Secular Sexuality

Tonight, we're going to turn our attention to some of our nearest relatives in the tree of life - primates. Our special guest, primatology student Erika aka Gutsick Gibbon, is here to share some insight on primate sexuality. What behaviors have been called 'unnatural' by conservatives, but we actually see running rampant in nature? What can we learn about human sexuality by studying primate sexuality? Find out the answers to all this and more on an episode that's more fun than a barrel of....nope. not gonna go there.

Admittedly, shadowbanning and deplatforming sound a little like fake 21st century problems. Imagine explaining to your psychiatrist that models, politicians and *ahem* sexually educational talk shows may be secretly held back from their audience or selectively prevented from communicating in the digital world. But since truth is stranger than fiction and SecX just so happens to have an absolute data boss on hand we thought we’d poke behind the curtain and seek to understand why so many sex workers are being shut out of the modern marketplace. It’s digital conspiracies and sexy mysteries with Christy, Nate and Amberly plus your calls!
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They say that happiness is like peeing on yourself- other people can see what’s going on but only you can feel the warmth. At the same time, here at SecX we’d like to think that we’re just happy you’re happy- gay/straight, mono/poly, ace or aro. If only there was a word for such a thing… join the conversation as Christy, Nate and P*ck examine the poly-centered concept of compersion and consider the art of happiness, jealousy, autonomy and control. All that, dumb jokes and your calls!

►Expand your vocabulary or dive deeper into the episode at https://www.vcatx.com/media/compersion

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Tribal drums don’t bring rain anymore than claps bring Tinkerbell back to life or diet coke keeps Matt Dillahunty from hanging up on your ass. Fake or not, it’s kind of amazing how many cultures and ultimately religions rely on music, dancing and rhythm to occasion the divine and the power of song to elicit a mystical experience shouldn’t be slept on. Recording artist and former Music Minister Ro joins Christy and Amberly this week to discuss the magic of music and the hustlers of Hamelin, walking us through the tricks of the trade, all that plus your calls!

Finding a good therapist is hard- half the counselors on TV are weirdo crackpots, the other half are frauds and yet somehow I’d rather tell my secrets to most of them than half of the faces and blurbs I find on the internet. Dr. Crane? Dr. Jacoby? Dr. Lectur? Hold up- is my therapist supposed to be a doctor? With all the many ways religion, love and life can leave us nicked and cut it’s no wonder that many of us are looking for a healing professional, but which one? And why? This week SecX’s resident sex therapist Christy Powell is joined by counselors Dr. Darrel Ray and Andy Lane in a conversation about therapy, therapists and the hunt. It’s matchmaking for your brain plus your questions and calls on this week's Secular Sexuality!

Your charming smile, your graceful moves, your enormous pe-rsonality- totally natural to have a little performance anxiety from time to time. But what do you do when sex itself has you nervous or worse yet, your anxiety encroaches in on an already fragile sexuality? Writer and Hill Country Therapist Melissa Hargrave joins P*ck and Christy in exploring our un- sexiest fears and unlocking a world of erotic relaxation, all that plus your calls in this therapist led ‘very special episode’ of SecX!

►Relax, don’t do it, when you wanna go to it for more at https://www.vcatx.com/media/anxietyandsex

Whether you are gently whispering those three little words into your lover’s ear or passionately yelling “TAKE IT ALL” our voice does more than set the mood, it lets people know who we are and what we have to say to the world. The tiniest muscles, bones and hairs help to make up this remarkably precise and diverse communication system empowering humans to not just communicate but co-regulate in ways we are just beginning to understand despite millions of years of practice. This week returning hero Serafina Smith introduces us to speech language pathologist Tallulah Breslin to better understand our voices and ourselves plus your calls!

‘LESBIAN’ is perhaps the number one porn search term of all time (which, honestly, has to put it in the top 5 key words on the internet right?) and yet there is very little PRIDE to be found in our search results. Girl-on-girl content generally seems to be like most everything else online and off- straight, white and male centered. What’s a horny lesbian to do? Christy is joined by adult industry expert Amberly Rothfield in a conversation with the ACA’s newest favorite sinner- studio owner and 2 time AVN award winner Sinn Sage. Catch our conversation about strap-ons, the male gaze and the economics of porn plus your calls!

Whether we attend therapy on a sofa, a zoom call, or if we are exploring sexual dimensions, sex and relationship counseling is for useful for everyone. While we disagree on more of the out there claims, we welcome an interesting conversation with our guest tonight. Lianna Walden is a sex and relationship coach and is joined by Nate and Rudy. Tonight we explore the depths of sex and relationships along with the more “spiritual” practices in some counseling sessions.

Find more from Lianna Walden at https://www.liannawaldencoaching.com/

► Jump-start your recovery at https://www.RecoveringFromReligion.org/

Nate’s Link Corner:

Is past-life regression ethical?

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/323025125_Is_past_life_regression_therapy_ethical

Past Life Regression: Secondary Identity enactments during hypnotic past-life regression

https://doi.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2F0022-3514.61.2.308.

Evidence-based Guideline: Treatment of painful diabetic neuropathy

https://n.neurology.org/content/neurology/76/20/1758.full.pdf

Effects of Reiki in clinical practice

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1742-1241.2008.01729.x

If this year has taught us anything, it’s that for better or for worse, the world we’ve created doesn’t look like the one we were born into. There is little in our evolutionary history that has prepared us for Zoom meetings and 4chan conspiracies and while the next big idea may be just around the corner it’s worth remembering that our culture isn’t necessarily in step with our biology. What this means for the way we understand gender is anybody’s guess but this week Kara Griffin from Recovering From Religion joins Arden and Christy in exploring enby identities through different cultural lenses, unpacking our assumptions and taking your calls!