105TTP Self Sabotage & Being Calibrated Perfectly

 

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‘It’s all about calibration – we work perfectly, but if we are mis-calibrated we’ll work perfectly in pursuit of the wrong thing’

In this fascinating episode, Neil explains how self-sabotaging behaviours can be conquered if you are aware of the behaviours and take action to change them.

The key is our own perception of normal and the story we have for ourselves, the inner voice that always seeks to return us to our own ‘normal’.

If you want to bring your story into your reality and make choices that will drive you forward then listen in.

 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Sabotage is defined as any deliberate action aimed at undermining or impeding the progress of a person or organization.
• Often it is voiced as a misunderstanding and rationalised in some way.
• If you are your own saboteur, you are potentially taking actions that could cost you time, money and impact on the relationships you have.
• Self-sabotage is linked to how we feel and what we perceive as normal.
• If things are going well and exceeding expectations people will self-sabotage to bring things back to what they perceive as normal – often a lower level because that’s where they feel they deserve to be.
• The same self-sabotage is in action when the situation is below expectations.
• We are our own worst enemies, and we are our own greatest assets.
• At the time of self-sabotage, you will justify almost any of the actions you take.

Changing

• Becoming aware is vital – when you are about to do something self-sabotaging ask yourself;
• Is this what my business is really all about?
• Is this helping me, or is this hurting me?
• You must be honest with yourself because the easiest person to fool is yourself.

Prevention

• Schedule regular time slots to analyse what you do and reflect and review your actions, it will help you stay on track.
• Update the stories you tell yourself as these have a habit of coming true. Your inner narrative should be constantly evolving as you do to provide the clarity you need.
• Calibrate your own stories: tell yourself better lies and start living in accord with them
• Check your progress honestly, eliminating what doesn’t help you and focussing on what you need to do to bring your story into reality.

 

BEST MOMENTS

‘It can be easy to be lured into doing daft stuff that won’t help you’

‘Our inborn tendency to stay true to whatever lies/stories we tell ourselves’

‘We’ll unconsciously act to exert control and restore the situation to whatever our idea of normal should be’

 

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ABOUT THE HOST

Neil Cowmeadow is a maverick peripatetic guitar teacher from Telford with over 19 years’ experience in the business of helping people. Learn how to start, grow and love your business with Neil’s invaluable advice and tips without the buzzwords and BS!

 

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