving, and the importance of advocating for yourself in order to get the most out of your fertility appointments and treatments. 

So, if you're on a fertility journey or simply interested in learning more about this often-hidden topic, this episode is for you. Listen now to unlock the secrets of infertility, debunk myths, and reclaim agency over our bodies!

TOP learnings in this episode: 

• Possible long-term effects of birth control and the surprising complication it could be masking in your body (7:34)
• How to advocate for yourself by knowing the right questions to ask in order to make informed decisions (9:30) 
• The secret world of secondary infertility that no one is talking about (12:11) 
• The importance of healing to conceive (17:46)
• Why going back to the basics by listening to your body could benefit you (19:20)
• A key test that your fertility doctor/clinic may not be considering but should be (21:33)
• How to stay positive and hopeful during your fertility journey (32:22)
• Sophie’s top 2 tips for couples on their fertility journey (35:15)

Sophie Byfield is a Fertility Expert and Doula who believes in the power of creating the healthiest version of yourself so that you can finally see those two pink lines. With over 20 years of experience as a nutritionist, personal trainer and yoga instructor, Sophie discovered the secret world of infertility when she finally decided she was ready to be a mom. For the last five years, Sophie has observed the five areas of health that impact your fertility and a woman’s ability to conceive. If we take those areas and heal them ONE at a time, we can create miracles beyond our wildest dreams. Her mission is to help as many women as possible bring babies into the world, so they finally become the mama their heart is longing for them to be.

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• Website: https://sophiebyfield.com/application/
• Tiktok: @fertilitycoachsophie
• Instagram: @fertilitycoachsophie
• Coming Soon: Heal to Conceive Podcast 

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Have you been waiting for this ever since you heard the truth bombs in Part 1? Well, get ready! Part 2 on the REAL reason why dating might not be working for you is HERE!

In this episode, Nicole gets extra personal with her dating coach, Andi Forness, sharing how she used the game-changing support from Andi when she started dating her husband. Tune in to hear the exact pattern Andi helped Nicole break that made ALL the difference in creating a committed relationship.

Tune into this extra-special episode about what emotional availability looks like in action when dating someone new, and the amazing results Nicole got afterward.

Have you found yourself dating emotionally unavailable partners or spiraling out from overthinking? Andi has some tips to help you break that cycle.

The TOP learnings in this episode: 

• How stating your preferences will help you attract an emotionally available partner (3:45) 
• A game-changing tip to stop overthinking when you find yourself spiraling out (12:31)
• Andi’s BIG tip for Nicole that made it into Nicole and Michael’s wedding vows, and has continued to be a foundational part of their marriage  (16:16)
• The secret to attracting an emotionally available partner (20:40) 
• How you can heal and interrupt old patterns once you enter into a relationship (24:53)

Andi Forness has helped dozens of women find love again. As a dating coach, she guides her clients to create Authentic Attraction to find and keep love online dating or anywhere! Most of her clients come to her ready to throw in the towel after years of disappointing results. Andi's practical tips can be found on Fox News, Forbes. Men's Health, Austin Woman, and many other publications.

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Learn More About Andi:

• Text Andi to get started: 512-423-2426
• Instagram: @andi_forness

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