Secured Healed Evolved: SHE

By Angie Martinez

Welcome to Secure Healed & Evolved, the podcast where we ditch the damsel in distress act and embrace our inner warriors. Join us as we journey from anxious attachment to a rock-solid, secure core... more

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Secured Healed Evolved: SHE episodes:

August 05, 2024Ep. 6 | Playing Game's in Relationships- How it Works: Spoiler Alert! It Doesn't!
Summary
In this episode, Angie discusses the topic of playing games in relationships. She explains what game playing looks like, why people engage in these behaviors, and how they can be detrimental to relationships. Angie emphasizes the importance of authenticity and vulnerability in overcoming game playing behaviors. She suggests building self-awareness, enhancing self-esteem, and practicing healthy communication skills as ways to combat game playing. Angie also encourages listeners to act from their highest selves and make choices that align with their authentic needs and values.
Keywords
playing games, relationships, authenticity, vulnerability, ego, self-awareness, self-esteem, healthy communication, highest self
Takeaways
Game playing in relationships involves manipulation or deceptive behaviors intended to gain power, control, or validation.

Game playing is often driven by fear, insecurity, low self-worth, a need for control, fear of abandonment, past traumas, and learned behaviors.

Overcoming game playing requires authenticity, vulnerability, self-awareness, healthy communication, and enhancing self-esteem.

Acting from one's highest self involves making choices that align with authentic needs and values.

Authenticity and vulnerability are essential for building genuine connections and maintaining healthy relationships.

Chapters
00:00
Introduction and Announcement
02:23
Teaser for Coaching Program
06:36
What Game Playing Looks Like
10:20
Understanding the Reasons Behind Game Playing
18:00
Ultimatums and Keeping Score
22:34
Emotional Manipulation
35:40
Overcoming Game Playing with Authenticity
46:54
Acting from Your Highest Self

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54min
July 31, 2024Ep. 5 | Ten Things I'd Do Differently if I Was to Rework My Healing Era
In this episode, Angie shares 10 things she would do differently if she were reworking her healing journey. She emphasizes the importance of seeking help and not trying to do it all on your own. She also highlights the significance of earning self-respect rather than solely focusing on learning to love oneself. Addressing shame head-on and not wasting time comparing oneself to others are other key points she discusses. Angie also advises against trying to fix or change others and not wasting time trying to catch someone in a lie. She encourages embracing oneself, flaws and all, and taking responsibility for one's own life instead of blaming others. Lastly, she advises against wasting time trying to explain oneself to others.
Keywords
healing journey, seeking help, self-respect, shame, comparison, fixing others, embracing oneself, taking responsibility, explaining oneself
Takeaways
Seeking help and not trying to do it all on your own is important in the healing journey.

Earning self-respect is more important than solely focusing on learning to love oneself.

Addressing shame head-on is crucial for personal growth.

Comparing oneself to others is a waste of time and energy.

Trying to fix or change others is not one's responsibility.

Embracing oneself, flaws and all, is essential for self-acceptance.

Taking responsibility for one's own life instead of blaming others is empowering.

Trying to catch someone in a lie is exhausting and unproductive.

Not wasting time explaining oneself to others is liberating and self-affirming.
Chapters
00:00
Introduction and Explanation for Delayed Episode
02:23
Topic: 10 Things I Would Do Differently in My Healing Journey
05:15
Chapter 1: Not Trying to DIY It
12:28
Chapter 2: Earning Self-Respect vs. Learning to Love Oneself
18:42
Chapter 3: Addressing Shame Head-On
22:56
Chapter 4: Not Trying to Fix or Change Others
26:28
Chapter 5: Not Trying to Outrun Oneself
29:42
Chapter 6: Avoiding the Trap of Comparison
32:04
Chapter 7: Embracing Oneself, Flaws and All
35:29
Chapter 8: Taking Responsibility for One's Own Life
38:30
Chapter 9: Not Wasting Time Trying to Catch Someone in a Lie
41:41
Chapter 10: The Liberation of Not Explaining Oneself to Others

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55min
July 23, 2024Ep. 4 | The Dependency Paradox: Why Dependency Isn't a Bad Word
In this episode, Angie discusses the concept of dependency and the dependency paradox in the context of anxious attachment. She emphasizes that dependency is a normal and natural desire as human beings, and it is healthy when practiced in the right doses. Angie explains that being dependent on others actually increases our independence. She highlights the importance of practicing vulnerability and taking risks in order to become secure. By being present in the moment and trusting in ourselves, we can build unbreakable relationships and pursue our passions.
Keywords
dependency, dependency paradox, anxious attachment, vulnerability, practice, present moment, trust, unbreakable relationships, pursue passions
Takeaways
Dependency is a normal and natural desire as human beings, and it is healthy when practiced in the right doses.

Being dependent on others actually increases our independence.

Practicing vulnerability and taking risks is essential to becoming secure.

Being present in the moment and trusting in ourselves allows us to build unbreakable relationships and pursue our passions.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Dropping into the Episode
06:13 Understanding the Dependency Paradox
10:56 The Internal Battle of Anxious Attachment
15:52 The Importance of Practicing Vulnerability
21:22 You Are Not Your Attachment Style
31:14 Dependency as a Catalyst for Independence
36:31 Closing Remarks and Call to Action
37:24 Connect with Angela Martinez and Access Exclusive Content
38:02 Join the Exclusive Free Facebook Group for Live Coaching Calls
38:31 Explore a Wealth of Free Resources
38:59 Expressing Gratitude and Farewell
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40min
July 15, 2024 Ep. 3 | How to Regulate your Nervous & Attachment Systems & Enact Secure Behaviors
In this episode, Angie discusses the importance of regulating our attachment and nervous systems. She explains that our attachment system is designed to help us form bonds and seek closeness with caregivers for safety and emotional support. However, when we have an anxious attachment style, our attachment system can become hypersensitive and activated when it shouldn't be. Similarly, our nervous system can become dysregulated, leading to heightened anxiety and reactivity. Angie provides strategies for regulating these systems, including mindfulness and meditation, deep breathing, grounding techniques, physical activity, and social support.

Keywords
attachment system, nervous system, regulation, anxious attachment, mindfulness, meditation, deep breathing, grounding techniques, physical activity, social support

Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Housekeeping
04:39 Understanding the Attachment System
08:25 The Role of the Nervous System
12:46 Managing Activation: Putting Distance and Checking In
27:45 Strategies for Regulating the Nervous System
49:33 Conclusion and Next Episode Preview
51:44 Connect with Angela Martinez and Access Exclusive Content
52:22 Join the Exclusive Free Facebook Group for Live Coaching Calls
52:51 Explore a Wealth of Free Resources
53:19 Expressing Gratitude and Farewell

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54min
July 09, 2024Ep. 2 The Real Reason You Keep Attracting Unavailable Men
In this episode, Angie discusses the real reason why you keep attracting unavailable partners.
She explains that it is not because there is something wrong with you, but rather because it reinforces your beliefs about yourself and relationships.
Angie emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and self-reflection in breaking the cycle of attracting unavailable partners. She encourages listeners to focus on becoming their ideal person and developing secure behaviors.
Angie also highlights the significance of practicing open communication, setting healthy boundaries, and engaging in self-soothing techniques to manage triggers.
Keywords: attracting unavailable partners, self-awareness, self-reflection, beliefs about oneself, beliefs about relationships, becoming the ideal person, developing secure behaviors, open communication, healthy boundaries, self-soothing techniques, managing triggers
Takeaways:
The reason why you keep attracting unavailable partners is because it reinforces your beliefs about yourself and relationships.

Self awareness and self reflection are crucial in breaking the cycle of attracting unavailable partners.

Focus on becoming your ideal person and developing secure behaviors.

Practice open communication, set healthy boundaries, and engage in self-soothing techniques to manage triggers.
00:00 Introduction
03:26 Breaking the Cycle: Self-Awareness and Self-Reflection1
2:25 Becoming Your Ideal Person: Developing Secure Behaviors
37:29 Managing Triggers: Self-Soothing Techniques
40:27Conclusion
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46min
July 02, 2024 Where it all starts: Understanding how attachment styles are formed and the basics of each style
In this episode I cover the basics, but NOT TO WORRY, this podcast is anything but remedial! I promise! In episode one we dig into how our our childhood experiences influence our relational patterns as adults and learn about characteristics of the different attachment styles. I also touch on my personal childhood experiences and how I didn't recognize the impact of those experiences until adulthood. So, get comfy and push play while we begin this healing journey together.
To your massive evolution,
Xo Angie
I am f*cking rooting for you!!

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57min

FAQs about Secured Healed Evolved: SHE:

How many episodes does Secured Healed Evolved: SHE have?

The podcast currently has 16 episodes available.