Self-Coaching

Do you ever find yourself repeatedly let down by your so-called friends? The problem may not be with your friends—not exactly—but with your expectations instead.

If you find yourself disappointed or confused by your relationships, perhaps it’s time to learn about what I call Relationship Orbits. In this Self-Coaching episode, you’ll find that once your relationships are assigned to their proper orbits, you’ll never have to be disappointed or confused again.

In this episode, you’ll see that worrying is a form of psychological friction, an anticipation of future chaos—things going wrong (we don't worry about things going right). Whether you try to control your life by worrying, over-thinking, ruminating, being too cautious, fearful or doubtful; worrying is never the answer and if you’re stumbling emotionally, it’s always at the root of the problem.

Rather than worrying about an uncertain or chaotic future, you’ll see why learning to stay focused on the here-and-now facts of your life will keep you mindfully in the present, eliminating the anxiety associated with anticipating doom and gloom.

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There’s no question that understanding the historical reasons for your emotional struggles can offer some valuable perspective. But from a Self-Coaching perspective, understanding the “why” you suffer, as enlightening and helpful as it may be, isn’t as important as the “what” you’re going to do about it. If, for example, you’re trying to quit smoking cigarettes, do you think it matters why you took that first cigarette? Of course not. Same goes for challenging the “habits” of anxiety and depression, understanding alone won’t do a thing to help you break your habit. Learning to starve incessant doubt, fear, and negativity is what will.

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In this episode, I discuss why your attitude affects not only how you see the world, but also how the world sees you. Did you know that people with positive attitudes are seen as being physically more attractive than people with negative attitudes? It’s a fact! It’s also a fact that attitudes are learned and attitudes can be “unlearned.”

Understand that neither the optimist nor the pessimist knows what tomorrow will bring, but the optimist, by embracing a positive attitude, lives in a passionate world of unending possibilities while the pessimist lives in a world of unending dread. Isn’t it time that you stop being passive to reflexive, knee-jerk attitudes that generate emotional friction and struggle? Isn’t it time that you reclaim the life you want—the life you deserve?

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