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Most litigants lose in Family Court for reasons they never even see coming. In this episode, I’m breaking down the hidden blind spots that can quietly sabotage your case—even when you think it’s airtight. Whether you’re representing yourself, stuck between attorneys, or even working with that so-called “bulldog” lawyer, these blind spots show up.

We’re going to talk about tunnel vision, overconfidence, misunderstanding procedure, misjudging your specific judge, underestimating opposing counsel, and even letting your emotions run the show. I’ll show you how these traps form, and more importantly, how you can close them before they destroy your case.

You’ll also hear why pages of receipts don’t equal a strategy, how two cases that look the same on paper can require totally different approaches, and why I always say Family Court is 80% strategy and only 20% law or procedure. I’ll give you practical fixes you can start using this week—how to research your state’s procedural rules, how to read your judge’s preferences, ways to anticipate your opponent’s next move, and how to keep your emotions in check so your strategy stays sharp.

📍 Episode Timeline

• 00:00 — Welcome + why blind spots sink even “airtight” cases
• 01:00 — Out-leveled: when judges & opponents play chess while you play checkers
• 02:05 — Why receipts, texts, and docs ≠ strategy
• 03:05 — Tunnel vision & overconfidence with “bulldog” attorneys
• 05:10 — Emotional bias & framing the wrong problem
• 06:20 — Blind Spot #1: Procedural (deadlines, discovery, judge quirks)
• 08:45 — Rules vs. reality: exceptions and courtroom variability
• 09:55 — Blind Spot #2: Opponent/Opposing Counsel (anticipation is strategy)
• 11:40 — What good lawyers should do—and when to fire one
• 12:35 — Blind Spot #3: Emotional (regulation before cognition)
• 13:40 — Blind Spot #4: Strategy (why plans flip and whiplash)
• 15:55 — How to fix procedural gaps with research & AI (the right way)
• 18:05 — Closing the Judge Gap: observation, proxies, paid intel
• 19:55 — Closing the Opponent Gap: patterns, PI-mindset, social data
• 21:00 — Closing the Emotional Gap: therapy, support, mindfulness, routine
• 22:10 — Closing the Strategy Gap with my ADVOCATE Method
• 23:20 — Why 80% of family court is strategy (and how to use that)
• 24:00 — Call to action + how to connect with me

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Family Court can be traumatic! And trying to handle your case on your own can be even more catastrophic. There are twists & turns at every stage that you need to be aware of and to prepare for. Having a solid Gameplan and someone to help you execute it effectively can make all the difference in the Universe (not just the world.) We know all about the bias, corruption, and dysfunction being handed out by the system. We just want you to have a fighting chance by leveling the playing field.

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