If you grew up believing that you were inherently sinful and had fallen short of the glory of god or were told that your thoughts were disgustingly perverted you are, among many other things, the perfect SecX fan. Still no one could blame you for wanting to keep some of that in the dark no matter how sex positive you’ve worked to be. Learning to accept our shadow self is at the heart of Jungian psychology, but what can that seemingly mystical science of the last century offer us today? Andy Lane returns to the show to teach Christy about the mysteries of sex and shadow, plus your calls and what’s turning us on this week!

- Find what’s turning us on and more shownotes at https://www.vcatx.com/media/shadow

Contrary to message boards and drunk uncles everywhere trans identities have always been baked into our DNA and present in our society. Revisionist histories and burned books have often failed to highlight these stories which is why it is such a privilege to have the opportunity to host the ACA’s own Stephanie Helms.

Join Nate and Arden as we explore the personal and the passionate in Stephanie’s life as a preacher's kid, a sailor and an athlete while navigating a world of bigotry and confusion. Her story plus your calls and what’s turning us on this week!

If there’s a more pure pleasure then loving, touching and squeezing research scientists and ancient mystics have yet to find it. Such a foundational, basic human desire surely needs no introduction, and yet for something so truly important we lack even the most basic training or professional expertise. Maybe that’s why paid cuddle parties and professional cuddlists are popping up everywhere- but what can we really learn about our most primitive language? Sundeep Arole joins Christy and Nate to discuss the life and times of a professional cuddle artist, plus your calls and what’s turning us on this week!

Brains are weird, even and especially the good ones. And while we learn more about them every day, perhaps the greatest insight of the last generation is the idea that there aren’t any bad ones, just different types of weird and good, typical and queer. Whether your brain is perfectly conventional or remarkably Abby Normal join us as Miss O Kissed takes us on a journey about neuroqueering and divergence from the pathology model- all that plus your calls and of course what’s turning us on this week!

I mean, I get it. If there wasn’t something kind of magical about looking deeply into the eyes of someone you love or hearing them shout “oh GOD” at just the right moment, none of us would bother talking about love and sex and god for an hour and a half every week. For literally thousands of years people have insisted that there’s something not just profound, not just spiritual or even transcendent but actually divine about the love we make and share. Psychotherapist and writer Melissa Hargrave returns to the show to teach Christy about the history of these mystical practices and to join a skeptical conversation about the wonder and power of love, all that plus what’s turning us on this week and your calls!

“Put your feet up and slide down the table” types and “turn your head and cough” people clearly have different medical needs. And since no matter how you experience or present your gender the basic biological hardware generally comes in two fashions, it stands to reason that a two check box system would have our medical forms covered. How well those boxes capture the beauty of human beings and the latest buzz in non-binary healthcare brings writer and researcher Dianna Anderson back to the show to take your calls and talk about what’s turning us on this week.

If there’s anything the internet is good for it’s nuanced political discussions about which lives matter and responsibly teaching your children about sexuality. But since PewdiePie can’t do all the heavy lifting and we have no idea how to use TikTok we thought we’d go in a slightly less men’s rights direction for ways to talk to kids about birds, bees, bears, otters, twinks and the nature of sex. This week Christy Powell is joined by Laura Magee and Helen Greene for a conversation about parenting beyond belief and talking to your kids about (secular) sexuality, plus what’s turning us on this week and your calls!

Like VHS and the internet before it, Only Fans was pioneered by the hard working lunch-pail no-collar mentality of dedicated performers and artisans. Considering our politicians and culture struggle to understand the goods and services this under-studied industry sector entails, SecX decided to go a little deeper with one of our favorite sinners. P*ck and Christy celebrate adult studio owner and performer Sinn Sage’s return to the show to talk to fans and skeptics alike about the ins and outs of porn production, plus your calls!

It’s no small feat to stare down thousands of years of human culture and perhaps a lifetime of Sunday School before proudly declaring “There Is No GOD.” Whether you’ve taken that step or not it’s an entirely different thing to look at your marriage and accept “they are not my soulmate” or “no amount of sex is going to fundamentally change me as a human” or perhaps harder still “my relationship ended- and it still mattered.” The trappings of purity culture and a christian worldview don’t always die easy and that’s okay- healing is an aspiration, not a destination. Here to help us on our journey is Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist Emily Maynard, joining Christy in taking your calls and deconstructing the myths, assumptions and expectations of a dated worldview. Catch the episode live and be sure to call in for a purity culture deconstruction deep dive on August 19th’s SecX!

This may not shock you but after 3 years of taking calls about sex from the internet, we’ve heard a thing or two. Is this okay? Is this normal? Is this weird, but like in a good way? In all that time our #1 question is usually some form of “I just found out I’m X… how do I tell Y?” Noah Garcia of the NextQuest Podcast is a psychotherapist and transition mentor with more than a little insight on the matter. Catch the episode as he joins Nate and Christy in cleaning out the closet and staying safe in a tangled world of complicated adjectives, public bathrooms and family prayers. All that plus your calls on tonight’s Secular Sexuality!
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Unpacking Your Kinks (https://www.vcatx.com/media/unpackingkink)
Dating (As) An Atheist Activist (https://www.vcatx.com/media/atheistdating)