Jenny explores why neurodivergent people may be more likely to experience trauma not because neurodivergence itself causes trauma, but because years of being misunderstood, criticised, excluded or expected to mask can shape how safe we feel and what we believe about ourselves. Drawing on her own late ADHD diagnosis, Jenny reflects on masking, self-doubt and the need for acceptance, and how understanding both ADHD and trauma helped her begin rebuilding self-trust. 

Key take aways

• Repeated misunderstanding

• Learned self-doubt

• Hidden masking

• Safer relationships

• Rebuilding self-trust

This episode will answer:

Why are neurodivergent people more likely to experience trauma?

Can being neurodivergent cause trauma?

Can undiagnosed ADHD cause trauma?

Why do people with ADHD doubt themselves?

What is ADHD masking?

Why do neurodivergent people mask?

Can masking affect your mental health?

Why do I always think I am the problem?

Why do I struggle to trust my own judgement?

Why do people with ADHD feel misunderstood?

Can repeated criticism cause trauma?

Why do neurodivergent people feel like they don't belong?

Why do I need other people's approval?

How does late ADHD diagnosis affect your sense of self?

How do I rebuild self-trust after years of self-doubt?

Episode 147: What Happens When You Have Both ADHD and TraumaJenny explores how ADHD and trauma can overlap, and how understanding both can change the way you see your reactions, needs and past experiences.

https://open.spotify.com/episode/1FmlNen06fYyq7WdV82aLm?si=2wfooIFeShmLSt1Je6a2Ow

Episodes 143 - 145: My ADHD JourneyIn this three-part series, Jenny shares what life felt like before she knew she had ADHD, the moment she began recognising herself in what she was learning, and what receiving a diagnosis helped her understand about herself.

https://open.spotify.com/episode/4HXUfAMcCRdDsGAzxhIhwL?si=rNw-kyUgRkGucM54gx91AA

These episodes explore the same wider themes of ADHD, self-trust, emotional awareness and learning to see yourself with more understanding.

Listen to the Blame Series here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2BbqcCEpKA9kVOs46RiX1I?si=DuX_3KSKTHKNchM6eWegAw

If you'd like to go back even further, Jenny's Judgement series explores how fear of being judged, self-judgement and other people's opinions can quietly shape the way we see ourselves. 

Listen to the Judgement Series here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/64rs54mfdFqX0oWF62d44J?si=mnFwfCW8SvC8Q_9oCTI9kA

💜 Free Reflective Writing Session

If something in this episode has brought up a thought or feeling you’d like to explore, Jenny invites you to join her next free reflective writing session.

You don’t need to be good at writing and there’s nothing to prepare. Simply follow the unfinished sentences and allow yourself to write the first response that comes.

Register for the next webinar here!

If you can’t attend live, Jenny also shares continued writing prompts on her website to use in your own time: www.jennyfield.co.uk/product/continued-writing-freebie/

Connect with Jenny: Book a free call with Jenny

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Podcast Credits: 

Podcast Management by Aisling, Certified Podcast Growth Coach, Podcast Success Hub 

Done-for-you podcast launch and management support for coaches, mentors, and service providers. https://linktr.ee/podcastsuccesshub

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Jingle by Carol Barwick:  www.raise4all.com

What happens when you have both ADHD and trauma, and you can’t always tell which one is behind what you’re experiencing?

In this episode of The Self-Belief Podcast, Jenny explores what she has learned about living with both ADHD and trauma, and why the two don’t simply show up separately.

After years of understanding many of her experiences through the lens of trauma, Jenny’s ADHD diagnosis gave her another piece of the puzzle. Some of the things she had spent years trying to change weren’t signs that she hadn’t worked hard enough on herself, they were connected to the way her brain works.

But ADHD and trauma can also interact.

Forgetfulness can become fear of judgement. Overwhelm can be intensified by a situation that doesn’t feel safe. Putting off a task might begin because you don’t know where to start, but become even harder when you’re frightened of getting it wrong.

Jenny shares examples from her own life, including why she can happily help somebody else complete a form but can feel completely overwhelmed when the form and responsibility for the outcome belongs to her.

She also explores the hidden cost of appearing “high functioning”, and how fear can sometimes look like organisation, preparation or achievement from the outside.

In this episode, Jenny talks about:

• How ADHD and trauma can affect us in similar ways

• Why it isn’t always possible to identify where ADHD ends and trauma begins

• How an ADHD difficulty can become connected to fear

• The hidden emotional cost of appearing capable and high functioning

• Why awareness alone didn’t change some of Jenny’s difficulties

• How practical strategies can support an overwhelmed ADHD brain

• Why fear sometimes needs a different kind of support

• How body doubling can support both ADHD and trauma responses

• Learning to ask what you need in the moment rather than judging yourself for struggling

Listen to the Blame Series here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2BbqcCEpKA9kVOs46RiX1I?si=DuX_3KSKTHKNchM6eWegAw

If you'd like to go back even further, Jenny's Judgement series explores how fear of being judged, self-judgement and other people's opinions can quietly shape the way we see ourselves. 

Listen to the Judgement Series here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/64rs54mfdFqX0oWF62d44J?si=mnFwfCW8SvC8Q_9oCTI9kA

💜 Free Reflective Writing Session

If something in this episode has brought up a thought or feeling you’d like to explore, Jenny invites you to join her next free reflective writing session.

You don’t need to be good at writing and there’s nothing to prepare. Simply follow the unfinished sentences and allow yourself to write the first response that comes.

Register for the next webinar here!

If you can’t attend live, Jenny also shares continued writing prompts on her website to use in your own time: www.jennyfield.co.uk/product/continued-writing-freebie/

Connect with Jenny: Book a free call with Jenny

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/justbeingmelearningtolovemyself

Instagram: https://instagram.com/jens_just_being_me?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Podcast Credits: 

Podcast Management by Aisling, Certified Podcast Growth Coach, Podcast Success Hub 

Done-for-you podcast launch and management support for coaches, mentors, and service providers. https://linktr.ee/podcastsuccesshub

Want support launching your own podcast? Join my free Facebook group:→ www.facebook.com/groups/launchgrowyourpodcast/

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Jingle by Carol Barwick:  www.raise4all.com

What happens when finally getting an answer brings relief but also grief and anger?

In Part 4 of my ADHD journey, I’m sharing what happened after my diagnosis, when I began looking back at my life through a completely different lens.

For years, I had believed the things I’d been told about myself: that I was difficult, too much, stupid or somehow the problem. My ADHD diagnosis alongside beginning to understand autism and the impact of trauma gave me another way of making sense of my experiences.

In this episode, I talk about the connection I began to see between neurodivergence and trauma, why some reactions can look very similar, and how understanding what might be happening underneath our behaviour can help us move away from automatic self-blame.

I also explore how this changed my understanding of self-belief. Because self-belief isn’t simply telling yourself you’re good enough. For me, it had to begin with understanding why I reacted in certain ways, why I had tried so hard to be accepted, and why being misunderstood had affected me so deeply.

In this episode, I talk about:

• The relief, grief and anger I experienced after diagnosis

• Looking back at my life through a neurodivergent lens

• The connection between neurodivergence and trauma

• Why ADHD, autism and trauma can sometimes create similar-looking reactions

• Moving from self-judgement towards understanding

• Finding strategies that actually support my brain

• Why awareness isn't an excuse, it's information

• How understanding myself has changed my relationship with self-belief

You don’t need to have all the answers about why you react the way you do. Sometimes the first step is simply stopping the automatic blame and asking: what might actually be happening here?

Understanding my past hasn’t changed it. But it has changed how I see myself.

And now I can understand myself differently. I can be just me and choose to be that on purpose.

If something in this episode resonates with you and you’d like further support, head over to my website or socials and connect with me. I’d love to hear from you.

If you haven’t heard the earlier episodes in Jenny’s ADHD journey, you can go back to Part 1, where Jenny shares what life felt like before she knew she had ADHD, and Part 2, where she begins recognising herself in what she was learning about neurodivergence.

Listen to the Blame Series here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2BbqcCEpKA9kVOs46RiX1I?si=DuX_3KSKTHKNchM6eWegAw

💜 Something special is here!

If you’ve been noticing the same thoughts, reactions, or emotional patterns repeating in your life, Jenny’s free Continued Writing session may help you understand what’s happening underneath them.

During this live session, Jenny will guide you through a gentle continued writing exercise designed to help you uncover subconscious patterns, emotional responses, and automatic behaviours that are often difficult to see on your own. You don’t need any experience with continued writing, just a pen, paper, and some space to be honest with yourself.

Register for the next webinar here!

If you can’t attend live, Jenny also shares continued writing prompts on her website to use in your own time: www.jennyfield.co.uk/product/continued-writing-freebie/

Connect with Jenny: Book a free call with Jenny

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/justbeingmelearningtolovemyself

Instagram: https://instagram.com/jens_just_being_me?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Podcast Credits: 

Podcast Management by Aisling, Certified Podcast Growth Coach, Podcast Success Hub 

Done-for-you podcast launch and management support for coaches, mentors, and service providers. https://linktr.ee/podcastsuccesshub

Want support launching your own podcast? Join my free Facebook group:→ www.facebook.com/groups/launchgrowyourpodcast/

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Jingle by Carol Barwick:  www.raise4all.com

Getting an ADHD diagnosis later in life can bring far more than relief. In Part 3 of her ADHD journey, Jenny shares the difficult road to getting assessed, the fear that she wouldn’t be believed, and the relief she felt when she finally heard that she did have ADHD.

She also explores what came afterwards,  the grief for the years she spent not knowing, the anger around things she had been made to believe about herself, and how an adult ADHD diagnosis began to change the way she understood her past and herself.

• Seeking answers

• Fear of judgement

• Feeling believed

• Mixed emotions

• Self understanding

• Why is getting an ADHD diagnosis so emotional?

• What does an adult ADHD assessment feel like?

• How does it feel to be diagnosed with ADHD as an adult?

• Why can an ADHD diagnosis bring relief?

• Why can you feel grief after an ADHD diagnosis?

• Is it normal to feel angry after an ADHD diagnosis?

• Why did I doubt myself before my ADHD assessment?

• Why can getting an ADHD diagnosis feel overwhelming?

• What emotions can come after a late ADHD diagnosis?

• Can an ADHD diagnosis change how you see your childhood?

• Why do adults seek an ADHD diagnosis?

• Can ADHD make you question yourself?

• Why do women get diagnosed with ADHD later in life?

• What happens emotionally after an ADHD diagnosis?

• How can an ADHD diagnosis change how you understand yourself?

Next week in Part 4… Jenny explores what happened after diagnosis and how understanding ADHD began to change the way she saw herself, her past and the things she had believed about herself for years. And how easily we can take other people’s words, reactions and expectations and turn them into beliefs about ourselves.

If you recognise that pattern, Jenny’s Blame Series explores why we can take responsibility for things that were never ours to carry and how easily we can come to believe we’re the problem.

Listen to the Blame Series here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2BbqcCEpKA9kVOs46RiX1I?si=DuX_3KSKTHKNchM6eWegAw

Jenny's Judgement series explores how fear of being judged, self-judgement and other people's opinions can quietly shape the way we see ourselves. 

Listen to the Judgement Series here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/64rs54mfdFqX0oWF62d44J?si=mnFwfCW8SvC8Q_9oCTI9kA

Sometimes the greatest shift isn’t discovering who you are. It’s letting go of who you believed you had to be.

The moment you stop asking, “What’s wrong with me?” can be the moment you begin understanding yourself with compassion instead of criticism.

💜 Something special is here!

If you’ve been noticing the same thoughts, reactions, or emotional patterns repeating in your life, Jenny’s free Continued Writing session may help you understand what’s happening underneath them.

During this live session, Jenny will guide you through a gentle continued writing exercise designed to help you uncover subconscious patterns, emotional responses, and automatic behaviours that are often difficult to see on your own. You don’t need any experience with continued writing, just a pen, paper, and some space to be honest with yourself.

Register for the next webinar here!

If you can’t attend live, Jenny also shares continued writing prompts on her website to use in your own time: www.jennyfield.co.uk/product/continued-writing-freebie/

Connect with Jenny: Book a free call with Jenny

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/justbeingmelearningtolovemyself

Instagram: https://instagram.com/jens_just_being_me?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Podcast Credits: 

Podcast Management by Aisling, Certified Podcast Growth Coach, Podcast Success Hub 

Done-for-you podcast launch and management support for coaches, mentors, and service providers. https://linktr.ee/podcastsuccesshub

Want support launching your own podcast? Join my free Facebook group:→ www.facebook.com/groups/launchgrowyourpodcast/

📲 Connect with me: https://www.facebook.com/podcastsuccesshub

Subscribe here now so you don’t miss an episode!

Jingle by Carol Barwick:  www.raise4all.com

This is Part 2 of Jenny's personal ADHD journey. In Part 1, she shared what life was like before she knew she had ADHD. In this episode, she shares the moment everything changed. Jenny attended a conference about neurodivergence hoping to better understand her son. Instead, she found herself recognising her own experiences for the first time. In this episode, she shares the emotional moment she realised she had ADHD, how years of believing she was "too much" suddenly began to make sense, and why understanding her neurodivergent brain changed the way she saw herself forever.

If you've ever felt different, blamed yourself for struggling, or wondered why life seems harder than it does for other people, this episode offers a compassionate new perspective on self-understanding and self-belief.

• How do adults realise they have ADHD?

• What are the signs of ADHD in women?

• What does undiagnosed ADHD feel like?

• How do you know if you're neurodivergent?

• What does neurodivergent mean?

• Why do women get diagnosed with ADHD later in life?

• What is ADHD masking?

• Can ADHD affect self-esteem?

• Why do I always feel like I'm too much?

• Why does life feel harder than it should?

• Can ADHD make you feel misunderstood?

• What happens after recognising ADHD?

• How does neurodivergence affect everyday life?

• Why do I blame myself all the time?

• How can understanding ADHD improve self-belief?

• Self understanding

• ADHD awareness

• Question old beliefs

• Neurodivergent thinking

• Self compassion

Realising she had ADHD answered one question, but it raised many more.

Next week, Jenny shares what happened when she decided to seek a diagnosis, why the process felt overwhelming, and how finally receiving that diagnosis brought both relief and a whole new chapter of self-understanding.

Remember: Sometimes the greatest shift isn't discovering who you are. It's letting go of who you believed you had to be.

The moment you stop asking, "What's wrong with me?" is often the moment you begin understanding yourself with compassion instead of criticism. 

Jenny's recent Blame series explored why we so often take responsibility for things that were never ours to carry, and how easy it is to believe we're the problem. 

Listen to the Blame Series here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2BbqcCEpKA9kVOs46RiX1I?si=DuX_3KSKTHKNchM6eWegAw

Jenny's Judgement series explores how fear of being judged, self-judgement and other people's opinions can quietly shape the way we see ourselves. 

Listen to the Judgement Series here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/64rs54mfdFqX0oWF62d44J?si=mnFwfCW8SvC8Q_9oCTI9kA

💜 Something special is here!

If you’ve been noticing the same thoughts, reactions, or emotional patterns repeating in your life, Jenny’s free Continued Writing session may help you understand what’s happening underneath them.

Jenny will guide you through a gentle continued writing exercise designed to help you uncover subconscious patterns, emotional responses, and automatic behaviours that are often difficult to see on your own. You don’t need any experience with continued writing, just a pen, paper, and some space to be honest with yourself.

Register for the next webinar here!

Connect with Jenny: Book a free call with Jenny

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/justbeingmelearningtolovemyself

Instagram: https://instagram.com/jens_just_being_me?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Podcast Credits: 

Podcast Management by Aisling, Certified Podcast Growth Coach, Podcast Success Hub 

Done-for-you podcast launch and management support for coaches, mentors, and service providers. https://linktr.ee/podcastsuccesshub

Want support launching your own podcast? Join my free Facebook group:→ www.facebook.com/groups/launchgrowyourpodcast/

📲 Connect with Aisling: https://www.facebook.com/podcastsuccesshub

Jingle by Carol Barwick:  www.raise4all.com

Before Jenny knew she had ADHD, she believed she was difficult, too emotional and somehow always getting life wrong. In this episode she shares how years of masking, overthinking and self-doubt shaped the way she saw herself, and why understanding her neurodivergent brain changed everything. If you've ever wondered why you feel different or constantly blame yourself, this episode offers a compassionate new perspective. 

• Why do people with ADHD feel like they're too much?

• What is ADHD masking?

• Why do I always feel different from everyone else?

• Can ADHD cause low self-esteem?

• Why do I overthink everything?

• Why do I feel emotionally exhausted all the time?

• What does ADHD masking look like?

• Why do I constantly blame myself?

• Can undiagnosed ADHD affect confidence?

• Why do I always feel like I'm getting life wrong?

• Why do I struggle to fit in?

• Why does understanding ADHD help self-belief?

• Can ADHD affect your nervous system?

• Why do I feel overwhelmed so easily?

• How do I stop believing I'm the problem?

• Self understanding

• ADHD masking

• Nervous system

• Hidden exhaustion

• Different perspective

Next week in Part 2...

Jenny shares the moment everything began to change. She attended a conference about neurodivergence hoping to better understand her eldest son, but instead found herself recognising her own experiences in almost everything she heard.Remember: Sometimes the greatest shift isn't discovering who you are. It's letting go of who you believed you had to be.

You can spend years asking, "What's wrong with me?" But self-understanding begins when you start asking a different question:

"What if I've been judging myself through other people's eyes?"

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This episode begins a new series exploring Jenny's ADHD journey, self-understanding and what can change when you realise there may never have been anything wrong with you in the first place. 

Jenny's recent Blame series explored why we so often take responsibility for things that were never ours to carry, and how easy it is to believe we're the problem. 

Listen to the Blame Series here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2BbqcCEpKA9kVOs46RiX1I?si=DuX_3KSKTHKNchM6eWegAw

Jenny's Judgement series explores how fear of being judged, self-judgement and other people's opinions can quietly shape the way we see ourselves. 

Listen to the Judgement Series here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/64rs54mfdFqX0oWF62d44J?si=mnFwfCW8SvC8Q_9oCTI9kA

💜 Something special is here!

If you’ve been noticing the same thoughts, reactions, or emotional patterns repeating in your life, Jenny’s free Continued Writing session may help you understand what’s happening underneath them.

Jenny will guide you through a gentle continued writing exercise designed to help you uncover subconscious patterns, emotional responses, and automatic behaviours that are often difficult to see on your own. You don’t need any experience with continued writing, just a pen, paper, and some space to be honest with yourself.

Register for the next webinar here!

Jenny also shares continued writing prompts on her website to use in your own time: www.jennyfield.co.uk/product/continued-writing-freebie/

Connect with Jenny: Book a free call with Jenny

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/justbeingmelearningtolovemyself

Instagram: https://instagram.com/jens_just_being_me?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Podcast Credits: 

Podcast Management by Aisling, Certified Podcast Growth Coach, Podcast Success Hub 

Done-for-you podcast launch and management support for coaches, mentors, and service providers. https://linktr.ee/podcastsuccesshub

Want support launching your own podcast? Join my free Facebook group:→ www.facebook.com/groups/launchgrowyourpodcast/

📲 Connect with me: https://www.facebook.com/podcastsuccesshub

Subscribe here now so you don’t miss an episode!

Jingle by Carol Barwick:  www.raise4all.com

Ep 142: Have you ever found yourself apologising before you've even decided whether you've done anything wrong? Do you feel responsible for other people's emotions, explain yourself to avoid conflict, or worry that making a mistake means you'll be rejected?

In this episode of The Self-Belief Podcast, Jenny explores the connection between blame, belonging, self-blame, people pleasing and fear of rejection, and how early experiences can teach us that being accepted depends on keeping other people happy. Through her own story, Jenny shares how awareness helped her move from reacting automatically to responding with choice, and why belonging should never cost you the right to be yourself.

• Why do I always blame myself when someone is upset with me?

• Why do I apologise even when I haven't done anything wrong?

• Why do I always feel responsible for other people's feelings?

• Why am I so afraid of disappointing people?

• Why do I explain myself all the time?

• Why does criticism affect me so much?

• Why does blame feel like rejection?

• How do I stop people pleasing?

• Why do I feel like I don't belong?

• What is the connection between blame and belonging?

• How does trauma affect the way we respond to blame?

• What is masking and why do people do it?

• How can I stop assuming everything is my fault?

• How do I know what I'm really responsible for?

• How can I build self-belief without changing who I am?

• Blame & belonging

• Fear of rejection

• Automatic patterns

• Awareness before change

• Choose yourself

Remember: You can take responsibility for your actions without taking responsibility for everything. Belonging should never cost you the right to be yourself. 

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This episode continues a series exploring blame and how it affects self-belief.

If you enjoyed this episode, you may also like Jenny's previous four-part series on judgement, where she explored why we fear being judged, how self-judgement develops, and how those patterns shape our confidence.

Listen to the Judgement Series here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/64rs54mfdFqX0oWF62d44J?si=mnFwfCW8SvC8Q_9oCTI9kA

💜 Something special is here!

If you’ve been noticing the same thoughts, reactions, or emotional patterns repeating in your life, Jenny’s free Continued Writing session may help you understand what’s happening underneath them.

During this live session, Jenny will guide you through a gentle continued writing exercise designed to help you uncover subconscious patterns, emotional responses, and automatic behaviours that are often difficult to see on your own. You don’t need any experience with continued writing, just a pen, paper, and some space to be honest with yourself.

Register for the next webinar here!

If you can’t attend live, Jenny also shares continued writing prompts on her website to use in your own time: www.jennyfield.co.uk/product/continued-writing-freebie/

Connect with Jenny: Book a free call with Jenny

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/justbeingmelearningtolovemyself

Instagram: https://instagram.com/jens_just_being_me?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Podcast Credits: 

Podcast Management by Aisling, Certified Podcast Growth Coach, Podcast Success Hub 

Done-for-you podcast launch and management support for coaches, mentors, and service providers. https://linktr.ee/podcastsuccesshub

Want support launching your own podcast? Join my free Facebook group:→ www.facebook.com/groups/launchgrowyourpodcast/

📲 Connect with me: https://www.facebook.com/podcastsuccesshub

Subscribe here now so you don’t miss an episode!

Jingle by Carol Barwick:  www.raise4all.com

Episode 141: Have you ever taken one comment so personally that it made you question yourself? Jenny explores why our brains can quickly turn feedback, criticism or misunderstandings into self-blame, and how old experiences can make us believe we're the problem in this episode of The Self-Belief podcast,. You'll learn the difference between taking responsibility versus feeling like you are in the wrong, with simple questions that can help you pause, reflect and respond with greater self-belief. 

Key Takeaways:

• Self-blame cycle

• Emotional triggers

• Personal responsibility

• Gentle awareness

• Self-belief grows

In this episode I will cover the following questions:

• Why do I take everything so personally?

• Why does criticism affect me so much?

• Why do I blame myself for everything?

• How do I stop taking things personally?

• Why do I always think I've done something wrong?

• What is the difference between responsibility and self-blame?

• Why do I overthink conversations?

• Why do I apologise all the time?

• Why do I feel like I'm always the problem?

• How can I stop judging myself so harshly?

• What is rejection sensitivity?

• Why do misunderstandings affect me so deeply?

This episode continues a series exploring blame and how it affects self-belief.

If you enjoyed this episode, you may also like Jenny's previous four-part series on judgement, where she explored why we fear being judged, how self-judgement develops, and how those patterns shape our confidence.

Listen to the Judgement Series here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/64rs54mfdFqX0oWF62d44J?si=mnFwfCW8SvC8Q_9oCTI9kA

💜 Something special is here!

If you’ve been noticing the same thoughts, reactions, or emotional patterns repeating in your life, Jenny’s free Continued Writing session may help you understand what’s happening underneath them.

During this live session, Jenny will guide you through a gentle continued writing exercise designed to help you uncover subconscious patterns, emotional responses, and automatic behaviours that are often difficult to see on your own. You don’t need any experience with continued writing, just a pen, paper, and some space to be honest with yourself.

Register for the next webinar here!

If you can’t attend live, Jenny also shares continued writing prompts on her website to use in your own time: www.jennyfield.co.uk/product/continued-writing-freebie/

Connect with Jenny: Book a free call with Jenny

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/justbeingmelearningtolovemyself

Instagram: https://instagram.com/jens_just_being_me?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Podcast Credits: 

Podcast Management by Aisling, Certified Podcast Growth Coach, Podcast Success Hub 

Done-for-you podcast launch and management support for coaches, mentors, and service providers. https://linktr.ee/podcastsuccesshub

Want support launching your own podcast? Join my free Facebook group:→ www.facebook.com/groups/launchgrowyourpodcast/

📲 Connect with me: https://www.facebook.com/podcastsuccesshub

Subscribe here now so you don’t miss an episode!

Jingle by Carol Barwick:  www.raise4all.comHave you ever replayed a conversation afterwards?

Do you immediately blame yourself when something goes wrong, even before you know the full story?

Jenny explores why so many of us automatically blame ourselves before we've even had time to understand what has actually happened in this episode of The Self-Belief Podcast. 

She explains how our brains can quickly connect everyday situations to old experiences of blame, criticism, rejection or conflict, causing us to search for mistakes that may not even exist. Jenny also explores how trauma, ADHD and long-term survival mode can make this pattern even stronger.

You'll discover the difference between blame and responsibility, why internal safety matters, and how learning to pause before accepting blame can help rebuild self-belief and protect your emotional wellbeing.

If you've ever replayed conversations, over-explained yourself or carried responsibility that wasn't yours, this episode will help you separate facts from feelings and begin responding from what's actually true.

Key Takeaways:

• Why your brain automatically searches for your mistakes

• The difference between blame, responsibility and truth

• How trauma and ADHD can make blame feel overwhelming

• What internal safety really means

• How to separate facts from feelings

• Questions to ask before accepting blame

• Why taking responsibility doesn't mean attacking yourself

In this episode I will cover the following questions:

• Why do I always think everything is my fault?

• Why do I blame myself for everything?

• Why do I always ask what have I done wrong?

• Why do I assume people are angry with me?

• How do I stop blaming myself for everything?

• What is self-blame?

• What's the difference between blame and responsibility?

• Why do I feel guilty when I've done nothing wrong?

• Why do I overthink conversations after they happen?

• How does trauma affect self-blame?

• Why does ADHD make me feel like I'm always getting things wrong?

• What is internal safety in psychology?

• How do I stop assuming the worst about myself?

• How can I separate facts from feelings?

• How do I rebuild self-belief after years of criticism?

If you enjoyed this episode, you may also like Jenny's previous four-part series on judgement, where she explored why we fear being judged, how self-judgement develops, and how those patterns shape our confidence.

Listen to the Judgement Series here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/64rs54mfdFqX0oWF62d44J?si=mnFwfCW8SvC8Q_9oCTI9kA

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If you’ve been noticing the same thoughts, reactions, or emotional patterns repeating in your life, Jenny’s free Continued Writing session may help you understand what’s happening underneath them.

During this live session, Jenny will guide you through a gentle continued writing exercise designed to help you uncover subconscious patterns, emotional responses, and automatic behaviours that are often difficult to see on your own. You don’t need any experience with continued writing, just a pen, paper, and some space to be honest with yourself.

The next webinar is on Tuesday, 14th July at 2 p.m. (UK time)

Register here!

If you can’t attend live, Jenny also shares continued writing prompts on her website to use in your own time: www.jennyfield.co.uk/product/continued-writing-freebie/

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Podcast Credits: 

Podcast Management by Aisling, Certified Podcast Growth Coach, Podcast Success Hub 

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Could the lighting in your home be affecting your mood, sleep and nervous system more than you realise?  Many people think lighting is simply about making a room look nice, but for neurodivergent people it can have a huge impact on how the nervous system feels.

In this episode, Jenny is joined by relationship coach Sarah Hurd and lighting specialist Sam Coles to explore how different types of lighting can affect people with ADHD, autism and sensory sensitivity.

Together they discuss why some people feel overwhelmed by bright lights, how colour temperature changes the way we experience a room, why flickering lights can be exhausting, and how making small changes to your home lighting may improve sleep, reduce stress and support your overall wellbeing.

Whether you've been diagnosed as neurodivergent or simply know that certain environments leave you feeling uncomfortable, this episode offers practical insights into creating spaces that feel calmer, safer and more supportive.

Key Takeaways:

• Why lighting affects everyone differently, especially neurodivergent brains.

• The difference between warm and cool lighting and how colour temperature influences mood.

• Why flickering lights can increase overwhelm, headaches and sensory overload.

• How lighting impacts sleep, melatonin and your circadian rhythm.

• Practical ways to make your home feel calmer without completely redesigning it.

In this episode I will cover the following questions:

• Why do bright lights overwhelm people with ADHD?

• Can lighting affect autism symptoms?

• What colour light is best for ADHD?

• Why do fluorescent lights cause headaches?

• Can lighting affect anxiety?

• How does blue light affect sleep?

• What is the best lighting for sensory sensitivity?

• Can changing light bulbs improve sleep?

• Why do some lights feel uncomfortable?

• How can I make my home more sensory friendly?

💜 Something special is here!

If you’ve been noticing the same thoughts, reactions, or emotional patterns repeating in your life, Jenny’s free Continued Writing session may help you understand what’s happening underneath them.

During this live session, Jenny will guide you through a gentle continued writing exercise designed to help you uncover subconscious patterns, emotional responses, and automatic behaviours that are often difficult to see on your own. You don’t need any experience with continued writing, just a pen, paper, and some space to be honest with yourself.

The next webinar is on Tuesday, 14th July at 2 p.m. (UK time)

Register here!

If you can’t attend live, Jenny also shares continued writing prompts on her website to use in your own time: www.jennyfield.co.uk/product/continued-writing-freebie/

Connect with Sam Cole, Lighting Consultant: www.samcoleslighting.co.uk 

Connect with Sara Heard, Relationship Coach: www.blue-conker.com

Connect with Jenny: Book a free call with Jenny

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/justbeingmelearningtolovemyself

Instagram: https://instagram.com/jens_just_being_me?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Podcast Credits: 

Jingle by Carol Barwick:  www.raise4all.com

Podcast Management by Aisling, Certified Podcast Growth Coach, Podcast Success Hub 

Done-for-you podcast launch and management support for coaches, mentors, and service providers. https://linktr.ee/podcastsuccesshub