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The number one thing that stops people from achieving success and happiness is self doubt. And it's rampant in our world today.

We dive deep and discuss what self doubt is, how it limits your ability to pursue and create a career and life you love, and how to overcome it and attain unshakeable self confidence.

Episode highlights:

5 ways self-doubt ties you down

The 4 reasons why so many people doubt themselves (no matter how smart or talented they are)

6 tips for becoming free from self-doubt (and building self-confidence)

Why masters at their craft develop self doubt

You won't hear self doubt discussed in more depth and dynamism than in today's episode, so you don't want to miss it!

Success Challenge

Make 3 decisions over the next week about things you’ve been putting off (bog or small). Think (only as much as necessary), make a decision, act, then see what happens.

Let me know if I can help. Email me [email protected]

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Ever dreamed of traveling the world, working from exotic beaches or cities? For the past four years my guests Danika and Chris have done just that.

In March 2014, they quit their jobs, sold everything, and rented out their house in San Francisco - all to travel the world. They left their friends and family, and set off to Europe with a one-way ticket to Rome, Italy.

Since then, they've visited over 90 different destinations around the world. They've swam with sea turtles in the Maldives, trekked through the rain forests of Malaysia, hiked a glacier in Iceland and explored the deserts of the United Arab Emirates.

They’ve built an extremely popular luxury travel blog called No Destinations, and built a massive social media following  (where they post beautiful & amazing photographs of their adventures).

When they set off on this trip almost 4 years ago, they never imagined this type of lifestyle would be possible. And yet, somehow they managed to make it work!

Today we talk about HOW they made it work, so you can apply that knowledge to achieving your own dreams.

Episode highlights:

How to travel the world & earn a living

The KEYS to building a huge social media following

Successfully navigating the stresses of travel

Being selfish (i.e., self-valuing) about how you live your life

Not letting family (or guilt) stop you from pursuing your dreams

If you need inspiration for pursuing your own dream, you don't want to miss this episode. 

Resources Mentioned

Chris & Danika's website, Instagram, Twitter, & Facebook pages

On The Road, by Jack Kerouac

Walden, by Henry David Thoreau

Angels & Demons, by Dan Brown

The Beach (movie)

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What do you owe your family? Many people struggle with this question. The lack of a clear answer causes a lot of turmoil.

We answer that question today and define the crucial distinction between chosen and unchosen obligations to family.

More than anything, unchosen obligations prevent you from creating and living a life you love. They suck your time, energy and money away from the values most important to you.

When I see clients for anxiety, depression, stress or relationship problems, unchosen obligations are a frequent underlying cause. Why? Because satisfying other people's desires at the expense of your own is destructive to your health (mental and physical) and happiness.

Today we explore unchosen obligations to family--parents, grandparents, siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins, in-laws, etc. (excluding romantic partner & kids).

Episode highlights:

What you owe your family (the answer may surprise you)

The crucial difference between chosen and unchosen obligations

Why unchosen obligations make it difficult to impossible to create a flourishing life

3 Tips for breaking free from unchosen obligations to family

If you're struggling to fulfill obligations to family while trying to build a life you love, you won't want to miss this episode Listen Now

Success Challenge

Apply the 3 tips I went over for how to start breaking free from unchosen obligations to family.

It can be challenging to break unchosen obligations. Let me know if I can help. You can email me at [email protected]

Resources Mentioned

SFS 018: How to Become Free From Guilt

Powerful clip from Guess Who's Coming to Dinner

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y4uFfjZ3eHA

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Phil M. Jones is the author of five best-selling books and the youngest ever winner of the coveted ‘Sales Trainer of The Year’ award.

He's in high demand as a speaker, famous for his powerful “Magic Words” and his highly engaging, dry British approach to what is often a subject that’s littered with hype and power-hungry “gurus.”

In this interview, Phil opens up about how he manages fear and criticism, and what inspires and fuels him, in his career and life.

Episode highlights:

The importance of knowing what motivates the work you do

How Phil relishes facing fears knowing "the good stuff is on the other side"

Keeping a “done it” list instead of a “to do” list

Putting your focus on what you have control over (not what you don’t)

How Phil uses a “Victory Journal” to overcome his fears

Phil is extremely articulate and provides a lot of practical tips and tools for achieving success in your chosen career. Listen now

Resources Mentioned

Phil's website, Twitter, Facebook , Instagram & YouTube pages

Exactly What to Say, by Phil M Jones

Magic Words, by Phil M Jones

Top Gun

Jerry Maguire

Will Smith on Skydiving & Overcoming Fear

Ed Sheeran

Jim Rohn

Jon Acuff

Win Streak App (free)

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This the first episode in my new series—“How to Become Free in Your life.” In episode 16, I gave you the overview of the series.

It will consist of several episodes covering the main obstacles to freedom, and then tips, tools and strategies for how to dissolve and break-free from these obstacles – so you can create a life you love.

What I mean by “freedom” in this series is personal freedom, which means being totally free in your life, and within yourself, within your own mind and emotions, to think and act to create the life you want, without anyone or anything stopping you or weighing you down – and then enjoying what you’ve achieved!

Today we dive into one of the main psychological obstacles to freedom: Guilt.

Guilt is not talked about much (unlike fear and anxiety), but it’s one of the most painful and debilitating emotions.

Episode Highlights:

What is guilt and what causes you to feel it

The two types of guilt

Why guilt directly impacts your self-esteem

How one type of guilt helps you and the other hurts you

Skills and strategies for becoming free from both types of guilt

This episode is detailed and packed with the knowledge and tools you need to understand guilt, and to free yourself from it Listen now

Resources Mentioned

SFS 016: How to Become Free in Your Life – New Series

Today’s Success Challenge

Do the exercises I went over in the episode for any guilt (earned or unearned) you might be feeling.

It can be challenging to do this work, but it can also be extremely freeing and rewarding to relieve or throw off guilt that's weighing you down and keeping you from enjoying your life.

If you have questions or need help, you can Email me 

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Dorothy Breininger is famously known as “Dorothy The Organizer. “ She’s America’s Most Innovative Professional Organizer, known to millions as the fearless-yet-endearing problem solver on the Emmy-nominated TV show, “Hoarders” on A&E. Dorothy is also the best-selling author of five books, including her latest, Stuff Your Face or Face Your Stuff.

In addition to being featured in the Wall Street Journal, Forbes and O Magazines, Dorothy appears regularly on the Today Show, the Dr. Phil Show, the VIEW, and many more.

We delve into organization, and the personal challenges Dorothy's faced and overcame on her road to success.

Episode highlights:

How Dorothy freed herself from guilt to make better choices for herself (and those she loves)

Dorothy's struggle with weight and her secret to becoming healthy

Learn why being organized doesn't mean being anal (and how some messiness can be good!)

How Dorothy's love of gymnastics gave her confidence in the other areas of her life

Dorothy's cold call to Jack Canfield that led to her co-writing a Chicken Soup for the Soul book with him

Dorothy has an inspiring story, facing and overcoming mental and emotional challenges to become successful in multiple areas. She's a beautiful illustration of how success comes not from knowing everything, or being perfect, but from hard work, resilience, and continued self-improvement. Listen to her story now!

Resources Mentioned

Dorothy's website, Facebook and Twitter pages

Stuff Your Face or Face Your Stuff, by Dorothy Breininger

Lessons for Busy Moms: Essential Ingredients to Organize and Balance Your World, by Dorothy Breininger, Jack Canfield, et al

The Success Principles: How to Get From Where You Are to Where You Want to Be, by Jack Canfield

How To Win Friends and Influence People, by Dale Carnegie

The painting "Spring" by Sir Lawrence Alma-Tadema

Olympic gymnast Nadia Comaneci

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I’m starting a new series for the SFS podcast entitled: “How to be Free in Your Life.”

It will be several episodes covering the main obstacles to freedom, and then tips and strategies for how to dissolve and break-free from them - so you can pursue the life you want.

What I mean by “freedom” is personal freedom, not political freedom (also vital).

Today, I give you the series overview and intro to what I think are the two main obstacles to personal freedom.

1) Your Psychology

2) Obligations (that tie you down)

Personal freedom means you’re totally free in your life, and within yourself, to think and act to create the life you want, without anyone or anything stopping or slowing you down - and enjoying what you’ve achieved.

Episode highlights:

The 5 types of obligations that restrict your freedom

the 4 areas of your psychology that can sabotage your success

Listen now in iTunes

Today’s Success Challenge

Take 30 minutes. On paper, write down everything that's restricting your freedom or weighing you down. What are the obligations, relationships, commitments or ideas that are stopping or slowing you from having the life you want?

Let the ideas flow, without censoring, analyzing or judging them. Allow yourself to be totally honest and write whatever comes to mind. You might be surprised at what comes out. You don’t have to show this to anyone, so feel free to write whatever comes up.

Then put it aside. You don’t have to do anything with it right now – I just want you to be conscious of these obstacles. You can’t become free if you don’t first know what's restricting your freedom.

Email me and let me know how this exercise went and what you discovered.

Over the coming weeks, I’ll be going into each of the obstacles to freedom in detail, and giving you tips, strategies and skills for overcoming them.

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Andy Petranek is a fitness pioneer and innovator who founded CrossFit Los Angeles in 2004 as one of the ten original CrossFit gyms. Andy's had an amazing life, from attending music school and completing a tour as a Marine in the first Gulf War, to being a professional extreme athlete and successful entrepreneur.

In 2011 he started the Whole Life Challenge, a gamified and community-based extension of what he'd been doing for years in fitness – helping clients stay committed to making better choices each day, outside of the gym, where it really mattered.

The Whole Life Challenge has grown from 150 players in 2011 to over 22,000 worldwide in 2017. It's been responsible for changing the fitness, health, confidence, and lives of hundreds of thousands of people around the world.

Episode highlights:

How to break down massive goals into manageable steps

Why we need to be MORE selfish to be fulfilled and get the life we want

How to manage risk while pursuing big dreams

How to integrate health into every aspect of your life (by making it a game!)

How the movie The Matrix inspired Andy in his life and work

This episode is inspiring and packed with practical tips for achieving your biggest dreams while remaining balanced and healthy in your life.

Resources Mentioned

Whole Life Challenge website, podcast, & Facebook page

Andy's Twitter & Instagram pages

The Matrix

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How do you know which path to forge in life? There are so many possibilities - career, romantic partners, friends, hobbies and a million other things. How do you know which direction's right and good for you?

Many people struggle with this. So today, I delve into 5 tips for how to choose your path in life successfully:

1. Know that you have a choice (your path is not set in stone)

2. Make choices based on what YOU love and are interested in

3. Trust yourself and your choices

4. Learn through action and experience

5. Have the right standard for guiding your choices

Episode highlights:

You can make your life whatever you want it to be

How to continue heading down the right path even when you make the wrong choice

The more you know yourself, the easier it is to choose the right path

How you can start applying the 5 tips immediately

If you're struggling with navigating any area of your life, this episode will make it easier.

Today’s Success Challenge

Ask yourself this question: What do I want my life to be?

Start thinking on paper or journaling your ideas and thoughts. Ask this question about every area of your life:

What do I want for my career?

What type of romantic partner would I like?

What types of things do I like to do for fun or relaxation?

What health practices would I like to adopt?

This is an ongoing process, but it’s important to make asking these questions a regular part of your life, so you can continue guiding yourself towards the life you want (while also enjoying the journey!).

Let me know if I can help in this process by emailing me at [email protected]

Resources Mentioned

SFS 003: Why You Should Choose a Career Selfishly (Part 1)

SFS 003: Why You Should Choose a Career Selfishly (Part 2)

SFS 012: Is Unconditional Love Possible? (and finding success in romantic relationships)

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Nicolas Cole is an accomplished writer and entrepreneur who has achieved more than most at the age of 27. We delve into the details of how he became a world-class gamer, best-selling author, body builder, and entrepreneur.

Episode highlights:

The keys to Cole's (and anyone's) success

Why you have to be selfish (in the healthy way) to achieve anything

How Cole became a top gamer, writer and entrepreneur

How to turn your passion into a paying career

Why Cole was inspired by Tupac Shakur

If you want to achieve high-level success as a writer, entrepreneur, or anything, you won't want to miss this episode.

Resources Mentioned

Cole's website, Instagram & Twitter pages

Confessions of a Teenage Gamer, by Nicholas Cole

Tupac Shakur

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