Self-Belief Podcast | ADHD, Self-Doubt & Overthinking

Have you ever walked into a room and forgotten why you went there, or lost your train of thought halfway through a conversation? In this episode of The Self-Belief Podcast, Jenny Field explores ADHD, trauma and working memory, sharing why thoughts and everyday tasks can disappear even when they matter deeply to you. Through her own experiences, she shares simple ways to manage forgetfulness, reduce overwhelm and build greater self-understanding without blaming yourself.

• Working memory

• Everyday forgetfulness

• Competing thoughts

• Helpful reminders

• Greater self-understanding

This episode will answer:

• Why do I forget what I was doing?

• Why do I walk into a room and forget why?

• Why do people with ADHD forget things?

• What is working memory in ADHD?

• Why do I lose my train of thought?

• Can ADHD affect short-term memory?

• Why do I forget things that are important to me?

• How does trauma affect working memory?

• Why do I forget what I was saying mid-sentence?

• Why do I start tasks and not finish them?

• Does overwhelm make forgetfulness worse?

• How can I improve my working memory with ADHD?

• Why do I need so many reminders?

• What is body doubling for ADHD?

• Why do I interrupt people when I have ADHD?

Explore Related Episodes

Episode 147: What Happens When You Have Both ADHD and Trauma

Jenny explores how ADHD and trauma can overlap, and how understanding both can change the way you see your reactions, needs and past experiences.

https://open.spotify.com/episode/1FmlNen06fYyq

Episode 152: Sensory Overload – When Everything Becomes Too Much to Process

Jenny explores how sensory overload can build, why it can lead to overwhelm and the importance of recognising when things are becoming too much.

https://open.spotify.com/episode/7DGulsnO06P8QA3qw2GmZf

Episode 153: Why Simple Tasks Can Feel So Hard | ADHD and Trauma

Jenny explores why everyday tasks can feel difficult to begin, even when they matter to you, and how ADHD and trauma can play a part in procrastination.

https://open.spotify.com/episode/14ntQjGYsSK6hmMuvYXOKM?si=UyboBYuBT8ONlJ_k15Mm1g

💜 Grounded in Growth | Support and Accountability for Solopreneurs

Running a business on your own can feel lonely, especially when you have lots of ideas but struggle to turn them into action.

Jenny is starting another Grounded in Growth group for solopreneurs who want a supportive space to talk through business ideas, stay positive and build accountability to help them move forward.

Whether you're feeling stuck, putting things off or simply missing having someone to share your plans with, you don't have to do it all alone.

Find out more and join Grounded in Growth here!

If you can’t attend live, Jenny also shares continued writing prompts on her website to use in your own time: www.jennyfield.co.uk/product/continued-writing-freebie/

Connect with Jenny: Book a free call with Jenny

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/justbeingmelearningtolovemyself

Instagram: https://instagram.com/jens_just_being_me?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Podcast Credits: 

Podcast Management by Aisling, Certified Podcast Growth Coach, Podcast Success Hub 

Done-for-you podcast launch and management support for coaches, mentors, and service providers. https://linktr.ee/podcastsuccesshub

Want support launching your own podcast? Join my free Facebook group:→ www.facebook.com/groups/launchgrowyourpodcast/

📲 Connect with me: https://www.facebook.com/podcastsuccesshub

Subscribe here now so you don’t miss an episode!

Jingle by Carol Barwick:  www.raise4all.com

Episode 154

Why do you keep putting things off, even when you know they matter?

In this episode of The Self-Belief Podcast, Jenny Field explores ADHD procrastination, trauma and why starting important tasks can feel so difficult. Through her own experiences, she shares how fear of making mistakes, overwhelm and responsibility can make procrastination harder, along with gentle ways to begin, including breaking tasks into smaller steps, using reminders and asking for support.

• Understanding procrastination

• Fear of mistakes

• Deadline pressure

• Smaller first steps

• Supportive strategies

This episode will answer:

• Why do people with ADHD procrastinate?

• Why do I put things off even when they're important?

• Can trauma make procrastination worse?

• Why can't I start tasks with ADHD?

• Why do I only get things done at the last minute?

• Why does pressure help me focus with ADHD?

• Why do simple tasks feel overwhelming?

• Why am I afraid of making mistakes?

• How can I start tasks when I feel overwhelmed?

• Does body doubling help with ADHD?

• How do I stop putting off important tasks?

• Why can I help others but struggle to help myself?

• How can reminders help with ADHD?

• Is procrastination a sign of overwhelm?

• Why do I feel guilty when I procrastinate?

Episode 147: What Happens When You Have Both ADHD and Trauma

Jenny explores how ADHD and trauma can overlap, and how understanding both can change the way you see your reactions, needs and past experiences.

https://open.spotify.com/episode/1FmlNen06fYyq

Episode 149: ADHD Masking

Explore why masking can feel necessary, how it relates to emotional safety and the energy it can take to constantly adapt around other people.

https://open.spotify.com/episode/2RKirt6zD2IIjDAYWg8OEZ?si=lkYDDpEJQ0WKez5NlzQXXA

Episode 152: Sensory Overload – When Everything Becomes Too Much to Process

Jenny explores how sensory overload can build, why it can lead to overwhelm and the importance of recognising when things are becoming too much.

https://open.spotify.com/episode/7DGulsnO06P8QA3qw2GmZf?si=aKr-AqWgROmMd3V1jTaZjw

💜 Free Reflective Writing Session

If something in this episode has brought up a thought or feeling you’d like to explore, Jenny invites you to join her next free reflective writing session.

You don’t need to be good at writing and there’s nothing to prepare. Simply follow the unfinished sentences and allow yourself to write the first response that comes.

Register for the next webinar here!

If you can’t attend live, Jenny also shares continued writing prompts on her website to use in your own time: www.jennyfield.co.uk/product/continued-writing-freebie/

Connect with Jenny: Book a free call with Jenny

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/justbeingmelearningtolovemyself

Instagram: https://instagram.com/jens_just_being_me?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Podcast Credits: 

Podcast Management by Aisling, Certified Podcast Growth Coach, Podcast Success Hub 

Done-for-you podcast launch and management support for coaches, mentors, and service providers. https://linktr.ee/podcastsuccesshub

Want support launching your own podcast? Join my free Facebook group:→ www.facebook.com/groups/launchgrowyourpodcast/

📲 Connect with me: https://www.facebook.com/podcastsuccesshub

Subscribe here now so you don’t miss an episode!

Jingle by Carol Barwick:  www.raise4all.com

Key TakeawaysExplore Related Episodes

Overwhelm doesn’t always arrive as tears, anger or frustration. In this episode of The Self-Belief Podcast, Jenny explores the early signs of overwhelm, how ADHD and emotional awareness have helped her understand her own limits, and why noticing what is happening sooner can make it easier to ask for support. You’ll hear simple ways to recognise when overwhelm is building and respond to what you need before you reach the point where everything feels too much.

Key Takeaways

• Early warning signs

• Changing energy levels

• Knowing your limits

• Asking for support

• Responding with care

This episode will answer:

• How do I know if I am becoming overwhelmed?

• What are the early signs of overwhelm?

• Why do I get overwhelmed so easily?

• What does overwhelm feel like?

• How do I calm down when I feel overwhelmed?

• Why does ADHD cause overwhelm?

• How do I deal with ADHD overwhelm?

• Why do I cry when I feel overwhelmed?

• Why do small things feel overwhelming sometimes?

• Why can I cope one day but not the next?

• How do I stop pushing myself when I am overwhelmed?

• What should I do when everything feels too much?

• How do I ask for support when I feel overwhelmed?

• Why do I struggle to make decisions when overwhelmed?

• How can I recognise my emotional limits?

Episode 150: Rejection Sensitivity - When You Think Someone Is Upset With YouJenny explores what happens when a change in someone's tone, mood or energy makes you immediately wonder if you've done something wrong — and the questions she now uses to check what is actually true.

Episode 149: When Masking Became the Way I Felt SafeJenny talks about ADHD masking, emotional safety and the hidden energy it can take to constantly work out who you need to be around other people.

Episode 147: What Happens When You Have Both ADHD and TraumaJenny explores how ADHD and trauma can overlap, and how understanding both can change the way you see your reactions, needs and past experiences.

Episodes 143–145: My ADHD JourneyIn this three-part series, Jenny shares what life felt like before she knew she had ADHD, the moment she began recognising herself in what she was learning, and what receiving a diagnosis helped her understand about herself.

These episodes explore the wider themes of ADHD, self-trust, emotional awareness, fear of rejection and understanding the patterns behind our reactions.

Listen to the Blame SeriesExplore how blame can affect the way we understand ourselves, our relationships and our reactions.

Listen to the Judgement SeriesIf you'd like to go back even further, Jenny's Judgement series explores how fear of being judged, self-judgement and other people's opinions can quietly shape the way we see ourselves.

💜 Free Reflective Writing Session

If something in this episode has brought up a thought or feeling you’d like to explore, Jenny invites you to join her next free reflective writing session.

You don’t need to be good at writing and there’s nothing to prepare. Simply follow the unfinished sentences and allow yourself to write the first response that comes.

Register for the next webinar here!

If you can’t attend live, Jenny also shares continued writing prompts on her website to use in your own time: www.jennyfield.co.uk/product/continued-writing-freebie/

Connect with Jenny: Book a free call with Jenny

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/justbeingmelearningtolovemyself

Instagram: https://instagram.com/jens_just_being_me?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Podcast Credits: 

Podcast Management by Aisling, Certified Podcast Growth Coach, Podcast Success Hub 

Done-for-you podcast launch and management support for coaches, mentors, and service providers. https://linktr.ee/podcastsuccesshub

Want support launching your own podcast? Join my free Facebook group:→ www.facebook.com/groups/launchgrowyourpodcast/

📲 Connect with me: https://www.facebook.com/podcastsuccesshub

Subscribe here now so you don’t miss an episode!

Jingle by Carol Barwick:  www.raise4all.com

Why can saying no feel so difficult, even when you know you don't want to say yes? In this episode of The Self-Belief Podcast, Jenny explores people pleasing, setting boundaries and the fear of disappointing others, sharing how she learned to pause before automatically agreeing and include her own needs in the decision. 

• Automatic yeses

• Fearful choices

• Shared responsibility

• Healthy boundaries

• Choosing yourself

This episode will answer:

• Why is it so hard to say no

• Why do I feel guilty saying no

• Why do I always say yes when I want to say no

• How do I stop people pleasing

• How do I say no without feeling guilty

• Why am I afraid of disappointing people

• Why do boundaries make me feel guilty

• How do I stop feeling responsible for other people's feelings

• Why do I overthink after setting a boundary

• Why do I explain myself when I say no

• How do I set boundaries without feeling selfish

• Why does conflict make me panic

• How do I stop automatically saying yes

• How can I put my own needs first

• How do I know if my boundary is reasonable

Episode 150: Rejection Sensitivity - When You Think Someone Is Upset With You

Jenny explores what happens when a change in someone's tone, mood or energy makes you immediately wonder if you've done something wrong and the questions she now uses to check what is actually true.

Episode 149: When Masking Became the Way I Felt SafeJenny talks about ADHD masking, emotional safety and the hidden energy it can take to constantly work out who you need to be around other people.

Episode 147: What Happens When You Have Both ADHD and Trauma

Jenny explores how ADHD and trauma can overlap, and how understanding both can change the way you see your reactions, needs and past experiences.

Episodes 143–145: My ADHD Journey

In this three-part series, Jenny shares what life felt like before she knew she had ADHD, the moment she began recognising herself in what she was learning, and what receiving a diagnosis helped her understand about herself.

These episodes explore the wider themes of ADHD, self-trust, emotional awareness, fear of rejection and understanding the patterns behind our reactions.

Listen to the Blame Series

Explore how blame can affect the way we understand ourselves, our relationships and our reactions.

Listen to the Judgement Series

If you'd like to go back even further, Jenny's Judgement series explores how fear of being judged, self-judgement and other people's opinions can quietly shape the way we see ourselves.

💜 Free Reflective Writing Session

If something in this episode has brought up a thought or feeling you’d like to explore, Jenny invites you to join her next free reflective writing session.

You don’t need to be good at writing and there’s nothing to prepare. Simply follow the unfinished sentences and allow yourself to write the first response that comes.

Register for the next webinar here!

If you can’t attend live, Jenny also shares continued writing prompts on her website to use in your own time: www.jennyfield.co.uk/product/continued-writing-freebie/

Connect with Jenny: Book a free call with Jenny

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/justbeingmelearningtolovemyself

Instagram: https://instagram.com/jens_just_being_me?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Podcast Credits: 

Podcast Management by Aisling, Certified Podcast Growth Coach, Podcast Success Hub 

Done-for-you podcast launch and management support for coaches, mentors, and service providers. https://linktr.ee/podcastsuccesshub

Want support launching your own podcast? Join my free Facebook group:→ www.facebook.com/groups/launchgrowyourpodcast/

📲 Connect with me: https://www.facebook.com/podcastsuccesshub

Subscribe here now so you don’t miss an episode!

Jingle by Carol Barwick:  www.raise4all.com

In this episode of The Self-Belief Podcast, Jenny explores rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD) and how ADHD can make rejection, criticism or even a small change in someone’s tone feel deeply personal. She shares how rejection sensitivity led her to panic, avoid difficult conversations, people please and replay interactions long after they had ended and the simple questions she now uses to separate what she feels from what she knows.

Jenny also reflects on the difference between real and perceived rejection, and why learning to ask “What’s the evidence?” has helped her respond differently without dismissing her feelings.

• Perceived rejection

• Emotional panic

• Difficult conversations

• Personal responsibility

• Conscious choice

This episode will answer:

• What is rejection sensitivity dysphoria?

• What does rejection sensitivity feel like?

• Is rejection sensitivity linked to ADHD?

• Why do I feel rejected so easily?

• Why do I think people are upset with me?

• Why do I panic when someone is unhappy with me?

• Why does criticism affect me so much?

• Why do I replay conversations in my head?

• Why do I overthink someone’s tone of voice?

• Why do I assume I have done something wrong?

• Why do I avoid difficult conversations?

• Why do I people please when someone is upset?

• How do I deal with rejection sensitivity?

• How can I tell if rejection is real or perceived?

• Can ADHD make emotions feel more intense?

Episode 147: What Happens When You Have Both ADHD and TraumaJenny explores how ADHD and trauma can overlap, and how understanding both can change the way you see your reactions, needs and past experiences.

https://open.spotify.com/episode/1FmlNen06fYyq7WdV82aLm?si=2wfooIFeShmLSt1Je6a2Ow

Episodes 143 - 145: My ADHD JourneyIn this three-part series, Jenny shares what life felt like before she knew she had ADHD, the moment she began recognising herself in what she was learning, and what receiving a diagnosis helped her understand about herself.

https://open.spotify.com/episode/4HXUfAMcCRdDsGAzxhIhwL?si=rNw-kyUgRkGucM54gx91AA

These episodes explore the same wider themes of ADHD, self-trust, emotional awareness and learning to see yourself with more understanding.

Listen to the Blame Series here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2BbqcCEpKA9kVOs46RiX1I?si=DuX_3KSKTHKNchM6eWegAw

If you'd like to go back even further, Jenny's Judgement series explores how fear of being judged, self-judgement and other people's opinions can quietly shape the way we see ourselves. 

Listen to the Judgement Series here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/64rs54mfdFqX0oWF62d44J?si=mnFwfCW8SvC8Q_9oCTI9kA

💜 Free Reflective Writing Session

If something in this episode has brought up a thought or feeling you’d like to explore, Jenny invites you to join her next free reflective writing session.

You don’t need to be good at writing and there’s nothing to prepare. Simply follow the unfinished sentences and allow yourself to write the first response that comes.

Register for the next webinar here!

If you can’t attend live, Jenny also shares continued writing prompts on her website to use in your own time: www.jennyfield.co.uk/product/continued-writing-freebie/

Connect with Jenny: Book a free call with Jenny

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/justbeingmelearningtolovemyself

Instagram: https://instagram.com/jens_just_being_me?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Podcast Credits: 

Podcast Management by Aisling, Certified Podcast Growth Coach, Podcast Success Hub 

Done-for-you podcast launch and management support for coaches, mentors, and service providers. https://linktr.ee/podcastsuccesshub

Want support launching your own podcast? Join my free Facebook group:→ www.facebook.com/groups/launchgrowyourpodcast/

📲 Connect with me: https://www.facebook.com/podcastsuccesshub

Subscribe here now so you don’t miss an episode!

Jingle by Carol Barwick:  www.raise4all.com

When masking becomes the way you feel safe, it can be difficult to know where the mask ends and your real needs begin. In this episode, Jenny explores ADHD masking, emotional safety and why she learned to change parts of herself to avoid judgement, conflict or rejection. She shares how recognising these patterns is helping her understand her needs, trust herself and rebuild her self-belief. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Hidden masking

• Feeling safe

• Automatic agreement

• Exhausting effort

• Growing self-trust

This episode will answer:

• Why do I mask around other people?

• What is ADHD masking?

• How do I know if I am masking?

• Why is ADHD masking so exhausting?

• Why do I change my personality around different people?

• Why do I agree with people when I don't agree?

• Why do I over-explain myself?

• Why do I feel like I can't be myself around people?

• Why do I worry about people's reactions?

• Why do I replay conversations afterwards?

• Can masking affect your self-esteem?

• How do I stop masking?

• What does unmasking with ADHD mean?

• Why do I feel responsible for other people's reactions?

• Why do I feel safer hiding parts of myself?

Episode 147: What Happens When You Have Both ADHD and TraumaJenny explores how ADHD and trauma can overlap, and how understanding both can change the way you see your reactions, needs and past experiences.

https://open.spotify.com/episode/1FmlNen06fYyq7WdV82aLm?si=2wfooIFeShmLSt1Je6a2Ow

Episodes 143 - 145: My ADHD JourneyIn this three-part series, Jenny shares what life felt like before she knew she had ADHD, the moment she began recognising herself in what she was learning, and what receiving a diagnosis helped her understand about herself.

https://open.spotify.com/episode/4HXUfAMcCRdDsGAzxhIhwL?si=rNw-kyUgRkGucM54gx91AA

These episodes explore the same wider themes of ADHD, self-trust, emotional awareness and learning to see yourself with more understanding.

Listen to the Blame Series here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2BbqcCEpKA9kVOs46RiX1I?si=DuX_3KSKTHKNchM6eWegAw

If you'd like to go back even further, Jenny's Judgement series explores how fear of being judged, self-judgement and other people's opinions can quietly shape the way we see ourselves. 

Listen to the Judgement Series here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/64rs54mfdFqX0oWF62d44J?si=mnFwfCW8SvC8Q_9oCTI9kA

💜 Free Reflective Writing Session

If something in this episode has brought up a thought or feeling you’d like to explore, Jenny invites you to join her next free reflective writing session.

You don’t need to be good at writing and there’s nothing to prepare. Simply follow the unfinished sentences and allow yourself to write the first response that comes.

Register for the next webinar here!

If you can’t attend live, Jenny also shares continued writing prompts on her website to use in your own time: www.jennyfield.co.uk/product/continued-writing-freebie/

Connect with Jenny: Book a free call with Jenny

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/justbeingmelearningtolovemyself

Instagram: https://instagram.com/jens_just_being_me?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Podcast Credits: 

Podcast Management by Aisling, Certified Podcast Growth Coach, Podcast Success Hub 

Done-for-you podcast launch and management support for coaches, mentors, and service providers. https://linktr.ee/podcastsuccesshub

Want support launching your own podcast? Join my free Facebook group:→ www.facebook.com/groups/launchgrowyourpodcast/

📲 Connect with me: https://www.facebook.com/podcastsuccesshub

Subscribe here now so you don’t miss an episode!

Jingle by Carol Barwick:  www.raise4all.com

Jenny explores why neurodivergent people may be more likely to experience trauma not because neurodivergence itself causes trauma, but because years of being misunderstood, criticised, excluded or expected to mask can shape how safe we feel and what we believe about ourselves. Drawing on her own late ADHD diagnosis, Jenny reflects on masking, self-doubt and the need for acceptance, and how understanding both ADHD and trauma helped her begin rebuilding self-trust. 

Key take aways

• Repeated misunderstanding

• Learned self-doubt

• Hidden masking

• Safer relationships

• Rebuilding self-trust

This episode will answer:

Why are neurodivergent people more likely to experience trauma?

Can being neurodivergent cause trauma?

Can undiagnosed ADHD cause trauma?

Why do people with ADHD doubt themselves?

What is ADHD masking?

Why do neurodivergent people mask?

Can masking affect your mental health?

Why do I always think I am the problem?

Why do I struggle to trust my own judgement?

Why do people with ADHD feel misunderstood?

Can repeated criticism cause trauma?

Why do neurodivergent people feel like they don't belong?

Why do I need other people's approval?

How does late ADHD diagnosis affect your sense of self?

How do I rebuild self-trust after years of self-doubt?

Episode 147: What Happens When You Have Both ADHD and TraumaJenny explores how ADHD and trauma can overlap, and how understanding both can change the way you see your reactions, needs and past experiences.

https://open.spotify.com/episode/1FmlNen06fYyq7WdV82aLm?si=2wfooIFeShmLSt1Je6a2Ow

Episodes 143 - 145: My ADHD JourneyIn this three-part series, Jenny shares what life felt like before she knew she had ADHD, the moment she began recognising herself in what she was learning, and what receiving a diagnosis helped her understand about herself.

https://open.spotify.com/episode/4HXUfAMcCRdDsGAzxhIhwL?si=rNw-kyUgRkGucM54gx91AA

These episodes explore the same wider themes of ADHD, self-trust, emotional awareness and learning to see yourself with more understanding.

Listen to the Blame Series here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2BbqcCEpKA9kVOs46RiX1I?si=DuX_3KSKTHKNchM6eWegAw

If you'd like to go back even further, Jenny's Judgement series explores how fear of being judged, self-judgement and other people's opinions can quietly shape the way we see ourselves. 

Listen to the Judgement Series here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/64rs54mfdFqX0oWF62d44J?si=mnFwfCW8SvC8Q_9oCTI9kA

💜 Free Reflective Writing Session

If something in this episode has brought up a thought or feeling you’d like to explore, Jenny invites you to join her next free reflective writing session.

You don’t need to be good at writing and there’s nothing to prepare. Simply follow the unfinished sentences and allow yourself to write the first response that comes.

Register for the next webinar here!

If you can’t attend live, Jenny also shares continued writing prompts on her website to use in your own time: www.jennyfield.co.uk/product/continued-writing-freebie/

Connect with Jenny: Book a free call with Jenny

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/justbeingmelearningtolovemyself

Instagram: https://instagram.com/jens_just_being_me?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Podcast Credits: 

Podcast Management by Aisling, Certified Podcast Growth Coach, Podcast Success Hub 

Done-for-you podcast launch and management support for coaches, mentors, and service providers. https://linktr.ee/podcastsuccesshub

Want support launching your own podcast? Join my free Facebook group:→ www.facebook.com/groups/launchgrowyourpodcast/

📲 Connect with me: https://www.facebook.com/podcastsuccesshub

Subscribe here now so you don’t miss an episode!

Jingle by Carol Barwick:  www.raise4all.com

What happens when you have both ADHD and trauma, and you can’t always tell which one is behind what you’re experiencing?

In this episode of The Self-Belief Podcast, Jenny explores what she has learned about living with both ADHD and trauma, and why the two don’t simply show up separately.

After years of understanding many of her experiences through the lens of trauma, Jenny’s ADHD diagnosis gave her another piece of the puzzle. Some of the things she had spent years trying to change weren’t signs that she hadn’t worked hard enough on herself, they were connected to the way her brain works.

But ADHD and trauma can also interact.

Forgetfulness can become fear of judgement. Overwhelm can be intensified by a situation that doesn’t feel safe. Putting off a task might begin because you don’t know where to start, but become even harder when you’re frightened of getting it wrong.

Jenny shares examples from her own life, including why she can happily help somebody else complete a form but can feel completely overwhelmed when the form and responsibility for the outcome belongs to her.

She also explores the hidden cost of appearing “high functioning”, and how fear can sometimes look like organisation, preparation or achievement from the outside.

In this episode, Jenny talks about:

• How ADHD and trauma can affect us in similar ways

• Why it isn’t always possible to identify where ADHD ends and trauma begins

• How an ADHD difficulty can become connected to fear

• The hidden emotional cost of appearing capable and high functioning

• Why awareness alone didn’t change some of Jenny’s difficulties

• How practical strategies can support an overwhelmed ADHD brain

• Why fear sometimes needs a different kind of support

• How body doubling can support both ADHD and trauma responses

• Learning to ask what you need in the moment rather than judging yourself for struggling

Listen to the Blame Series here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2BbqcCEpKA9kVOs46RiX1I?si=DuX_3KSKTHKNchM6eWegAw

If you'd like to go back even further, Jenny's Judgement series explores how fear of being judged, self-judgement and other people's opinions can quietly shape the way we see ourselves. 

Listen to the Judgement Series here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/64rs54mfdFqX0oWF62d44J?si=mnFwfCW8SvC8Q_9oCTI9kA

💜 Free Reflective Writing Session

If something in this episode has brought up a thought or feeling you’d like to explore, Jenny invites you to join her next free reflective writing session.

You don’t need to be good at writing and there’s nothing to prepare. Simply follow the unfinished sentences and allow yourself to write the first response that comes.

Register for the next webinar here!

If you can’t attend live, Jenny also shares continued writing prompts on her website to use in your own time: www.jennyfield.co.uk/product/continued-writing-freebie/

Connect with Jenny: Book a free call with Jenny

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/justbeingmelearningtolovemyself

Instagram: https://instagram.com/jens_just_being_me?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Podcast Credits: 

Podcast Management by Aisling, Certified Podcast Growth Coach, Podcast Success Hub 

Done-for-you podcast launch and management support for coaches, mentors, and service providers. https://linktr.ee/podcastsuccesshub

Want support launching your own podcast? Join my free Facebook group:→ www.facebook.com/groups/launchgrowyourpodcast/

📲 Connect with me: https://www.facebook.com/podcastsuccesshub

Subscribe here now so you don’t miss an episode!

Jingle by Carol Barwick:  www.raise4all.com

What happens when finally getting an answer brings relief but also grief and anger?

In Part 4 of my ADHD journey, I’m sharing what happened after my diagnosis, when I began looking back at my life through a completely different lens.

For years, I had believed the things I’d been told about myself: that I was difficult, too much, stupid or somehow the problem. My ADHD diagnosis alongside beginning to understand autism and the impact of trauma gave me another way of making sense of my experiences.

In this episode, I talk about the connection I began to see between neurodivergence and trauma, why some reactions can look very similar, and how understanding what might be happening underneath our behaviour can help us move away from automatic self-blame.

I also explore how this changed my understanding of self-belief. Because self-belief isn’t simply telling yourself you’re good enough. For me, it had to begin with understanding why I reacted in certain ways, why I had tried so hard to be accepted, and why being misunderstood had affected me so deeply.

In this episode, I talk about:

• The relief, grief and anger I experienced after diagnosis

• Looking back at my life through a neurodivergent lens

• The connection between neurodivergence and trauma

• Why ADHD, autism and trauma can sometimes create similar-looking reactions

• Moving from self-judgement towards understanding

• Finding strategies that actually support my brain

• Why awareness isn't an excuse, it's information

• How understanding myself has changed my relationship with self-belief

You don’t need to have all the answers about why you react the way you do. Sometimes the first step is simply stopping the automatic blame and asking: what might actually be happening here?

Understanding my past hasn’t changed it. But it has changed how I see myself.

And now I can understand myself differently. I can be just me and choose to be that on purpose.

If something in this episode resonates with you and you’d like further support, head over to my website or socials and connect with me. I’d love to hear from you.

If you haven’t heard the earlier episodes in Jenny’s ADHD journey, you can go back to Part 1, where Jenny shares what life felt like before she knew she had ADHD, and Part 2, where she begins recognising herself in what she was learning about neurodivergence.

Listen to the Blame Series here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2BbqcCEpKA9kVOs46RiX1I?si=DuX_3KSKTHKNchM6eWegAw

💜 Something special is here!

If you’ve been noticing the same thoughts, reactions, or emotional patterns repeating in your life, Jenny’s free Continued Writing session may help you understand what’s happening underneath them.

During this live session, Jenny will guide you through a gentle continued writing exercise designed to help you uncover subconscious patterns, emotional responses, and automatic behaviours that are often difficult to see on your own. You don’t need any experience with continued writing, just a pen, paper, and some space to be honest with yourself.

Register for the next webinar here!

If you can’t attend live, Jenny also shares continued writing prompts on her website to use in your own time: www.jennyfield.co.uk/product/continued-writing-freebie/

Connect with Jenny: Book a free call with Jenny

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Podcast Credits: 

Podcast Management by Aisling, Certified Podcast Growth Coach, Podcast Success Hub 

Done-for-you podcast launch and management support for coaches, mentors, and service providers. https://linktr.ee/podcastsuccesshub

Want support launching your own podcast? Join my free Facebook group:→ www.facebook.com/groups/launchgrowyourpodcast/

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Getting an ADHD diagnosis later in life can bring far more than relief. In Part 3 of her ADHD journey, Jenny shares the difficult road to getting assessed, the fear that she wouldn’t be believed, and the relief she felt when she finally heard that she did have ADHD.

She also explores what came afterwards,  the grief for the years she spent not knowing, the anger around things she had been made to believe about herself, and how an adult ADHD diagnosis began to change the way she understood her past and herself.

• Seeking answers

• Fear of judgement

• Feeling believed

• Mixed emotions

• Self understanding

• Why is getting an ADHD diagnosis so emotional?

• What does an adult ADHD assessment feel like?

• How does it feel to be diagnosed with ADHD as an adult?

• Why can an ADHD diagnosis bring relief?

• Why can you feel grief after an ADHD diagnosis?

• Is it normal to feel angry after an ADHD diagnosis?

• Why did I doubt myself before my ADHD assessment?

• Why can getting an ADHD diagnosis feel overwhelming?

• What emotions can come after a late ADHD diagnosis?

• Can an ADHD diagnosis change how you see your childhood?

• Why do adults seek an ADHD diagnosis?

• Can ADHD make you question yourself?

• Why do women get diagnosed with ADHD later in life?

• What happens emotionally after an ADHD diagnosis?

• How can an ADHD diagnosis change how you understand yourself?

Next week in Part 4… Jenny explores what happened after diagnosis and how understanding ADHD began to change the way she saw herself, her past and the things she had believed about herself for years. And how easily we can take other people’s words, reactions and expectations and turn them into beliefs about ourselves.

If you recognise that pattern, Jenny’s Blame Series explores why we can take responsibility for things that were never ours to carry and how easily we can come to believe we’re the problem.

Listen to the Blame Series here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2BbqcCEpKA9kVOs46RiX1I?si=DuX_3KSKTHKNchM6eWegAw

Jenny's Judgement series explores how fear of being judged, self-judgement and other people's opinions can quietly shape the way we see ourselves. 

Listen to the Judgement Series here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/64rs54mfdFqX0oWF62d44J?si=mnFwfCW8SvC8Q_9oCTI9kA

Sometimes the greatest shift isn’t discovering who you are. It’s letting go of who you believed you had to be.

The moment you stop asking, “What’s wrong with me?” can be the moment you begin understanding yourself with compassion instead of criticism.

💜 Something special is here!

If you’ve been noticing the same thoughts, reactions, or emotional patterns repeating in your life, Jenny’s free Continued Writing session may help you understand what’s happening underneath them.

During this live session, Jenny will guide you through a gentle continued writing exercise designed to help you uncover subconscious patterns, emotional responses, and automatic behaviours that are often difficult to see on your own. You don’t need any experience with continued writing, just a pen, paper, and some space to be honest with yourself.

Register for the next webinar here!

If you can’t attend live, Jenny also shares continued writing prompts on her website to use in your own time: www.jennyfield.co.uk/product/continued-writing-freebie/

Connect with Jenny: Book a free call with Jenny

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/justbeingmelearningtolovemyself

Instagram: https://instagram.com/jens_just_being_me?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Podcast Credits: 

Podcast Management by Aisling, Certified Podcast Growth Coach, Podcast Success Hub 

Done-for-you podcast launch and management support for coaches, mentors, and service providers. https://linktr.ee/podcastsuccesshub

Want support launching your own podcast? Join my free Facebook group:→ www.facebook.com/groups/launchgrowyourpodcast/

📲 Connect with me: https://www.facebook.com/podcastsuccesshub

Subscribe here now so you don’t miss an episode!

Jingle by Carol Barwick:  www.raise4all.com