Sex & Bacon

In this episode, we return from a brief break and introduce Ava, a Tantric expert, who was previously on the podcast, and who I've been working with over the last six months.

We talk all about the various types of female orgasms including clitoral, G-spot, cervical, U-spot, A-spot, P-spot, and anal orgasms.

We also talk about how expecting a specific outcome, such as a particular type of orgasm, can limit one's ability to fully experience pleasure, emphasizing that tantric practices are more about healing and self-exploration than only focusing on achieving orgasms. The episode highlights the importance of effective communication, understanding one's emotions, and establishing safety and connection on a physical and emotional level during sex. We also touch on societal misconceptions about pleasure, trauma, and our intricate connections to sexuality.

Ava is a Transformational Therapist and Tantra Healer certified by the only government accredited institute of tantra in the entire world - The Institute of Authentic Tantra! She has over 1,700+ hours of training in the field of tantra, as well as psychological, emotional, and spiritual healing modalities. Ava believes that healing shouldn't take years, and primarily guides men, women, and couples through a unique and holistic approach to healing and sexual fulfillment.

We get into:

• [0:00] Intro

• [1:25] Why we're talking about orgasms

• [2:30] What does it really mean to orgasm

• [5:50] The emotional side of an orgasm

• [10:00] Is there a rank of which orgasm is the best?

• [15:05] G-spot orgasms

• [25:45] GSpot crystal wand, stimulation, squirting

• [30:30] U-Spot Orgasm

• [35:35] Cervical orgasm

• [40:50] A spot orgasm

• [42:55] Finding these spots for yourself

• [58:55] Anal orgasms

• [1:07:00] Sexual trauma and the resistance people might feel when they first start this work

Connect with Ava

• Instagram: https://www.flamewithintantra.com/

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100087647945726&mibextid=ZbWKwL

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: [email protected]

In this episode, we explore the profound impact of relationship trauma on Alyssen's journey and how it has shaped her work. Join us as she candidly shares personal stories, shedding light on the transformative power of addressing past wounds to create healthier relationships.

Continuing the conversation, we delve into the fascinating realm of hormonal fluctuations and the effects of birth control on our sex drives. Uncovering the scientific and psychological aspects, we examine how birth control can influence our intimate lives. Additionally, we talk about the importance of anticipation and scheduling intimacy, sharing practical tools to create deeper connections.

We get into:

• [0:00] Intro

• [1:45] The relationship trauma that brought Alyssen into this work

• [4:35] The impact of birth control on our hormones and sex drives

• [9:40] Anticipating and scheduling intimacy

• [13:30] The expectations of how many times you should have sex per day or week

• [16:40] Why people don't like talking about sex

• [18:40] Needing to do the inner work when it comes to dating

• [24:45] Tools to help you do that work

• [28:00] Being alone vs. filling a void

• [31:40] Knowing your boundaries and what you will and won't put up with

• [39:55] Do men attract the same women over and over?

Connect with Alyssen

• Instagram: https://instagram.com/Elevated.aspects_

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100087647945726&mibextid=ZbWKwL

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: [email protected]

In this episode, we explore the world of women's health and fibroids with LaToya Dwight. Through her personal journey and experiences, LaToya shares valuable insights on topics such as the impact of diet, advocating for oneself, managing intimacy, and addressing bias in the medical industry, while also shedding light on her non-profit organization dedicated to supporting women affected by fibroids.

Discover the challenges women face when dealing with fibroids and gain a deeper understanding of the symptoms that lead to questioning one's health. Explore practical solutions and alternative approaches for those who prefer non-medical routes, all while being inspired by LaToya's passion for empowering women and her unwavering commitment to raising awareness and providing support in the realm of fibroids.

As a wife, mother, sister, daughter, and loyal friend, LaToya Dwight embarked on a fibroid healing journey after learning about the dis-ease of uterine fibroids by happenstance, when going to her OB/GYN to have an IUD replacement. Leaving the doctors office with little to no guidance, LaToya felt compelled to take her health into her own hands. Participating in various coaching programs, doing yoga, qi gong, meditation, deep breathing exercises, eating for her blood type, and even going vegan, all led LaToya down a lonely 4 year long journey.

After having a successful, minimally invasive procedure, LaToya felt compelled to tell her story in an effort to help someone else. This birthed The Fibroid Pandemic! It's mission is to provide resources to humans with a uterus who are seeking to overcome fibroids through education, support, and tools in order to best advocate for oneself.

We get into:

• [0:00] Intro

• [1:35] How LaToya got into this work

• [4:10] Finding out she had fibroids

• [6:15] Did her IUD cause fibroids?

• [8:15] How diet impacts fibroids

• [10:30] The symptoms that made her question her health

• [15:55] Advocating for yourself and getting second opinions

• [18:35] Was sex painful with fibroids?

• [20:20] Could she orgasm

• [22:45] How her flare ups happen

• [26:50] The bias in the medical industry

• [30:20] About her non-profit organization

• [32:50] Safe products women can use during their cycles

• [37:35] The biggest struggle women face when it comes to fibroids

• [42:20] What to do if you don't want to go the medical route

Connect with Latoya

• Instagram: https://instagram.com/thefibroidpandemic

• Website: www.thefibroidpandemic.com

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: [email protected]

In this episode, Kerin shares her inspiring background and triumph over eating disorders, challenging deeply ingrained belief systems formed at a young age.

Explore the power of nourishing your body with foods that make you feel good and delve into the impact of weight on your dating life. Discover the mindset of a confident woman who knows her worth and unravel the toxic patterns that hinder meaningful connections. Gain insights into cultivating a balanced approach to working out, eating, and lifestyle choices, embracing both feminine and masculine energies. Reflect on the significance of setting boundaries around health, wellness, food, and dating, and get ready to gain clarity on your desires within relationships.

Kerin is an Executive Life Coach with a mission to redefine standards in health, body, mind and spirit to truly live in a happy body and lead a successful life.

Specializing in the development of emotional balance, confidence, mindset management, and intuitive weight loss, Kerin specializes in the release of trauma from the cellular body and the repatterning of the thoughts and emotions that hold us back from showing up as the person we desire to be.

Join us for an empowering conversation that will ignite personal growth, inspire transformation, and lead to fulfilling connections.

We get into:

• [0:00] Intro

• [1:00] Kerin's background and experience with eating disorders

• [5:10] The belief system people develop at a young age

• [8:00] Eating foods that make you feel good

• [10:45] How weight affects your dating life

• [12:10] Being a woman who knows her worth

• [16:00] Toxic dating patterns

• [17:50] Unraveling your mindset around working out, eating and lifestyle choices

• [19:45] The balance between feminine and masculine energetics

• [23:30] Do you need to sleep with someone to know if you like them or not?

• [25:30] Boundaries around health, wellness, food and dating

• [32:55] Getting clear about what you desire in a relationship

Connect with Kerin

• Instagram: https://instagram.com/kerin.eilis

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/789941495857983/?ref=share_group_link

• Freebie: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62750363ec93244248595fa6

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: [email protected]

In this episode, Melissa and I dive into handjobs, casual sex and deep desire that pushes boundaries. We share our fave techniques that will leave you and your partner craving more.

We also challenge preconceptions about casual sex and embrace the freedom and liberation that comes with exploring desires beyond the conventional.

We get into:

• [0:00] Intro

• [0:45] Should handjobs make a comeback?

• [1:30] The art of giving a great handjob

• [7:25] Where handjobs feel best for men

• [11:00] Never do fast and jerky strokes

• [11:45] Have guys ever told you how they like being jerked off?

• [13:25] Handjobs as foreplay for amazing sex

• [14:55] Having multiple orgasms in one session

• [17:15] Can you have casual sex without feelings?

• [19:55] Is sex once a week enough?

• [22:15] How to not grow attachment to a casual partner

• [26:00] Why you can't change a man's mind about relationships

• [29:35] Why men's sex drives are really the problem

• [34:05] Having sex on your period

• [36:05] Sarah's anal sex obsession

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: [email protected]

In this episode, Noah Evan joins me to talk candidly about sex, the gay sex scene, and everything in between.

Noah is a queer podcaster of the "Severely Personal" podcast, who loves to discuss all things intimate through comedy and stories. He loves to find connections and community and is always looking to learn.

We get into:

• [0:00] Intro

• [0:50] Noah's podcast, Severely Personal

• [2:40] Bringing humor to hard conversations

• [5:00] The prep work that goes into anal

• [10:30] Is it hard dating and finding good partners?

• [12:30] Keeping up with different terms and ways people identify

• [16:10] The differences in judgment and stigma for men and women when it comes to sex

• [17:30] Are gay men hornier than straight men

• [18:10] How many times you should have sex a week

• [19:25] Can you heal through casual sex?

• [20:05] What the sex scene is like in Florida

• [23:40] Noah's best and most memorable sex experience

• [33:10] ​​Speaking up and saying what you want in bed

• [38:10] Why bad sex experiences can ruin sex in the future

Connect with Noah

• Instagram: www.instagram.com/severelypersonal

• Twitter: www.twitter.com/severelypersonal

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/severelypersonal

• Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/0o1hDWwNMlnLGVOlgO4twk?si=LmuG7ycJQhKSkwN99_D49A&dd=1

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: [email protected]

In this episode, Mangala Holland joins me to explore the transformative power of unleashing your orgasms, diving into the importance of sexual liberation and self-discovery.

We also tackle the concept of toxic masculinity and its effects on relationships, shedding light on the connection between toxic chemistry and a dysregulated nervous system.

Join us as we discuss the awakening experienced by women in their 40s and 50s, delving into the challenges and opportunities this phase brings. Additionally, we examine the barriers that block our pleasure and orgasms, including the fear of shame and judgment.

We talk about cervical orgasms, demystifying their nature and providing guidance on how to experience them. We also get into the role of the body and nervous system in pleasure, highlighting their crucial role in unlocking sensual fulfillment.

Finally, we emphasize the importance of finding a supportive community that nurtures and uplifts you on your sexual exploration.

Mangala is a Sexual Confidence coach, and facilitator of global group programs.

She's on a mission to help women and pussy-owners become empowered through loving themselves fiercely, celebrating their sexuality, and overcoming the fear, guilt and shame that keeps them playing small.

Having over a decade's experience in the industry, her super power is helping women and vulva owners become deeply connected to their body, pleasure and orgasmic confidence, which is the natural birthright of everyone.

She has a special talent in helping women in midlife access way more pleasure than they ever thought possible and believes that midlife is an opportunity for powerful, positive transformation.

She's currently training the next generation of Embodied Female Pleasure facilitators and places a strong emphasis on self-love, embodiment and empowerment in her work, teaching in a no-bullshit, fluff-free, grounded, dogma-free style.

We get into:

• [0:00] Intro

• [3:00] The power of unleashing your orgasms

• [5:10] Toxic dick

• [7:55] Toxic chemistry and its correlation to a dysregulated nervous system

• [11:40] The awakening happening in women who are in their 40s and 50s

• [15:15] What blocks our pleasure and orgasms

• [16:15] Fear of shame and being judged

• [20:40] How to start creating changes in your sexuality

• [24:55] What are cervical orgasms

• [29:35] How to have cervical orgasms

• [32:35] The role of the body and nervous system in pleasure

• [34:25] Having orgasmic confidence

• [45:55] Finding a community that supports you

Connect with Mangala

• Instagram: www.instagram.com/mangalaholland

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mangalatantrika

• https://mangalaholland.com/

• Free 3 part video series, From Shut Down to Sensual Satisfaction https://mangalaholland.com/sss/

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: [email protected]

In this episode, Kat Zammuto joins me again on the podcast to talk about our fave sex toys, how to start using them, and which ones you need to add to your collection.

Kat Zammuto started working in the entertainment and modeling industries at the early age of four (her dad was a TV and video producer). This lifelong experience with video and photography makes her super comfortable in front of the camera, and clients and brands love the natural, organic approach of her work.

Her podcast, Kat on the Loose - Sex, Dating & Relationships, is growing a big and loyal following with over 65k downloads per episode.

We get into:

• [0:00] Intro

• [1:10] Why sex and masturbation are still such taboo topics

• [2:30] Being on a 'dick high'

• [4:50] Which sex toys to buy first if you're just starting out

• [7:30] Why people die of embarrassment when it comes to self pleasure

• [9:45] How to bring up using sex toys with your partner

• [13:55] The 'cherry'

• [16:20] 'Bullet' sex toy if you're feeling extra naughty

• [18:05] Foreplay before you start having sex

• [20:40] What to do when it's hard to get in the mood

• [21:20] Why men are shy when it comes to dirty talk nowadays

• [26:05] Having G-Spot orgasms

• [28:55] Things you can do to turn yourself on

• [32:20] How sex toys add to your sex life, not take away or add

• [33:35] Lipstick vibrator

• [40:45] How to use a butt plug if you never have

• [46:35] Do you wear sexy lingerie?

Connect with Kat

• Instagram: www.instagram.com/katzammuto

• Twitter: www.twitter.com/katontheloose

• https://bio.site/katzammuto

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: [email protected]

In this episode, we dive deep into the world of relationships, pleasure, and intimacy with renowned Love Educator & Relationship Coach, Railey Molinario.

From overcoming abandonment at birth to becoming a six-figure boss, Railey shares her inspiring journey of transforming pain into a mission of empowering individuals to break free from generational trauma and ignorance. Her teachings on relationship intelligence have been featured on esteemed platforms like the BBC, Medium, and Brainz magazine.

Join us as Railey delves into the nuances of building thriving relationships and lives, providing invaluable tools and techniques for personal growth.

We get into:

• [0:00] Intro

• [1:40] How Railey's pain and trauma turned into her mission

• [4:40] How to boost your libido

• [7:25] The difference between spontaneous and responsive desire

• [10:50] Women's pleasure, erotica and stories

• [13:50] Why we need better and more thoughtful foreplay

• [16:10] Why it's so hard for couples to talk about sex, what turns them on, and desire

• [19:20] Making time for sexual intimacy

• [24:40] How mainstream porn limits our ability to understand and explore amazing sex

• [28:00] What happens when the connection is missing

• [30:40] The misbeliefs that women have about sex

• [33:20] Why men need to learn about the female body in order to experience deeper pleasure

• [36:25] Closing the orgasm gap

• [44:25] What feeling safe in a relationship can do

• [48:00] Power couple secrets to have a thriving sex life

• [54:30] What BDSM and fetishes can to do your relationship

Connect with Tara

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raileymolinario/

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/raileymolinarioloveeducator, https://www.facebook.com/groups/224806782933794

• Website: https://www.raileymolinario.com/

• Free Ultimate Guide To A Thriving Relationship https://www.raileymolinario.com/cheatsheet

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: [email protected]

In this episode, Tara Galeano joins me to talk about psychedelic orgasms and reclaiming your sexuality.

She talks about her journey into the space of sexuality, and emphasizes the importance of exploring sexuality and embracing freedom, despite the shame that still surrounds sex and pleasure in society.

Tara further dives into the concept of psychedelic orgasms and how they are experienced, shedding light on the link between desire and arousal. She talks about the issue of shaming one's own sexuality and emphasizes the importance of overcoming societal conditioning and embracing a healthy attitude towards sexual expression.

Author Tara Galeano is a certified sex therapist who has worked with women and couples for over two decades to get their sexy back. She knows that there is pleasure in the body, beyond our wildest dreams, and everyone can access it. In her book "Rediscovering My Body" Tara teaches us how to show up for pleasure.

Through reconnecting with her body, Tara was able to understand what was right and pleasurable for her, how best to proceed from this wisdom, and most importantly, how to teach these valuable lessons to others so that they too can transform their lives and reclaim their sensuality. Tara offers unique couple's retreats, and ceremonial, sensual journeys that open doors to new experiences and communication with oneself and partners.

We get into:

• [0:00] Intro

• [1:00] How Tara got into this space

• [3:55] Why having women approach her about sex and sexuality was surprising

• [5:45] Exploring sexuality and wanting freedom

• [7:40] The shame that still comes with sex and pleasure

• [10:10] The power of an open mind and curiosity

• [11:00] Sex when you're sick or have a debilitating diagnosis

• [18:45] The biggest issue women have when it comes to accepting their bodies

• [26:00] Reclaiming your sexuality

• [32:40] What a psychedelic orgasm is

• [35:40] How psychedelic orgasms happen

• [42:40] The link between desire and arousal

• [46:35] Shaming our own sexuality

• [50:30] One key thing to take from this episode

Connect with Tara

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tara.galeano/

• Twitter: https:/www.twitter.com/BoulderSexThera

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TaraGaleano

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/taragaleano/

• YouTube: https://youtube.com/user/BoulderSexTherapy

• Website: https://rediscoveringmybody.com/

• Body Wisdom Journal: https://rediscoveringmybody.mykajabi.com/body-wisdom-journal

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: [email protected]