Sean Healy: Tools

This episode follows on from Episode 5 but takes a turn by looking at relationship patterns that disconnect us, frustrate us and despite good intention lead to relationship demise.

This episode combines a number of influences such as Dr John Gottman, author of The Relationship Cure with Joan DeClaire. Nita Tucker the author of Beyond Cinderella, How to Find the Man of Your Dreams and Marry Him, has some great insights into patterns that don’t work. Esther Perel author of Mating in Captivity ideas also influence this podcast and many others.

Drawing form those that have gone before us is of limited value as the world around us is constantly changing.

This podcast focuses on looking at some of the patterns of behaviour that create success in our romantic relationships.

Drawing inspiration and knowledge from people like Esther Perel a 30 year veteran in couples counselling and author of  Mating in Captivity (Unlocking Erotic Intelligence) to provide supportive insights into relationship success.

This episode aims to bring some new focus, and challenge outdated assumptions.

It is a central component to why any relationship with another can continue to grow or dissolve.

Emotional Bids go back and forth between individuals all the time and how you respond or others respond to you is vital to relationship health. Knowing this essential concept can support your intimate primary relationship, business relationships and friendships.

Emotional Bids are part of the work of relationship researcher Dr John Gottman, author of the book The Relationship Cure written with Joan DeClaire.

Anyone wanting to create better connections in their lives need to know about managing Emotional Bids.

Arguments, fights and disagreements are a part of life. When we are in stimulating, challenging environments and relationships different points of view arise.

Through knowing how to disagree and not getting stuck on what we are disagreeing about we can emerge from this moments renewed, rather than frustrated and toxic.

Learning how to have more productive disputes is so valuable to continued forward momentum in relationships and business.

Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries is profoundly valuable.

Boundaries set the parameters of what we deem acceptable and unacceptable

behaviour when dealing with others. This episode looks at boundaries and understanding

more about how to be skilful in setting them.

When we have functional boundaries our connections with others improve and our stress

levels reduce. Special mention to Addictions specialist and author of the book "Set Yourself Free"

Shirley Smith whose work focuses extensively on the subject of Boundaries.

Episode 1 is aimed at providing a strategy for helping to decide what project, activity or people you are going to devote your precious time to engage in. The concept of Absolute Yes or Hell yes comes from the extremely successful entrepreneur and author Derek Sivers as a method for selection of future projects.