Settling Is Bullshit

Maybe getting shit done has less to do with motivation and more to do with action. In other words: We can’t wait for the motivation to appear. We have to act our way into feeling motivated.

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Dating isn’t supposed to be terrible. It’s not supposed to be a chore. It’s not supposed to be something we dread or make ourselves do. It shouldn’t suck the fucking life out of us. Dating is supposed to be fun.

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Here’s the radical proposition we’ll be working through: if we want to get out from under the roiling doom cloud of perfectionism and its acid rain of self-criticism, our work begins with permission to fuck some shit up – ideally in front of other people. To read along, visit the website: https://settlingisbullshit.com/2024/01/16/doing-things-imperfectly-in-public/

The idea that our contributions to the world only matter if they are somehow new and edgy and original is bullshit. It’s the story our inner saboteurs come up with to keep us small and safe and protected from disappointment. I hereby hand you permission to be exactly yourself! It's awesome! I promise.

To read along, visit the website: https://settlingisbullshit.com/2023/09/22/permission-to-be-unoriginal/

We all need a whole lot of stuff all of the time – all of which is normal. All of it. And we have to stop being mean to ourselves for needing stuff. Once we can be gentle with ourselves, it gets easier to ensure our needs are met. To read along, visit the website: https://settlingisbullshit.com/2023/06/23/your-needs-are-not-a-failing/

While it might not feel like it, people really aren't usually trying to be assholes. And we can generally make our own lives a lot easier by deciding that they mean well (even if they still do shit that drives us bonkers). To read along, visit the website: https://settlingisbullshit.com/2023/06/09/deciding-people-mean-well/

We talk a lot about "feeling" hopeful, but the truth is that hope is actually a way of thinking rather than an emotion. It's a tool we can train ourselves to use; something we can explore when we need to find our way forward. To read along, visit the blog: https://settlingisbullshit.com/2023/04/20/hope-isnt-a-feeling-its-a-choice/

Letting go of negative self-talk is so important! And it starts with actually noticing all the mean shit that your inner critic is saying to you. The more we repeat affirming, self-compassionate things, the more we build our sense of self-worth, self-love, and self-esteem. To read along, visit the blog: https://settlingisbullshit.com/2023/01/17/start-talking-to-yourself-like-a-friend/

What would you do in your life if you weren't afraid? How much more freedom would you feel on a daily basis if you chose love over fear? It's a tall order, but choosing love is an excellent path to finding more joy and fulfillment in our lives. To read along, visit the website: https://settlingisbullshit.com/2022/12/27/moving-from-fear-to-love/

When we pause to really look at what's got us angry or upset or sad - it almost always comes down to fear. That's what makes it such a sneaky fucker. We often don't realize how the root cause is usually that we're afraid of either losing something we have or not getting what we want. Read along by visiting the blog: https://settlingisbullshit.com/2022/12/14/fear-is-a-sneaky-fcker/