School of Self-Worth

You could be making yourself look less powerful at work and you don’t even know you’re doing these 3 common mistakes. 

These are big ones for Asian-American women, and you want to nip this in the bud sooner than later!

Today, I dive deep into some common blocks for Asian-American women that undermines their authority and makes them less likely to be promoted into leadership positions. You’ll also learn some SIMPLE techniques to overcome them.

The TOP Learnings in this episode: 

• Simple strategies to counter bias in the workplace
• Stop apologizing and learn powerful new ways of speaking
• Becoming more confident by shifting your mindset
• The power of appreciation

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Are you feeling burnt out, and not only that, stalled out in your career?

Not that long ago, Ali Gostanian was in the same place as you.

In this episode, I chat with Ali, an alumni of Your Clear Calling (YCC), and talk about the stress Ali, a journalist, was under when she joined the program. Through the course, she wa reduced her anxiety, rebounded from burnout and got crystal clear about her next steps. 

If you’re experiencing burnout at work, you’ll likely relate to Ali’s story! Learn about how she got her energy back, calmed her nervous system and discovered her next level of purpose. 

The TOP Learnings in this episode: 

• Shifting focus allows you to make life-changing decisions (9:00)
• The importance of learning to regulate emotions (9:50)
• How to let go of rigid expectations and instead experience peace and joy (21:18)
• How a supportive community fosters growth and creativity (23:33)

Ali Gostanian is a master's candidate at Johns Hopkins School of Advanced International Studies, where she is studying international relations, public policy and politics. Prior to pursuing her graduate studies, Ali was an award-winning senior reporter, producer and editor with NBC News' Social Newsgathering team, specializing in open source intelligence and social media verification. Ali is the winner of five RTDNA National Murrow Awards, a News Emmy Award, a New York Press Club Award and the Society of Professional Journalists Sigma Delta Chi Award for Excellence in Professional Journalism. She currently resides in New York and Washington, D.C. with her husband, Miles and their dog, Mochi.

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Have you tried to advocate for yourself at work and call attention to all of your powerful contributions, but still feel unseen by those that matter?

This week, I share my own story about why I spent so much of my life blending in, and how that prevented me from rising and getting recognized at work.

I didn’t understand the skill of advocating for myself.

But once I recognized the key blocks preventing me from being able to champion my own work, I was able to speak up easily.

If you’re still struggling to confidently advocate for yourself, tune in for this week’s episode to learn the 3 blocks that are getting in the way.

The TOP Learnings in this episode: 

• Learning to separate your self-worth from your job and others opinions (7:05)
• Trusting your intuition moves you into self-advocacy (12:07)
• Being clear on what you truly want in your career (14:11)

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Do you feel like you are struggling to have the confidence and charisma to break through the ceiling at work and you’re not sure about what you’re missing? 

Today’s episode is the perfect one for you! 

This week, I interviewed Misa Chien, founder and CEO of The Authentic Asian, and dig into a deep, powerful conversation about the stereotypes Asian women experience and how to overcome them. We also talk about how to build charisma and the connection between self-worth and professional success. 

If you’re feeling unsure of what next steps you need to develop your confidence and charisma at work, Misa offers powerful tools to embrace your authentic self.

The TOP Learnings in this episode: 

• Allowing past experiences to teach you lessons in self-worth 
• Navigating microaggressions and stereotypes in professional settings
• Embracing your self-worth unlocks your charisma
• Building relationships through “riz” (charisma)

Misa Chien is an authentic leader who is known for inspiring others and helping people feel less alone and more connected through positivity and transparency.

Misa’s engaging and charismatic communication style stems from her experience through multiple forms of communication through being on TV, speaking at renowned institutions (Harvard Business School and The Harvard Club), and gracing the runway for brands such as Neutrogena and Target.

Misa's exceptional leadership and entrepreneurial style have propelled her into high demand as a speaker, podcast host, and television personality, and has even earned her the distinction of being ranked as the 23rd most viewed woman on LinkedIn worldwide and #1 most viewed Asian American woman nationwide with 16 million+ views per month.

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Here’s a simple technique to overcome career wounds.

But simple doesn’t mean it’s easy!

It took me years to realize that old career wounds were undermining my confidence and self-worth, and that I had to address them before I could really make my biggest career pivots.

Join me in this episode as I give you my favorite simple hack that you can use to dismantle and recover from career wounds.

If you found this episode helpful, I’d love to hear from you!

The TOP Learnings in this episode: 

• The pressure from a family legacy of holding grudges (3:11)
• The affect career wounds have on decision-making (4:41)
• A powerful hack to freedom (5:30)
• Understanding how your thoughts can manifest your experiences (6:58)

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Have you been considering a pivot from a corporate job to pursue a dream? 

I’m so thrilled to introduce you today to my client Kim Moy, who had spent years in a corporate job, but knew she was being called to something else.

Her biggest block was that she didn’t know how to get there.

In this episode, Kim shares her journey of how receiving support was instrumental in helping her launch her new venture, Caregiver Wisdom, and how she embraced self-care, got insight into perfectionism and saw her self-worth from a completely new perspective.

I am so excited to share this inspiring conversation with you. Make sure to tune in to hear simple strategies to pivot your career and life.

The TOP Learnings in this episode: 

• The importance of self-care and prioritization (8:18)
• Discovering what truly matters to you and living a life of purpose (16:31)
• The power of coaching and therapy (26:56)

Kim Moy is a coach and caregiver support group leader.

She has been a caregiver for nearly 20 years for her husband who has a debilitating chronic illness, and helped take care of her elderly parents until they passed away a few years ago. At one point she was caregiving for her husband and elderly parents, raising two young children, and managing teams at Silicon Valley companies all at the same time.

Last year she launched Caregiver Wisdom, an online venture that offers coaching, community, and content. It includes a monthly support group, a group course called “Thrive as a Caregiver,” 1-on-1 coaching, an online community, and a blog.

She is also a Zen student.

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Originally aired Sept 27, 2023.

Ep. 75: In today’s episode, I am re-airing one of the most popular episodes of all time, Unlocking the Power of Self-Worth — the 4 Main Blocks. If you’re new here, this episode will help you identify the biggest blocks to claiming your self-worth. If you’re a long-time listener, we encourage you to tune in and listen — you never know what new approaches may stand out that you didn’t hear before!

Plus, we wanted to make this episode more FUN and interactive, and have included a BRAND-NEW FREE workbook — Shatter the Blocks and Uncover Your Power. This workbook is designed to help you identify the four biggest blocks to self-worth to finally unlock your power. Make sure to grab it here! >> go.nicoletsong.com/workbook

This episode originally aired at:

https://nicoletsong.com/school-of-self-worth-episode-27-unlocking-the-power-of-self-worth-the-4-main-blocks/

Do you get stopped by the same issues day after day, whether it’s your boss, or your team, or feeling guilty when you do make time for yourself?

If so, this episode was made especially for you!

Today, I dive into the four biggest blocks that often hinder self-worth — these are the ones you definitely WANT to know!

In the episode, I share the essential steps to start to break free from these old patterns. From deep-rooted identity issues to outsourcing your value and battling guilt, you’ll learn the powerful shifts required to leave these patterns behind for good.

The TOP learnings in this episode: 

• Letting go of and shifting identities that no longer serve you 
• Things that may be holding you back from feeling fulfilled in your life 
• Something important that you may find yourself putting off for later 
• How you might be doing self-care wrong 
• A different way to look at time 

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Do you tend to feel overwhelmed, and your motivation has sunk to an all-time low?

Then this is definitely the episode for you! 

Join me as I talk about the three main causes of overwhelm for immigrant daughters, and one powerful, but simple tool, that you can put into practice TODAY to move out of the overwhelm.

The TOP Learnings in this episode: 

• You have a say in the emotions you feel, overwhelm included (2:41)
• The debilitating nature of the Asian Pressure Cycle (5:37)
• The deep pressure of trying to feel worthy (11:27)
• Reprogramming the way you think about your own preferences (14:15)

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If you have spent most of your life trying to speak up, advocate for yourself, and uncover your authentic voice, it’s likely you’ve spent a lot of time being silent.

In this week’s podcast, I spoke with Elaine Lin Hering about this exact topic — and how can individuals and company cultures do more to help women uncover their authentic voice.

Hering, the author of Unlearning Silence: How to Speak Your Mind, Unleash Talent, and Live More Fully,  shares personal experiences that led her to prioritize work over rest, and how she broke through that mentality to learn the art of when to speak up and when silence actually served her.

Join me and Elaine for this powerful conversation around how to navigate rest, productivity, and finding balance between work and life.

If you are seeking to master your authentic voice, then this episode is for you!

The TOP Learnings in this episode: 

• Embracing silence and having agency in life choices (12:52)
• Rethinking speaking up, finding spaces to thrive (15:33)
• The impact that cultural editing and assimilation has on your ability to thrive (28:57)
• Authenticity is key in journalism and teaching (37:43)
• The debilitating cost of silence on your physical and mental well-being (42:03)

Elaine Lin Hering works with organizations and individuals to build skills in communication, collaboration, and conflict management. She has worked on six continents and facilitated executive education at Harvard, Dartmouth, Tufts, UC Berkeley, and UCLA. She is the former Advanced Training Director for the Harvard Mediation Program and lecturer at Harvard Law School. She is the author of the USA Today Bestselling book Unlearning Silence: How to Speak Your Mind, Unleash Talent, and Live More Fully (Penguin, 2024).

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Learn More About Elaine Lin Hering: 

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• Buy her book — Unlearning Silence

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I grew up feeling like I didn’t belong.

Being an outsider started when I was young, and then I spent most of my life trying to prove that I did belong. 

And the more I didn’t feel like I belonged, the worse it got.

Until I made the changes that I share in today’s episode.

This episode is a must-listen if you suffer from imposter syndrome and want a simple tool to feel like you belong in all areas of your life.

The TOP Learnings in this episode: 

• Your identity is key part of creating meaningful change (5:53)
• Giving yourself permission to belong (9:05)
• How being kinder to yourself helps you navigate pressure  (9:59)

If this episode inspired you in some way, take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram stories, and tag @nicoletsong so we can give you a shout-out and thank you for your support!

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