mastering self-love while dating isn’t always easy — especially when no one talks about the detachment, boundaries, confidence, and self-worth it really takes. if you’ve ever felt like you start shrinking in relationships, this video is for you. i’m sharing the exact mindset shifts that helped me stay independent, grounded, and fully in my power while navigating love. after spending time single, focused on building my dream life and reconnecting with myself, i learned that the right relationship should expand your world — not consume it. whether you’re dating, in a relationship, or healing from one, this video will help you protect your peace, stop overgiving, and keep becoming her — the woman you were always meant to be. 💅🏽💖

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02:21 Chapter 1: The Talk

08:44 Chapter 2: The Lifestyle

15:43 Chapter 3: Homework

18:48 Final Thoughts

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the 5 laws of self-obsession aren’t about being selfish — they’re about how to build unshakable confidence, protect your peace, and start choosing you. in this episode, i share the mindset shifts that helped me heal, stop people pleasing, and finally become the most confident, grounded version of myself. we’ll talk self-love, boundaries, personal growth, and how to rewrite the stories you tell yourself. if you’ve ever been told you’re “too much” for simply prioritizing yourself — this one’s for you. ✨ it’s time to reclaim your power and start living for you. 💅🏽💭💖

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00:00 Introduction: Why Self-Obsession Isn’t Selfish

01:11 Critique of Societal Views on Self-Obsession

02:41 Law 1: The Mirror Law

06:22 Law 2: The Boundary Law

08:25 Law 3: The Celebration Law

10:18 Law 4: The Upgrade Law

13:04 Law 5: The Rewire Law

15:52 Final Words of Empowerment

feeling stuck or in a slump? here’s your sign to reset and realign 🫶 i’ve been there. in this video, i’m sharing 7 reminders and mindset shifts that helped me break out of low-energy phases and reconnect with my higher self. we’ll talk about how to stop spiraling, reconnect with your future self, and turn quiet seasons into your biggest growth moments. whether you’re going through a rough patch or just feeling off, this is your sign to reset, reflect, and step into your comeback era.

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00:00 – Overcoming the Slump Phase

01:14 – Fact 1: Emotions Are Not Reality

03:19 – Fact 2: It's Just a Phase

05:27 – Fact 3: Stop Identifying with the Slump

06:59 – Fact 4: One Decision Away

08:32 – Fact 5: Future Self Knows Best

10:32 – Fact 6: Resisting the Next Version of You

12:28 – Fact 7: You Are Resilient

13:28 – Final Motivation

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💚 you might be pushing away healthy love without even realizing it. in today’s episode, we’re talking about the 10 “red flags” in men that are actually signs of emotional maturity — and why your past might be making you miss them. from taking time to reply, moving slow, having female friends, or even being a little “boring”… these things aren’t toxic, they’re actually green flags 🫶

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01:45 – Debunking Dating Red Flags

01:49 – Green Flag #1: He is Picky

03:13 – Green Flag #2: He Rejects You

04:54 – Green Flag #3: No Past Relationships

05:55 – Green Flag #4: Has Female Friends

07:11 – Green Flag #5: Takes Time to Texting Back

09:03 – Green Flag #6: Challenges You

10:36 – Green Flag #7: He Has His Own Life

12:03 – Green Flag #8: He Moves Slow

13:53 – Green Flag #9: There Are No Sparks

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tired of people-pleasing, overthinking, and chasing validation? it’s time to detach, reclaim your confidence, and become the center of your own universe. ✨ we’re talking detachment, self-trust, and the quiet kind of confidence that comes from within. i’ll take you through the exact mindset shifts and weekly habits that help you stop people-pleasing, reconnect with your body, and protect your energy. this isn’t about becoming someone new — it’s about coming home to yourself. If you’re in your self-love era and ready to let go of external validation, this one’s for you 💌

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00:00 Introduction: The Importance of Decentering
01:58 Chapter 1: Decentering Everyone and Taking Control of Your Life
09:59 Chapter 2: Centering Yourself and Becoming Self-Obsessed
16:45 Chapter 3: Homework: Practical Steps to Self-Centering
19:04 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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we’re halfway through 2025, which means it’s time for a mid year reset. in this video, i’m sharing the 6-step process to help you get back on track with your goals, upgrade your routines, and shift into your highest self. whether you’re feeling behind or just need a fresh perspective, this is your sign to pause, reflect, and move with intention. let’s make the rest of 2025 count 💫

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00:00 Introduction: Realign, Refocus, and Re-strategize
01:51 Step 1: Back to Basics
05:02 Step 2: Progress Check
06:05 Step 3: Make a New Strategy
08:06 Step 4: Amplify the Wins
10:29 Step 5: Turn Losses into Lessons
14:26 Step 6: Scheduling is King
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ITS THAT TIME AGAIN GIRLIES! I'm answering all of your juicy dilemmas and sharing real advice you can actually use. from calling out red flags in relationships, dealing with toxic friendships, and setting boundaries, to healing your self-esteem, building confidence, and learning how to stop comparing yourself to others. we’re also talking about normalizing your wins, trusting your timeline, and how to stay focused on your own growth 💖 grab a drink and let’s get into it!

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00:54 Dating Dilemmas: Identifying Red Flags and Breaking Cycles
10:42 Friendship Dilemmas: Setting Standards and Identifying Envy
17:16 Being Your Best Self: Achieving Goals and Self-Love
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REALITY CHECK: Why Your Life Still Hasn’t Changed (Even After All Your Effort) — if you’ve been doing the journaling, the meditations, the affirmations… but still feel stuck, this video is your wake-up call. we’re unpacking why effort alone isn’t enough — and how real transformation starts at the subconscious level. i’ll walk you through the shifts that helped me rewire my mindset, align my environment, and finally start seeing results. from identity work to consistency and the quiet habits that actually reshape your reality — this is the deep work that leads to real change 💭🧠

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00:00 Introduction: Why Your Efforts Aren't Paying Off
02:02 Understanding the Subconscious Mind
04:52 The Power of Meditation and Visualization
08:37 Reprogramming Your Subconscious Mind
10:42 Environmental and Lifestyle Conditioning
14:32 Mindset Shifts for Lasting Change
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this is your ultimate "that girl" summer glow-up guide 🌞 to become unrecognizable by summer 2025. from beauty rituals that’ll have you feeling like her, to mindset shifts that level you up from the inside out—i’m sharing everything that helped me step into my hottest, most confident self. we’re talking self-care, daily habits, lifestyle changes, and the energy shifts that turn your dream life into your real life. get cozy, take notes, and let’s romanticize every moment together 💌

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00:00 Introduction: Are You Ready to Become Unrecognizable This Summer?
00:52 Chapter #1: Mastering Your External Glow Up
08:25 Chapter #2: Mastering Your Internal Glow Up
13:57 Chapter #3: Living Life in Style
17:19 Chapter #4: Becoming Your Successful Self
21:22 Conclusion: Your Glow-Up Journey

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This is the ultimate guide to becoming the main character of your life—because life is a movie, and it’s time to step into the spotlight. In this video, we’re diving into the mindset shifts and reality checks that helped me stop waiting for permission and start writing my own plotline. From rewriting your inner dialogue and ditching external validation, to building confidence and romanticizing your daily rituals—this is about becoming the kind of person your younger self dreamed of being.

So if you’re ready to glow up from the inside out and finally become the main character of your own story—this one’s for you 💌

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• 00:57 Understanding Main Character Energy
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• 10:36 Homework: Action Steps to Embody Main Character Energy
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