Secular Sexuality

What do you call a baker without an oven, a butcher who turns vegan or a plumber that doesn’t… plumb? How about someone who is alosexual and between relationships or a swinger who doesn’t swing? This week Helen Greene from Recovering From Religion joins Nate and Christy in understanding monogamous bisexuals, single poly people and dusty and rusty personal adjectives. Identity politics, unused labels and your calls on this week’s SecX!
► Jump-start your recovery at https://www.RecoveringFromReligion.org/
► Dive deeper into the episode and find more information at https://www.vcatx.com/media/passing
Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want from Sex--and How to Get It by Marty Klein
Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski

Love is love, whether you make it while looking into someone’s eyes or clean it up with a mop and bucket. That holds true no matter how many whips, chains or octopus dildos we involve but as we work to untangle the web of love and sex and god it’s natural to lose the thread. This week The Non-Prophets’ own P*ck joins Christy in sorting through the often tricky and always sticky strings that bind us together in caregiver-little relationships. Everything from mommydommes to playful puppys, loving relationships and silly sex plus your calls on this week’s episode of Secular Sexuality!

Purity Culture. Homophobia. Organ music. There’s a lot to despise about religion and the trauma that it creates but in between dunking on theists and working to unplug minds from the religious Matrix there’s healing to be had. Janice Selby, a religious trauma therapist and Conference on Religious Trauma organizer joins the show to walk Christy and Nate through the therapeutic process, to talk about the future of religious trauma healing and to offer some advice on how we can all help, plus your calls!
►Find Janice on Twitter @Wise_Counsellor and CORT at https://pheedloop.com/CORT/site/home
► Dive deeper into the episode and find healing at https://www.vcatx.com/media/cort2021
Leaving the Fold: A Guide for Former Fundamentalists and Others Leaving Their Religion by Marlene Winell
https://journeyfree.org/
https://www.godlessmom.com/podcast

After to much time beating around the bush and conversations with some of the most successful legal sex-workers of our era, it’s past time we discuss the decriminalization of sex work. Why is sex legal until it costs money? Why are sex workers adamant that legalization will lead to even greater injustice? What wind is the political wind blowing and please won’t anyone think of the children? Jack Parker joins the show to answer these questions, your questions and more!

On a scale of Marsha P. Johnson to Tyler Perry, just how is queer acceptance progressing in black communities? And does that change if you believe in heaven or ride Lil Nas X’s pole down to Montero? Black Nonbeliever, atheist and activist Kevon Cameron joins Rudy Bee and Christy in breaking down the double duty of racism and homophobia inside and outside of black churches, and to recommend a way away from hate across queer culture, plus your calls!

►Find Kevon and Black Nonbelievers, Inc. @BlackNonbelievers or at https://blacknonbelievers.org/

► Dive deeper into the episode and learn more about homophobia and black communities at https://www.vcatx.com/media/blackhomophobia

We’ve all got dirty laundry and while SecX viewers’ may be a bit uh, stickier, then most that’s nothing to be ashamed of. Sex is perfectly natural and while adult diapers and blackmail fantasies may be anything but, the impulses are and that’s kind of the point anyway, right? But how do you unpack all that baggage and lay out your kinks and quirks, whether in front of a partner or a professional? Amberly Rothfield, phone sex operator and adult industry consultant, has heard it all returns to the show to talk about boundaries, communication and dirty little secrets, not to mention your calls!

►Find Amberly on Twitter @AmberlyPSO and online at https://amberlyrothfield.com/

► Dive deeper into the episode and find more dirty laundry at https://www.vcatx.com/media/unpackingkink

‘The Business Of Sex’ https://www.vcatx.com/media/amberlyrothfield

In our ongoing quest to explore the spectrums of life and trick people into googling the phrase ‘bimodal distribution’ we return again this week to the spaces between. Author Dianna Anderson, enby writer of Damaged Goods: New Perspectives on Christian Purity and Problematic: How Toxic Callout Culture Is Destroying Feminism joins Rudy Bee and Christy in discussing their new work on the history of non-binary culture. Join us between the poles and connect with the past, plus your calls!

►Find Dianna’s books at http://diannaeanderson.net/ and their sick twitter burns @diannaeanderson

► Dive deeper into the episode and learn more at https://www.vcatx.com/media/enbynity



Stone Butch Blues

Novel by Leslie Feinberg



Transforming: The Bible and the Lives of Transgender Christians

Book by Austen Hartke



The Way We Never Were

Book by Stephanie Coontz

Come one come all to see these April Fools! This week’s High-Flying High-Falutin Secular Sexuality Cross Over Sextacular combines the mild-mannered reporting of the ACA’s The Non-Prophets with the wild and bawdy bacchanal SecX delivers each and every week. See the gender queers and sexy freaks as they take on the challenges of the modern news cycle and calls from our salacious spectators with special guest Johnny P Angel! It’ll be a hoot and a half you won’t soon forget!

►Catch The Non-Prophets and Christy’s special guest appearance Sundays at 3p CT https://www.youtube.com/c/TheNonProphetsACA

► Dive deeper into the episode and these articles at https://www.vcatx.com/media/tnpsextacular

Porn IS LIKE GOLF https://youtu.be/DLZZXbphQhI

Today we’re joined by two long-time viewers of Secular Sexuality, Dishonest Ape and Ragabash Dabbler. These two lovebirds found each other in the live chat and were able to find love in the time of COVID thanks to Christy and Vi. Let’s get to know them and share in their journey!

Do you ever wish things could be just a little bit… gayer? I mean whether you’re gay, straight or anywhere else on the spectrum it feels like there should be a little bit more breathing room then what super-straight stoicism allows for, or atleast a La Bianca Loophole. With so many new adjectives and labels available (hello poly viking power bottoms) why are so many of us rushing to the extreme ends of the spectrum? Join Christy, Vi and Arden of Eden as we work to untangle some toxically black and white thinking around who we are and who and how we love, plus your calls!

►Find Arden of Eden on Twitter @Arden_of_Eden and catch Trans Atlantic at 5p CT on The Line at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIv3LvN_0CNzMpSrTF9naNA
► Dive deeper into the episode and find more research at https://www.vcatx.com/media/heteronormativity