Self-Performance Strategies Podcast

Let's talk about Tactical Laziness.
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Welcome to the Self-Performance-Strategies (S-P-S) Podcast

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Main quote:

"I choose a lazy person to do a hard job. Because a lazy person will find an easy way to do it."

― Bill Gates

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Main takeaways:

​I love making things simpler.

Finding ways to do less work while improving results.

It is an art and a skill.

I often use the 3 D's to help when work comes my way.

Do, Drop, or Delegate.

I have talked about this system before

But it is essential to use to stay focused on high-dollar and high-value activities daily.

Many of the business owners I speak with struggle with this.

They spend their days drowning in low-value work.

It causes a lot of frustration and stress.

Lazy systems can help you feel less frustrated and stressed.
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Have you ever asked yourself this question:

Where can I do less work but improve my results?

If you have, you may already be Tactically lazy.

Here are 6 of the best "lazy" systems to help you do more in less time:

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1. The Getting Things Done (GTD) Method

The GTD overview is based on five principles:

1. Capture

2. Clarify

3. Organize

4. Reflect

5. Engage

By clarifying your work and using the GTD pipeline, you can effectively prioritize your tasks and keep track of how you're spending time.

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2. The Pomodoro Technique

You know this one, right?

You work in 25-minute bursts, spaced by 5-minute breaks.

On the 5th pass, you have a 15-30 minute rest.

You can alter the bursts.

I like going for 30 mins and doing 3 passes.

Sprint - rest - sprint works like magic.

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3. Task Batching

This process is effective because you use single-tasking, not multitasking.

Your brain loves to work like this.

When you use task batching, you group similar tasks and eliminate the strain on your brain.

Maximize your productivity and keep your brain happy.
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4. Eat the Frog

Eat the Frog is getting the most challenging task done as soon as possible.

While the task is usually the most important, it doesn't have to be; the main point is that it's the task you dread most.

Start big and build momentum.

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5. Most Important Tasks (MITs)

A Most Important Task (MIT) is a single task that will take no more than one day to complete.

Now, I use this system when I focus on one project all day.

A daily sprint helping me complete a project or piece of work in under 24 hours.

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6. Journaling

Journaling done well is a superpower.

Use your journal to plan your week, review days, and build plans.

Spending an hour on Sunday planning your week can save you hours, and it gives direction.

For me, it is the ultimate "lazy" system.

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Productivity Hacks Suck.

Welcome to the  Self-performance Strategies Podcast.

​Main quote:

High performers don't need fancy productivity hacks; they have a clear vision, are driven by a powerful why, and just get shit done. 
- Stephen Timoney

Key Takeaways:

Emotions are key

In the end, it is emotion, not hacks or repetition, that creates habits.

What you do has to make you feel good, and what you do has to make you feel successful.

If what you are doing is not making you happy, stop doing it and start doing what does.
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A quick exercise you can do is ask yourself these 3 questions:

Is what I am doing aligned with my life vision?

Is what I am doing helping me grow and contribute?

Is what I am doing fulfilling me?

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If you get a NO for one or all these questions, you should find ways to stop doing those things.

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What do you mean hacks suck?

When I talk about productivity hacks, I mean common hacks like:

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These work and are useful, and you may have used them, had some success but then fallen back into your typical ways.
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You have to get much deeper than hacks and systems to make significant, lasting changes.

For example, if you work in corporate, these types of hacks work because you have a structure where you have daily tasks and deadlines.

Remove this structure, and they become just ideas.

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You need to connect to your vision and why.

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Your emotional framework needs to be developed.

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Even if you're not an entrepreneur, you have to get deeper than surface-level strategies.

Have a good look at all your emotional anchors if you want to improve your performance.

Listen to parts of you that you have not heard from in years, the stories you have been looping for decades.

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Without fixing these issues and building a new, more robust framework, you will feel depressed, overwhelmed, unmotivated, or limited.

Because you are anchored to your broken parts, no productivity hack or fancy new system will fix that.

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You have to go and do the inner work; you need to break free.

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If you want to have the life you always dreamed of, you need to do it and keep doing it.

You will always tell yourself stories, and over time, you will even adopt new anchors.

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​This is a rinse and repeat process.

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So before you go and read James Clear's Atomic Habits or Cal Newport's Deep Work for the 6th time, go address your emotional anchors first.

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Taking the time to do this in my life has changed me forever, and I hope never to forget this lesson again.

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Open loops are killing your success.

Welcome to the Self-Performance Strategies Podcast.

Main Quote:

"Anything that does not belong where it is is an "Open-Loop" pulling on your attention."

-David Allen

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Main takeaways:

What is an Open Loop?

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Psychologist and psychiatrist Bluma Zeigarnik first discovered the Open Loop process.

She discovered what is now known as the Zeigarnik Effect (Open Loop), the tendency of our brain to remember and focus on incomplete tasks more than it does on completed tasks.

This unfortunate predisposition was taken further and applied to the concept of productivity by management consultant David Allen.

In his best-selling book, Getting Things Done, Allen explains a direct link between our ability to switch off and relax and our productivity.

The basic message is that you will never reach your creative potential and be in danger of burnout unless you allow yourself proper rest by closing loops.

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Closing Open Loops.

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Solving the problem 99% of business owners and leaders struggle with.

To further explain, an Open Loop is anything pulling at your attention stopping you from reaching states of flow or deep work.

They are also the list that appears in your mind as you drift off to sleep.

You never close the loop, so your subconscious likes to think about it.

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Open Loops can include:

-Bills not paid

-Money owed

-Books unread

-Taxes not done

-Projects started

-Emails not responded to

-Invitations not answered

-Boxes in rooms left for years

-Unresolved relationship issues

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Anything you have left unclosed or undone in your life.

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You need to free your mind.

You consider all of your Open Loops important.

Like a tab on your computer, you devote a portion of memory to them, and it drains your CPU.

But doing this can make you feel paralyzed and frustrated because you have too many tasks to tackle, so you tackle none.

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How do you close loops?

With a simple 2 step process, you can quickly close 99% of your loops.

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First, create an Open Loop list.

Set a timer for 30 minutes and brain dump every Open Loop you can think of.

Anything that is not complete, from projects to old relationships.

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Now you Do, Drop, Delegate

If you have done the 1st part right, you will laugh a little at the amount of shit on your mind.

You know 80% of the list can be dropped.

The following 20% you should delegate or do within the next 7 days.

It will take work, but it needs to be done.

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Do a monthly audit.

Life is crazy; you are constantly opening new loops daily.

Relationship loops will be harder to close, but the emotional freedom you will feel once they are is worth it.

Sit down at the end of each month, close loops, and see your mental performance improve.

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​Don't let Open Loops stop you.

I have not met a person who has this 100% under control.

If you feel overwhelmed and stressed right now, take the time to do the exercise, and you will instantly feel more focused and mentally clear.

Close loops so you can open up success.

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7 key rules of productivity

Welcome to the Self-Performance Strategies Podcast

Main quote:

"Learn the rules like a pro, so you can break them like an artist."

― Pablo Picasso

Key episode takeways:

My 7 key rules of productivity.
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To help myself perform at high levels daily with my productivity, I developed these 7 rules and guidelines.

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You can perform at a high level:

If you don't think you can be productive, you won't be

If you don't think you can succeed, you won't

High performance comes from abundant self-belief.

Start finding ways daily to build that belief and stack those wins.

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Leading yourself is key to performance:

You can read, learn, and attempt to use all the productivity systems in the world.

But if you don't know how to lead yourself or have no self-discipline, no system will work.

Start building your discipline and show up every day.

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Master your inner game:

You will hit a barrier with your productivity and performance at a certain point.

The hacks and systems can't help get past deep emotional anchors.

You have to face these emotional issues, defeat them, or be aware of them if you want to succeed.

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Link your performance to your strengths:

A trap many fall into is trying to get good at their weakness; this does not improve your performance.

You should be working to improve your strengths, find out what you are good at or what works for you and double down on them.

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Focus on what you want, not what you want to avoid:

People avoid the negative but forget to move towards the positive.

You should know what you want to achieve with your increased productivity.

Not being specific on a positive end goal is a pointless waste of energy.

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Creativity needs organization:

The more organized you are, the easier it is to be productive.

When you are organized mentally, emotionally, and physically deep work and high-performance flow are much easier to tap into.

This takes planning, but the end results are worth it.

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Rest, recharge, refocus:

Hustle culture has infected some people with the idea that to be productive, you must work 24/7. This is bullshit.

Your downtime has to be elite if you want to have elite performance levels. This is a work of art.

Great rest = Great results.

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Productivity is about mindset 1st.

Use these 7 rules to give you the right mental structures needed to win.

You will find it much easier to get your work done if you can get them right.

Before using another hack or optimizing your life, make sure you have your foundations.

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Do you learn with purpose?

Welcome to the Self-Performance Strategies Podcast.

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The main quote:

"Learning is not attained by chance; it must be sought for with ardour and attended to with diligence."

― Abigail Adams

The main takeaways:

 The learning Loop:
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If you understand how to learn new skills, you will acquire them faster.

10% Of learning comes from courses, books, podcasts etc.

20% Discussing ideas with people.

70% Comes from doing it.

Now, look at the skills you are currently learning and ask, are you in the 30% or the 70%?

The whole process is essential, but many get trapped in the early stages.

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Knowledge + Action = Skills:
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As Albert Einstein (TV show version) said:

"Any fool can know. The point is to understand."

To avoid procrastination, overwhelm, and frustration, you must learn and take action as quickly as possible.

While learning can be fun, it can also be a trap.

Learning is not action.

You're probably working constantly on getting better if you're like me.

This means you spend a lot of time:

- Reading books

- Listening to podcasts

- Doing online courses
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Trying to consume and absorb as much information as you can.

However, this can quickly turn into just learning for the sake of learning.

You end up reading books, listening to podcasts, attending webinars, workshops, and doing courses.

Even though you know the content is not relevant to your current situation.

You may find yourself overwhelmed.

You might even snap and decide success is not for you.

This is why you need to consume with purpose.
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​So what does this look like?​
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It means ensuring that the books you read, the podcasts you listen to, and the courses you complete link to an issue or roadblock you face in life, in your side hustle, career, or business.
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You no longer just read the next bestseller on Amazon for business, marketing, or personal development.
You no longer listened to every episode of the same podcasts.
You stop going to workshops just because they are on.
You start buying the right courses at the right time.
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You need to slow down and start to dissect what is currently going on:
- In your life
- In your work
- In your projects
- Or in any other area you are improving
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Then find the resources that address these questions.

This will help you reach your goals more efficiently.

Sound's simple, but consuming with a purpose is a huge mental breakthrough many don't achieve in life.

When you have a focus on your learning, you focus on the right knowledge.

This, in turn, helps you take daily action in the right areas of your life.

This strategy makes consuming more enjoyable.

Since you can onboard new information, take something away from it, and start implementing and improving right away.

Always remember that:

Knowledge + Action = Skills
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Consume with a purpose and see your life change.

When have you got lost learning with no purpose?

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Are you stopping you from success?

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Welcome to the Self-Performance Strategies Podcast.

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Main Quote from the episode:

"It is an acknowledged fact that we perceive errors in the work of others more readily than in our own."

― Leonardo da Vinci

Main takeaways from the episode:

7 cognitive biases you need to understand if you want to grow your business, make better decisions, and win more often:

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Bandwagon Effect:

The bandwagon describes the tendency for you to adopt certain behaviours or ideas because others are doing so.

You see people succeeding with specific strategies, and you switch from one to another before giving them time to work.

Stop it.

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Dunning-Kruger Effect:

You think new ideas and strategies will be easy to use.

But with low ability in these new ideas, you are prone to overestimate your ability.

We are not good at objectively evaluating our competency levels.

Give yourself more slack with new projects.

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Plan Continuation Bias:

You love a good plan; who doesn't?

But we tend to continue with an original plan even if all our data points to it no longer being viable.

Sticking to your plan at all costs will cost you.

Be more flexible.

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Egocentric Bias:

You might not be as smart as you think.

We have the tendency to rely too heavily on our perspective, and we have a higher opinion of ourselves than we should.

The ego can trick us.

Maybe have a few slices of humble pie and start asking for help.

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Confirmation Bias:

You're not being objective.

We tend to see and interpret information in a way that supports previously held beliefs.

You attribute good results to your work, plan, or content.

But attribute bad results to external factors, digital algorithms, or the news.

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The Gambler's Fallacy:

Your ideas failing the last 5 times don't mean they will work on the 6th. This fallacy says that we tend to believe that random past events affect future outcomes.

If the game hasn't changed and you haven't changed, results will stay the same.

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Pygmalion Effect:

You are not using this one, and it shows.

The Pygmalion effect, also known as the Rosenthal effect, states that high expectations improve performance in a given area.

The lower they are, the worse the result.

Go out and set higher expectations.

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Cognitive biases are sneaky:

They can negatively affect our thinking and decision-making and lead us to make mistakes we could have avoided.

Sit down today and ask yourself, are any of these 7 biases keeping you back from levelling up in life.

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Let's talk about success leading to failure.

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Welcome to the Self-Performance-Strategies (S-P-S) Podcast.

Main quote:

"Knowing where the trap is—that's the first step in evading it."

― Frank Herbert, Dune

Main takeaways:

Are you confused about why you are stuck after succeeding?

Did you assume it would be easier?

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It happens to the best:

History is littered with examples of companies mishandling their success.

One key example is Apple in the late 90s. Luckily, they recovered.

But what happened and how did you get stuck?

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Let's dive in...

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Part 1: Your success:

At some point, your self-performance was on point.

You had:

Clear goals

Clear targets

Clear vision

And you acted each day to make them all come true.

You created success, but…

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Part 2: Opportunities:

Success leads to opportunities.

This is can be a good thing.

But you often lose sight of your original plans and goals with too many options.

You take on opportunities that don't fully align with you.

Not all opportunities are good opportunities.

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​Part 3: Stretched thin:

Too many options and opportunities lead to your efforts and energy being stretched thin.

You end up wondering where it all went wrong.

You have so much on you are not sure of which direction to take.

Often, you procrastinate and take no action.

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​Part 4: Stuck and failing:

Your confused efforts undermine the clarity that led to our success in the first place.

Leaving you stuck, failing, and overwhelmed.

Lost in a sea of confusing you realize you have to take action before your ship hits rocks and sinks.

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​The way out:

Remember Steve Jobs?

When he came back to Apple in 1997, he cut over 70% of the company's product line.

They were stretched too thin.

You need to do the same.

You need to get back to the clarity you had.

You need to align with your big vision for your business.

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Are you in the Sh*t Zone?

Welcome to the Self-Performance Strategies Podcast.

Key quote from the show:

"Focus does not mean saying yes; it means saying no."

- Steve Jobs

Key Episode Takeaways:

What is the Sh*t Zone:
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Do you ever do one thing, but your mind is on another thing?

You're in the Sh*t Zone

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When you're in the Sh*t Zone.

- Your work is sh*t

- Your mood is sh*t

- Your results are sh*t

- Your productivity is sh*t

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The best way to get out of this mess?

Follow the advice of Steve Jobs.

Say no to the Sh*t Zone by only thinking about one thing.

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3 Strategies to get out of the Sh*t Zone:

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🔹 Clear targets:

You get in the Sh*t Zone daily because you don't know what to focus on.

What are your key pillars in life?

What are the activities that move your life forward?

When you get clear, you get focused.

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🔹 Manage your bandwidth:

You can only do a certain number of tasks daily.

You also can only have a certain number of projects on the go.

When you over-commit, you overload your schedule, ending up in the Sh*t Zone.

Reduce your workload.

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🔹 Intention:

You don't do anything intentionally.

You go from fire to fire daily with your attention stretched.

Stop, step back and breathe.

Then fully commit to the task at hand.

At work, be at work

With your family, be with your family.

Be intentional.

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People spend a lifetime in the Sh*t Zone.

Always letting their mind be in two places at once.

Then they wonder why they feel tired, stressed and stretched to the limit.

Don't let that happen to you; use these 3 strategies and spend more time zoned in on one thing.

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Let's talk about How to close your integrity gap

Welcome to the Self-Pefromnace-Strategies (S-P-S) Podcast

Quote: 

"Perfection is achieved, not when there is nothing more to add, but when there is nothing left to take away."

― Antoine de Saint-Exupéry.

Core takeaway

How you show up vs. how you want to show up

You set high expectations for yourself, and when you don't meet those expectations, it hurts.

This is the daily mental and emotional weight you put on yourself daily.

You have this idea that you must be hitting personal bests daily to win in life.
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Questions for you:

How many personal bests does Usain Bolt have in the 100 metres dash?

He has ONE

Yes, he has a lot of days that come close to that, but at any point, he only has one personal best.
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So how do top athletes and entrepreneurs succeed?

They focus on removing anything that stops them from succeeding.

It is easier to close your Integrity Gap by removing all the dumb sh*t, energy vampires, and time-wasting activities from your day.

You don't have to show up and break personal bests daily.

You only need to focus on not dipping down into the activities that derail your day and energy.

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How to close your Integrity Gap and stop self-sabotaging your results
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The biggest blockage in your business is your self-performance.

Let me show you how to get out of your way.

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Gurus get it wrong

Yes, I said that.

Over 90% of productivity coaches will tell you to raise your bar.

Be better, create frameworks, or have an optimized daily schedule.

These "gurus" are way off, in my opinion.

The way to close your Integrity Gap and improve results is by doing less dumb sh*t.
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Let me walk you through 4 key areas that help you do less dumb sh*t and close your Integrity Gap.

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Fear of trying:

There are areas in life right now where you fear change.

You are stuck doing what you are used to, and it no longer serves you.

Mentally and emotionally, you get attached to bad habits and routines that slow you down.

I have a client that knew they needed to drop or delegate low-value work.

But each day, they didn't.

Then each day went the same way.

Frustration, overwhelm, and stress.

They expected hiring help would cause more stress.

They were wrong.

It helped immensely.

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​Your hedonistic parts:

You all have them.

You all do some amount of dumb sh*t each day.

From too much TV, social media, or overeating.

I have a client that thought it was okay to unwind every night with a few beers.

He would stay up later than planned, affecting his sleep.

What do you think happened when he stopped doing that every night?

His sleep got better

He was fresher each day

He ended up being more focused

Trust me when I say:

You are doing something dumb in your life that is slowing you down.

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​Repeating your actions:

You have all done this, repeating the same actions over and over again.

Hoping this time they will work, but it doesn't.

A client continually over-scheduled his days and weeks.

He was constantly beating himself for not staying on track.

He always thought he just needed more discipline.

He expected he should be able to work 12 hours a day and still have time for his family.

He had a to-do list each day longer than his arm.

We cut that list down to 3 things a day, and he started stacking wins.

Having a massive to-do list is dumb.

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​Not going all-in:

Going 100% in on 1 thing is easier than 80% on 3 things.

Most of the clients I help struggle with procrastination because they dabble with several ideas at a time.

They get overwhelmed and don't know their next step, so they do dumb sh*t instead.

With one client, we got explicitly clear on their key pillars in life.

Then he wrote all the activities they did each day that had nothing to do with those pillars.

Over the coming weeks, he dropped or delegated a huge list of tasks, most of which were low-value or dumb sh*t.

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Close your integrity gap

I am sure you can now see how you are doing several activities daily that are keeping you back.

You are stopping you from becoming the person you want to be.

And it's not because you haven't raised your bar.

It's because you are doing dumb sh*t.

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Harsh but true.

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Let's talk about Raising your floor.

Welcome to the Self-Performance-Strategies (S-P-S) Podcast

Quote: 

"We do not rise to the level of our expectations. We fall to the level of our training."

- Archilochus

Core takeaways:

Are you frustrated with the highs followed by deep lows?
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Here is how you turn old ceilings into new floors and continuously improve...
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How most people live their lives:

• Boom and bust

• Stop and start

• Drama and distraction

• Derailed by self-sabotaging habits

Big wins followed by deep painful lows are not the way to live your life. But you can change it by improving your self-performance.

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Win or lose, reflect:

When you win, reflect on what stopped you from going even further. When you hit rock bottom, reflect on how you got there, mentally, emotionally, and physically.

Most business owners who seek my help don't do this.

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You have to find the root cause of performance issues:

Examine the process of how you go from on course and winning to crashing into a ditch and losing control.

You have to find out why your performance is up and down like a pump and dump crypto coin.​
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Why does boom and bust happen?

It happens because you never raised your floor.

You still rely on old patterns and habits to overcome barriers.

• You drink or party to relax

• You overeat to de-stress

• You distract yourself with TV or games

All to avoid challenges in life.

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Take me for an example:

• I used to party hard

• I used to watch all the TV shows

• I used to game for hundreds of hours

I did most of that to avoid negative feelings of facing the reality of my life.

During this time, habits like reading, journaling, and meditation were a joke to me.

They were done by boring people who had no social life.

Now they are the foundations of my days.

They are the habits I use to keep myself on course and overcome struggles.

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An honest reflection of my reality today:

My new floor is distraction and time-wasting, getting lost scrolling or doing low-value work.

But…

Think how far that is from partying for two days in a row and barely getting by in life.

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In the 1st weeks of my 90-day Accelerator Program, I show my clients key habits on how to raise their floor.

Here are 5 key areas:

• Meditation and reflection

• Reading and learning

• Planning and vision

• Working out and being healthy

• Know your High value and high-dollar activities.

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Let's dive in deeper...

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Meditation and reflection:

If you don't like meditation then reflect daily.

One common trait with all my clients when I 1st speak to them is they didn't have any type of reflection process for their business.

A simple solution of journaling daily can have a significant impact.

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Reading and learning:

Most people have stopped learning or they don't make enough time for it. Both are not ideal if you want to raise your floor.

In business, you need to constantly develop your skills.

In life, you need to constantly have positive inputs.

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Planning and vision:

Common traits of everyone who procrastinates and is overwhelmed:

• No planning

• No short-term vision

• No long-term vision

Over 97% of people in life don't regularly write out or review their goals, how can you grow without targets and goals?

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Working out and being healthy:

Most people drop these when life gets tough or they are celebrating.

The drinking starts, the binge eating increases and the gym no longer makes the schedule.

You cause your downfall because you break from routine.

Remember...peak results need peak health

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Know your High value and High-dollar activities:

Most of your days should be filled with these activities.

Most people I speak to only spend 1-2 hours a day in these zones.

It should be 4-6 hours if not more.

And when you hit your negative floor you don't do these at all.

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Don't focus only on your ceilings

Success is fun. We all love BIG wins.

But too many only focus on the big wins and forget to upgrade their foundations.

Raising your floor and improving your foundations is a pathway to more significant success you can't ignore.

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