Sex & Bacon

In this episode, Mizz.Honey Temper joins me to uncover the world of Femdom and Financial Domination. We talk about what it is, what it isn't and hear some of the most wild experiences she has encountered in her work so far.

Mizz.Honey Temper is a Canadian Fetish Content Creator, FetDungeon Event Hostess and Destroyer of men.

We get into:

• [1:15] How Mizz.Honey Temper got into the lifestyle

• [5:10] What Femdom is

• [9:00] The kind of Femdom work Mizz.Honey Temper does

• [10:30] What financial domination is

• [14:30] Is dating more challenging when you're a femdom?

• [17:40] How to establish boundaries as a femdom

• [23:30] The most common fetishes and kinks people have

• [27:35] Why people get off on cuckolding

• [31:15] Being open minded as a couple or individually

• [41:10] The stigma and judgment around this industry

• [43:45] Some of the craziest things Mizz.Honey Temper has been asked to do

Connect with Mizz.Honey Temper

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mizzhoneytemper/

• https://linktr.ee/mizzhoneytemper

• https://www.fetdungeon.com/

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: [email protected]

What does consent really look like when it comes to sex and intimacy? How do you ask your partner to try new things without crossing a boundary? How do we make sure everyone feels comfortable when we're being intimate?

We're answering all of these questions on the podcast this week with Dr. Dr. Avgi Saketopoulou.

Dr. Avgi is an immigrant Cypriot and Greek psychoanalyst, living and working in NYC. She is on faculty at the NYU Postdoctoral Program, where she also trained, and teaches nationally in several psychoanalytic institutes. Her published work has received numerous prizes, including the annual JAPA Essay Prize and the Ralph Roughton Award.

She is the 2022 recipient of the Scholarship Award from the division of psychoanalysis of the American Psychological Association (Div. 39) and, with Ann Pellegrini, the recipient of the first Tiresias Essay Prize, from the International Psychoanalytic Associations' committee on sexual and gender diversity.

Her interview on relational psychoanalysis is part of the permanent collection of the Freud Museum in Vienna and in 2021 she co-chaired the first US-based conference dedicated to the work of Jean Laplanche. Her book, Sexuality Beyond Consent: Risk, Race, Traumatophilia, is forthcoming in February 2023 from the Sexual Cultures series, NYU Press. When she is not working, she rides her motorcycle, hoping for good weather.

We get into:

• [2:00] What 'slave play' is
• [16:45] ​​Consent when it comes to fetishes and BDSM
• [21:25] Sexual play organized around trauma
• [25:20] Violations when it comes to consent
• [27:40] Urination for erotic pleasure
• [29:35] Boundaries that get crossed in the bedroom
• [30:50] Pushing outside of your comfort zone when it comes to pleasure
• [37:50] The lack of connection and intimacy around sexual acts
• [40:40] Why people feel the need to cross lines and boundaries
• [45:10] ​​What to do if your partner isn't into the same thing as you
• [48:20] How to know what you're into
• [53:20] About Avgi's book

Connect with Dr. Avgi

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/avgolis98/
• Book: https://www.avgisaketopoulou.com/copy-of-published-works
• https://www.avgisaketopoulou.com/

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: [email protected]

In this episode, Elliott Finn joins me to talk about his experience in the gay porn industry as a fully straight male.

Elliott started his career in the porn industry after going through a divorce and needing the money. As you'll hear in this episode, he tried working in the straight male porn industry and was always redirected to the gay male niche.

Since, he has grown a presence online and creates content on Only Fans.

We get into:

• [1:05] Elliott's background in the gay male porn industry as a straight male
• [2:10] How he got into gay porn vs. straight porn
• [5:50] Is it mostly straight men in gay porn?
• [7:05] Why Elliott primarily did 'bottom'
• [9:35] Are numbing creams really effective?
• [11:30] How well the industry pays
• [14:15] The stigma around the porn industry itself
• [18:05] How his friendships changed when they found out
• [18:45] The challenges with dating and getting into relationships
• [21:20] Starting up an Only Fans with his fiance
• [23:45] Is the adult industry hard to get out of?
• [26:20] The number one judgment people make about the adult entertainment industry
• [30:30] His worst experience in the industry
• [33:45] ​​The best experience he's had in the industry
• [36:05] Separating business and pleasure
• [41:10] The rules around getting tested

Connect with Elliott

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theelliotfinn
• YouTube: ​​https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBom2kzQiGlx_JW8wca9P0w
• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theelliotfinn?lang=en
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/theelliotfinn
• https://linktr.ee/elliotfinn

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: [email protected]

In this episode, Kari and Casey join me to talk about sex, why we talk about it, why we don't, and opening up a long-term relationship into new sexual frontiers.

Do you have fantasies that you want to explore and aren't sure how to talk to your partner about them?

How do you get the fulfilling sex life you really want with your partner?

Kari and Casey are leaders in this conversation, and share with us how they've transformed the narrative around sex, open relationships, and pleasure.

We get into:

• [1:30] How they both got into this space
• [4:00] Starting to open up sexually to their friend group
• [7:10] Why people struggle opening up about their sexuality
• [16:00] Three C's of a successful sex life
• [26:20] Opening up their own marriage and advice for other couples
• [37:00] The biggest gaps for couples who can't get on the same page
• [43:20] Why men cheat

Connect with Kari and Casey

• Instagram: www.instagram.com/cumwithkc
• Podcast: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2018368

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: [email protected]

In this episode, we're talking about why and how sex work is real work – even though many people think it isn't.

Joining me for this conversation is Mona from an organization called 'Answers'.

Mona worked on the streets in the late 1970s/early 80s until the new laws came out in 1985. A short time after, most of the larger centers in Alberta, including Edmonton, created licensing for the adult entertainment field and she became a licensed escort. Much of Mona's own advocacy is spelled out in Sex Work Activism in Canada - you can find the chapter here https://www.answersociety.org/buy-the-book

We get into:

• [1:05] What 'Answers' is
• [6:35] Why sex work is in fact a 'real' job
• [8:15] The kind of support 'Answers' provides
• [15:15] The biggest changes in how society views sex workers today
• [17:50] Why Mona got into sex work
• [31:15] Is the sex work industry a dying industry?
• [38:45] What Mona likes about being a sex worker
• [41:30] Where to connect with the organization

Connect with Answers Society

• www.answersociety.org
• Sign up for the Sex Work is Work Bias Prevention Training offered bi-monthly. They accept small donations.

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: [email protected]

In this episode, we're talking about porn, squirting, and so many other things when it comes to sex.

What would we love to try from watching porn? How do you become a squirter? Do we like facials (or not)? Everything is on the table in this conversation.

We get into:

• [1:00] Can porn desensitize you in your sex life?
• [2:00] How porn can be healthy for your relationship
• [6:15] Porn from a parent's perspective
• [10:35] What we think about watching porn
• [12:50] What we think about squirting
• [24:40] Things we've seen watching porn that we want to try in real life

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: [email protected]

In this episode, Katherine Zammuto joins me on the podcast to talk about how to have the most fulfilling sex life.

We also talk about why we should be more demanding when it comes to having incredible sex, the benefits, and why using toys can be a good thing.

Kat Zammuto started working in the entertainment and modeling industries at the early age of four (her dad was a TV and video producer). This lifelong experience with video and photography makes her super comfortable in front of the camera, and clients and brands love the natural, organic approach of her work.

Her podcast, Kat on the Loose - Sex, Dating & Relationships, is growing a big and loyal following with over 65k downloads per episode.

We get into:

• [1:00] How Kat got into podcasting
• [2:05] What's changed the most in the dating world
• [3:00] Being in a sexless marriage
• [4:15] Discovering her sexuality and what she loved about sex
• [13:20] Removing the stigma around sex
• [19:15] Is bigger really better?
• [23:05] Why men should learn how to use their hands in bed
• [25:15] How to have the most fulfilling sex life
• [27:40] Kat's fantasies she wants fulfilled

Connect with Kat

• Instagram: www.instagram.com/katzammuto
• Twitter: www.twitter.com/katontheloose
• https://bio.site/katzammuto

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: [email protected]

In this episode, we're doing our very first sex toy review, and we share what we like and what we don't.

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We get into:

• [4:00] Our first toy review
• [5:40] Would you rather be stuck with a below average dick or a vibrator that always died?
• [12:05] Toys that hit the G-spot
• [13:50] Sending videos to your partner
• [15:25] Calling a guy the wrong name during sex
• [19:20] Toys to make you squirt
• [24:35] Why it's so important to know what to do with your fingers

Resources in this episode:

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• Instagram: www.instagram.com/Adultatltoyz3

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: [email protected]

In this episode, we're talking about strip clubs and sex clubs.

We went out to a few of them near where we live to see what they're like nowadays, and we're sharing our review of each.

We get into:

• [3:10] Our first strip club experience of the night
• [5:10] How the strip club environment has changed
• [9:40] Exhibitionist and Voyeurism night
• [16:00] Double dipping in the lifestyle
• [19:40] Checking out the bathhouse
• [30:20] What goes on in swingers clubs
• [38:20] Our final review

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: [email protected]

In this episode, we're talking about online dating and our worst online dating stories.

Why is it slim pickings out there? Is there really anyone left to date? What kind of people do you really find on dating apps?

We're sharing our stories and also what we love (honestly, don't love) about online dating.

We get into:

• [1:20] Why men don't always cheat with "easier"
• [5:40] Sarah's worst online dating experience
• [11:15] Why the online dating scene is so bad
• [20:30] Are the better men in the states?
• [27:25] Why we need guys with depth

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: [email protected]