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In this insightful episode your host, Tracey Bee, founder of The Divorce Solutionist, former family law attorney, and your go-to pro se strategist — pulls back the curtain on one of the most misunderstood tools in the family court system: mediation. 

Though often seen as a peaceful alternative to litigation, mediation is not a guaranteed fix especially for self-represented litigants. With her trademark candor and deep legal insight, Tracey shares why strategy must be at the core of every mediation attempt, and how blindly entering into mediation could cost you more than you realize — financially, emotionally, and in terms of your case outcomes. 

From cost myths to hidden risks, Tracey emphasizes the importance of knowing your why, having a strategic plan, and vetting your mediator just as carefully as you would a lawyer. Whether you’re court-mandated to try mediation or considering it as a conflict-resolution tool, this episode will reshape how you view the entire process. 

Key Topics Covered: 

• Why Tracey supports mediation — when used strategically
• Common misconceptions: Mediation isn't always faster or cheaper
• When mediation isn’t the right move
• Real talk: $20,000+ mediation bills and what went wrong
• How to vet a mediator and prepare like a pro
• Mediation in co-parenting: setting the stage for long-term collaboration
• Why the “cost-saving” narrative doesn’t always apply to pro se litigants
• Strategy first: How to use mediation to set yourself up for success — not more conflict
• The different types of mediators and why credentials matter
• Power imbalances, DV history, and red flags to watch for

Tracey’s Takeaway:
You don’t need to avoid mediation — but you do need to approach it with clarity, preparation, and a game plan. Pro se doesn’t mean powerless — it means you need to be even more intentional.

🎧 Tune in now and learn how to make mediation work for you — not against you.

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