Serial Stress Killer

When you successfully asked somebody out on a date? How do you make the process a good adventure rather than a cataclysmic catastrophe?

In this episode of Serial Stress Killer Podcast, Chris chats with Mary Balfour, a top dating guru in the UK, about acing your first date. First dates are a make or break for every single pair out there looking for some chemistry. Learn how to mitigate stress before, during, and after your first date. Mary promises that the strategies she shares will improve your dating game.

If you ask why your Mr Maybe or Ms Maybe haven’t contacted you yet for a second date, then make sure to listen in since Mary discusses the top no-no’s – that we hope you haven’t done – during first dates. There will also be tips for first-timers, especially flirting, one of the most essential skills in dating. The dating world can be challenging to get into so now’s the time to observe, listen, and learn from the expert.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Even people who claim they know all about love and dating or who are confident about their conversational skills can break into pieces when he goes on a first date with someone. Stress might come in when we worry too much of the outcome of the first date.

Mary has worked with tens of thousands of people regarding dating. She has seen ever since what and whatnots of the dating world. It’s easy for her now to see the outcome of a person’s dating move.

Tips when you plan the first date.

Set the stage for the ultimate performance. Choose a beautiful place where you can talk and hear each other. This is to make sure you don’t get stressed by the environment during your first date.

Texting is the best way of arranging a date. In this way, you reserve all possible small talks when you meet.

Your first date has to be short. It becomes disastrous when it gets too long. Finish it a little earlier than expected. Keep them on their toes leaving them to be more curious about you.

Another thing that might bring stress is when you talk about yourself or listen to someone talk about himself. As much as possible, there should be balance, truthfulness, and no expectations during an exchange of stories, ideas, and opinions.

Flirting is normal if you want to build chemistry. It’s all about you and another person feeling good about themselves. Use flattery, playfulness, and curiosity.

Flirting needs practice. You can even learn it through flirting courses. Everyone is capable of flirting.

According to Mary, one thing that changed everything is not technology, it’s contraception. Multiple dating became a thing. She also notices that people have set their eyes on completing their checklist of what makes their perfect partner. That is why most dates don’t reach second dates.

Valentine’s Day may not be the most romantic day for everyone. It’s also a very commercialised day. Though, it’s a good reminder of love, affection, and friendship.

BEST MOMENTS

“The stress level or problem perhaps to behave inappropriately or in a way that might sabotage the date – this can happen often.”

“Dating is actually stressful because of your first date particularly is like an exam. You know you’re on show. Their expectations which can be very high are nothing quite realistic on both sides… which can get in the way of people behaving and interacting naturally.”

“Once people start talking about problems on a date, it does spell disaster. You’ve got to keep the first date really light-hearted and a bit flirty; small talk, not big talk.”

“When people fall in love, it’s when they’re really relaxed.”

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Marriages Are Made in Bond Street: True Stories from a 1940s Marriage Bureau by Penrose Halson

The 4-Hour Workweek by Tim Ferriss

Serial Stress Killer on iTunes

ABOUT THE GUEST

Mary Balfour is one of the most experienced dating gurus’ in the UK, running her multi-award-winning, London-based matchmaking agency Drawing Down the Moon for over 30 years. 

Author of Smart Dating: how to find your man (shortly out in its third edition) Mary also shares her field-tested dating strategies and tips via her YouTube Dating Success Channel. 

As a seasoned guest of TV and radio, Mary talks with passion about the wider issues of relationships and the dating industry.

Official Website: marybalfour.com

drawingdownthemoon.co.uk

Smart Dating: How to Find Your Man by Mary Balfour

ABOUT THE HOST

After many years of dealing (badly) with personal stress for over 20 years, Chris Hackett is on a mission to help people understand and overcome stress and anxiety by tackling the problem head-on.

CONTACT METHOD

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BEING HONEST CAN REDUCE YOUR STRESS

Can being honest reduce your stress?

In this episode, Chris tackles honesty and deceit. He explores the reasons why we lie and the stress it causes. If you want to understand more about why we lie and why being honest can reduce your stress listen in now.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Why are you Lying?

The idea that you might hurt someone’s feelings often leads to people lying and saying yes to something in an attempt to please. When you say yes in this context you will immediately feel stressed.

Lying creates inner conflict and you are paving a path of deceit as soon as you lie. You are then also responsible for making sure the lie is not discovered.

What does the Truth give you?

If you’ve ever lied and then realised that you’ve got to confess to it then the feeling when you tell the truth is the lifting of stress caused by the lie.

If you are honest you have no fear of anything and no fear of anyone discovering something. It gives you power over your destiny and enables you to be the person in control of your narrative.

Why do we shy away from the truth?

We sometimes want people to think we are better than we are or we might be ashamed of who we are. Many of us can be ashamed of our emotions or thoughts and worry that others won’t like us because of them.

What are the physical and mental effects?

When a lie is told the body releases cortisone and the heart rate increases as the body move into a fight or flight response. Following the lie, your brain has to work overtime to perpetuate that lie. Overtime anxiety caused by the lie can result in increased stress.

Depending on the what was said you may have to lie further to support the initial lie increasing both the deceit, the responsibility and accompanying stress of perpetuating the web of deceit.

BEST MOMENTS

‘Be brave and set sail on a new course’

‘The long term the stress of living a lie is worse than being honest’

‘Is it worth living a life where you don’t tell the truth?’

‘If you are telling someone else a lie then you are telling yourself a lie’

‘We are all individuals and unique’

‘The idea that people may not like me because of my thoughts’

‘You know you’re not being honest’

VALUABLE RESOURCES

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/serial-stress-killer/id1438515546?mt=2

ABOUT THE HOST

After many years of dealing (badly) with personal stress for over 20 years, Chris Hackett is on a mission to help people understand and overcome stress and anxiety by tackling the problem head-on.

CONTACT METHOD

Contact the show

https://serialstresskiller.com

https://www.facebook.com/groups/serialstresskiller

https://www.instagram.com/serialstresskiller

Support the show - https://www.patreon.com/serialstresskiller

What’s been your favourite episode so far? Connect with Chris to let him know - [email protected]

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In this fascinating episode, Chris explores the impact your gut has on your mental well-being and the immediate actions you can take to improve your gut health.

Tune in to find out how to listen to your gut – it has something important to say!

KEY TAKEAWAYS

What does Your Gut Do?

Previously scientists thought the gut was only concerned with the mechanical process of digestion. Now it’s understood that it is far more complicated and contains 500 hundred million neurons which make up the enteric nervous system.

What is the Vagus Nerve?

The vagus nerve runs from the top of your brain to your gut.

90% of the fibres in the vagus nerve carry information up from the gut and its these signals from the gut that influence the brain and its behaviour.

When it isn’t functioning properly you can suffer from a host of different problems including obesity, mood disorders and seizures.

Where Is Our Second Brain?

The enteric nervous system (ENS) is a huge mesh of neurons located in our gastrointestinal tract. It's the largest collection of neurons found in the body outside of the brain, and because of its ability to operate entirely independently it has often been referred to as our ‘second brain’.

Why are Probiotics Important?

Beneficial bacteria in the gut called probiotics support all aspects of health including your metabolism, cognitive function and immune system.

How can you look after your gut better?

Reduce stress - where you can reduce the stress in your life as this will also help your gut health.

Eat slowly – this ensures food is digested properly

Drink plenty of water - this supports the mucus lining of the gut wall

Take additional probiotic supplements - your gut is full of probiotics, but you can give it a boost

BEST MOMENTS

‘When I started finding out about the gut it was a light bulb moment’

‘Give your gut a cuddle and tell it, you love it’

‘The probiotics in the gut have a huge influence on your mood’

‘This is why you should always listen to your gut as it has something important to say’

‘Your gut plays a huge role in your mental well-being’

VALUABLE RESOURCES

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/serial-stress-killer/id1438515546?mt=2

ABOUT THE HOST

After many years of dealing (badly) with personal stress for over 20 years, Chris Hackett is on a mission to help people understand and overcome stress and anxiety by tackling the problem head-on.

CONTACT METHOD

Contact the show

https://serialstresskiller.com

https://www.facebook.com/groups/serialstresskiller

https://www.instagram.com/serialstresskiller

Support the show - https://www.patreon.com/serialstresskiller

What’s been your favourite episode so far? Connect with Chris to let him know - [email protected]

 

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In this episode, there is an amazing free gift that will enable you to make any tough decisions in 15 minutes. Chris explains how he developed ‘The Tough Decision Matrix’ and how it can help you. Listen in, to find out how to access the Matrix and begin simplifying your life now!

 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

The problem

It can be difficult to say no to other people, this can lead to a situation where you are trying to please everybody else. When in this position, other’s values are the ones by which you are living.

 

If you have creative energy it is likely that you will be excited about new projects and seek to take on new things all the time. This can result in you being someone who starts lots of projects but doesn’t complete them.

 

Undertaking and committing to multiple projects can lead to you becoming so busy that you can only be reactive to situations.

 

Feeling out of control and losing focus on what’s important to you can lead to you being stressed.

 

The Solution

Talking through your current situation will enable you to gain an overview and perspective. You will recognise what needs to change - from your workload to creating more time to look after yourself.

 

If all aspects of the projects you have undertaken are interconnected it can be challenging to envisage how to achieve the changes necessary to make your life balanced.

 

‘The Tough Decision Matrix’ enables you to achieve the changes you need successfully. It allows you to accurately plot each consideration against the values that are important to you.

 

To simplify your life, you need to make tough decisions about letting go of something or doing it in a different way ‘The Tough Decision Matrix’ can be effectively used in any scenario to plot out the challenges and clearly show the solution.

 

 

BEST MOMENTS

‘Find it difficult to say no to anything ‘

 

‘It’s not going to get you where you want to be’

 

‘A process that allows you to regain control’

 

‘When you feel stressed it’s because you feel like you are not in control’

 

‘Fell a bit out of love with everything’

 

‘Was doing what I wanted but had committed to all these various projects all at once’

 

‘The choices I’d made became weights around my neck, heavy ones to carry around each day instead of inspiring me’

 

 

VALUABLE RESOURCES

https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/serial-stress-killer/id1438515546?mt=2

 

http://marydaniels.co.uk/

 

 

ABOUT THE HOST

After many years of dealing (badly) with personal stress for over 20 years, Chris Hackett is on a mission to help people understand and overcome stress and anxiety by tackling the problem head-on.

 

 

CONTACT METHOD

Contact the show

https://serialstresskiller.com

https://www.facebook.com/groups/serialstresskiller

https://www.instagram.com/serialstresskiller

Support the show - https://www.patreon.com/serialstresskiller

What’s been your favourite episode so far? Connect with Chris to let him know - [email protected]

 

 

 

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Phones, iPads and laptops all have an addictive quality. We are all spending more and more time in front of screens with children spending even more time. People are becoming increasingly addicted to screen usage which triggered the BBC to publish an article about a recent study that states that parents shouldn’t be as worried about the screen time usage of their kids as previously thought.

In this episode, Chris takes apart the survey to give his thoughts on firstly why others sources are better, and secondly why all adults should be better role models in limiting their screen time.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Mobile screen time is very addictive, especially with children. Children who can’t even speak yet can be addicted to electronic devices.

Addiction to screen time affects us all. But we as adults have to act as role models. You can’t spend hours on a tablet and then tell your kids that they should stop.

The study on the BBC report is fundamentally flawed. It was a study of 389 reports, and they only cited 181 as potential, which is less than half, then only 13 made the final cut in the study. To publish a survey you need to show at least 2,000 respondents to make it statistically valid. There’s was much less.

This study stated that there is no good evidence that time in front of a screen is toxic. However, they found that there was an association between obesity and depression. Both of which are toxic things.

In a different survey done on a larger scale over a longer period of time, a different result was found. They asked teenagers how happy they are and where they spend their leisure time. The study found that there has been a huge decline with teenagers, dating, sleeping and hanging out with friends since 2007. Since the birth of the first iPhone.

Screen time is a danger. We should be limiting mobile phone usage like sugar. We wouldn’t want our kids to eat Mars bars all day. In an ideal world, what would you want your kid's leisure time to look like?

BEST MOMENTS

‘Children are addicted to screen time.’

‘These devices are flashy and really attractive to kids.’

‘Do as you say.’

‘They aren’t the root of all the world's problems but they certainly aren’t the core.’

‘You need at least 2,000 respondents to make a survey statistically relevant.’

‘Since 2007 a huge decline in friends hanging out.’

‘Teenagers who spend more time on screen activities are more likely to be less happy.’

‘We should treat mobile phone usage like sugar.’

‘The media should be more responsible.’

VALUABLE RESOURCES

The Atlantic Article - https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2017/09/has-the-smartphone-destroyed-a-generation/534198/

The BBC Article Worry less about children's screen use, parents told - https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-46749232

Have Smartphones Destroyed a Generation?

https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2017/09/has-the-smartphone-destroyed-a-generation/534198/

ABOUT THE HOST

After many years of dealing (badly) with personal stress for over 20 years, Chris Hackett is on a mission to help people understand and overcome stress and anxiety by tackling the problem head-on.

CONTACT METHOD

Contact the show

Website: serialstresskiller.com

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/serialstresskiller

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/serialstresskiller

Email: [email protected]

Support the show - https://www.patreon.com/serialstresskiller

What’s been your favourite episode so far? Connect with Chris to let him know - [email protected]

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In this heartfelt episode, Chris explains how his passion for sharing his experiences about stress and wanting to help others inadvertently turned into a source of stress!

If you want a reminder about balance and how we can all achieve it, this podcast is a must to begin a new year with a new focus.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

There are unexpected challenges when doing anything. This applies to this podcast as any podcast requires a level of preparation and research.

Trying to ensure that every show is the best it can be can put the host under pressure. For Chris this was linked to the ‘fear factor ‘– the fear of not being able to create the best show possible. To mitigate this he over prepared and as a result of this lost focus on the important reason for hosting a podcast - to create an enjoyable show.

In trying to create a series that helped to share experience and relieve stress for others Chris realised he had created an incredibly stressful lifestyle for himself.

This reflective learning curve has helped to redefine the focus and structure of the podcast moving forward.

What can you learn from this episode?

Trying to juggle too many things at once is not sustainable- try do something about it

If you lose sight of what is important you need to take time out to find out what it is.

You always have choices, you can always change to make things better. This may mean changing direction completely.

If you are not happy either drop it or change direction. Even if you’re invested in something financially you must consider walking away from that choice if it doesn’t make you happy.

Almost nobody gets it the right first time and that’s ok. You can learn from experience and change things around to keep moving forward.

BEST MOMENTS

It’s a symbiotic relationship’

‘Managed to create a show where I’m not really being me’

‘Stress is a symptom that can come and go’

‘Look back now at this brutal learning curve as useful’

‘During this time I’ve put myself under a lot of pressure, because of the ‘fear factor’’

ABOUT THE HOST

After many years of dealing (badly) with personal stress for over 20 years, Chris Hackett is on a mission to help people understand and overcome stress and anxiety by tackling the problem head-on.

“Stress is the enemy and you are the killer.”

CONTACT METHOD

Website:serialstresskiller.com

Facebook Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/serialstresskiller

Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/serialstresskiller

Email:[email protected]

Support the show

https://www.patreon.com/serialstresskiller

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Time to put down that tub of vanilla ice cream you’re holding! yes, stress could make you fat. But there are ways we could alleviate stress itself and that’s what we are going to dive into in this episode of Serial Stress Killer Podcast.

Chris clarifies that it’s not just your comfort foods – which are processed, high in fat or high in sugar – that contribute to the excess weight, it can be a lot of things. You may be lacking sleep and exercising less. Listen in to know how we can stop overeating and avoid insulin resistance. Chris also enumerates the causes and symptoms of insulin resistance. It’s now time to switch to a healthy diet and get on that treadmill!

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Stress & Overeating

Why stress can cause people to overeat? For a short term, stress shuts down the appetite. Then, the body increases the cortisol levels which trigger you to eat. Stress affects food preferences. Stressed people prefer foods that are high in fat and high in sugar. These foods do dampen stress-related responses and emotions.

Stressed people also lose sleep, exercise less, or drink more alcohol that can contribute to excess weight.

Insulin Resistance

Insulin is a hormone produced in the pancreas that regulates the amount of glucose in the blood. The lack of it results to diabetes.

Insulin resistance is the inability of the body to convert what you eat to the energy needed resulting in a lot of glucose in the blood, which then becomes fat.

Factors that can cause insulin resistance:

Releasing insulin all the time because of high-sugar, high-fat and processed foods

Sleep deprivation

Being overweight

BEST MOMENTS

“It’s sometimes easy to forget why we do things in the moment and especially if we’re not in a good mental place. So, it’s important for you to recognize where you’re responding to your stress in an unhealthy way and do what you can to put the brakes on.”

“Stress really is all in the mind which means that we can get stress on trivial things.”

“Being in the state of constant stress will likely make you eat more.”

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Why stress causes people to overeat – Harvard Health

ABOUT THE HOST

After many years of dealing (badly) with personal stress for over 20 years, Chris Hackett is on a mission to help people understand and overcome stress and anxiety by tackling the problem head-on.

“Stress is the enemy and you are the killer.”

CONTACT METHOD

Contact the show

Website: serialstresskiller.com

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/serialstresskiller

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/serialstresskiller

Email: [email protected]

Support the show

https://www.patreon.com/serialstresskiller

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Chris offers us 5 fantastic tips to help us experience a stress free Christmas, following these tips will ensure that you are able to use the holiday to do the things that you want to and be able to spend quality ime with family and friends. It is a timely reminder about what’s really important for us all.

KEY TAKE AWAYS

Christmas shopping

Take advantage of online shopping and the gift wrapping services they offer. Means you can do it when you want to and free’s up time to spend doing the things you want to do. For food shopping make sure you’re not trying to do it on Christmas Eve, it will defineatly be very stressful at this time.

 

Plan your Christmas exercise routine

The Gym might be only be open for some of the time but there is the great outdoors. even if you only manage 20 minutes a day, you will feel the effects and your body will thank you for it .

 

Try and take a break from work

This can be hard to do lap tops and phones always within reach but if you can take some time use it in a different way and although Christmas is a time for giving be kind to yourself as well. Remember you have to nourish your mind and body

 

Don’t succumb to peer pressure you might find you’re invited to lots of things sometimes by people you don’t see very often. If you want to go thats great but don’t feel you have to. Maybe consider having a few nights off and save your energy for the people who are most important to you. People you love the most including yourself.

Use this time to forgive yourself and others

This could be a time to let go of negative feelings. If you are angry at someone the only person who really gets hurt is you. Ask yourself do you really want to go into the new year with that baggage, can you let it go? It causes you mental stress and you don’t need to carry that forward into the new year.

 

 

BEST MOMENTS

 

“Mark exercise dates on your calender and stick to them”

 

“The consequences from sugar loading, that lead to highs and lows are not good for your body”

“save your energy for the people who are most important to you. People you love the most, including yourself”

 

ABOUT THE HOST

After many years of dealing (badly) with personal stress for over 20 years, Chris Hackett is on a mission to help people understand and overcome stress and anxiety by tackling the problem head-on.

Contact Method

Contact the show

Website: serialstresskiller.com

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/serialstresskiller

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/serialstresskiller

Email: [email protected]

Support the show - https://www.patreon.com/serialstresskiller

What’s been your favourite episode so far? Connect with Chris to let him know - [email protected]

 

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Welcome back to another episode of the Serial Stress Killer podcast with your host Chris Hackett. In this episode, Chris interviews Matthew Rundle,  the award-winning co-founder of Mayfair Aesthetics, one of London’s leading laser hair removal clinics. Chris talks about how he came to setting up his company, the fundamentals and values for his business, and how he keeps his stress levels low.

Key Takeaways

What Is Aesthetic Clinics? We are a series of small boutique clinics focused on laser hair removal. Our lasers are really up to date so that they work for all skins types not just fairer skins types which have meant that we have been able to open our potential customers to everyone. We keep standards really high as we are small and only use laser hair removal, so we aren’t running around doing lots of different jobs and doing them less well.

Is It More Stressful for a Business Owner to Keep High Standards? I would be more stressed if the service we do at Mayfair Aesthetics wasn’t delivering to a high quality of service. That would be stressful. We place a lot of emphasis on quality of customer service and ensuring that our customers get the best possible experience

Design The Experience To Avoid the Problems I’d Seen Before. Matthew highlights that his experience working for other companies in the beauty industry and seeing day to day problems they had in their business has been fundamental to the thinking behind his business. So one of the aims of the business was to solve a lot of these problems from day one. For example, having electronic medical records of customers rather than in paper form. That has saved time and lowered potential stress levels

Having a Signed Agreement of the Expected Results. It’s really important that this is signed at the start of a course of treatment. This has helped prevent and avoid a lot of problems and complaints. This makes sure that the expectations of the customers are managed effectively and reduces complaints. It helps to make sure your staff are healthy and are less stressed so they aren’t having to deal with unhappy customers.

What Do You do to Look After Your Staff’s Mental Health? The way I wanted the business to run was for staff to be able to get on with their job and not have to deal with the problems of a badly run business. From day one we decided that we weren’t going to operate like previous places that I had worked in. We added extra time in our appointments so staff aren’t rushing around, and you allow customers to be a little late, it means that everyone is more relaxed

How Big A Problem are Unhappy Customers if You’re not set up Correctly? In the service industry that is where the biggest stress comes from. Other areas like stock or cash flow can also be stressful if you have managed them badly. We always try to make sure that we have lots of stock that will last for weeks. Being prepared for possible problems and trying to avoid them is a key aspect.

Was running Mayfair Aesthetics what you Expected? It is similar to how I have run other businesses before as a General Manager. I have been in roles in the past where I was doing everything where company owners had abdicated their interest in the company. But not having to report to someone else who I didn’t trust and think has been a positive experience as I have 25 years experience in the beauty industry which has given me valuable experience and insight into the business.

Do you consciously do things to keep your stress levels low? Additionally, to the business, I do some management consultancy where I go in and help other companies. I can help sometimes improve their marketing, PR to help them improve their sales. That’s very rewarding but I also enjoy reading, seeing friends and making sure I sleep well.

Specialise Rather than go for lots of different types of treatments. Specialism has been a key business model for us. We have focused in on one treatment which has meant that we are able to deliver a high-quality service and not get bogged down with other areas. Our location is essential all of our stores are close to a tube station so that you can extend your potential customer base out of the area you work in. The building and environment have to be beautiful, with a strong logo. Your pricing strategy has to be effective as well. If you are charging low prices why is that and can you deliver the same level of service with those prices.

Best Moments

‘It’s all about being very well prepared in each clinic to ensure that the standards are kept high.’

‘Design The Experience To Avoid the Problems I’d Seen Before’

‘Set up the expectations of your customers from the start.’

‘Being prepared for possible problems.’

‘Training is paramount.’

‘Your have the independence but also the accountability when you run your own business.’

‘Getting enough sleep is really key.’

‘Specialism has helped to develop our business.’

‘Make sure your staff are 100% trained.’

‘Good reviews are key from your customers.’

‘Know all aspects of your business.’

ABOUT THE HOST

After many years of dealing (badly) with personal stress for over 20 years, Chris Hackett is on a mission to help people understand and overcome stress and anxiety by tackling the problem head-on.

Contact Method

Contact the show

Website: serialstresskiller.com

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/serialstresskiller

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/serialstresskiller

Email: [email protected]

Support the show - https://www.patreon.com/serialstresskiller

What’s been your favourite episode so far? Connect with Chris to let him know - [email protected]

About The Guest

Matthew Rundle

Matthew is the co-founder of Mayfair Aesthetics, one of London's leading laser hair removal clinics. Mayfair Aesthetics has won 2 awards this year for Aesthetic Clinic of the Year and thriving in a competitive industry where many businesses are failing.

Matthew has worked in the industry for more than 20 years and has worked in many toxic work environments with negligent business owners where high levels of stress were often a daily occurrence.

 

Matthew is an expert in making businesses profitable early on by getting the infrastructure right from the outset. By doing so, he minimises the stress within the business by avoiding unnecessary problems so he can focus on the bigger picture

Contact Method

https://www.mayfair-aesthetics.co.uk/

https://www.facebook.com/MayfairAesthetics/

https://twitter.com/mfairaesthetics

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You've gotta be a bit of a badass to dominate stress and if you want to overcome it, you have to look at it strategically and unemotionally. In today’s episode, Chris challenges you to call five people today and explains why calling your friends can often melt away the jagged edges of your emotional landscape and create a more balanced frame of mind, reducing your stress and allowing you to lead a much happier life in general.

You need to find time in your busy schedule to connect with the people that make you happy and find out how they really are and what's actually going on in their lives. When you scroll through your address book you'll discover so many people that you haven't spoken to in years. But remember life almost always improves when you spend time with those that you love and that unexpected actions of spontaneity can be so powerful and so meaningful.

Remember “Stress is the enemy and you are the killer.”

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Speak with five people and form a connection. This is lost when all we do is scroll through social media so make sure your calls are spontaneous, don't pre-warn or pre-frame just call and make a personal commitment to yourself to ensure all of your calls are about the other person so that you can discover what challenges they're facing and see if you can help them out and offer a solution.

Chris discovered that everyone was dealing with a personal challenge of some kind. It's easy to isolate yourself when you're going through some stuff, but calling others and hearing they're problems will give you a healthy dose of reality and reduce your own anxiety around your issues or stresses.

A phone call can make a difference and draw people into conversions and pull the real stuff out. As humans, we need to keep our connections with others open at all times. By calling you're able to remind your friends on a much more personal level that you're there for them and that you can help them.

BEST MOMENTS

“This is especially important if you're not using social media. All you need to do is call five people and talk to them for 10-15 minutes per day”

“Our social devices and media platforms give us the illusion of a connection with others but a phone call can mean the world to someone.”

ABOUT THE HOST

After many years of dealing (badly) with personal stress for over 20 years, Chris Hackett is on a mission to help people understand and overcome stress and anxiety by tackling the problem head-on.

CONTACT METHOD

Website: serialstresskiller.com

Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/serialstresskiller

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Email: [email protected]

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