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In this insightful episode your host, Tracey Bee, founder of The Divorce Solutionist, former family law attorney, and your go-to pro se strategist — pulls back the curtain on one of the most misunderstood tools in the family court system: mediation. 

Though often seen as a peaceful alternative to litigation, mediation is not a guaranteed fix especially for self-represented litigants. With her trademark candor and deep legal insight, Tracey shares why strategy must be at the core of every mediation attempt, and how blindly entering into mediation could cost you more than you realize — financially, emotionally, and in terms of your case outcomes. 

From cost myths to hidden risks, Tracey emphasizes the importance of knowing your why, having a strategic plan, and vetting your mediator just as carefully as you would a lawyer. Whether you’re court-mandated to try mediation or considering it as a conflict-resolution tool, this episode will reshape how you view the entire process. 

Key Topics Covered: 

• Why Tracey supports mediation — when used strategically
• Common misconceptions: Mediation isn't always faster or cheaper
• When mediation isn’t the right move
• Real talk: $20,000+ mediation bills and what went wrong
• How to vet a mediator and prepare like a pro
• Mediation in co-parenting: setting the stage for long-term collaboration
• Why the “cost-saving” narrative doesn’t always apply to pro se litigants
• Strategy first: How to use mediation to set yourself up for success — not more conflict
• The different types of mediators and why credentials matter
• Power imbalances, DV history, and red flags to watch for

Tracey’s Takeaway:
You don’t need to avoid mediation — but you do need to approach it with clarity, preparation, and a game plan. Pro se doesn’t mean powerless — it means you need to be even more intentional.

🎧 Tune in now and learn how to make mediation work for you — not against you.

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.

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The family court battlefield can feel overwhelming, but in this episode, Tracey Bee is arming you with a secret weapon: workarounds. Designed for pro se litigants and anyone looking to take charge of their case, we’re unpacking clever, strategic alternatives to navigate the system without breaking the bank or losing your sanity. Fresh off last week’s deep dive into divorce professionals, Tracy shifts gears to show you how to sidestep—or supplement—those costly services with practical, game-changing solutions.

We’ll cover: 

• Workarounds for attorneys—like limited-scope roles, mediation, or document preparers  
• Budget-friendly alternatives to forensic accountants, from DIY financial sleuthing to affordable apps  
• Sidestepping guardian’s ad litem or custody evaluators with solid evidence and smart prep  
• Co-parenting hacks that don’t require pricey coordinators (hint: mindset matters)  
• How to leverage free resources, from financial literacy webinars to online tools like Glassdoor  

With over two decades of family law wisdom, Tracey delivers actionable tips to boost your confidence and control, whether you’re dodging exorbitant fees or outsmarting courtroom curveballs. Plus, snag her free PDF workaround checklist/guide by emailing [email protected] or [email protected]—your roadmap to staying strategic and empowered.

Episode Chapters:

• Introduction - 00:00
• Recap of Previous Episode: Divorce Professionals - 00:54
• Workarounds for Self-Represented Litigants - 02:46
• Cost-Effective Alternatives to Legal Professionals - 06:47
• Exploring Therapy Alternatives - 16:11
• Real Estate and Vocational Evaluations - 18:30
• Co-Parenting Strategies and Mindset Shifts - 21:39
• Custody Evaluations - 24:13

Tune in now, grab a notebook, and get ready to kick ass in family court with Tracey by your side.

Need more information on how I can help you? Feel free to schedule a FREE 15 min call at www.calendly.com/divorcecoachesq/15min

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.

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In this compelling episode of Self-Represented in Family Court, host Tracey Bee —the only pro se family court strategist — dives into a transformative topic: Artificial Intelligence and its potential in the hands of self-represented litigants. Tracey breaks down how AI is being used across legal professions, but more importantly, how you, the pro se litigant, can ethically and effectively leverage AI to empower your case. From drafting motions to organizing evidence and strategizing with clarity, AI is a tool, not a replacement for your own critical thinking and preparation.

You’ll also hear about Tracey’s upcoming AI for Family Court Workshop on May 21st at 6 PM EST, where she’ll guide attendees through real-world applications and pitfalls of AI in the courtroom.

Key Topics Covered:

• Why AI matters for self-represented litigants
• The limitations of AI in legal strategy
• Risks of submitting AI-generated content without disclosure
• Ethical considerations and transparency in court documents
• How to use AI to:
  
  
  • Draft and edit legal documents
  • Summarize discovery materials
  • Organize evidence and create timelines
  • Clarify legal terminology
• The human touch: Why AI is just a tool, not the driver
• Why Tracey trusts ChatGPT (and what others like Claude & Gemini are better at)

Workshop Info:

Topic: AI in Family Court – How to Use it the Right Way
 Date: May 21, 2025
 Time: 6 PM EST
 Cost: $37 (upgrade for $99 for a custom AI strategy session)
 Limited seats. No legal advice will be given.

Be Part of the Workshop – Sign Up Now! 

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.

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If you've just been served, don’t panic—know what to look for. In this episode, Tracey B breaks down the essential elements to examine when you receive a legal document, motion, or petition in a family court case. 

Whether you're the petitioner or respondent, it's critical to understand the procedural, factual, and substantive grounds on which motions are built. Tracey walks you through the top things to watch out for to protect your rights and respond effectively—especially if you're representing yourself in court. 

We’ll discuss: 
 ✅ The importance of reviewing the court caption for accuracy
 ✅ How to identify whether a motion is procedural or substantive
 ✅ Strategic ways to buy time when errors are found
 ✅ When to consider a legal consultation (and when you might not need one)
 ✅ How to spot misleading or irrelevant “evidence” in attached exhibits
 ✅ Why emotional manipulation is common—and how to stay focused 

🎧 Tune in now and learn how to audit legal documents like a pro so you don’t miss critical deadlines or fall for common courtroom tricks. 

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.

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 Are you a business owner, freelancer, or 1099 contractor navigating divorce without a lawyer? In this episode of Self-Represented in Family Court, Tracey B. dives into the unique challenges—and real opportunities—for self-employed individuals handling their own divorce or custody cases.

Whether you're running an LLC, consulting on the side, or juggling multiple streams of income, this conversation is for YOU. Tracey breaks down how your financial structure impacts your divorce, what documents you must have ready, and how to shift your business mindset into legal strategy mode. 

 📌 Topics covered: 

✅ When being Pro Se does and doesn't make sense 

✅ Mindset shifts needed for business owners going through divorce

✅ Key legal and financial documents to organize

✅ How to protect your credibility and assets without a lawyer 

✅ The truth about representing yourself in high-conflict divorce situations

Whether you’re just starting to think about divorce or already deep in the process, this episode is packed with valuable insights to help you make informed decisions.

🎧 Tune in now and learn how to get the right support for your journey.

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.

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The way divorce services are delivered is evolving, and in this episode, we’re diving into the major shifts happening in the industry. From legal professionals and paralegals to divorce coaches and financial organizers, we explore the different types of support available and how they can help you navigate your divorce more effectively.

We’ll discuss:
✅ The role of attorneys and when to seek legal consultation
✅ How financial professionals, like bookkeepers, can help you stay organized
✅ The rise of divorce coaches—who’s actually helpful and who’s not
✅ The importance of mental health professionals in the divorce process
✅ How to build a strong case as a pro se litigant

Whether you’re just starting to think about divorce or already deep in the process, this episode is packed with valuable insights to help you make informed decisions.

🎧 Tune in now and learn how to get the right support for your journey.

Support the show

Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.

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Have you ever wondered if representing yourself in family court is the right move for you, your family or your goals ? 

In this episode, I dive into the complexities of self-representation in family court cases.  Using my experience as a former family law attorney and mediator, I’ll share my insights on when it makes sense to handle your case on your own and when it’s best to seek professional legal help.

What You'll Learn:

• Understanding Self-Representation: Explore why more individuals are choosing to self-represent, especially in the wake of the pandemic.
• The Bold Move: Discover why self-representing is a courageous choice and the factors that might drive individuals to represent themselves.
• Key Factors to Consider: Learn about the six critical factors that can influence whether self-representing is a suitable option for your case.
• The Role of Research: Emphasis on the importance of conducting thorough research and how it plays a crucial role in successful self-representation.
• Effective Communication: Understanding how to communicate clearly and efficiently is key when self-representing in court.
• Case Types and Complexity: Different case types and complexities can impact the decision to self-represent—Tracey breaks down what you need to know.
• Avoiding Pitfalls: Avoid common traps and mistakes when considering self-representation, especially in high-conflict cases.
• Resources and Support Systems: Identifying available resources and building a strong support system can make or break your self-representation journey.
• Long-term Implications: Consider how your representation choices today can affect future family court cases and outcomes.

If you want to take my quiz to determine if self-representing is for you, feel free to get it here. 

If you need help understanding the results of the quiz or preparing for any stage of your pro se divorce/custody case, don’t forget to schedule a FREE 15 min call TODAY. 

📚 Timestamped overview

00:00 DIY in Family Court?

04:38 Self-Handling Legal Cases Options

08:09 Paid Legal Advice is Best

10:54 Problem-Solving in Legal Cases

14:59 Litigation Challenges in Family Law

19:25 High Conflict Cases: Escalation Dynamics

21:29 Lawyer Influence in Conflict Cases

27:41 Pro Se Risks in Family Court

32:02 Attorney Vetting Services Offered

33:18 Contact and Resources Summary

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.

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Is Your Lawyer Crossing the Line? Ethical or Unethical Practices in Family Court

Do you trust your lawyer's motivations and methods? It's time to take a deeper look. In today’s episode, we dissect the fine line between ethical and unethical practices by lawyers in family courts, especially when emotions and tensions run high.

This episode dives into a contentious issue many overlook or misunderstand: how lawyers maneuver within family court settings. I invite you to explore the behind-the-scenes tactics that could alter the trajectory of your case, revealing how the actions of your lawyer and their counterparts can impact your family court experience.

What You'll Learn:

• The ethical boundaries lawyers must adhere to when contacting parties, and what to do when those lines are blurred. 
• Distinguishing between unprofessional and unethical practices by family lawyers. 
• Why your lawyer’s approach can make or break your case – and how to determine if they are truly on your side. 
• The importance of understanding ethical rules specific to your jurisdiction and the challenges of filing complaints. 
• The critical role of strategy in self-representation, even when represented by counsel. 
• How to effectively use AI in family court, when it can be beneficial, and the potential pitfalls. 
• Why family court is akin to a chess game and the necessity of preparing for your opponent's moves. 
• The emotional and professional dynamics influencing family lawyers’ performance in court.

📚 Timestamped overview

00:00 Unethical Lawyer Contact Controversy

05:01 Lawyer Texting Clients: Ethical Concerns

09:17 Filing Complaints Against Lawyers

10:36 Challenges of Pro Se Litigants

14:45 Filing Complaints Against Lawyers

19:20 Question Your Legal Strategy

23:25 Unethical Lawyer Impact Explained

26:31 Lawyers' Challenges in Family Cases

29:54 "Strategize: Filing Complaints Wisely"

33:48 Empowering Family Court Course

37:02 Lifetime Access Family Court Course

38:18 Family Court Strategy Insights

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.

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In this episode of Self Represented in Family Court, I’m diving deep into the power of strategy in family court proceedings. Whether you're representing yourself or working with legal counsel, having a solid strategy—and the right support—is key to navigating this complex system successfully.

Family court isn't something you should go through alone. In this episode, I’ll break down the different types of support—emotional, financial, and beyond—that help you stay focused and objective. From professionals to community groups and online resources, having the right people in your corner can make all the difference.

What You’ll Learn:

🔹 How to identify and embrace support systems that strengthen your emotional, mental, and physical well-being.
🔹 The importance of setting realistic short-term and long-term goals to stay on track.
🔹 Why understanding the other party’s objectives can help you position your case strategically.
🔹 How to recognize and navigate external challenges using available resources.
🔹 The importance of having a contingency plan in place for unexpected situations.
🔹 Creative ways to find support—whether through personal connections, online groups, or local resources.
🔹 The dangers of isolation during court proceedings and how to avoid them.
🔹 Why emotional stability is crucial in court and how strong support systems can help you maintain clarity and focus.
🔹 How online and in-person support groups can provide a sense of community and shared experience.

Join me as I break down these essential strategies and share insights to help you move through family court with confidence and support.

📚 Timestamped overview

00:00 "Family Court Strategy & Support"

06:50 Strategic Planning and Resource Utilization

09:11 Prepare Support for Family Court

11:59 Seeking Support Through Various Channels

16:49 Divorce Support Meetup Groups

21:21 Finding Suitable Support Resources

22:36 Caution: Avoid Unqualified Legal Advice

25:41 Family Court Strategy Podcast

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.

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Navigating family court can deplete you of every ounce of energy, every sense of sanity and every dime you have, especially when you're representing yourself. In my latest episode of Self Represented in Family Court, I spend time going into details about the realities of managing legal costs and share practical workaround tactics to minimize or avoid some of these costs. Having a clear understanding of the legal costs associated with your Family Court case should be an integral part of your overall strategy. 

📌 Here’s what you’ll take away:

• Understand All Potential Costs: From filing fees to process server charges and mediation expenses, it’s important to plan ahead for the financial aspects of your case. Knowing what to expect can help you avoid delays or surprises along the way.
• Use Legal Consultations Efficiently: Free consultations often only scratch the surface. Instead, invest in at least two paid consultations with reputable attorneys. It’s worth it to get tailored advice and a variety of perspectives for your case.
• Strategically Allocate Your Resources: Whether it’s hiring a private investigator, using specialized apps, or working with a strategist, focus your spending on the tools and services that will have the biggest impact on your case outcome.

Tune in to learn more about strategies that include how to navigate the enormous legal costs,  how to gain the confidence you need to present the best case possible despite these costs and how to create the best Gameplan incorporating these costs.  

📚 Timestamped overview

00:00 Family Court Legal Costs Overview

03:52 Assessing Costs in Decision-Making

07:57 Affordable Legal Consultations Guide

10:29 Process Server Costs Explained

15:45 Court Mediation Costs and Alternatives

19:46 First Court Appearance: Temporary Orders Explained

21:49 Gathering Evidence for Court Cases

24:46 FOIA Request Costs Explained

28:44 Caution: Choosing Coaches and Experts

33:45 Strategic Moves to Avoid Regret

36:03 Court Fees Challenge for Pro Se Litigants

40:40 Beware Emotional Financial Decisions

42:42 Trial Stage: Scrutiny and Preparation

45:36 Cost Challenges of Legal Appeals

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

Need help in handling your Family Court case on your own?

We have services that are specifically geared toward helping self-represented litigants like you understand the common mistakes that lead to the most disappointing outcomes.

To find out more about our services and to stay informed of our FREE workshops by joining our email & visit us at www.TheDivorceSolutionist.com.