Selfish for Success: Entrepreneur | Business | Psychology | Self Esteem | Happiness | Health

Time is your most precious commodity as an entrepreneur. If you don't protect it, it will be devoured by unimportant activities and relationships that suck your energy and ability to build and enjoy the life you desire.

Therefore it's crucial you're SELFISH with your time.

The reason I chose this topic today is that I've decided to go back to doing 1 podcast episode per week instead of 3. It's been fun putting out more content, but I didn't realize how much time it would require. I decided I had to be selfish with my time to honor the other values in my life (projects, business, self-care) and still create valuable content.

I'm still committed to the podcast. In fact, we have several cool interviews with entrepreneurs, as well as solo episodes, that will be released in the coming weeks!

Episode highlights: 

What being selfish with your time means

Why it's crucial for your success and happiness to be selfish with your time

Why it's okay, healthy and moral for you to protect your time

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Being rationally selfish means figuring out what you want, and then going after it to create a flourishing life.

To do that effectively, you have to be CLEAR about what you want. Crystal clear.

The human mind is extremely powerful and can guide you to almost anything you want. But it can only do what you tell it to do. If you give it vague, fuzzy orders, it will create vague, fuzzy directions, and your chances of getting what you want will greatly diminish or be impossible.

The key to getting what you want in your business is being extremely clear about what you want. That's exactly what I teach you how to do in today's episode.

Episode highlights: 

What it means to be clear in your business purpose

Some helpful examples of clear business purposes

Amazon's mission statement & why it's so powerful

How a clear purpose lowers stress, keeps you focused & increases business success

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Amazon's mission statement

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Jay Papasan is a bestselling author that serves as vice president and executive editor at Keller Williams Realty International, the worlds largest real estate company.

The books Jay’s helped craft have collectively sold over 8 million copies. His most recent book with Gary Keller entitled, The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results has sold over a million copies worldwide and garnered more than 300 appearances on national bestseller lists, including #1 on The Wall Street Journal’s hardcover business list.

Jay formerly worked in the publishing industry at HarperCollins, where he helped piece together such bestselling books as Body-for-Life by Bill Phillips and Go for the Goal by Mia Hamm.

As a bestselling author, Jay’s books have been on numerous bestselling lists, including The Wall Street Journal, USA Today, and The New York Times.

Episode Highlights:

A very common misconception about writing books

How to prevent overwhelm and simplify when pursuing a business

How people become masters at what they do

What can pull you through self-doubt as you pursue challenging goals

Jay: "Success happens outside your comfort zone."

How fear can be fun and exciting instead of negative

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Jay's website, Twitter, Facebook , & Instagram pages

Jay's books

The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results, by Gary Keller & Jay Papasan

Mastery, by Robert Greene

Mindset: The New Psychology of Success, by Carol S. Dweck

SFS 026: 6 Tips for Tackling FEAR in the New Year

Jaws

Quote Jay mentioned: "We are not afraid of predators, we're transfixed by them, prone to weave stories and fables and chatter endlessly about them, because fascination creates preparedness, and preparedness, survival. In a deeply tribal way, we love our monsters." E.O Wilson

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Self criticism is common among high achievers and those that set high standards for themselves. Entrepreneurs frequently fit into this category.

Today I talk about how to stop beating yourself up while maintaining high standards and big and bold business and life goals.

Episode highlights: 

Debunking the belief that criticizing yourself makes you better

Why beating yourself up has NO positive benefits

A powerful way to stop beating yourself up

How to continually get better as an entrepreneur

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The idea of GRIT being an essential component of success has become popular in recent years. What is grit and does it require pushing beyond your mental and physical limits for you to succeed as an entrepreneur?

Today we explore this question. The answer can make the difference between success and failure in your business.

Episode highlights: 

Why grit is necessary for business and life success

Why grit doesn't mean pushing beyond your limits

The distinct difference between grit and pushing too hard

How to know when to stop working (and still have grit)

Taking a long-term view of success

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Resources Mentioned

Angela Lee Duckworth's Ted Talk

Peter Diamandis

The XPrize

How to make a spaceship, by Julian Guthrie

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Tony Wrighton has been a presenter on Sky Sports since 2006, and is also a personal development author and podcaster. He has three books published with Virgin Books in 12 languages and is one of the country's foremost experts on NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming).

He’s the host of the top-rated podcast Zestology, interviewing a wide range of experts in the field of health and personal development. He regularly appears as a guest on other shows talking about energy, vitality, and motivation.

Episode Highlights:

Why people are more open now about pursuing self-improvement

How Tony used NLP to build his radio following

Why you don't have to be confident at what you want to do to start doing it

Not making decisions based on money but what will make you happy

Is it harder to get out of your comfort zone as you get older?

How you can use podcasts and podcasters as mentors

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Tony's website, Twitter, Facebook , & Instagram pages

Tony's podcast Zestology

Mastery, Robert Greene

Tangentially Speaking podcast, with Chris Ryan

Fight Club

Interview with Josh Waitzkin on Tim Ferriss podcast

The Art of Learning: A Journey in the Pursuit of Excellence, by Josh Waitzkin

Searching for Bobby Fischer

Bulletproof coffee

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Do entrepreneurs only care about making money? This is what you hear everywhere. And it's why people don't trust entrepreneurs and certainly don't think of them as heroes.

But is this really true? The answer to this question is vital for success as an entrepreneur, i.e., attaining not only profit, but pride, self-esteem and happiness in your business and life.

Episode highlights: 

Why money and profit are good and moral motivations

Making money is NOT the primary motivation for most entrepreneurs

The motivation that leads to success, self-esteem and fulfillment in business

What I think motivates Sara Blakely (Spanx), Gary Erickson (Clif Bar) & Jeff Bezos (Amazon)

Why entrepreneurs emulate the essence of what it is to be a human being

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Sara Blakely

Gary Erickson

Jeff Bezos

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Is loving yourself bad?

That's what an article in a popular online newspaper argues. In today's Selfish in the Wild segment, we'll explore this question and address the criticisms of self-love this article proposes.

Episode highlights: 

How self-love (and selfishness) is attacked everywhere

Loving yourself doesn't mean closing yourself off from the world

Why narcissists DON'T love themselves

What "loving yourself" really means

Why you should be selfish with who you love

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Is self-love the best type of love?

Arrogance (or Narcissism) is Not the Same as High Self-Esteem

SFS 012: Is Unconditional Love Possible?

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The Association for Psychological Science has praised today's guest, Dr Edwin A. Locke, saying, "Locke is the most published organizational psychologist in the history of the field. His pioneering research has advanced and enriched our understanding of work motivation and job satisfaction. The theory that is synonymous with his name — goal-setting theory — is perhaps the most widely-respected theory in industrial-organizational psychology.”

Dr. Locke is a psychologist and pioneer in goal-setting theory. He’s Dean's Professor (Emeritus) of Leadership and Motivation at the R.H. Smith School of Business at the University of Maryland, College Park. He received his BA from Harvard and his Ph.D. in Industrial Psychology from Cornell University.

He’s the author or editor of 12 books, including The Selfish Path to Romance: How to Love with Passion and Reason (with Dr. Ellen Kenner), and his seminal work A Theory of Goal Setting and Task Performance (with Dr. Gary Latham).

Dr. Locke also a writer and lecturer for the Ayn Rand Institute and is interested in the application of the philosophy of Objectivism to behavioral sciences.

We cover a wide range of topics and Ed provides a breadth of knowledge, advice and life experience that will help you achieve in your business and life.

Episode Highlights:

Ed Locke: "My god, why would I want to be a regular guy?"

Why ED loves the Clint Eastwood quote, "A man's got to know his limitations."

Why Ed never had self-doubt and the secret to his self-confidence

Why you shouldn't take disapproval seriously

Independence vs. mindless obedience

Where self-esteem comes from (it's NOT other people)

The crucial importance of leisure for a happy life

Why ART is so important to a full life

Be very selective about your favorites in work, love, friendships, leisure & art

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Ed's website

The Selfish Path to Romance: How to Love With Passion and Reason, by Edwin A. Locke & Ellen Kenner

The Prime Movers: Traits of the Great Wealth Creators, by Edwin A. Locke

The Illusion of Determinism: Why Free Will is Real and Causal, by Edwin A. Locke

Atlas Shrugged, by Ayn Rand

The Fountainhead, by Ayn Rand

Victor Hugo

Thomas Edison

General Sherman

Winged Victory

Venus de Milo

Vermeer

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The concept or idea of "selfish" that virtually everyone uses is WRONG.

I explain why "selfish" (as it's usually used) is an invalid concept, and discuss what the actual meaning of selfish is.

Episode highlights:

How the definition of "selfish" combines two ideas that don't belong together

Why taking advantage of others or doing whatever you feel is NOT selfish

Why it's crucial to health and happiness to have an accurate definition of selfish

The concepts you use determine how you think, feel and guide your life (for the positive or negative)

Why the concept "selfish" (as it's commonly understood) makes it hard to do things for yourself without feeling guilty

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