They say people only change if they want to - so when I came to an impasse I chose to change. That kicked off many changes. Change does not need to be daunting, it can be done slowly. Through motivation, showing up for yourself, and taking small steps in the new direction you will find discipline to better yourself or choose better for yousrelf.

This Valentine's Day I was thinking about a different love to celebrate, Self Love.

For a lot of us, it is hard to stop and take the time to check-in with ourselves. Make sure that the things we are doing, the situations and relationships we are in are right for us.

So I took a look back at my younger self, my friend's recent dissolving of a relationship and my indulgence in self love.

Poem credit: After a While - Veronica A. Shoffstall

One minute things are calm and still and the next minute the phone rings and your peace is up-ended. After that call you are left uncomfortable, anxious even and left feeling dysregulated. Here are some stories and how I found my way out.

What happens when you have given to all, your work, your family and your relationships, well you may find yourself, like me, reaching the last stop - Emotional burnout.

When over-investing and showing up, in all ways, costs you.

The more relationships you get in and get out of the more patterns start to show. You see what it takes to keep something going or what you gave to get and it becomes clear and so does the cost of these connections. From this you realize what matters to you.

When you ask yourself "What do you want, really" you have to accept what your life is, what it isn't and what you would have to try, change and walk away from to get what it is that you see for yourself.

What is your personal style? Have you given that much thought? I hadn't and then that changed.

What is your true nature, your essence? For some of us we always know it and for others, me included, we have to discover it through awareness and what feels right.

When you are in a toxic relationship or environment and you start to realize that wake up, what does that mean