In this second part of two-part podcast, Dr. Steve Hudgins sits down with Mallary Tarpley to explore the complex intersections of grief, identity, and recovery from eating disorders. Drawing on her personal journey and professional expertise, Mallary shares how the loss of her mother at a young age fueled her struggle with anorexia, offering honest reflections on how trauma and control can shape our relationship with food and ourselves.

Together, they break down outdated misconceptions about eating disorders, emphasizing the neurobiological changes that keep people trapped, and shedding light on the genetic and environmental factors at play. Mallary provides heartfelt advice for parents striving to raise children with healthy relationships to food and body image, candidly discussing the language, behaviors, and household culture that matter most.

As the conversation unfolds, Mallary talks about the power of writing - journaling and authoring her new book, Slip- as a means of therapy and self-compassion, sharing what she wishes her younger self could have known in the aftermath of loss. Whether you’ve experienced an eating disorder, are supporting someone who has, or are navigating your own “middle place” of growth and healing, this episode offers comfort, guidance, and the reminder that we are all works in progress.

Tune in for a compassionate, nuanced conversation that reminds us recovery isn’t about perfection—it's about gentleness, acceptance, and giving ourselves permission to be human.

Key Moments: 

01:12 Rethinking Eating Disorder Blame

04:27 Redefining Food Morality for Kids

08:10 Evolving Strength Through Adversity

10:34 Reconnecting with Younger Self

15:14 Journey to Authentic Recovery

16:54 Embracing the Messiness of Recovery

22:18 Recognizing Eating Disorder Warning Signs

23:42 Embracing Self-Love and Inner Growth

About the guest : 

Mallary Tarpley’s journey through recovery has shaped her into a resilient and insightful individual. One year after first finding herself in a hospital bed - sick with anorexia nervosa and unable to eat - Mallary began to recognize the deeply personal struggles underlying her illness. Her first hospitalization was a moment of realization: if she wanted to survive, she would have to seek recovery, though true change would take much longer. 

Over time, with five hospitalizations and a year and a half in residential treatment, Mallary came to understand that her disorder had taken from her, rather than given her control or closeness she once hoped to find. This hard-won insight has informed her perspective and strengthened her resolve on the healing journey.

How to connect Mallary Tarpley : 

Weekly newsletter: https://mallary.substack.com/

Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/mallarytenoretarpley/?hl=en

LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/mallary-tenore-tarpley

Personal website: https://www.mallarytenoretarpley.com/

About Coached Soul™: 

Coached Soul™ is an empowering podcast hosted by Dr. Steve Hudgins, a mental health professional and author, and co-hosted by Kenya Whaley, a transformational therapeutic coach. With a focus on self-improvement, Dr. Steve covers many topics, including mental health, relationships, education, and more. He fearlessly tackles sensitive subjects like depression and anxiety, creating a safe space for open conversations. They offer valuable insights and lessons through interviews with guests who have overcome significant challenges. Coached Soul is not just a podcast but a supportive community that inspires personal growth and provides the necessary resources for transformation. Their expertise and genuine approach make Coached Soul a must-listen for anyone seeking to improve their life.

For more details, visit https://coachedsoul.com/

In this first part of 2 part podcast,  Dr. Steve Hudgins sits down with Mallary Tarpley for a moving and candid conversation about grief, identity, and recovery. Mallary shares her personal journey, beginning with the loss of her mother to cancer at age 11, and how that profound grief led to her struggle with anorexia nervosa throughout her adolescence. Together, they explore the complicated landscape of the "middle place" - a space between acute illness and full recovery that’s often overlooked in discussions of both eating disorders and mourning. 

Mallary opens up about her family dynamics, the misconceptions around eating disorders, and how writing became a path toward healing and understanding. This episode is a poignant exploration of what it means to live, grieve, and recover without ever reaching a definitive sense of closure, offering empathy and insight for anyone navigating similar challenges.

Key Moments: 

01:23 Navigating Grief and 'The Middle Place'

05:07 Struggling with Grief and Control

09:05 Exploring Strength and Truth

11:30 Writing as Coping Mechanism

13:59 Healing Through Posthumous Letters

16:52 Anorexia's Unexpected Realization

21:52 Eating Disorder Misconceptions Hamper Treatment

23:24 "Insights on Parenting and Recovery"

About the guest : 

Mallary Tarpley’s journey through recovery has shaped her into a resilient and insightful individual. One year after first finding herself in a hospital bed - sick with anorexia nervosa and unable to eat - Mallary began to recognize the deeply personal struggles underlying her illness. Her first hospitalization was a moment of realization: if she wanted to survive, she would have to seek recovery, though true change would take much longer. 

Over time, with five hospitalizations and a year and a half in residential treatment, Mallary came to understand that her disorder had taken from her, rather than given her control or closeness she once hoped to find. This hard-won insight has informed her perspective and strengthened her resolve on the healing journey.

How to connect Mallary Tarpley : 

Weekly newsletter: https://mallary.substack.com/

Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/mallarytenoretarpley/?hl=en

LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/mallary-tenore-tarpley

Personal website: https://www.mallarytenoretarpley.com/

About Coached Soul™: 

Coached Soul™ is an empowering podcast hosted by Dr. Steve Hudgins, a mental health professional and author, and co-hosted by Kenya Whaley, a transformational therapeutic coach. With a focus on self-improvement, Dr. Steve covers many topics, including mental health, relationships, education, and more. He fearlessly tackles sensitive subjects like depression and anxiety, creating a safe space for open conversations. They offer valuable insights and lessons through interviews with guests who have overcome significant challenges. Coached Soul is not just a podcast but a supportive community that inspires personal growth and provides the necessary resources for transformation. Their expertise and genuine approach make Coached Soul a must-listen for anyone seeking to improve their life.

Today, Host Dr. Steve Hudgins and Co-host Kenya Evelyn open up about the challenges and heartfelt realities of caring for aging parents. Drawing from both professional expertise and personal experiences, Dr. Steve and Kenya explore the emotional complexities, generational patterns, and the often unspoken sacrifices involved in supporting loved ones through their later years.

Together, they tackle important questions: 

If you've ever navigated the delicate balance between being a caregiver, a parent, and an individual striving for your own growth and healing, this episode is for you. 

Join us as we confront generational cycles, celebrate the small victories, and offer support and wisdom for everyone traveling the rewarding—yet sometimes difficult—path of generational caregiving.

Key Moments: 

00:00 Unrecognized Burden: Aging Caregivers

04:59 Choosing Care: Brazilian Decision

06:45 Reflecting on Parent-Child Relationships

11:52 Unconditional Love and Boundaries

15:18 "Choosing Healing Over Pain"

18:17 "Choosing Love Over Obligation"

20:12 "Gift of Freedom: No Regrets"

About Coached Soul™: 

Coached Soul™ is an empowering podcast hosted by Dr. Steve Hudgins, a mental health professional and author, and co-hosted by Kenya Whaley, a transformational therapeutic coach. With a focus on self-improvement, Dr. Steve covers many topics, including mental health, relationships, education, and more. He fearlessly tackles sensitive subjects like depression and anxiety, creating a safe space for open conversations. They offer valuable insights and lessons through interviews with guests who have overcome significant challenges. Coached Soul is not just a podcast but a supportive community that inspires personal growth and provides the necessary resources for transformation. Their expertise and genuine approach make Coached Soul a must-listen for anyone seeking to improve their life.

For more details, visit https://coachedsoul.com/

In this 2nd part of the two-part podcast, Dr. Steve Hudgins sits down with Stacy Johnson - a seasoned therapist and coach, to explore the deeply personal journey from loss and overthinking to resilience and self-regulation. Stacy opens up about her own experience navigating grief after her husband’s sudden passing, and how she learned to move beyond the relentless “what ifs” and “should haves” that can fuel anxiety and dysregulation.

Together, Dr. Hudgins and Stacy unpack practical tools for identifying and managing emotions, from grounding and mindfulness techniques to journaling and self-care strategies that truly work. You’ll hear candid discussions about the role of the nervous system, why overthinking keeps us stuck, and the importance of tuning into both our mental and physical health - especially during challenging times. Whether you’re facing loss, struggling with anxiety, or just looking to become more resilient, this episode is packed with actionable advice and compassionate insight for anyone seeking a healthier, more centered life. 

Join us as we discover how to move forward, one mindful step at a time.

Key Moments: 

01:22 Emotional Loss Coaching Journey

05:36 Managing Overthinking and Anxiety

08:32 Mindfulness Techniques for Overthinking

09:52 Resilience Through Controlled Overthinking

15:12 "Nervous System Regulation Guide"

18:36 "Resilience Roadmap: Self Care Essentials"

20:40 Grounding Techniques for Relaxation

About the guest : 

Stacey Johnson’s story is one of resilience and self-discovery. After experiencing trauma that left her nervous system dysregulated, Stacey responded by pushing herself to keep moving forward, unsure if this urge was her natural instinct or the result of her training. In the process, she neglected her own self-care until months later when she finally paused and recognized the need to tend to her own well-being. Drawing upon her skills and self-awareness, Stacey learned to process her feelings, rediscover her identity, and practice self-love. Her journey highlights the importance of self-care and the power of personal growth after adversity.

How to connect Stacey Johnson:

Website : https://staceyjohnsoncoaching.com/

Facebook Group : https://www.facebook.com/groups/staceyjohnsoncoaching/

About Coached Soul™: 

Coached Soul™ is an empowering podcast hosted by Dr. Steve Hudgins, a mental health professional and author, and co-hosted by Kenya Whaley, a transformational therapeutic coach. With a focus on self-improvement, Dr. Steve covers many topics, including mental health, relationships, education, and more. He fearlessly tackles sensitive subjects like depression and anxiety, creating a safe space for open conversations. They offer valuable insights and lessons through interviews with guests who have overcome significant challenges. Coached Soul is not just a podcast but a supportive community that inspires personal growth and provides the necessary resources for transformation. Their expertise and genuine approach make Coached Soul a must-listen for anyone seeking to improve their life.

For more details, visit https://coachedsoul.com/

In this 1st part of the two part podcast, Dr.Steve Hudgins sits down with special guest Stacey Johnson, a seasoned clinical therapist with over 25 years of experience. Stacey opens up about her personal journey through profound loss, navigating the sudden passing of both her stepfather and husband within weeks of each other. 

Drawing from her own struggles and professional expertise, Stacey shares how she found the strength to care for herself, rediscover her identity, and support other women grappling with different forms of loss. 

Together, Dr. Steve and Stacey explore the challenges of balancing personal grief with the responsibilities of being a parent and a mental health professional, the importance of self-care, and practical advice for anyone facing life’s unexpected turns. 

Whether you’re walking through your own season of loss or supporting someone who is, this episode offers honest insight, encouragement, and tools for emotional wellness.

Key Moments: 

01:22 "Launching 'Anchor Resilience' for Women"

05:29 Career Shift: From Teaching to Counseling

08:34 Covid Tragedy: Hospital Farewells

10:28 Importance of Life Insurance

15:16 Balancing Emotional Resilience

16:35 "Balancing Emotion: Process vs. Avoidance"

About the guest : 

Stacey Johnson’s story is one of resilience and self-discovery. After experiencing trauma that left her nervous system dysregulated, Stacey responded by pushing herself to keep moving forward, unsure if this urge was her natural instinct or the result of her training. In the process, she neglected her own self-care until months later when she finally paused and recognized the need to tend to her own well-being. Drawing upon her skills and self-awareness, Stacey learned to process her feelings, rediscover her identity, and practice self-love. Her journey highlights the importance of self-care and the power of personal growth after adversity.

How to connect Stacey Johnson:

Website : https://staceyjohnsoncoaching.com/

Facebook Group : https://www.facebook.com/groups/staceyjohnsoncoaching/

About Coached Soul™: 

Coached Soul™ is an empowering podcast hosted by Dr. Steve Hudgins, a mental health professional and author, and co-hosted by Kenya Whaley, a transformational therapeutic coach. With a focus on self-improvement, Dr. Steve covers many topics, including mental health, relationships, education, and more. He fearlessly tackles sensitive subjects like depression and anxiety, creating a safe space for open conversations. They offer valuable insights and lessons through interviews with guests who have overcome significant challenges. Coached Soul is not just a podcast but a supportive community that inspires personal growth and provides the necessary resources for transformation. Their expertise and genuine approach make Coached Soul a must-listen for anyone seeking to improve their life.

In this thoughtful and inspiring conversation, host Dr. Steve Hudgins is joined once again by author and coach Richard Waldman for Part Two of their discussion. Together, they dive deep into the struggles of feeling “stuck,” the relentless mental chatter we all face, and practical ways to shift our mindset for greater peace and resilience.

Richard shares personal stories—touching on loss, vulnerability, and the power of support—while exploring themes from his book, A Better Way of Thinking. The duo unpacks topics like the importance of self-acceptance, finding your support system, practicing the art of presence, and breaking free from judgment, whether it comes from others or ourselves. They also explore the challenges and hopes for faith communities, underscoring the vital need for grace and genuine relationship over criticism.

Whether you’re seeking a gentle nudge toward self-growth or just looking for ways to quiet your mind’s chaos, this episode is full of authentic insights, heartfelt encouragement, and actionable steps to help you start changing your way of thinking—one small practice at a time.

Key Moments: 

01:10 "Embrace Life's Journey"

05:58 "Motivating Change for Self-Improvement"

07:56 Challenging Church Judgment and Hypocrisy

12:01 "Rethinking Material Needs and Guilt"

16:28 "Rethinking Church Competition"

17:48 Surround Yourself with Supportive Peers

20:33 "The Samaritan Woman Encounter"

About the guest : 

Richard Waldman - Life Coach, Speaker & Founder of Brainyites

Richard Waldman is a life coach, veteran, and speaker helping people break free from the mental chatter that keeps them stuck. As the founder of A Better Way of THINKING and the Brainyites community, he empowers individuals to quiet their inner critic, challenge limiting beliefs, and unlock their full potential.

In his latest book, “Your Guide to A Better Way of THINKING,” Richard explores why intelligent people often self-sabotage and how to rise above it. Drawing from his journey across leadership, psychology, and spirituality, he bridges ancient wisdom and modern science to help others find clarity and purpose.

👉 Learn more at brainyites.com

About Coached Soul™: 

Coached Soul™ is an empowering podcast hosted by Dr. Steve Hudgins, a mental health professional and author, and co-hosted by Kenya Whaley, a transformational therapeutic coach. With a focus on self-improvement, Dr. Steve covers many topics, including mental health, relationships, education, and more. He fearlessly tackles sensitive subjects like depression and anxiety, creating a safe space for open conversations. They offer valuable insights and lessons through interviews with guests who have overcome significant challenges. Coached Soul is not just a podcast but a supportive community that inspires personal growth and provides the necessary resources for transformation. Their expertise and genuine approach make Coached Soul a must-listen for anyone seeking to improve their life.

This week, Dr. Steve Hudgins sits down with life coach and author Richard Waldman for an eye-opening conversation about the power of judgment, self-awareness, and the constant "chatter" in our minds.

Richard kicks off the discussion with a powerful reminder: we can transform the world by simply supporting one another instead of judging each other. Together, Dr. Hudgins and Richard unravel how much of our thinking—and even our modern psychology—has roots in ancient theology and biblical stories. They dive into the story of Adam and Eve as a lens on the origins of self-judgment and explore why so many of us feel stuck or struggle to change.

The conversation takes a deep dive into the nature of the "serpent" or negative inner voice, and how judgment—especially self-judgment—can hinder our growth, healing, and healthy relationships. Dr. Hudgins brings a therapeutic perspective, highlighting how childhood experiences and unmet needs can fuel this internal chatter, which so often manifests as anxiety, guilt, or shame.

Through candid personal stories and practical wisdom, the episode offers listeners tools to create more awareness, stay present, and choose supportive self-talk over judgment. Whether you’re spiritual, religious, or just interested in personal growth, this episode delivers simple, actionable steps for breaking free from old patterns and becoming the best version of yourself.

Tune in as we delve into what it truly means to live a life grounded in awareness, accountability, and authentic self-care.

Key Moments: 

01:19  Adam's Role in the Garden

04:09 Adam's Accountability Questioned

07:20 Conscious Choice and Self-Expression

11:07 Navigating Identity and Cultural Judgment

15:28 Silencing Mental Chatter Desires

17:51 Transformation of Saul to Paul

20:19 Letting Go: Finding Better Paths

About the guest : 

Richard Waldman - Life Coach, Speaker & Founder of Brainyites

Richard Waldman is a life coach, veteran, and speaker helping people break free from the mental chatter that keeps them stuck. As the founder of A Better Way of THINKING and the Brainyites community, he empowers individuals to quiet their inner critic, challenge limiting beliefs, and unlock their full potential.

In his latest book, “Your Guide to A Better Way of THINKING,” Richard explores why intelligent people often self-sabotage and how to rise above it. Drawing from his journey across leadership, psychology, and spirituality, he bridges ancient wisdom and modern science to help others find clarity and purpose.

👉 Learn more at brainyites.com

About Coached Soul™: 

Coached Soul™ is an empowering podcast hosted by Dr. Steve Hudgins, a mental health professional and author, and co-hosted by Kenya Whaley, a transformational therapeutic coach. With a focus on self-improvement, Dr. Steve covers many topics, including mental health, relationships, education, and more. He fearlessly tackles sensitive subjects like depression and anxiety, creating a safe space for open conversations. They offer valuable insights and lessons through interviews with guests who have overcome significant challenges. Coached Soul is not just a podcast but a supportive community that inspires personal growth and provides the necessary resources for transformation. Their expertise and genuine approach make Coached Soul a must-listen for anyone seeking to improve their life.

For more details, visit https://coachedsoul.com/

In this episode of Coached Soul, Dr. Steve Hudgins offers an insightful exploration of how childhood experiences shape emotional development and personal growth, using the classic novel To Kill a Mockingbird as a central lens. Speaking from both clinical expertise and personal reflection, Dr. Hudgins revisits the story of young Scout Finch growing up in racially segregated 1930s Alabama, highlighting the novel’s powerful themes of innocence, injustice, and empathy.

Listeners are guided through the ways children interpret and internalize the events around them—particularly the confusing or painful ones—and how silence, avoidance, or a lack of honest explanation can deepen fears or misunderstandings. Drawing from both the novel and real-life cases, Dr. Hudgins underscores the importance of being present, listening carefully, and helping children make sense of their emotions and experiences.

This episode encourages adults to become safe narrators and guides for the next generation, emphasizing that fostering resilience and healing often begins with empathy, honest communication, and a willingness to see the world through a child’s eyes. Through the journey of Scout Finch, Dr. Hudgins invites the audience to reflect on their own formative experiences and discover ways to support and nurture the emotional well-being of children—and, in the process, themselves.

Key Moments; 

01:20 Moon Observations and Scout Insights

04:56 Childhood and Racism in "Mockingbird"

09:20 Shift from Innocence to Insight

11:34 Understanding Children's Fears

14:58 "Manage Life, Don't Control Fear"

17:12 Guiding Children Through Life's Confusion

About Coached Soul™: 

Coached Soul™ is an empowering podcast hosted by Dr. Steve Hudgins, a mental health professional and author, and co-hosted by Kenya Whaley, a transformational therapeutic coach. With a focus on self-improvement, Dr. Steve covers many topics, including mental health, relationships, education, and more. He fearlessly tackles sensitive subjects like depression and anxiety, creating a safe space for open conversations. They offer valuable insights and lessons through interviews with guests who have overcome significant challenges. Coached Soul is not just a podcast but a supportive community that inspires personal growth and provides the necessary resources for transformation. Their expertise and genuine approach make Coached Soul a must-listen for anyone seeking to improve their life.

For more details, visit https://coachedsoul.com/

In this episode, host Dr. Steve Hudgins, and co host Kenya Evelyn take us on a transformative journey centered around the theme of freedom, not just as a right, but as a profound responsibility.

Together, they unpack what it means to be free truly: from limiting beliefs, from the old wounds of our inner child, and from the “chains” we forge in our own minds. They discuss how the words we use shape our reality, why taking ownership of our thoughts is crucial for growth, and how personal freedom blooms when we step into self-awareness, love, and gratitude. Kenya and Dr. Steve share powerful tools and exercises, from high-five mirror techniques to playful self-permission, inviting us all to celebrate happiness right here and now.

Join them as they challenge the language of limitation, examine the power of self-reflection, and encourage us to see others—and ourselves—as mirrors for healing and change. If you’re searching for inspiration to break free from old patterns and live a life of peace, purpose, and authentic connection, this episode offers both practical wisdom and heartfelt encouragement.

Let’s embark on this journey toward a healthier, happier you—starting with the freedom to be your truest self.

Key Moments: 

01:12 "Exploring Freedom and Responsibility"

05:20 Challenging Limiting Thoughts

07:39 Breakthroughs Through Language & Love

10:29 "Freedom's Cost: A Survivor's Choice"

13:44 Reflect on Self-Creation and Awareness

17:56 Celebrate Your True Self

About Coached Soul™: 

Coached Soul™ is an empowering podcast hosted by Dr. Steve Hudgins, a mental health professional and author, and co-hosted by Kenya Whaley, a transformational therapeutic coach. With a focus on self-improvement, Dr. Steve covers many topics, including mental health, relationships, education, and more. He fearlessly tackles sensitive subjects like depression and anxiety, creating a safe space for open conversations. They offer valuable insights and lessons through interviews with guests who have overcome significant challenges. Coached Soul is not just a podcast but a supportive community that inspires personal growth and provides the necessary resources for transformation. Their expertise and genuine approach make Coached Soul a must-listen for anyone seeking to improve their life.

Continuing from the last episode, host Dr. Steve Hudgins continues his discussion with guest Bonnie Brindle, an educator, therapist, and author. Together, they explore the critical but often overlooked connection between hormones and anxiety, especially for women navigating the tumultuous transition into perimenopause and menopause.

Bonnie shares her personal journey through the throes of hormonal changes, recounting how anxiety and physical symptoms nearly derailed her career until she found solutions that worked for her. The episode expands beyond the physical, delving into holistic mental health care, the power of nature-based imagery, and Bonnie’s unique use of “wildlife guides” to ground and soothe anxious thoughts. Listeners will hear practical tips from her book, Cracking the Crazy Makers Code, learn about the importance of confronting the root of anxiety, and get honest advice about seeking professional help when medical or emotional challenges arise.

With relatable anecdotes, actionable takeaways, and warmth, Dr. Steve and Bonnie remind us that finding balance is possible—and that no one has to travel the path to healing alone. Settle in for inspiring conversation and real-world strategies to cultivate a happier, healthier you.

Key Moments: 

03:14 Perimenopause Onset and Symptoms

07:54 Hormonal Solution Restores Balance

11:06 "Imaginary Friend to Spiritual Guide"

14:27 "Memoir: Overcoming Anxiety with Nature"

18:48 "Mindful Strategies and Practical Tips"

20:20 "Breaking Free from Crazy Makers"

25:13 Journey of a Therapist's Evolution

26:25 Therapists: Support, Not Superheroes

About the Guest : 

Bonnie Brindle is The Anxiety Avenger™. She is a psychotherapist, author, licensed educator, transformational coach, and international speaker. Incorporating alternative modalities with talk therapy and evidence-based energy practices, she’s created a path for anyone struggling with anxiety (like she used to) to find personal peace. Bonnie’s mission is to support others who choose to soar above the chaos to identify and crack the crazymakers' code—the key to living your best life! 

How to connect Bonnie : 

Website:  https://bonniebrindle.com

SpeakerHub site: bonniebrindlespeaks.com

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bonnie-brindle-the-anxiety-avenger/

Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/bonnie.brindle.94

About Coached Soul™: 

Coached Soul™ is an empowering podcast hosted by Dr. Steve Hudgins, a mental health professional and author, and co-hosted by Kenya Whaley, a transformational therapeutic coach. With a focus on self-improvement, Dr. Steve covers many topics, including mental health, relationships, education, and more. He fearlessly tackles sensitive subjects like depression and anxiety, creating a safe space for open conversations. They offer valuable insights and lessons through interviews with guests who have overcome significant challenges. Coached Soul is not just a podcast but a supportive community that inspires personal growth and provides the necessary resources for transformation. Their expertise and genuine approach make Coached Soul a must-listen for anyone seeking to improve their life.